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Hey everyone! My name is Kristen, I'm 20 and I'm a college junior studying pharmacy. I've been blessed with a really good life, and part of the reason for that is because I've learned to see GOOD in everything that happens to me.

I love giving advice, and I've been told that I do a good job at it, but I'll let you decide! Feel free to ask me anything... don't be shy, that's why I'm here. I've been through a lot... moving from one country to another, leaving and finding new friends, break ups, boys, middle school, high school, college, self esteem issues... pretty much most things that people need help with.

I usually spend a good amount of time answering your questions, so I would really appreciate it if you leave me an honest rating along with some feedback (good or bad!) It really does help me improve my advice... and in the end, that's good for YOU! Talk to ya soon! :)

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I know I'm anorexic and leaning towards being bulimic too. But that's not my problem(yes I know it's a problem but not the one I'm concerned with right now), but my problem is that I need to tell someone but I don't know how. I'm too afraid of what their reaction will be to tell someone. I asked my friend if she's read my online journal where I talked about it as kind of a hint for her to look at it but I don't think she got it. So should I just ask her to read my journal so that she knows and I don't have to come out and say it? (as you can prob tell...I have confrontation problems) Thanks! I rate high!!

hi!! wow, i'm so glad you realize that there is a problem... that is so good, because you can finally get help for this and move on with your life. ok first of all decide who you want to tell. i know you said you want to tell your friend, but would she really be of any help? you need to tell someone who will actually be able to help you out. in my opinion, your best bet would be an adult that you trust and can open up to... a guidance councelor or teacher at school, parents or other relatives... they are the ones that can really help you, and they will have to find out eventually anyway.

if you can't just go and open up and talk about it by saying something like "mom (or someone else), i have a problem that i need help with... i think i have an eating disorder" then you can always write it on a piece of paper and give it to whoever you want to tell. if you want to tell your mom, write it down for her, go up to her and say there is a problem and give her the note. sit down while she reads it, and once she starts talkign about it, it will be much easier for you to talk as well!! it will feel soo good once someone that can help you knows! and don't worry, those people love you and want what is best for you, and they will be so happy that you came out and told them before you get seriously sick! let me know if you need more help! :)

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I'm not quite sure about saving money. I've always been the kid with the 'money'. I don't live in US or canada. Nor europe. MY aunt, who gives me money, recently (today) had quarrel with my uncle and now...I mean I havea spending limit of $100 a week. If I spend $15 a day I'll save $25 a week and $100 a month...therefore I can buy a jeans or just save it!

Are there any techniques to saving money? BTW...I need to travel which is $5.00 a day. And buy at least 2 $3.00 bottles of water a day.

hey! hmm techniques to saving money... ok, how about opening a savings account at a bank! you won't be able to take money out for a certain time or you will be penalized by being charged a certain amount for doing it...that should make you think twice if you decide to take money out! or you can just put the money in a piggy bank that you can't open without breaking. when you want to buy something, ask yourself if you really need it... avoid impulse buys, because those are usually things that you really don't need. when you go to a store, have a list of what you need and don't get anything that's not on the list!

as far as traveling money, see if there is any way you can travel for cheaper. for example, if you take a bus or something, you might be able to get tickets for cheaper if you buy a couple at a time. i don't know how it works in your country, but i know here if i buy a ticket for public transportation it is 2.50 for one ticket, but if i buy a booklet of 10, each ticket comes out to only 2 dollars! so it adds up.

lastly, the water... same thing as before, buy in bulk! here if i buy one bottle of water, it is 1.50, but if i buy a pack of 20 bottles, they come out to 50 cents a bottle! it's crazy how much money you can save that way!

hope those helped! let me know if you need more help! :)

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ive known this guy for a while and i recently started to like him. we flirt all the time and it always seems like he likes me. ive gotten various people to ask him, his answer is that he likes me and his x & that hes confused. i kno his x has a boyfriend and that she doesnt like him at all ne more. should i just forget about him i really like him but i dont want to wait foever for him to make up his mind to ask me out.
we did hook up at the movies tho....

