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hey! well i have a problem...my best friend has this boyfriend that nobody likes and personally me and him hate each other but for some reason she still goes out with him..god who knows why. but im not gonna try and break them up because they have like twice and they keep gettin back together. well whenever we are by cute guys she always flirts with them when she has a BOYFRIEND. a couple nights ago we picked up her guy friend kevin and when he was walkin up to my car she was like ohh look how hott he looks! and she always lies to her boyfriend..like he called when we were with kevin and she is like im just with kristen (me)! and nobody else..and hes like no i can hear someone else..who are you with? and shes like nobody..and when she gets off the phone she continues to flirt with him. also when i was at my cousins she has this really cute neighbor and he came over for a bit to chill with my cousin and then she was like all flirtin with him and jumped on him because she wanted "shotgun" and wouldnt get off of him! i dont know it seriously bugs me and im like ohhh you were flirtin with him! and i tried talkin to her and sayin you have a boyfriend..if you flirt with other guys then why are you still with your boyfriend? and shes like because i like him! i dont know she is my best friend..ive tryed talking to her..she just bugs me when she is around guys! ...what do you think i should do in this situation?
i will rate 5 for anyone who helps
thanks. (link)
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stay out of it!!! i dont get along w/ my best friends boyfriend either not because i dont like him we just have nothing in common. she flirts alot too. chances are she has noooooo clue shes flirting alot of people dont my friend doesnt and i really dont notice when i am either. besides, its not like you and her boyfriend are really friends if they break up your responsibility is to your friend not to him. just stay out of the way, and be there for your friend if those 2 break up. i dont understand why it would bug you if your not his friend the fact that she lies to him sometimes shouldnt bug you either and if she told him she was hanging w/ that kevin person he may have gotten mad. if it really bugs you that much, sit down and talk to her about it. good luck!
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okay. so im having some trouble. im 15/f and i never have a boyfriend and i mean never. occasionally ill have some random ones pop up but i just never feel anything for him. They all tell me that im their 'little sister' and i just dont get it... I mean, [im not big headed or anything] im not ugly, i actually am very satisfyed with my looks.. i dont get it. like, i am very popular, not because of what i wear, because of how i act... i just dont know how to get and keep a steady bf... any suggestions?
thanks in advance (link)
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im 15 and never had a boyfriend not even like a random one. you just cant stress about it ALOT of girls our age havent had any boyfriends and its a mystery why. dont go looking for them theyll come to you just be yourself and if you like someone flirt! which really isnt hard just do what feels right. your still young and shouldnt be in a hurry for a boyfriend. have you seen any of the things your friends may have been through w/ their boyfriends if theyve had any? its not always pretty. im sure youve heard that having a boyfriend isnt all thats its cracked up to be and you still want to know for yourself what its like. im that way anyways. you may just come off as a friend first but alot of guys have crushes on their friends. just be open have fun and live it up while you can, you cant stress about things like that you just have to go w/ the flow. good luck!
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does getting your hair dyed professionally last longer than the stuff you buy at the grocery store?
because everytime i dye my hair myself it lasts 2 weeks tops then its totally faded (and you can only dye your hair like every 8 weeks or so)
and i dont want to waste that kind of money getting it professionally done if its just going to fade right away
any thoughts? (link)
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it costs more when u get it profesionally done because it lasts longer. and it usually doesnt fade when you get it professionally done but your roots will show after a while of course. if you do get it profesionally done dont go to some cheap place go to a nicer place where you can trust the hair dresser. good luck and have fun w/ it!
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Sorry if this is in the wrong category... it seemed to be the best fit.
Anyway, for the past few days my left eye has been really itchy. I don't wear contacts or anything like that. It feels like there is an eye lash that fell into my eye... it's that exact same feeling, but there is nothing in it. The feeling is not there 24/7 either... it probably feels that way every 4 hours or so, and I can't stop rubbing it when it happens which makes it itch and bother me even more!
What's wrong, and how can I fix it? Any ideas? Thanks so much in advance! :) (link)
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you may have an eye infection. theres alot of things that could be wrong, you could have got an eyelash in your eye and may have a small cut. go to your optometrist ASAP to get his/her opinion and some eyedrops to fix it. hope i helped!
