let's not bore you with my life story. or completely bore you with who i am.. i'll just tell you that my name is destiny. and i give pretty damn good advice. =]
i think i give good advice,
im gonna be honest, im not gonna add u on myspace,
unless i talk to you,
and get to know you a little,
E-mail: randomconfusionx@yahoo.com
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Location: in georgiaaa, =/
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18/f & 20/m
About 3 weeks ago, I met this great guy will call him Bob. Bob has an amazing personality, and showed that he cared about me and really liked me. The first time we talked on the phone was for 6 hours straight. Then the next day we hung out for 6 hours. He tried to kiss me, but I told him that I wasn't ready just yet. Two days later we hung out again, for about the same time. We would talk about getting in a relationship and taking things slow, ect. We did kiss, which is a very big deal for me. Everything was perfect, then days went by and we didn't get to see eachother cause his car broke down. So this past weekend, he told me he could get his parents car and come over and hangout. Friday while he was working, I cleaned the house ALL day and got ready just in case. Then he texted me saying "I cant get the car till tomorrow cause my parents aren't leaving till tomorrow morning" I told him it was fine. He told "tomorrow for sure!". So I told him to call me later. And he said he would. So time went by and I ended up falling asleep. I woke up around 2:30 and checked my phone. No phone calls/text. I was getting worried something happend. So I left him a text saying "text me when you get up". I eventually went back to bed. Around noon, I texted him again and Im like "Im not sure what happened, but please call/text cause Im worried about you". So then 45 minutes later he text me. I was cleaning the house and getting ready again. Around 2ish, he called me. Telling me he was bored. He went to take a nap and I told him to call me when he got up. Hours went by, and no call. So I called him and left him a text. Still no reply. I did something annoying and kept calling and texting him throughout the night. No reply. Then I went to his myspace. I saw a girl leave him a comment, saying "babe last night was great can't wait to do it all over again tonight & ill probably text you". I started crying imediately. I went to my mom and she's like dont worry about it, Nothing probably happend. So later he goes on myspace for like a minute and deletes the comment. I cried myself to sleep which hasn't happend in a very long time. I sent him a message on myspace saying I was sorry if I was annoying him and then I knew he lied about the weekend. That I was more upset he lied to me. It got worse, she left another comment of a picture of him cuddling with him. Saying that he was a great cuddler. He read the message, and still no reply. He deleted her comment too. I really have no idea what to do. Cause he made a huge mistake and Im willing to forgive and try to work things out. Believe me, this girl is not his type at all. Maybe nothing more happend between them but I know he feels bad for what he did... Any advice is appreciated. Thanks. (link)
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faklfndaf. this is gonna be a hard one...
okay.
go with your gut. if you still care. go for it.. but keep your gaurd up.. because he might cheat on you.. so be careful... but if you still love/like him. then go for it. but talk to him about it because if you don't then you'll never know what happened between him and that "other girl" but i hope it all works out for you..
if you need anymore help put something on my advice column
or im me at:
yahoo: nenajulissa
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need seroios advice me and my well curent ex just broke up becouse she cheated well i havent been to school she always types to me that she misses me so much well she says she is not sure if she loves me but does says she doesnt love the chick she cheated on me with and from what it sounds like she wants to get back with me but ya i love her and want to its just shes sooooo confused theres alot more stuff 2 i dont know. she says all kinds of stuff about me good just dont know if shes trying to screw with my head or not do u think she really cares i need advice BAD truth is i have major depression problems and her doing this stuff to me is driving me insane (link)
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i think you should give her a chance take it slow though make sure she cares about you... she obviously cares about you. and she wants you to know it. but hang out with her. as friends. and see how she acts. see if she acts the way she used to act when you guys went out, or if she's all flirty. if she's flirty. she wants you for your body. but if she's kind and sweet. then she prolly likes you.. but she's scared. she wants you to like her. and i think you should give her a chance. but stay cautious. she might be using you. you can honestly never know what goes on in a girl's mind. but give her a chance. she might really care.
hope i helped.
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ok well i was just figured for the first time and it hurt soo bad he did it about 3 times and they only lasted about 20 seconds because it hurt.
is that normal? ive never like masturbated or anything but i was thinking maybe i should so it doesnt hurt next weekend if he does it again. (link)
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uh. i guess all i can say is that it'll prolly hurt at first. but it'll prolly hurt less as you do it more. i mean. it's normal for it to hurtt. if you've never done it....