hey! all you can really do is wait and give him his time to decide! he needs to get over his ex girlfriend completely before he can move on to another relationship, and it sounds like he isn't over her yet! you don't want to be in a relationship with him now anyways, because it will just be a rebound for him, and that is deffinitely not something you want to be part of!

i think you should move on for now and see what else is out there, but keep in touch with him. once he is over his ex he will know it, and if he is still interested in you he will approach you. if you still have feelings for him when he does, then that's great and you guys will be able to work it out! but for now, give him all the time in the world because the last thing in the world you deserve is to be someone's rebound girl! :) let me know if you need more help!

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I was wonderig if there is anyway to not have a baby without getting an abortion. If you are pregnant and do not want to have a baby but do cannot get an abortion...Any other way? Thanks

hey! the only way not to have a baby without abortion is by having protected sex and not getting pregnant... or by not having sex at all. seriously though, anything else is out of the question and would be completely dangerous for your health! other than abortion, the only other option is giving up the baby for adoption or keeping it yourself. sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear, and let me know if you need more help! :)

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Is it possibly to loose 5-8 pounds in 2 - 3 weeks? If so, can anyone give me tips? Thanks. xoxo, I'll rate.

hey! yes it is possible! it is healthy and normal to lose about 2 pounds a week! anything more, and it sounds like a crash diet which will take weight off but put it right back on as soon as you are done with it!

run or jump rope every day, do crunches every other day, drink a LOT of water, have smaller meals every 3 hours instead of 3 big meals a day and DON'T skip breakfast, and cut out all junk food and soda! drink low fat milk and water instead of coke, go for proteins like grilled skinless chicken breast (instead of fried) and fish, and eat a lot of fruits and veggies!! :) good luck!

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im going to the movies with my boyfriend next weekend.. and i want to make a good impression because we dont see eachother in person that much. i'm 13, 5`2 blue eyes and long light brown hair. i`m about 105 pounds. i need some REALLY cute outfits for the movies. i know you're just going to say that it's just the movies and it doesn't matter what i look like, but i really want to look nice cause thats just how i roll. i like hollister, a&f american eagle etc. i need full outfits with the colors that will look good on me. if you give me atleast 3 really good whole outfits, automatic 5. thanks.

* destroyed light or dark denim mini skirt, with a red tank top (or another bright color) layered over an extra long white one. it's best if the white one is a bit longer and sticks out from underneath the red one at the top and bottom. go with white flip flops and some simple silver or gold earrings!

* a pair of dark blue jeans with a white tube top or halter top. any other color top will work as well... pastel colors like peach, light green and baby blue are awesome too, and will look great on you!
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&size=&style=36634842&color=660&token=
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10251_10201_278121_-1_12607_12552
a big, chunky belt and cute matching flip flops (maybe brown or white) and you're good to go.

* lastly, if you want to look a bit more dressed up, i would go with a pair of lighter jeans and a dressy shirt from a store like wet seal. they are not cotton... they are smooth and silky and look really good with jeans. a cute, printed halter with a scoop neck in the front, or a solid colored tube top with lace on the bottom... something like that! here are some examples: http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&size=&style=36083961&color=10&token=
http://wetseal.com/productdetail.asp?mi=1000&size=&style=36615704&color=40&token=
if you have flip flops with a plat form or a small heel, that would work great! a bigger pair of earrings would look cute with this! :)

let me know if you need more help!