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15/F Alright, so I have been dating this guy, ryan, for about 6 months. I can honestly say that I LOVE him. Bu, lately he has been acting distant, strange. I was talking to a girl online and as soon as he found out I was talking to her he made me stop. It's just weird. And This may be a little TMI but the last time we were doing "things" He just stopped and said, "I can't do this." He's never done rhis before, What do you guys think, and any advice on how i may be able to figure out if he is? (link)
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hmmm something is definately up. sounds to me like he may be cheating on you w/ that girl online since he made you stop or shes friends w/ the girl hes cheating with. that sounds really strange that he would just stop and if he keeps being distant and pushing you away, being controling etc. id break it off before things get out of hand. if you have anymore questions w/ this just drop by my column or IM me at gilmoregirl21291
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My bf just broke up with me a few hours ago and I feel nothing. I really liked him, but I just feel numb. What happened was a guy added me and started telling me my bf had been saying things about me behind my back to his ex. This guy quoted snippets of the conversation with his ex and she was saying stuff like "he says he still loves me... his current gf is only ok for now, its not the same" I was really upset and didn't know what to believe. When my bf got on, I asked him about it and he got really mad, saying I didn't trust him at all and trusted this guy over him, etc. He didn't deny the guys allegations, just spent the entire time trying to figure out who it was. I got really upset and went offline for a few hours.. then came back online and told him I wanted to work things out. He said there's no chance of that and we're over, put it down to us being different people and that since I'm a senior he shouldn't be distracting me cause I want to go to college. He also said there's too many problems with us, but this is the first problem we've had in our relationship. He did later deny what the guy said, but I'm still unsure whether he was telling the truth or lying.
I just can't understand it. I told him I shouldn't have listened to the guy and I was sorry but he said we were over. He didn't want to work things out. He said that since we've been friends for years we should stay friends, but I said I can't have that because he was not willing to put the effort in to make things work with us so he didn't deserve friendship. Plus I know I'd never be able to get over him if we were friends. I said see you sometime and that was the end.
What exactly happened here? Should I chase after him and try and get him back? I have a feeling it'll sink in later. Was I in the wrong? This is the first time I've been broken up with and I just don't know what to do. I feel we broke over over a simple misunderstanding but something tells me he was just looking for an excuse to break up. I need opinions here. Thanks and sorry for the length. (link)
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right now ur probably in shock b/c you dont know what to do. DONT run after him. you did nothing wrong you just want to know the truth and if he couldnt calmly talk it out w/ you then hes too immature to be in a relationship. you may feel sort of depressed later but trust me, you dont want this guy back because if you get back with him it will probably just get worse. dont look back or regret what happened move on your going off to college soon! focus on that and forget the loser. good luck!
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i have a lot of friends. but you know how in a group of friends, each person has like one friend that their best friends with and have had the best memories. i don't have ONE best friend. i have a lot of average friends. i don't like this because me and my friends arn't close and we only have an in school relationship bascially. i think its because people find me boring. im not really shy but im not the comedian in the crowd. i only have a few really close friends. and i don't know how to make the friends that i have closer with me. i invite them over, but it just doesn't work. all of my friends have other friends that they are closer to, so basically i get left out of everything. i don't even get invited to birthday parties. my friends like to have expensive parties so they are only able to invite like maybe 5 or 6 if their closest friends. since most of my friends are just my school friends, im not considered their one of their "best" friends. and when i AIM people they never seem to answer me. but i know they are on. i want one REALLY close friend that i can share EVERYTHING with, and i want a few really close friends and then some school friends. i don't want all school friends. i need more close friends where i can have fun with and share my secrets with. but i don't know how i can get someone to be my "best" friend. not just a regular friend, but a really really close friend. i try everything but they don't count me as their really good friend. it really hurts too because i'm always in the middle of everything. when my friends start cliques im never in them. it's not because there mean it's because i'm just their every day "school" friend. schools ending in 3 days and i really want to have people to chill with me this summer but i need to make closer friends. i have no trouble making friends, but i for some reason can't get someone to be my BEST friend. you know how everyone has that one person who they can always count on. people will be my best friend for a couple of days and then they will find someone more fun to be with and more funny and they will make that person their best friend. how can i make someone be my BEST friend?!?! theres this girl that is wicked nice and i've been friends with her for a longg time and i just want to be BEST friends with her. shes someone i could always trust and stuff. exept she already has a best friend and they have SOOO much fun together sharing secrets when i have to share secrets with my sister because all of my friends are just "school friends" who i don't talk to out of school. how can i make people like me and want to be my BEST friend? (link)
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have you ever heard that saying you can have more than 1 best friend? well you can and it takes time to develop that relationship w/ someone make sure you get all there #s for the summer if u wanna hang and that girl you were talking about has potential to be a best friend just invite her to hang out, make friends w/ her best friend and yall can all be best friends thats how it is w/ me and my 2 friends it really isnt hard just dont try so hard be creative ask them to go to a movie and hang around the mall or something fun like that where yall can go hang and talk! just be cool about it it shouldnt be too hard! good luck!!
