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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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I have some video files which record many happy days about me.Recently,I want to make them together as one file,so that I can save them much more easier.Do you have used some video joiner tools?Does the boilsoft video joiner for Mac works well? Share with me your advice,thanks.
for Mac, there's a program called iMovie that lets you do this. Its pretty straight forward.
If you're looking for something more advanced, there's Final Cut which you have to buy. Its a more professional type of program that usually movie makers use.
Do you feel like your a better parent than your parents?
Are there some thing that your parents did that you couldn't imagine doing or not doing to your own kids?
yeah haha sometimes.
My parents sometimes fight about the most ridiculous things ever.. and then I have to be the one to fix it and make amends.
For example- my dad sat next to my mom on the couch. My mom's foot twitched a little and hit my dads leg. My dad flips shit and thinks my mom was kicking him off the couch. They get into a huge argument....
haha I was literally laughing when this happened because they fight over small things that are so childish. And I have to intervene to fix it.
Ok, I had a group of really close friends in middle school and high school, me and three other girls. We would spend EVERY weekend together, all weekend, despite the fact that we all went to different high schools. I'm not trying to be egotistical but I was the popular, smart, athletic, and pretty one in our group, the other girls got didn't have any interest in boys, C-averages, didn't play sports, and were a little on the heavy side, but they were my best friends. Now we are sophomores in high school and the guy that one of my friend likes, likes me and she's bitching at me, because she is basically blaming me and saying I was to, I don't even know, likable I guess? But I tried to explain to her that the only reason I even talked to him was because i was trying to hook them up, but now he likes me and I don't even know him really. I need to figure out what to do. I have grown apart from the other two girls because they turned on me for no reason and made better friends since but I don't want to lose another best friend over something so stupid. How Do I Get My Friend Back?
ok take my advice because this exact thing happened to me too. except I only had 1 best friend, not 3. She liked this guy but he liked me. He kept flirting with me and I only talked to him so they could get together. But then she started bitching at me and got into a huge fight. Sound familiar? Well here's what you SHOULDN'T do.. don't get involved with it. My mistake was that I kept trying and trying. Soon my best friend starts bitching at me because now i'm being too involved in her love life.. It tore us apart and we are no longer friends.
So my best advice is to leave the situation alone. Tell the guy you're not interested in him and that you were only talking to him so you could hook him up with your friend. Then tell your friend you're sorry and will stay out of the situation. After that, its her choice whether or not to forgive you. if she doesn't forgive you, then keep trying but if you've tried too many times and she still doesn't accept your apology, then maybe she's not a worthy friend.
As for your other 2 friends, you have to realize you're in high school. High school friendships RARELY last. Most friendships stay in contact like facebook etc, but then after a while everyone goes their separate ways and gets caught up in their own world. Its just how life goes. I thought I would stay with my high school friends forever, but now college is starting up and now i'm realizing I might never see them again..
So understand that you're only a sophomore. Its normal for friendships to break up at this time. High school is all about finding the type of people you fit in with. Don't force yourself to fit in with a specific group... let the group find you. Thats when you discover who you truly are.
If these friends of yours are turning against you, then maybe they aren't worth your time. Just enjoy life and you'll come across some new friends with whom you'll fit in perfectly with :) and who are loyal and worth your time.
Good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
How do you responde to someone who tell you they love you. I have had boyfriends that say I love you early in the relationship and i dont know what to say because i dont know if i do love him. What do i tell someone? How do i reply to him when he says i love you and im not sure what i feel?
well there's no specific answer here.. its based on how you're feeling about the guy. You just need to be open, honest, and speak from your heart.
you can just say something like- "thanks. You're a great guy and I really like spending time with you. But, i think its too soon for me to tell if I love you or not. I would really appreciate it if we could continue seeing each other and getting to know each other better."
but yeah, don't lie or anything.
good luck!