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okay so i heard my boyfriend cheated on me recently and i'm not sure if its true. i talked to my boyfriend and he told me it wasn't true that the girl people say he cheated on me with has been trying to break us up since we first started going out (i know this) so i just brushed it off and dropped it since i have cheated on him myself. there's a possiblity its true but lately ive been SO paranoid about him cheating on me, alotta girls talk to him and whatnot and i can't trust him. i don't know what to do.. he know's im really paranoid about him cheating on me but i dont think he knows i dont trust him. i dont want him to think that either. what do i do and is there anything i can do to stop worrying so much about him cheating on me?

you have to ask yourself if the person you heard this from is a reliable source. would you believe anything this person says? are they honest and do they want what is best for you? if that is the case, then they could be telling the truth, but if not, then it could just be a lie.

you also have to ask yourself how much this relationship means to you and him. you cheated on him once already, so do you really want to be with him? do you think he likes you enough and cares for the relationship to the point where he won't do such a thing to you? if you have doubts, then you should consider ending the relationship for the time being.

you asked him about the cheating and he denied it. you should be able to trust him, because if you don't have trust in a relationship then you don't have anything. have you told him you cheated? sit down and have a heart to heart with him. tell him what you did, and tell him that if he cheated on you you would rather know now than find out later if it is true. both of you should spill all your secrets, because that will make your relationship stronger. vow to never keep anything from one another. if the talk goes well and you are both sensere and want to make things work, you can deffinitely do it. but if you still have doubts an d can't trust him, ask yourself if it is worth it! let me know if you need more help! good luck :)

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okay well i weigh around 117 pounds and im about, 5'4. I am turning 15 this year. I am convinced that im fat, i hate myself for it too, i watch what i eat 24/7 and even though people tell me im not, i still feel that i am. I am probley one of the most self concious people. so i guess im asking about what i should weigh

you are deffinitely not fat at all! i can't believe you think that! i'm 5'3 and 113 pounds and i'm one of the skinniest people i know (and all my best friends are twigs too)! my little 14 year old sister is the same weight and height as you and she looks great, so i know you do too!

it's normal for a girl your age to feel this way... you are still learning to love your body and love yourself for who you are. there is nothing you need to do about your weight, because it is ideal! if you are any skinnier, you wouldn't look good... you would be skin and bones, with no curves whatsoever! what you should be doing is reassuring yourself everyday that you look good until you learn to love yourself. look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful and look great... even if you don't think that at first, eventually you will believe it and be truly happy! :) many girls would kill for your body, so stop freaking out!

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so last night i tried to put my first tampon in. i got it to go in alright but once it was in i started to get dizzy and stuff so i took it out then like 2 minutes later i puked..is that normal? thanksss!

oh my gosh!! no that's deffinitely not normal at all! are you sure it's from the tampon? has this happened before when you weren't using tampons? you might be allergic to something in the tampons, so go see your doctor and tell them this happened before using another tampon! take in the box with you to show them the exact kind you used (size, brand, scent) so that they can see what is in them and determine something! good luck! :)

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During a wedding...does the girl put the guy's ring on his finger like the guy puts the girl's ring on her finger for her?
Sorry if i put it in the wrong category i wasnt exactly sure if that was the right one or not.
Thank you very much.
please respond

yup! exactly the same! the girl puts the ring on the guy's finger, and the guy does the same for the girl! both rings go on the left hands, and on the finger next to the pinky! this has been done for so long and it is now tradition, but the reason it was first done is because most people are right handed, so putting it on the less used left hand made it less likely to get chipped and damaged! :)

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pleeease help! I have a guy friend that is always up on me i use to like him but i like someone else now, so he always flirts with me and has his arm around me and holding me and i dont want to tell him NO GET OFF ME! caus i still wanna be his friend, just not like a couple, what can i do to kinda give him the idea i dont want a boyfriend and what can i say to make him stop putting his hands around me other then no or get off me or your making me uncomfotalble, they all sound so stupid

hey!! alright this guy likes you, and he needs to realize that you don't like him ASAP because you don't want to lead him on and hurt him even more in the end. i can see why it bothers you when he puts his arms around you and stuff, and honestly there isn't much you can do other than tell him that you don't want him to do it or just take his arms off of you. you don't have to be harsh about it... just playfully pull away when he does it. after a couple of times, he will deffinitely get the hint!

as far as letting him know that you don't like him... you don't have to tell him that straight up, but what you CAN do is bring up the fact that you like this other guy to him or to a group of people while you guys are talking. you can just say something like "___ is so cute!" or "i really like ___ a lot"... something like that! that way he will know that there is someone you are interested in, and it is not him. at first he might be hurt and even ignore you for a bit, but that's just because he is trying to get over you! if that is the case, let him go for a little bit, and once he is healed you guys can be friends again! :) let me know if you need more help! good luck!