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First off I'm 14 8th grade same with the guy im tlking about)Anyway here is the story: I met this amazing guy in october at a football game and have not spoken to him sence.(he goes to a different school)Yesterday during my class trip to hershey park I saw him and we hung out together the entire time. He diched all his firends and just hung out with me and my firends the entire time. I really like him but its really werid. He basicaly does all the talking, I can't ever think of anything to say, we go to different schools and that blocks some points of convesation. He is also extremly popular in his school and well in mine, im not. He wants me to go to the movies with him tomarrow but i think im gonna say no and go next weekend. I'm just really nervous, he might expect to make-out with me, I never even had my first kiss. I really don't want to make out with him...at least not yet. I'm really scared I dont even know how i will probley be really bad.Ugh I just don't know what to do I have to call him back to tell him I can't do anything this weekend and our phone calls are really acword and I like shake im so scared. lol I know I sound like a loser but im just a normal girl in love with a awesome popular kid and dosen't want to make a fool out of my self.
Sorry this was so long.PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE I REALLY NEED IT! i WILL RATE VERY HIGH!!!
THANKS A BUNCH!! (link)
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aww! dont cancel and just dont think about it too much your doing what im horrible at and thats over analyzing things go and youll be nervous no matter how much you think you wont be trust me, you will atleast a little bit. go hang out have fun and if he does kiss you just go w/ it you cant think about it too much he seems to sound really nice and friendly you wont make a fool of yourself if you just calm down a bit ive liked guys and gotten so scared i started shaking too but i know if i hadnt made the move to go hang w/ them or even ask them to hang i would wonder what woud happen if i just went. you dont want to wonder whats going ot happen you wanna know so take the leap and go! have fun! and just relax! hope i helped!
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im a 13 year old female. my mom is very strict about "getting enough sleep" and i have a VERY early bedtime. i have to be off the computer by 8:50 pm and i have to be in bed and be watching a half hour tv show from 9:00 to 9:30. i HAVE to be sleeping by 9:30 pm. even if im not done with homework or want to read a couple more pages of my book, I HAVE TO BE SLEEPING. so i go to sleep at 9:30 pm and wake up at 6:45 am. I think i don't need that much sleep. my friends go to bed at 11:30 and they are still wide awake at school. and what makes it worse is that i have the SAME exact bedtime as my 9 year old sister. thats 4 years apart!! i don't think it's fair and i don't think its neccessary to be sleeping by 9:30 pm i feel if i went to bed at 10 or 10:30, i would still get the sleep i need. what time do you guys go to bed and do you think my moms being fair? how can i get my mom to change my bedtime? and shes very strict so i need some good ways to pursuade her with.