I trust my friends soo much and when two of us got in a fight she told the other one everything i was saying and they messaged eachother back in forth.... Talking about me and saying how they were better friends..... and how i just have to except the fact that them to are better friends then ill ever be with them. And i trusted one with my heart and we told eachother we would never talk behind eachothers backs and she betrayed me, i dont know how to confront them about it because i kinda read there messages to eachother on facebook without permission so how are they gunna know how i figured out?
hmm.. i'm thinking that these "friends" of yours aren't worth your time. I used to have friends like these.. boy it sucked. That was a few years ago and now that I look back on it, I feel like I wasted my time with those losers.
I think you need to be honest with them about how you found out. Just tell them you saw their facebook messages and then say "i'm a better person than both of you put together. want to know why? because unlike you guys, I don't lie and I'm loyal to my friends. you guys can eat shit together" ahaha and then laugh at their face.
sorry that could be a little mean.. but honestly they deserve it. I don't know what your personality type is.. but whenever someone treats me like that, I get PISSED and will prove to those people they are nothing but scum. So if you're a little shy girl, you need to toughen up your attitude and shove your finger in their face and say they are worthless little girls because they backstabbed you and talked behind your back. No true friend would ever do that. And then you can agree with them that they are better friends together because both of them are backstabbers and they go well together.
But seriously, you need to be the better person. Tell them the truth, toughen up and show them you're a way better person, and then walk away with your head up high and with your pride and dignity. You can find MUCH better friends than these pathetic little sissys. Trust me, I thought I would never find another best friend after my horrible friends, but if you just stay true to yourself and don't let other people drag you down, then you'll find the right people to hang out with.
Most importantly.. don't let these bitches get to you and make you feel worse. You are a much better person than they'll EVER be. Just walk away with pride of who you are, and leave them in the dust to rot.
Good luck and show them who's boss. Leave a message in my inbox and let me know how it went, or if you need any more help :) I know a ton about standing up for yourself.
well, he says he loves me..i hope this is all true because im really confused. i have talked to him and he told me he is gonna change because he really does loves me.
ok so thats some improvement right there.
I've been in this position before. I screwed up my relationship with my boyfriend and I fought so hard to get him to forgive me. I told him I would change because i really do love him. He felt just like how you feel- confused. But I proved my point that I love him and he eventually trusted me and gave me a chance. Now our relationship is stronger than ever.
So what you should do right now is give him a chance. He said he is going to change.. now its time to sit back and observe his "new" behavior. If he hasn't changed, then maybe he's not the right guy to be with.
good luck and inbox me again if you need more help!
how to make her happy if i shout at her
is there a reason you were shouting at her?? try fixing the problem first. Whatever caused you to shout at her, that needs to be fixed. then you can talk to her and tell her you were angry and normally when people are angry- they say or do things they don't mean. say you're sorry and ask for her forgiveness. If she doesn't accept, the only thing you can really do is keep trying and hope she will forgive you.
If she still doesnt, learn from it. learn from your mistakes and make sure it doesn't happen again in the future. move on from the past too.
good luck.
I refused to do an exam at school since I was sick but now the principal wants an answer.Please help.
how about telling him the truth?
just say you were sick and couldn't focus on the test. You'd much rather take the test when you're healthy and focused because you'll get a better score that way.
For college im deciding between studying all the brances of art or premed so i can become a specialist or emergency. Im looking at big city schools like st louis, new york, stuff like that but i tend to be in the wrong place at the wrong time so i know its not too safe. i live on the outskirts of saint louis but lovee the innercity.
What are good big city, safe semi urban, art or med institutes, or coastal schools for what i want? how do i find the type i want myself?
i dream to study abroad as much as possible but i am the youngest kid and my sibs havent even lived on campus..
i dont have much money but i have a 3.6 gpa, 24 act first only try, national art honors society and honor art, theater, cross country and track. could thoes get me some scholarships?
any college related advice is good
hey so I think I answered your other question about colleges haha.