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Should i be worried if the boy i like called another girl that likes him .. But my friend says that they only talked on the phone for 2 minutes. should i worry about it? or wonder whats goin on with them?

xox - brandy marie

hey! no there is no need to freak out about this... so what if he called another girl for a few minutes? even guys with girlfriends do this! just because he called a girl, it doesn't mean he has a crush on her. after all, guys CAN be just friends with girls!

but if you like him, then go ahead and let him know how you feel... tell him, or show him that you like him as more than just a friend. if you like him and he doesn't know about it, then he could go after other girls, so hurry up before that happens! :)

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Do guys tell you that they want you keep them up at night on the phone, because they just like talking to you?
What do you think, because i am really confused?

Hev

hey! ok first of all, deffinitely ignore brit's advice right below mine... that's deffinitely not true and such a stereotypical thing to say. all guys are not like that. but anyway, if a guy wants to spend a few hours talking to you on the phone instead of sleeping and relaxing, then he DEFFINITELY likes you and enjoys your company! him saying something like "i just like talking to you" is basically saying "i like you!" if you like him, then let him know! it seems like he is dropping hints because he wants to persue a relationship with you! :) yay!

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I don't know why every girl seems to think that all men are controling ass holes. I know that most women have had bad experiences, but that's not excuse to totally rat on guys just because you've been hurt once or twice, because in the end that just gives you a worse imagen, and more of a reason for guy's to think that they actually do have more power then you. I'm a guy, but to be honest I'm not a normal one. I'ma girly man to be honest. But I do hate how all my girl friends complain to me about how guys are asses. I may not like a lot of people, but I still do find it offencive, and I'm tired of it

hey!! haha i like this question... seriously it seems like all women think that all men are a**holes, but we really don't actually think that. when do you hear women complaining about this? after they have been hurt by a guy or had a bad experience with him. it's just something women do to make themselves feel better about the guy being out of their life or the relationship failing. saying how much of an a** a guy is makes the woman feel better about why the relationship didn't work, and it makes it easier for her to cope with the loss by thinking that the guy is an idiot and not worth her time anyway.

so next time you hear that, don't get mad because women don't actually think that, even though they do say it a lot. it's just one of those things i guess.... what can i say, we are complicated! :)

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Ok, so I'm 15 and my boyfriend and I have together for a good solid 7 months. We're sexually active, but trust me when I say that our relationship is about more than just sex. We respect eachother and this is the first relationship I've had that really means something to me. I'm not positive if I'm 'in love' but it sure comes close.
So, we've had sex maybe 8 or 10 times since we lost our virginity to each other a couple months ago. At first, I was totally "I'm ALWAYS going to use protection!" but we've gone a few times without (but we've made SURE to pull out). I know that that there are still SO many risks but I thought we were being careful. Well the more I've been thinking about it (and it's been increasing lately) the more I think I might be pregnant! The thought alone totally freaks me out!! I'm adopted and my birthmother had her first child at age 13 and me at 15 and I've always promised to myself not to follow in her footsteps. I've been researching everything online and I havn't had any of the 'earliest signs of pregnancy' EXCEPT for my missed period which was supposed to come yesterday but I've had missed/late periods before. Apart from that I havn't been bloated or tender anywhere and I don't know if it's just paranoia, but my stomache's been looking a little "poochy" lately. The last time we had unprotected sex was maybe 2-3 weeks ago but again, he pulled out wayy before he came.
I'M FREAKING OUT, PLEASE HELP!!
-kbabe

hey!! oohh man ok, first of all just because your period is ONE day late doesn't really mean much, i mean i don't even know if i would consider that late. however, the chance of you being pregnant is very likely. if you didn't use protection and you are not on birth control, then there is a big chance that you could be pregnant. i'm not trying to freak you out, but i can't tell you that there is no chance. just because he pulled out doesn't mean much... i mean there is pre cum there and that can deffinitely get you pregnant.