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i go to bed between 10 and 12 during the year and i get up at 6. your friends may seem awake but they may just be hyped up on sugar or something. if she keeps this up in the summer than you need to talk to her and work something else out showing her your responsible may just make her think that the extra sleep is helping. you NEED to talk to her if you want to see a change. ive chosen to go to bed at 8 and get up at 6 for a while b/c im more alert in school and it helps. she may just be looking out for your future. i would try to get it extended to atleast 10 if it bugs you that much but still, 9 30 isnt that bad alot of teens go to bed that early on their own will and i go to bed when all my homework is done thats why i stay up as late as i do.But now im just babbling. Tell her its bugging you she wont know until you talk to her and if she wont listen make her! your her daughter of something is bugging you its her responsibility to listen
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I want to do my room over. I want it to be kinda funky/retro. People I need ideas of how to decorate my room! I'm 14 and female by the way. I will rate soo high if you give me items AND store names and even websites!!!! (link)
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pottery barn teen has some good stuff and so does delias not all of it is but some of it is retro and funky if your gonna repaint it use bright colors and fun patters like different width stripes or different size polka dots
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My question is quite tricky. I like this girl that I sort of know. I want to go out with her but I would like to maybe be a friend. I want to ask her out, but I just don't know how to. The only time I see her is when shes on the bus, with of coarse all her mates and everybody. What do YOU think I should do? I really like her, because she is cool. (link)
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go up to her and just talk! it wont hurt you to just say hi start a conversation and if your not comfortable asking her out on a one on one date then ask her to hang with some of your friends make it a group thing so you can get to kno her and if you still like her after that then ask her out on a date when you know her better youll feel more comfortable talking to her if you only sort of know her and you like her b/c shes "cool" then you need to get to know her better before making any sudden moves to be her boyfriend. just be confident, relax and go for it! hope i helped!
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my friend ALWAYS copies me. like if i put something on my profile she puts that up too if i put something on my myspace she does that too. if i buya pair of shorts, she will buy them too. i know people say copying is a way of flattery but sometimes its just annoying. i like to be my own person. should i say something to her? if i should, what should i say? (link)
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one of my best friends is having the EXACT same problem right now. put some space between yall if she keeps copying you then do something sneaky go shopping and say i like this but i know it would look better on you and just keep giving her that vibe like icon or backround it would look awesome on your myspace. find quotes for her profile seriously one of the only ways she will form her own sense of style and identity is if you help her form it and if that doesnt work be honest and tell her! it should get better over time
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im a 15 year old girl and im around 5'9" and 150 pounds.. is that average? i have a little pouch in the front that i HATE so im gonna lose weight soon but what would be the average weight i should be? (link)
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im the same height same age and around the same weight yea its normal trust me if your over like 175 and your 5'9 thats over weight your in the middle which is considered average cuz the range is like 120-175 so your good to go! if you lose the weight youll still be considered normal weight so good luck!
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This kid and I are inlove.I love him a lot!But one problem,He's my bff's ex!!!Everytime he hugs me she gets mad and basically wants to punch me.I want my life back,but I am happier with this kid.I just want ma old friends back.The people that stuck with me are my true friends,one imparticular.But I want to be able to hug him and stuff,sometimes when she is watching i push him off!So I can only choose one.If I choose my bf i will be happy,but lose my bff.If i choose my bff,I will have to break up with him and then get my old friends back.I really love this kid and i have followed my heart always,and its led me to him and my heart is telling me to stay with him,but what do i do!??? (link)
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ok so the saying is "chicks before dicks" which is really a situational thing if you ask me. you seem to really like him and if your friend cant get that you like him then shes not really your friend. explain to her that your going to go out w/ him reguardless of what she thinks and if she gets mad she gets mad. honestly it wouldnt be fair to this guy to dump him just b/c your friend said so you friends are supposed to support you not get mad b/c you like there ex. good luck and dont let ur friends influence you!
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14/f i've never had a boyfriend before, but i've liked a lot of guys. guys just seem to never like me back. i'm the kind of shy girl that guys talk to when they sit next to you but never anywhere else. okay well there is this guy that rides my bus for school. we have two classes together (gym & chorus), and we talk in those classes. well we recently (like two days ago) had our schools last school dance. this guy asked me to dance but like halfway threw the song he felt bad for my one other friend who didn't dance with anyone, so he stopped dancing with me to dance with her. And he was the first guy that i've ever slow danced with my whole life. i know that he doesn't like my other friend, because they are just friends. but does he like me? i can't tell.