I'm not sure how familiar you are with the Midwest but I live in Minnesota and its really nice here :) We have some of the best universities. There's the University of Minnesota- Twin Cities. Its one of the biggest colleges out there. The campus is absolutely beautiful, Its in downtown minneapolis but it still has that vibe of a small community in the campus. But at the same time, you can literally walk downtown. Its also safe here. There are some sketchy neighborhoods but normally they aren't anywhere near the campus. Then we have our smaller sized colleges like Gustavus-Adolphus, Concordia-St. Paul, Macalaster, Hamline, St. Olaf, Carleton. Carleton is one of the best colleges in our state, academically. My friend is going there and she got a ACT score of 30. Then you also have the small community colleges like Hennepin Technical Community college and in other suburbs. We also have the Art Institutes in Minneapolis. They are specifically for art students and its great because there are so many art topics like photography, interior design, acting, painting etc.
The best part about colleges in minnesota is that we have the twin cities. St. Paul is our capital, but minneapolis is a huge city right next to it. literally 10 minutes away with car. So you can be in the city, but at the same time be a little away from it. Its perfect! Plus minnesota is really beautiful and the crime/trouble rate isn't very high.
the only bad part is... lots and lots and lots of snow and ice in the wintertime haha. but its not too bad :) if you're into winter sports, its perfect for you. we have lots of snowboarding/skiing hills, we are also real big on hockey haha.
sooo yeah.. thats just a suggestion. There's also other places like Wisconsin and Iowa. In wisconsin, the 3 good school's i've heard of is University of Wisconsin- Madison, Marquette, and University of Wisconsin- Eau Claire, In Iowa, there's 2 good colleges i've heard of. University of Iowa- Aimes, and Luther.
Some other random school's ive heard of are- University of Miami- Ohio, Boulder University in colorado, University of North Dakota, University of South Dakota, University of Nebraska.
soo yeah just do some research and i'm sure you'll find the perfect fit :) Let me know if you are looking into minnesota colleges and i'll give you more information on them or any specific schools.
when i was leaving my friends building i met a guy in his elevator. we totally vibed and connected. i felt the spark, electricity - whatever you want to call it! i didnt get his name or number but i cannot stop thinking about him and i really really want to see him again.
i dont know what to do? i should go back to my friends apt and look really good in hopes of bumping into the guy again?
yeah :) go back to her apartment and hang around there. maybe ask your friend for any ideas of who it could be? maybe ask the receptionist or whoever works in the building.
my parents keep pushing me to go to two colleges i really dont like, they are rural and i am diein to go to an urban school its just me and i spend more time downtown then i should i just am in love with it. how do i convince them to let me decide or have some say? i hate the country right now i go to a hs of it. im looking at saint louis mo colleges, but i know alot happens at night and im a culprit of always exploring soo i understand its dangerous, how about kansas city or nyc or some coastal school? any advice on how to convince them, what to look for in a school, or thoes areas?
well you just have to talk to your parents and tell them you're not a little kid anymore. You're heading off to college. Tell them that you need to make decisions for yourself. If they make the decision where you're going to college, you won't be happy and it will be their fault. They don't want to take that blame.. do they?
Try to put them in your shoes. Make them realize how you're feeling. Tell them "how would you feel if I made decisions for you and told you what job you are going to have and where you're going to live?"
Just talk to them honestly and openly about it and try to figure out what the actual problem is. What are they so scared of?
If they are scared because the school might be "dangerous"... well here's some news for you.. college in general is dangerous. There's NO college or university in the world that isn't dangerous... tell your parents that. They need to realize that they can't keep you safe forever. How are you supposed to grow up and explore the world, if they keep you locked up like this?
As for the schools.. like I said- there's no college thats going to be 100% safe. There's always a chance that something bad could happen. But you could find a school thats safer than others. Try looking for smaller schools like Division 2 or 3. Big schools (division 1) are known for party schools and lots of crap goes on. Maybe find a school that's in the city, but not in the center of it? The college I'm going to is in-between 2 major cities in my state. so technically it is an urban school, but its not in the middle of the city. You can also look for a school that is academically advanced. Students that are smart academically tend to stay out of trouble because they are more focused on school rather than parties.
besides those things, you just gotta talk to your parents and figure out a solution. good luck!