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okay.. so im a varsity basketball cheerleader and theres this guy whos a varsity basketball player. well the first time i saw him i thought he was hot.. i didnt really know it at the time but i couldnt stop staring at him and when i had to take my players there stuff on the bus i got nervous around him. well ive never even talked to him--ever!! the only way weve interacted is i asked where one of my players was and he kindof blurted "hes over there" and i said thanks of course and thats it. well usually im shy unless i get to know someone and until i say something to them its so hard to talk to someoone. its like its a barrier. well only one of my friend knows. you see- im a freshmen and hes a junior. he has an older bro whos a senior and hes also on the basketball team. well the one friend who knows doesnt like his older bro. but i know this sounds weird or stalkerish but i had this dream about him. and for some reason 2 of 3 of my captains were in it and one used to talk to him (in real life) (but nothing ever happened)and she doesnt anymore but (in the dream) they were like ugh i cant believe shes with him and all this stuff. well another one of my friends used to talk to his older bro. well to get to the advice part -- idk what to do.. i really want to talk to him but i get really nervous and i dont know what to say. i kindof want to see what my friend who used to talk to his bro says about it but im afraid that it will get back to him.. so what should i do about this?? i really need your advice!!! please answer ASAP!!!! (link)
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go for it!!!!!!!
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13/f
my parents won't let me have a boyfriend only because they didnt date people until they were in college. i know they want to protect me but this is really bothering me because everyone else is going off and having fun with there boyfriends when i can't have one.
so does anybody know any things i could persuade them with? i dont want to bring it up like I WANT TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND. i just want it to kind of..come into the conversation. if you know what i mean, but any help is fine. THANKS IN ADVANCE! (link)
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just lie to them..
i mean
find the RIGHT guy
that treats you right
then tell them
show them how he acts around you
and that all guys arent pigs
BUT WHAT EVER YOU DO..
dont let him give you a hickey and let your see it.
cuz they WILL FLIP THE FUCK OUT!!!
trust me.
i know...
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hey, i've been talking to this guy for quite a while now. The way i met him is that i saw him at his prom that i went to with my friend and added him to facebook. He starting to talk to me on msn a month later. He's really nice so i talked back. At the time i was grounded for a month and couldnt hang out with him. So for about a month and a half we would talk on the phone everyday. Everyday that we talked on the phone i started to be more open and comfortable with him. After i was ungrounded he wanted to hang out. But we didn't hangout till 2 weeks after i was ungrounded. When we did hangout i went over to his house, met his parents who were very nice, and we just watched movies all night. We didn't kiss that whole night till he drove me home and i said goodbye to him in the car, and we started to makeout. After that we hungout alot, i barely saw my friends anymore becasue i was always with him. He would pick me up from school and we would go out for lunch sometimes. After hanging out with him for a long time i discussed with him about dating or at least seeing each. I had had bad expericene in liking a guy before where i had got badly hurt. I had mentioned that to him and he understood where i was comnig from. I noticed whenever i hungout with him i could tell him anything. I would tell him that i had my period or problems i was having with my best friends, or even work problems. The guy before that i wasn't really that open with. I like this guy alot, but his reputation that i hear from doesn't look so good to me. He's the type of guys that isn't really a "kiss ass", or doesn't go out of his way even if he's dating a girl. I have had sex with him, and he was making me feel really comfortable with it. He wasnt the one to ask me if i wanted to, i felt ready so i talked to him about it, he had asked me if i really thought about it, which i did, and he told me he didnt want me feeling pressured that i have to becasue he didnt want to hurt me emotionally. I really want to date this guy, but i really don't know what he feels. Although i ask him about it i feel like what he's telling me isn't true. I always wonder what he says to his friends about me, or if he even talks to his friends about me. I don't want to seem like im rushing things just because i dont want to get hurt. But the truth is i don't think i can handle getting hurt again. All my friends are "if-y" about him, because i get really upset about him soemtimes, and they hate seeing me hurt. Should i break things off, or keep seeing him and see what happens? (link)
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um. slow things down. but i think if you really like him, then you should care, and go out with him. but be careful. your friends might see a bad in him that you dont. so watch out. i hope i helped.