what you should do is wait a week, and if you still don't have a period then go to the store and buy a pregnancy test. this should give you your answer. just try not to stress and freak out because that will delay your period and make matters worse for you. and if you are pregnant since 2 weeks ago, you would NOT have a bloated stomach so you are just freaking yourself out by thinking that... but that's normal.

lastly, you say you had unprotected sex about 2 weeks ago... meaning that was 2 weeks after your last period... right in the middle of your cycle! it is never EVER a good idea to have unprotected sex unless you want a baby, but doing it at that time in your cycle (when you ovulate) is a bad, bad idea, because you are most likely to get pregnant then. keep that in mind for the future. for now though, just wait a few more days and if you don't get your period, go get the pregnancy test! until then, try to stay calm! and in the future, unless you want a baby use protection. let's face it, you can even get pregnant while using condoms or taking birth control pills, so don't ever think that "pulling out" is a safe method if those other methods aren't even 100% effective!! :)good luck and let me know if you need more help!

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I hate oral sex but my boy friend loves it. He spends too much time down there both my vagina and anus. What are the desease chances? what measures should I take? Please give advice.

hey! hmm ok well if you hate doing it then you are not ready for it. usually it's not something that people hate doing, so if you feel that way about it, it means you should stop. i know you care for your boyfriend and you say that he loves it and you want to make him happy, but doing something that makes you uncomfortable will only hurt your relationship in the long run because it will make you resent him and the fact that you did things that you didn't want to do.

one day, once you feel more comfortable with him and the relationship, this will be something that you like doing and it will make you feel good. when you are ready for it, you will KNOW and you won't have any doubts about it and you will like it. until then , stop doing it if you want to save your relationship and if you respect yourself and what you want.

tell him that you know he likes to do it, and you like it too, but you don't feel like you are truly ready for this step and you don't want to do it until you feel you are ready. that way you will like it, and he will like it even more. if he really cares for you, he won't even try and change your mind and he will give you all the time in the world. if he is not understanding about the situation, then it's likely that all he wants is the physical stuff and it's time to get rid of him. no one that truly cares for you will make you do something that makes you uncomfortable... EVER!!

lastly, as far as the chances of disease, yes STDs can be spread from person to person through oral sex. i read a whole list of which ones can be spread this way, but i don't remember it. herpes is one of them, and there are many others as well. once you are ready to take that step with him, make sure you both get tested just to make sure that both of you are free of any STDs! :) hope this helps, and let me know if you need more help! good luck!

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How long can you las to take the next day pill?

hmm im not really sure i understand your question, but i think you might be asking how long you can wait to take the morning after pill for it to still work? if that's your question, then the pill is most effective if it is taken within 72 hours of having unprotected sex (that's 3 days)! but the sooner you take it within those 3 days, the more effective it will be. and it's about 70 to 80% effective, so next time try not to let it get to the point where you need it, because it's not that effective! :) good luck, let me know if you need more help or if that wasn't what you were asking!

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Hi I'm 15/f
and I weigh 148 lbs, and i am around 5'7''
and I want to go down to 130 lbs, and I know its not easy because I used to be over 170 lbs but I exercised through out all year, losing some, gaining back some, then losing some more.

But since its summer again, (because i started exercising last summer), I want to try to see if I can lose 10 pounds, or maybe 8 pounds before school starts again.