So thank you for such an elaborate answer.however,you defined my situation better than i did,but i don't think you really understand where i am.see,i don't feel sorry for myself and i don't cut to make my emptiness go away,i do it because i dont know how to express my frustration otherwise,it doesn't make me feel any better,but i don't do it to.i just don't know any better,do you understand this?see,i don't just lock myself in a room and exclude myself from the world out there,i try everyday to just conect,but people tend to just forget me,and its just worn me out,sure you might say that i should try harder and that the rest will take care of itself,but this is a burden that i've always had to carry,it's not the result of a temporary situation.when i was a little guy of five i had the same thing,my classmates ignored me because my father was in jail and still is,but i don't blame him for everything because i'm not the kind of person to blame others.its not that i'm a weird loser,i am perfectly normal,i'm not unattractive,i'm not socially awkward,i'm smart,but i'm just different i suppose.i have tried many things to fill the void but nothing seems to be enough.and i've went as far as to tell my family about my frustration,but even they are ignorant,they see it as just a phase thats part of my growing up.i've thought about just puling the triger before but i'll never be capable of doing that to my family,so i'm sort of trapped.all i want is for someone to understand me,i want to really exist in someone else's world other than my own but i don't know why i can't cross that bridge.so i'm hoping you will understand me a little better now,
you're welcome. I do understand you a little better now. Can I tell you 1 thing? You said you wanted to exist in someone else's world other than your own? well guess what.. you do. You exist in my world. otherwise I wouldn't have tried to answer your problems. I'll try to do my best to help you but ultimately its up to you to figure this out. Oh and in case you didn't already know, i'm always on here so if you ever need any kind of help, i'm glad to be here for you.
It seems to me like you're more focused on what other people think, rather than what you think. You want other people to notice you. You want other people to make room for you in their lives. Well you don't really have that power.. What i'm trying to say is- you can't control the fact that other people choose to ignore you. Its the people's choice if they want to ignore you or if they want you to be a part of their life. Its their choice, not yours. Sure, you can do things to impact their decision. But you don't have the power to make that decision for them.
My mother always gives me 1 great advice- don't worry about things you can't control. You can't control these people's decisions.. so don't worry about it. The best you can do right now is try to make people notice you and try to impact their decision.
I also think that you should find a way to release all of your anger and frustration. You said you cut yourself because you don't have any other way to express how you're feeling. well FYI... cutting is bad. stop doing it and find another way to express your feelings (in a good positive way). For me, working out and dancing is my way to release anger. Whenever i'm angry or hurt, i just start running until my feet give out. I push myself to the brink of exhaustion and thats how I release all of those bad feelings. For you, it could be whatever you want. but just make sure its a good thing. Some examples are- working out, boxing, listening to music, dancing, painting (art stuff), screaming at the top of your lungs, driving somewhere unknown, venting to someone you trust, etc. all of these are way to express how you're feeling in a positive way. it will make you feel good afterwards.
Another thing that I find very useful is to use all of that anger and frustration, and use it to motivate you to do something. For me- I use my anger and motivation to get better at sports. whether its working out, or spending an extra hour or 2 after sports practice working on my weaknesses. Some people use their anger and frustration in ways like writing music, helping others out like volunteering etc, motivate themselves to do better in life. Use that anger and frustration towards something.
Last piece of advice. All this shit that's happened to you... you have got to learn how to let it go. Its all in the past. Everything you told me (classmates ignoring you, father in jail, etc) all of that is in the past. You can't change that. Remember the quote I said? Don't worry about the things you can't control. Well you can't control the past. So seriously forget about it. God put our eyes on our face so we could look forward, not backwards. I can't really describe it in any other way. It takes time to learn but I mastered it. I learned how to forget about my past and focus on bettering my future. A trick to know is that you have to WANT to forget about the past and WANT to focus on the future. If you don't want it, then you're wasting your time.