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Lately my gf has been telling me about these dreams she has about other guys forcing her to hook up with them and she told me that "you shouldn't struggle, you should just go along with it". She also sort of admitted that this is a fantasy of hers. What I'm wondering is, if someone started kissing her and she kissed him back, wouldn't that be cheating regardless of how the kissing started? Couldn't she just use being forced as an excuse, especially if its a fantasy of hers? In my opinion, if someone holds her and starts kissing her, she should push him away rather than kiss him back. We are in a committed relationship by the way. (link)
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it would be cheating if she didnt try to push away. but it wouldnt if she had no say whatsoever in it. but if she kissed him. yeah it would be cheating. if it was rape. then it wouldnt
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i had sex 5 days before i was supposed to get my period ..and it was unprotected. my period was supposed to come on the 24th but it was late and i got it today.. so does that mean i could still be pregnant or not? if so, what are the chances? (link)
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there's a chance. a 50, 50 chance. because you're fertile. so you might be. i would maybe get a pregnancy test.
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Okay, well my boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 years. Well I went away on vacation, just for 2 days, to a spa. Well, my bf has a niece, and he called me asking to come home, because his neice was sick, but she didnt have a fever, and he thought she was having "feminine problems". Well as soon as i came home i saw his friends car. They've known each other forever, and have a lot in common, and shes really sexy. She could get any guy she wants, but she always wanted to be with MY bf, but he never liked her. Well when i walked inside, she was giving him a hug, and was like, "I am sssoooo glad you called, oh, hey girl, he needed help, and i came to the rescue. We were going to go get dinner, but i guess we can cancel the reservation..." and then my bf was like, "How about i make us dinner?" and we both agreed. Well, ever since then, his friend, shes been there every time im not. I put my car in the garage sometimes, and shes always there. When the door wasnt open, and she couldnt find the key, she climbed in our window. WHILE WE WERE HAVING SEX! i couldnt believe it. I asked her to back off, that we were in love and all she said was, "I wouldn't be so sure of your relationship, when he has a hot friend, who has a lot in common, who hes known forever." I told him, but he said dont worry. Idk, what should i do?? I trust him, but i can never be too sure. Who should i trust? Thanks (link)
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the girl is a whore. she just wants him because you have him... just trust him. but ask him when she's right there. if there's sincerness in his voice. then he's most likely telling the truth. =]
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so, i have this guy friend. "jim" (;. we're like best friends, we hang outall the time. my best girl friend & his best guy friend are going out, so usually its the 4 of us. im very attracted to him physically, but i like his personality too, like when im sitting next to him all i want to do is kiss him, but i dont know how to let him know. he's never had a girlfriend, and hes prude, but hes definitely straight. i just dont know if it would be weird. but anyway, i just always want him to hold me, hes so strong, but like when he does touch me i get these little electric shockish things i guess you could say? like my heart skips a beat. i always want to hang out with him too, if we're all gonna hang out i always say "is jim gonna be there?" or "wheres jim?" .. do you think its love or lust? (link)
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if he's never had a gf. then it would be good to be his first. because he actually knows you.. but remember. you have to take it gently and slowly. i think it's love. but it might not be love yet. you might really really like him. but i doubt it's love. yet... just go with you're heart. tell him how you feel. but do it gently. dont blurt it out. just talk to him. and then tell him.. dont let him go. i hope i helped. =]
april 8, 2008. 3:31am.
just a question,
did it work with you and "jim"?????????
im super curiousssssssss.
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15/f
to give a bit of a background...me and this guy went out for about a month in 11/06, and then broke up
we grew up a bit and then start going out again in february 07. we were "the perfect couple" according to everyone. and we agreed, we were always happy with eachother. he got to know my entire family, i met his family, we were really close basically, and obviously cared about eachother
earlier in december i broke up with him, not because i didnt love him, but he was doing a lot of things that really bothered me. i tried telling him, i wrote him notes, i said it to his face, i got his friends to talk to him. nothing worked, so i was left no choice but to break up with him.
it was a nasty break, even though i wanted to stay friends with him. theres some other stuff in the middle of this (he cut, smoked, some other forms of self harm, i tried to get him to stop...)
on the last day of school i opened my locker to find a bag of stuff i got him (birthday gift, 6 month gift, all the pictures of us, everything that symbolized us)
they were his things though so i tried to put them back in his locker but he purposely got his combo changed so i couldnt (he admitted to that)
that bag of stuff (besides leaving me in tears) started to make me realize how much i miss him..or what we had at least
and i cant tell if i want to get back together with him, or i just miss what we had.
because i cant picture myself with anyone else because i know it would never be like what i had with him
do i go back to him?
