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So, I'm a sixteen year old girl, and I live in Ontario, Canada. I LOVE giving out advice. All my friends come to me for advice because:
-I tell them the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
-I don't sugarcoat things. If your relationship is doomed, I'll tell you. I won't say "just talk to him" or stuff like that.
-I don't judge. Well, I do judge a little bit, but who doesn't. But, you can tell me you just had sex with 309573458346934584357 different people, and I'll still love you none the less.
-I'm just a normal person, and I probably go through the same everyday crap that the rest of you go through.
So yeah, feel free to drop me a line. As far as I know, I've never screwed someone over with my advice!

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I have a friend who i've known for about a year now and we both get on really well. I've always felt realy jealous when she gets a boyfriend, and, sometimes subconsciously get mad at her when either she doesnt pay enough attention to me or when she does stuff with a guy in front of me. At first when we met we were only friends and our friendship revolved around drugs, she wanted them and i got them. I recently realized that i am in love with her. She evokes feelings in me that i cant explain any other way. Ive always loved her but being in love would explain a lot to me. She loves me (she's not in love, essential difference, only friendship to her) and i know she isnt a nasty person. Shes been seeing a complete jerk of a guy 3 times in a row now. I hate him and she knows it hurts me to see them together and yet she still does. He has broken up with her and cheated on her before yet she keeps going back. This girl is an amazing friend but i want her to be more, she's special. But i cant tell her how i feel. And everytime i insult her because of her boyfriend or anything i cant help but feel like im just mad at her for not being in love with me. I dont know what to do can someone help? Right now im not talking to her because shes going out with the idiot again and wont listen to my opinions on him. Am i being stupid?

You are most definatly not being stupid or an idiot.

Sadly, however, you're just that 'really good friend' of hers. That's probably all she'll ever see you as. I know it hurts, but you'll move on. You'll find a girl who'll appreciate you for you, not for drugs. I swear it.

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14/f
I'm a Christian so I want to be a virgin till I'm married, but lately it's been real hard to stay that way. I'm letting my hormones make me too curious. (I've never actually even seen a penis before.) I get really horny a lot and sometimes I ever masturbate to get over it. I'm way too young to have sex but lately I've wanted to give a handjob or even get laid. How can I keep motivated to stay a virgin? I know I'm not ready for sex.

Don't let temptation overcome you, you'll regret it down the road.

However, if you do find the right guy when you're older, but aren't ready for marriage, then it should be alright to engage in premarital sex. Just as long as you care about the person, a lot, you should be fine.

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ok here it goes, sorry if its a little long. but i really need your help.

ok my friend well she went out with this guy, and she used to be like a good friend of mine, she used to say that like we are best friends and all, but really she was never my best friend.
so now her boyfriend broke up with her, but she sill loves him, and she said that she cant get over him, and that hes the only guy she can ever go back out with. now that guy told me that he likes me, i mean i dont know for sure but it really sound like it, cuz ok he told me he likes me and he always tells me " i love you" and i went to the movies, and he was there and he asked me to sit by him and he putted his arm around me and he kept telling me that he loves me and sutff like that, and he was askin me if i love him! he kissed me on the cheek. so than i called him like 2 days later, and he asked me who i liked and i kept asking him who he likes and he didnt want to answer until i did, so i didnt asnwer so by the end he asnwered and said that he likes me, and i said that i like him, and i think he was serious about it, because i told him to be serious. and i said well what do you want do about it? and he said if i asked you out would you back off on me for your friend? the girl he went out with! and i said i dont know. and i was like so wat do you want to do? and he said he has to think about it. now my other friends keep telling me that i like him, and they cant know that because i dont want my friend to know that i like her ex. and now she asked me if i liked him and i said "no" cuz she still likes him a lot! but i do, and i dont know does he like me to? and what should i do? its really annoying this whole thing.
SORRY ITS SO LONG.
but i really need help on this. thanks. i'll rate 5's.

Well, there's 2 options.

-Disregard your friends feelings, and take the chance. Why should you miss out on life because she can't move on?

OR

-Tell him you wish you could, but you cant because of her. Friendship is greater than a guy.

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Ok this is a really stupid question...but please bare with me. I can't apply eyeliner! Whenever I do, it looks very fake, and it looks like I just drew a line around my eyes. How do you apply it properly so that it blens and looks my natural?
I rate 5's!!!!

Well, first of all, make sure you're using a right colour.

To apply the eyeliner, try to get it as close to the eye as possible, so there isn't any skin inbetween the eye and the eyeliner. Don't put too much on either.

Good luck with it.

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Ok I'm scared to kiss my bf. I'm pretty sure he wants to kiss me too, but we're both really shy. How do I get him to kiss me or gather up enough courage to kiss him myself?
I'm 13/f by the way.
Thanks I rate 5's

Just do it and get it over with. If this is your boyfriend, you shouldn't be afraid to kiss him. You should be comfortable with him.