This ties into what I said above.. if you forget about your past, forget about all the shit people that treated you like this.. then you'll realize you're much better off without these people in your life. I don't know if you know this.. but there ARE people out there who would recognize you and include you in their life. For example- me. You've already got 1 person. Now go find the others. It might take time to find them, but they are there. Find the people who deserve to have you in their life, who will treat you with respect and loyalty and who CARE.
Anyone who ignores you or shuts you out, leave them behind and start a new journey. A journey to discover a new life thats worth living for.
Please inbox me if you need any more help. remember- i'm always here :)
My bff told me I was the slut of the one class n I believe her. I wear short shorts that almost show my butt. I wear no sleeved shirts I wear low shirts. belly shirts I also wear short short dresses and I am 11 and a half. I made out with guys and i slept with a guy at his house. Is it true be truthful. Also how could I tell my other bffe(best friends for eternity)?
you're not a slut because sluts and whores are girls who actually have sex with guys almost 24/7 and practically sell their body.
there's a difference between BEING a slut, and ACTING like one.
you are acting like one, but you are not one.
You're only 11 and a half???? Oh gosh.. you are still such a young child, you really need to make better choices and think about what you're doing.. I dont understand what's wrong with these next generations.. I hear about 9 year olds getting pregnant. do you want to get pregnant? do you want to have a baby at 11 years old?? I highly doubt that, so please make better decisions and be smart.
Dressing like that is going to attract really REALLY strange men.. there are tons of perverts out there who would take advantage of you and that is not right.
If you're doing this because you want attention or want a cute guy etc, then there are PLENTY of other ways to do that. Dressing half naked will get that attention but in all the wrong ways.
You also have to realize this... you're 11. People will start labeling you pretty soon. Labeling/stereotyping is a horrible thing but thats how its been for a long time. If you dress this way, people will start to label you as a slut. Your bff thought you were a slut. If she thinks that, maybe other people think that too. Honey, being labeled a slut is a BAD thing.. nobody wants to be labeled that.. so I seriously suggest changing your attitude so nobody will label you the wrong thing or get the wrong image of you.
make good choices because they will affect you in the future. inbox me if you need more help.
Female-15-Australian
It all started with a trip to the movies with my best friends and some guys. I have a boyfriend but this guy "Jake" started coming onto me. I went with it because I was caught in the moment but WE DID NOT KISS as I pulled back just before because I love my boyfriend. A few weeks later we had all gotten over it and my boyfriend knew and we talked about it and we are still together now. But when I was on the bus with my friend "Jackson" I was told that one of my best friends at the movies "Rosie" went up to my boyfriend saying how can you still trust her? "Jackson" told me this. I trust "Jackson" like everyone else I know (I trust people easily.) so I believed him. I was also on my way to a friends house "Kayla." That night at the sleepover I told her what "Jackson" told me and I was really angry because I thought "Rosie" wouldn't ever do that and I started calling her some bad things that I regretted as soon as I said them. I said to "Kayla" to not say anything because I didn't mean it, I was angry and I wanted to talk to "Rosie" about it. The next night I did talk to "Rosie" and my boyfriend about it and I found out "Jackson" was LYING! I then went straight to "Kayla" saying "Please don't say anything I already said I didn't mean it and I still don't, Jackson was lying, I regret what I said." "Kayla" then said "I won't say anything." So the next day I go to school and all my best friends know even "Rosie"! I got really angry at "Kayla" and asked why she told them and she said it was because she was looking out for "Rosie" Well what about me? I was then kicked out the group and another best friend "Libby" had a go at me infront of all of my friends, some randoms and some year 8's/9's. It was so humiliating. I was kicked out of the group and "Kayla" and "Libby" told me that they hate me. "Rosie" told me she understands why I said those things but she wont forget it. I now hang out with my other good friends but I am still upset with what happened. I don't know what to do or say to them because none of them are bothering to talk to me anymore. It's been about 6 weeks but I can't stop remembering all the great times I had with them and how much I miss them. I don't want to go back to the group because I know that nothing will be the same again, I just want them to know that I'm still sorry and upset about how much I hurt "Rosie." (I heard she cried when she found out). I feel so bad still "Rosie" doesn't deserve anything I said she is so beautiful and the most caring person I know.I have tried moving on but it's so hard. Please help me!
