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to go back or not
15/f
to give a bit of a background...me and this guy went out for about a month in 11/06, and then broke up
we grew up a bit and then start going out again in february 07. we were "the perfect couple" according to everyone. and we agreed, we were always happy with eachother. he got to know my entire family, i met his family, we were really close basically, and obviously cared about eachother
earlier in december i broke up with him, not because i didnt love him, but he was doing a lot of things that really bothered me. i tried telling him, i wrote him notes, i said it to his face, i got his friends to talk to him. nothing worked, so i was left no choice but to break up with him.
it was a nasty break, even though i wanted to stay friends with him. theres some other stuff in the middle of this (he cut, smoked, some other forms of self harm, i tried to get him to stop...)
on the last day of school i opened my locker to find a bag of stuff i got him (birthday gift, 6 month gift, all the pictures of us, everything that symbolized us)
they were his things though so i tried to put them back in his locker but he purposely got his combo changed so i couldnt (he admitted to that)
that bag of stuff (besides leaving me in tears) started to make me realize how much i miss him..or what we had at least
and i cant tell if i want to get back together with him, or i just miss what we had.
because i cant picture myself with anyone else because i know it would never be like what i had with him
do i go back to him?
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well. the only thing i can say is. be there for him. i think you should take him back. you dont know. he might've stopped smoking/cutting for you. you really never know. unless you ask him. you need to realize that you care about him. you never stopped. nobody ever stops caring about someone, they just care alot less. and stop showing it. give him a second chance. he's changed. and you obviously want to. but you're not sure if you should. that's why you asked. but go with your first instinct. ask yourself if you should. dont even think about it. just answer. that'll be the answer you want. and the answer that might not work out best. but trust him. if he cut and smoked. then he can obviously handle alot. ask yourself. do you really want him back. dont even think about it. act on impulse. hope i helped. =]
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no ypu shouldnt go back to him cauz hes still the same guy who cuts, smoke, adn all the other stuff that u hate about him that made you break up with him in the first place. you only miss him right now since youre still in your emotional state cauz youve only reaciantly broken up with him but when you finsd someone else to make u happy youll forget about him.
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everyone always misses what they had, especially with a relationship that was really close. its normal. you broke up with him for a reason. has he changed his ways that made you want to break up in the first place? if not, going back out with him would be pretty pointless. it may all be good again at first, but if he hasnt changed youd be back where you started, either trying to get him to stop again or breaking up. if you think you can get past what he's doing, then go for it. but a relationship with someone who is self-destructive and smokes, etc. cant be very healthy. im sure you could find someone just as good as his good-self, or better. the memories will still be there and you will miss them, but getting over that is a part of growing up and moving on, not that itll be easy. if you really think you want to give him another chance, then see what happens, but i think if you did youd be going in a constant circle. good luck!
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