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Oral sex
I hate oral sex but my boy friend loves it. He spends too much time down there both my vagina and anus. What are the desease chances? what measures should I take? Please give advice.
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hey! hmm ok well if you hate doing it then you are not ready for it. usually it's not something that people hate doing, so if you feel that way about it, it means you should stop. i know you care for your boyfriend and you say that he loves it and you want to make him happy, but doing something that makes you uncomfortable will only hurt your relationship in the long run because it will make you resent him and the fact that you did things that you didn't want to do.
one day, once you feel more comfortable with him and the relationship, this will be something that you like doing and it will make you feel good. when you are ready for it, you will KNOW and you won't have any doubts about it and you will like it. until then , stop doing it if you want to save your relationship and if you respect yourself and what you want.
tell him that you know he likes to do it, and you like it too, but you don't feel like you are truly ready for this step and you don't want to do it until you feel you are ready. that way you will like it, and he will like it even more. if he really cares for you, he won't even try and change your mind and he will give you all the time in the world. if he is not understanding about the situation, then it's likely that all he wants is the physical stuff and it's time to get rid of him. no one that truly cares for you will make you do something that makes you uncomfortable... EVER!!
lastly, as far as the chances of disease, yes STDs can be spread from person to person through oral sex. i read a whole list of which ones can be spread this way, but i don't remember it. herpes is one of them, and there are many others as well. once you are ready to take that step with him, make sure you both get tested just to make sure that both of you are free of any STDs! :) hope this helps, and let me know if you need more help! good luck!
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