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well. the only thing i can say is. be there for him. i think you should take him back. you dont know. he might've stopped smoking/cutting for you. you really never know. unless you ask him. you need to realize that you care about him. you never stopped. nobody ever stops caring about someone, they just care alot less. and stop showing it. give him a second chance. he's changed. and you obviously want to. but you're not sure if you should. that's why you asked. but go with your first instinct. ask yourself if you should. dont even think about it. just answer. that'll be the answer you want. and the answer that might not work out best. but trust him. if he cut and smoked. then he can obviously handle alot. ask yourself. do you really want him back. dont even think about it. act on impulse. hope i helped. =]
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Right, so the other week i was out with some friends and they introduced me to some guys.
Then, i started hanging round with two of them guys (C and J) who both have gfs.
I took a liking to J and today we were talking for a little bit but we were with other people so we werent alone.
Weve been speaking on msn and myspace quite abit.
And i really like him. But, he has a gf who he's madly in love with.
And i dont WANT to like him, i just do.. And i dont want to tell him i do because it'll be really awkward seeing as we havent known each that long.
I know if i get closer to him then i'll like him even more. But, i want to get closer to him, if that makes sense.
I just really dont know what to do.
Do i just leave it and see where it goes?
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stay around. if he needs a friend. you'll be there. if something happens with his girlfriend, you'll be there. and you WONT be the rebound. because he'll know you. but DONT let him use you. if he asks you out after his ex finds a new bf. then dont go out with him. if he asks you out right after him and his ex break up. dont go out with him.. dont get played. because if you do that. you'll be hurt even more. trust me... but what im trying to say is.. be there for him. you never know if he's gunna need a person to talk to.. hope i helped...
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I'm fifteeen and a girl [:
me and this guy were going out for about a two years. we broke up in march of 07. ive been talking to him lately through texting and aim. everytime i talk to him i get the same feeling i used to when we were going out and he makes me feel alive. i know that sounds corny, but its amazing how much of a little girl i become around him. i can say stupid things no one else would get and we can practically predict what one other is gonna say. i honestly dont think me and him are done. i know one day we will get back together, and hopefully soon. theres a dance comming up at my school in febuary and I'm thinking about asking him. I dont hangout with him alot. more like i never hangout with him, and when i do it's pretty awkward. neither of us know what to say to eachother in person and i obvouisly want that to change. I think asking him to the dance would give us a chance to become not awkward around eachother and maybe give us another chance. Should i go for it or play it safe? any other suggestions? thankss! [: (link)
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okay. im in the same exact situation. if you think he likes you. try to hang out with him. maybe even flirt a little. it'll show him that you like him, and if he flirts back he probably likes you back.. im telling you, hang out with him. because if you dont, you two will drift away. dont let him go. if you do. wow, you're gonna regret it... but dont rush things. if he likes you, he'll tell/show you. but if he's shy. then try to show him taht you like him without kissing him or doing anything besides flirting. he might not be ready.. but keep in mind that he might be feeling the exact same way. what i would do is before you ask him to the dance. find out if he likes you. ask his friends. ask people to find out from him if he likes you or not. but dont just get it from him... you need to hear it from him in person. you can most likely tell from his tone if he likes you or not. i hope i helped. if you need anything else just ask...
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ive read many teen series and I'm looking for more.
here's a list of the ones ive read as reference
Gossip girl
the alist
the clique
private
the it girl
pretty little liars
The insiders
inside girl
ttyl, ttfn, l8r g8r
mates, dates
summer boys
I think that's all. Any suggestions? (link)
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um. the bluford series is a good book.
um
a really good author if you like mystery books is Joan Lowery..
hope i helped a little
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All right I guess I need some help I heard my girlfriend say that I don't know how to flirt with her or she isn't use to how I flirt with her. My question is anyone care to give me advice and on hitting her engine up? I'm great at oral but how do I get her there so she will let me do that? (link)
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im a girl. and im bi. so i've flirted with boys and girls. but i suggest that you start out slow. like saying something that makes her smile. and build off of that. if it makes her smile, keep saying things related to the same topic. if you need anymore help you can talk to me on aim. my screen name is: randomconfusionx
if you need anything else you can talk to me there or you can but something on my advice column..
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