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social life
i have a lot of friends. but you know how in a group of friends, each person has like one friend that their best friends with and have had the best memories. i don't have ONE best friend. i have a lot of average friends. i don't like this because me and my friends arn't close and we only have an in school relationship bascially. i think its because people find me boring. im not really shy but im not the comedian in the crowd. i only have a few really close friends. and i don't know how to make the friends that i have closer with me. i invite them over, but it just doesn't work. all of my friends have other friends that they are closer to, so basically i get left out of everything. i don't even get invited to birthday parties. my friends like to have expensive parties so they are only able to invite like maybe 5 or 6 if their closest friends. since most of my friends are just my school friends, im not considered their one of their "best" friends. and when i AIM people they never seem to answer me. but i know they are on. i want one REALLY close friend that i can share EVERYTHING with, and i want a few really close friends and then some school friends. i don't want all school friends. i need more close friends where i can have fun with and share my secrets with. but i don't know how i can get someone to be my "best" friend. not just a regular friend, but a really really close friend. i try everything but they don't count me as their really good friend. it really hurts too because i'm always in the middle of everything. when my friends start cliques im never in them. it's not because there mean it's because i'm just their every day "school" friend. schools ending in 3 days and i really want to have people to chill with me this summer but i need to make closer friends. i have no trouble making friends, but i for some reason can't get someone to be my BEST friend. you know how everyone has that one person who they can always count on. people will be my best friend for a couple of days and then they will find someone more fun to be with and more funny and they will make that person their best friend. how can i make someone be my BEST friend?!?! theres this girl that is wicked nice and i've been friends with her for a longg time and i just want to be BEST friends with her. shes someone i could always trust and stuff. exept she already has a best friend and they have SOOO much fun together sharing secrets when i have to share secrets with my sister because all of my friends are just "school friends" who i don't talk to out of school. how can i make people like me and want to be my BEST friend?
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Hey there! Have you ever heard of the quote, "If you want a best friend, be a best friend?" It is evident that you are doing this, but you are not only limited to one best friend, you are given an infinite number! In order for us to be really close friends with someone, a label isn't just given to us that we stamp on ourselves and say, "Okay, we're best friends now," but rather, the relationship grows. By being open with ourselves to other people, others will be more encouraged to be open with themselves and want to spend time with you. By being more honest with ourselves, others will be more honest with us too. While we build bridges to getting to know other people, deeper friendships will result easily. And also, others view us the way we view ourselves. So if you say to yourself, "I'm an awesome, fun-loving, friendly and bold person who's up to having new friends, and getting to know my close friends more," then people will start seeing you as such =D. What you could do is, obtain phone numbers of friends at school and ask if you all want to get together and watch a movie, or do something fun. You guys could also get together on school grounds, and talk story, or form an out of school study group with your friends if a test is coming up. Once you believe that you're an awesome best friend and those who don't see that are at a loss, people will also believe it.
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have you ever heard that saying you can have more than 1 best friend? well you can and it takes time to develop that relationship w/ someone make sure you get all there #s for the summer if u wanna hang and that girl you were talking about has potential to be a best friend just invite her to hang out, make friends w/ her best friend and yall can all be best friends thats how it is w/ me and my 2 friends it really isnt hard just dont try so hard be creative ask them to go to a movie and hang around the mall or something fun like that where yall can go hang and talk! just be cool about it it shouldnt be too hard! good luck!!
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