This is my plan...

eat all three meals, but dont have anything that isnt meal. as in No junk food whatsoever, no soda, no nothing. Maybe except for fruits and veggies, on occasion.

and get up early in the morning, around 6:30 to do these 2 abs exercises i got from Seventeen magazine(they are not long. it maybe took me 15-20 min doing them)

then during day, I probably will go skateboarding, but not a lot because its really energy draining thing and I have really low stamina. Maybe skateboard for 30 min to 1 hour a day.

Then about 1 hour after dinner, do 25 min of pilate crunch video thing

Then take shower then rest, and around 8:00 p.m, do 200 sit ups.

(But none of them applies on saturday, or sunday because I have to work and I get back late so that plan of mine only works through monday-friday)

So anyone have ANY idea if I can lose 8 pounds in about 2.5 months or so?

any suggestions that will help me lose more weight??

*** Most importantly, any suggestion that will keep me from snacking? because I can do it for couple days, then I always crack...

Well thanks so much in advance!

hey! i think this sounds like a good plan... seems like a lot of work to me (but i am kind of lazy lol) but if you can do it, then that's really good! :) if i was you i would do 2 things:

first, make sure not to skip the skateboarding thing , and if you do, then at least run for 30 minutes or jump rope, because cardio is VERY important for weight loss. the crunches you will be doing are good to build muscle, but you need cardio along with it to lose weight and speed up your metabolism.

second, as far as the snacking thing... in order to avoid it, instead of 3 big meals a day, i would cut those meals in half and eat every 3 hours. so something like a small breakfast at 8, healthy snack at 11, lunch at 2, snack at 5, last meal at 8. something like that... that keeps you from snacking because you never really feel hungry because you are constantly eating. just make sure you are eating small portions each time or else you'll gain weight! and also, drink a LOT of water ... carry a bottle everywhere you go and keep refilling it! that helps soo much when trying to lose weight, and it keeps you from always feeling hungry and wanting to snack! :) good luck!

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Ok just so you know the other day i went and got a brizalin wax and they gave me this cooling cream to put on well later that night me and my Boyfriend ended up having sex. that night just so you know we had alot of sex. and well the next day we went to the beach and now he's still wearing the same pants in the water and then went to the pool and swam and then went back to my house and chilled well my question is the next morining he texted me to tell me he had some red rash down stairs and that i would want to get checked. well i'm going to the docters today so i am but could it have been him wearing the same pants and having them dry on this maybe irratate his skin or the cooling cream b/c i checked my self and i don't have anything wrong down there. so.... just want to know what ya'll thought. Thanks

hey! yeah you should deffinitely go get checked to make sure everything is ok, and he should do the same thing! you don't want to keep having sex with him just in case he does have something that can be passed on to you! so make sure he gets checked as well!

but as far as his rash, it could deffinitely have been caused by him wearing the same pants in the water and then out of it. that happens a lot because the skin down there is sensitive, and salt water in the ocean and chlorine in the pool can cause irritation. if he didn't take his wet pants off, then his skin was exposed to that stuff for a long time and that could have caused the rash!

but just to make sure, go get checked (both of you) and you won't have to worrry about it! :)

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My eyebrows were thick until I attacked them. But they grow in very long pieces.. and they often get pushed down over my eyelid. I tried cutting those.. but it looks weird when I do that.

Should i get my eyebrows professionally done?

I want my eyebrows not to be so low near my eyes.. I want an arch..

Do I grow out my eyebrows first and go see them?

Or go to one and get it done and
then wait for it to grow out?

hey! yeah, what you should do is let them grow out a little bit and then go to the salon and tell them exactly what you want. once they pluck or wax them, all you have to do is pluck out the hairs on your own once they start to grow out, and you will maintain what the salon did for you without going there all the time and spending your money!

also, if your hairs are too long and get out of place like you said, then instead of cutting them go out and buy a clear mascara! maybelline makes one... pretty much every company does! it's called clear mascara, but it can also be used for eyebrows to keep long hairs in place!! :)

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