I used "fake names" because I don't want to share their real names.
it helps if you try to understand the situation from their point of view. How would you feel if your friend said mean things behind your back, then asked your best friend to keep it a secret from you? wouldn't you be hurt? "kayla" had a good reason to tell "rosie" because its what friends do. They look out for each other. Also know that if kayla did that for rosie, she would most likely do it for you too. So this means kayla isn't actually a bad friend.. she's just doing what she thought was the right thing to do, which was telling the truth. yeah you asked her not to say anything and yeah she probably broke that promise... but kayla didn't say "hey rosie you have to be mad at her now." Rosie told the truth.. but Rosie is the one that got upset. So you have no right to be mad at Kayla. She told the truth and that is what friends do. She didnt force Rosie to be mad at you..
Rosie has a good reason why she is mad at you. Maybe next time you'll think before you speak, especially when you're angry.
I suggest you speak with your friends and ask for their forgiveness one more time. Tell the the truth, and how sorry you are, how much you miss them, and that you'll never do it again. But if they don't accept your apology, then I would ignore them and find friends who are worth it. who respect you and who care about you.
Okay, Im 16 and Ive been getting highlights since I was 14, the first time I did it I didnt ask, my sister did them at her in-laws house.
My parents took well to the hair, they actually liked it and ever since ive kept getting highlights
Recently I chopped off me mid-back length hair and now its 3-4 inches long with bangs that swoop to the side and are down to my eyes
I want to start dying my hair, I have done it once, black, temporary, but I was only allowed for Halloween last year. I want to do permanent, if I cant Id settle with semi/demi permanent.
My first question is, how do I convince my parents to let me dye it?
My second question is how should I dye it, I dont want it to be just one color but i think its too short to do tips and I dont wanna keep doing skinny little highlights..
my parents definitely wont go for crazy colors, I want to try white with black, blue, or red in it either as tips or streaks but Is my hair too short for that?
Or should I do coon tails on my bangs? If so how do I do it??
Thanks :)
I used to dye my hair behind my parents backs too haha but then they found out about it. I just kept dying it and yeah they got mad but eventually they didn't care anymore and just let me do it now. but i highly suggest you talk to your parents about it.. be honest with them and tell them "its just hair".. its not like you're getting tattoos and piercings. You can chop off your hair or shave it off if they dont like it, whatever. its just hair so they need to chill out about it.
As for the hairstyle, I think a dark brown would be better. Black is too extreme I think. Only few people can pull it off.
Oh, a new trend that is really popular is having the bottom half of your hair 1 color, and then the top half of your hair another color.
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http://hair.lovetoknow.com/Two_Tone_Hair_Color
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Also, you can try hair extensions. They don't even have to be the ones that match your hair color.. they can be any color you want :) there's small hair extension pieces that come in lots of colors too (red, blue, pink etc). SO if you want one of those, you can tell your parents that the salon people just braid them in your hair. its not permanent and its not your real hair either. Another thing thats really cool and popular now is feather extensions. Same thing- the salon people braid it in your hair and its just a feather :) looks cool.
http://featherhairextensionsinfo.com/
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1 more thing- i HIGHLY suggest you go to a salon whenever you're doing ANYTHING to your hair. They know whats best for your hair and they can help a lot.
Ok so, my other question is about what i should do. im pretty sure i love him, hes everything i want in a guy and more, he's about a foot long in penis size, really cute, etc. but im not sure im in love. i think i am, i cant stop thinking about him no matter what. he totally pushed this other guy from my mind and hes all i talk about. i need answers please. ive only been in love once an it was puppy love
umm honey i'm pretty sure you're not in love...
the very first thing you mentioned about him is his penis size.. if you were honestly in love, his penis size wouldn't matter at all..