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i have this friend lets call her jay. jay liked this boy ((lets call him P)) her and P used to go out but he broke up with her because she was to slow. (well cuz she never kissed him) but he still loved her and she still loved him so they were just talking for a while and they kissed a few times to. he finally decided he wanted her back. but thats wen she went to a dance and started dancing with some boy ((lets call him E)) well she sorta got a crush on E i guess because wen she came to school the next day she had i love E on her hand. well that was the day P was gonna ask her out. but she made me tell P she sed no so i did and i could tell he was hurt. now she is obsesed with E and he is 11 and she is 13. how do i tell her that she made a big mistake and that she is dumb by choicing a 11 year old? how do i tell her that w.o hurting her feelings?

This is just confusing.


I'm so glad I'm not in junior high anymore.

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I moved into a new city last summer, and there's this guy that lives 3 houses down that goes to my school. He always looks at me when we see eachother during school, and even stared at me when i walked into one of his classes. I want to talk to him and i think he may want to too, but he has a girlfriend. We pass eachother everyday after a class and i dont know how to approach him. Next time i see him walk by, what should i say/ask to get a conversation started? What are some other things i could do to show that im interested besides smile?

Well, if you have a class together, and you sit near him, just start talking to him and be like "Hey, you live down the road from me, don't you?" and just get it started from there. Don't be too forward or anything, because that might creep him out. Start talking, try to get his email or IM or whatever. It's ALWAYS easier to talk to guys over the computer for some reason.

Good luck!

EDIT: I forgot to mention, since he has a girlfriend, make sure you know their situation before you make your move.

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i moved like a year ago, and everytime i try to get together with my old friends they come up with some lame excuse. i dont know what to think.

Oh man, been there. I had moved to another country for a year and a half, and when I came back, I got all these stupid excuses. "I have to see my grandma" "I have to go to the dentist.... on a sunday...."

Just forget about them. If they don't value your friendship, why should you?

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I dyed my hair yesterday and i always straighten/flat iron my hair and i was wondering if its safe to flat iron it after i dyed it? would it dye it out? my hair is well conditioned so it doesnt look or feel dye but i was just making sure. Thanks!

Well, dying your hair and straightening eventually damages your hair over time, so I'm sure that doing it together will definatly kill your hair.

But the straightener won't make the dye come out. Dye normally comes out when you wash it though.

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so im planning a sweet 16 and i made a guest list and came up with 66 people so far. This was without crossing off the "questionables." what i mean by that is those people who you dont really talk to..but you dont hate either..and the couple of people who had a sweet 1 in september but didnt invite you..and now it seems we are a little more friendly. Hope i didnt confuse you guys..any tips on what to base who you invite on? anyone ever been in my place before? how did you decide who to cross off? i dont usually talk to the "gangsta" group..but i figure inviting them would spice my party up..is this the wrong idea? i need help lol so dont be afraid to critisize
5's for everyone who isnt obnoxious

First off, happy birthday!

It really depends on how many people you think your house can hold, without getting the place trashed.

First on your guest list should be your core group of friends, and then maybe people you talk to in class or in the halls. You should invite people you aren't really friends with anymmore, just so they don't feel left out. They normally don't come, because they know that they're not friends with your new friends. But at least they know you thought about them.

Of course, if you have a crush or something, you gotta invite him.

I hope you have a great time with your party! Don't get too wasted!

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i am finding that my hair is taking longer and longer to do, with less of a result and usually dosent stay clean for more than a day... i have tried switching shampoos (i seem to do it weekly now) and cutting my hair, i let it grow, i died it, i put stuff in it! nothing seems to work!

Hm, maybe you could get a different hairstyle? Something easy to maintain, but still looks like you put time and effort into it.

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ok i have this boyfriend and his soo awesome! we have been daten for 2weeks and we had sex last night! i've been "talking" with him since feb. but sometimes i feel like he doesn't care about me that much! and his always kind of mad at me..but i know his not cuz he got kicked outta his house 2weeks ago and he has to find a place to stay like everynight so it's not like i can talk to him...but he is pretty good about calling me and letten me know where he is staying at...that is if theres a phone around! but for some reason i'm so worried about him..i'm always woundering where is at and what his doing and who his with...he graduated last yr and i'm only in 10th...so when i'm at school that is when i worry...he has the friend that i don't like to much but yet his cool i don't like my boyfriend hanging out with him because i don't trust my boyfriend with him my boyfriend knows that i don't i like him with him...because i feel like his going to cheat on me when he is with his friend! i just don't know what to do about out relationship...cuz i do like him alot ((like not love)) and he gave me a promise braclett promiseing that he would never hurt me!!
i'll rate!

You're right, he probably doesn't care about you. I know it hurts to hear, but it's the truth. The only reason why he was with you was to get sex, because, older guys normally aren't interested in younger girls unless A) they intelectually challenge them, which doesn't seem to be the case or B) They know that the little girl is impressionable and they'll get laid.

Plus, this guy doesn't really seem to be much of a winner, if you know what I mean. You should probably get rid of this guy as he'll end up being a huge burden for you, and will cause you bigger troubles in the future.

Good luck.

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