oh and don't tell me to just tell him that i like him, because i am wayyy too shy to do that. (link)
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im the same way shy and just sort of the friend to guys. i had to ask a guy to my banquet and its hard so i understand you being too shy. chances are hes shy and nice like you and doesnt know what your thinking. it sounds to me like he likes you and at the dance when he asked your friend to dance he was just being a friend to her. remember he asked you! tell him you had alot of fun at the dance w/ him and ask him to hang out sometime. if he says yes then your in! and if he says no well guys suck sometimes! you dont have to be like hey i like you b/c that sometimes scares guys off just dont worry about it too much and take the plunge and ask him to hang out! once youve asked the hardest part is over! good luck!
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So I like someone. Don't we all, though...
This guy I like, I have no idea if he likes me. But I like him. And I want him to know how I feel. I'm not even sure I'd want to go out with him, I'd just want him to know how I feel... I don't really know why though. But I don't want to screw up our friendship, because we're pretty good friends right now. I wouldn't want to loose all that we have just because of me saying something.
I do really like this person though... should I tell them how I feel, or should I tell them I like them and ask them out? Or should I just keep my mouth shut?
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i know exactly what your going through because im going through something very similar. the thing is if you dont tell him how you feel you will always wonder what will happen if you had. tell him that you dont want it to screw things up and you just thought he should know and dont let your friends bug him because that usually doesnt work. trust me its happened to me twice now and it makes me more confusing. just tell him " hey i like you but i really dont want that to mess our friendship up" it doesnt have to be exactly that but something along those lines. i wish you the best of luck and dont sweat it its a guy!
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I've got a choir audition on Saturday. I'm in for sure, it's just a matter of which choir I'm in.
Any audition tips other than to be confident? (link)
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practice ur sight reading. directors really look to see how good ur sight reading is to determine what choir your in and i would kno b/c i have my sightreading test on monday. if you practice that it will help and audiation like hearing notes in your head helps to b/c it sets a memory of what you are singing if you can hear the notes in your head then your good to go! if your in for sure just be happy w/ what choir your put with you end up whene you end up for a reason. good luck!
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im 14/f and i was asked to prom by my boyfriend of a few months (2-3). he goes to a different school and they only have a junior prom so what im asking is do you people think 14 is too young for prom. i have to say im a mature 14 and my bf thinks so and thats why he likes me besides numerous other reasons.we wouldnt have sex or go to parties afterward so is just prom too young for a 14year old????? my parents know and are ok with me going but i still dont know..
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you should go and have a good time! theres no pressure of sex and your boyfriend wants you to go your parents are okay w/ it and if you dont go your gonna wonder for a while what would have happened if you had gone w/ him just have fun! its not too young if your a mature 14 and i kno what you mean by that have fun and go! hope i helped!
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my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and iam dating this boy named Jesse and he's 16 years old,but his parents want him to break up with me becouse they think he's to young to date,but they let his twin brother have a gf and he's really immature like he cusses teachers and stuff like that.why would they let Jeffrey have a gf and not Jesse?what should I do? (link)
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chances are its not that they think hes too young to date they think your too old which is pretty messed up b/c alot of girls date younger guys and its only a year apart not bad at all or maybe they dont like the idea of you dating him b/c they dont want to see him get hurt and they think his brother is so immature that he wouldnt care. try not to worry about it too much they cant control what he does and who he likes just get through this as best as you can and good luck!
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im having a bit of make up trouble. some people wear tons of makeup, and look really good, and some people just plain over do it. I know i dont over do it. sisnce i only put on:
lip gloss
foundation
concealer
& thats all. but i want to look pretty. without looking like some circus clown. and ideas on what to put on and how to do it? no web sites please :) (link)
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k well if you have pretty eyes or you want your eyes to stand out, put on a little eyeliner, not necessarily black b/c that tends to be too heavy, mines a shimmery brown and its really pretty try something like that, also mascara is pretty good too and if your not too afraid and are worried about looking like a clown talk to your mom and she can help you OR you could go to a makeup store in the mall or a department store like dillards that has a makeup counter and they can help you. also if you have any put on SOME blush not too much again, ask your mom for help she should know what shes doing! good luck!
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