Plus, if you are doubting whether or not you're in love.. then you're not.
you're in love when you KNOW you're in love.. not when you "think" you're in love.
Oh and the information about only being in love once and that was puppy love.. well that pretty much means you're young. and very seldom do young people fall in love that easily and quickly. its probably just lust.
you'll know if you're in love because you'll get that gut feeling.... and you won't have to ask random people on the internet if you're in love....
my name is crimsson. what should my emo/scene nick name be?
I think your real name is a good "nick name". And I agree with the other person... a nickname shouldn't be forced. It just happens naturally.
What if you came up with a nickname right now? lets say your nickname is burgundy. What would you say if someone came up to you and said "hey burgundy, how did you get that cool nickname?" and you say...."i just came up with it"... LAMEEEEE
If you had a nickname and someone asked you how you got it, you tell them a sweet (yet true) story like "I was painting with friends and someone spilled paint all over me and I had to walk with burgundy paint on me all day!"
now doesn't that sound sicker than "i just made it up"...?
So see,the worst pain anyone could bear is being alone.Connecting with others seems to be simplicity itself but to me it just doesn't happen that way.Why is that?It's been that way all my life,i was always the 25th guy when a teacher might say to divide into groups of 2,3 or 4,it's as if i don't even exist sometimes and i don't know why.I'm not unattractive and i don't have a weird personality but people seem to just forget me.Over the years i've cropped up so many frustrations and anger and its made me an empty person.I even find it hard to laugh these days.All in all,i've grown tired of life,i've tried numerous hobbies and all to get out there and have even gone as far as to ask God what is wrong with me,but my pleas just stick to the roof of my dark room.Cutting myself is the only thing that makes me feel alive,-how do i go about learning to breathe all over again?
hey. My personality is almost like yours, but not as extreme. I tend to be the girl who is almost invisible. I'm shy and quiet. Don't normally speak out unless I have to. I kind of just go with the flow and I hate getting attention or standing out. But guess what...? Thats who I am and I'm proud of it. Now, I'm not saying you should be proud to be a loner haha. But i'm saying that you shouldn't let it get to you that easily.. Its good to be independent and have your "alone time" but there's a difference between that, and being invisible to the face of the earth. Believe me, I know this because I used to be invisible too. Dinner would be so awkward whenever the topic switched to me, because normally nobody talks about or to me. I play volleyball too and i'm the teammate that is loud on the court but quiet off the court. When we had a team meeting, one time I spoke up and said something, and everyone had a HUGE shock on their face because I guess I was invisible the whole time. So my point is, you're not alone. Plenty of people feel this way, including me. I still do sometimes but i'm gradually getting better at it. Of course, my situation wasn't extreme as yours. I don't cut myself, and I don't "hide" from the world.. you want to know why? because I CARE. I care about the situation and I WANT to get better.. not worse. In my opinion, cutting yourself and being all depressed doesn't do shit. If anything, it makes the problem WORSE. Not better.. So why bother doing it?? You need to take my advice and do what I did/do. Instead of cutting yourself and feeling sorry for yourself (which doesn't help your situation at all), try harder. I know you said you've tried everything.. but I figured out that maybe you shouldn't try so hard... I used to try a lot of things so people would notice me. It got to the point where I would lie to my friends just so I would look "cool" and get "noticed". but then i realized that was wrong. I realized I shouldn't try so hard to... well to be me.. Being yourself should come naturally. You don't need to try so hard to live life. You just have to relax, go with the flow, be yourself, and let fate take you down the rest of the road. Do the things YOU love to do, and the rest will take care of itself. Trust me. Its happened to me and i'm sure if you just stop trying so hard, let go of the past, stop cutting and stop feeling depressed and sorry, and just let loose and have fun doing the things you love to do, then everything will be okay.
Also, you need to stop thinking so negatively!!! that's the number 1 rule! If you're always thinking "oh poor me. I'm a loner. poor me. i have no friends. i hate my life. blah blah blah" then you're not helping the situation at all... get your ass off the couch and move your feet and DO SOMETHING about the situation. Your problems won't get solved by themselves.. you need to do something about it. Think positively. Try to better yourself every day.
And you need new friends. If you're feeling so isolated from the world.. it obviously means you don't have good friends that motivate you to better yourself. I recently found a great friend. She has taught me a lot and motivated me to do extraordinary things. I used to be kinda selfish. Always wanting money so I could go to the mall and buy stuff for myself. But after meeting her, she made me realize that I can be happy, by making others happy. I started doing volunteer work in my community. I signed up for clubs like Habitat for Humanity. Thanksgivings, I feed the homeless people. its actually really fun :) and it makes me feel better about myself. Doing things like that make you realize what life is really about. its not always about you.. giving is more important than receiving. So maybe thats what you need to do. Find someone or something to motivate you in life. Do things for other people and soon enough you'll get the satisfaction you crave in life. In my example.. feeding the homeless during thanksgiving is WAYYY more satisfaction then going to the mall and spending hundreds on useless clothes. And like you said- it makes me feel alive :)
I really hope I helped you.. my fingers hurt from typing so much. but its worth it because I do care and want to help. if you need any more help, inbox me please.
what are some cool ideas to do for crazy hair day?
well are you a dude or a girl??
For a girl- do a french braid, but have it start at the nape of your neck and work your way towards the top of your head. Then once you get to the top of your head, take all your hair and tie it in a ponytail at the top of your head sticking up haha. Below is a tutorial on how to do it.
http://vanillafringe.com/a/Backward+Braided+Bun++523
You could also do the same thing but start the braid sideways (ear to ear) and then tie a ponytail on the side.
You can do a french braid circling your head. So, start at one ear, then work your way to the other ear, then work your way down by your neck, then back upwards. its kinda difficult but I managed to do it myself. It looks pretty cool.
If you're a dude- take some fructis holding gel and just spike your hair in all sorts of different directions.
To get EXTRA crazy.. go to spencers or something and get some color hair spray and spray lots of colors in your hair. Or there's glitter hairspray :)
Be creative. :)
During the school year, I started drifting away from my best friends. My main one (who I've known since I was 2) didn't have any classes with me and started becoming really close with my other best friend (who I had one class with). I thought it was ok because my other best friend and I were really close. Then it started seeming like they were the inseparable 3. The two that I normally sat with at lunch stopped showing up, so I started sitting with my 7th grade friends (I was in 8th grade). Despite all the fun I was having with them, I was still disappointed that my best friends didn't care enough to even try sitting with me. Eventually, this one girl was able to convince them to come sit with her (even though my best friend said that she didn't like her that much). My best friend started hanging out with other people and would barely acknowledge me when I was right beside her. It hurt, but it wasn't as bad when I was with my 7th grade friends. Then, I started hearing things about how people felt bad for me that nobody would talk to me except the 7th graders. Unfortunately, now I realize the matter. I'm about to be a freshman and I have no best friends in my grade. I would try to mend things with my best friends, but one of them is going to boarding school, the other I'm not as close with, and the other turned out to be a user, a crappy friend, and not a good overall person. What should I do?
There's absolutely nothing wrong with making new friends :) especially going into your freshman year!
I'm going to be a freshman too :) except in college haha. I only know 2 people going to my college and I don't have any classes with them either. But hey, we are in the same boat! This is our time to make new friendships :) Its not the end.. its only the beginning. We both have 4 more years of our school. This is the time when we start making REAL friends!
Don't be afraid to step out of your little bubble and meet some new people. Do activities YOU like to do, and you'll meet people that like the same thing. It gives you a thing in common and soon enough you'll have brand new friends :)
One more piece of advice- live in the moment. Don't look back at your past and think about the horrible experiences.. but don't look into the future and worry about that. Just live in the moment. Make new friends and just have fun :)
good luck and inbox me if you need any help.