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Q: normally i fall asleep with my ipod on because i fall asleep easier but sometimes when im more tired i dont use it. when i have my ipod on i dont have any dreams except for maybe one a month but when i dont use my ipod to fall asleep i'll have about 3 to 5 dreams a night. i know that we all have dreams every night and that we only remember some but why is it that when im not using my ipod i "remember" a lot more dreams?
because when your ipod is playing your mind has to absorb he music and your dresms but when you dont then your mind only jhad do absorb your dreams

Q: How long should I wait after sex to get an accurate result for a pregnancy test?
a month would ve the best

Q: In December I was best friends with this guy. We're both 16, I'm a girl. Well we were really good friends, hung out everyday even if for 5 minutes, and called eachother everyday etc. He told me in January he liked me but decided he just wanted to be friends. Then he stopped talking to me. I was confused and hurt, after being with him everyday and talking to him, not talking/seeing to him at all was a total shock. Eventually I talked to him about it, and he said he still wanted to be friends/have a friendship. To me, it didn't seem like he was trying, and it still doesn't right now. I tell him exactly, directly, up front what I expect of him, which isn't much, and he never follows through. He calls maybe once every week, and only to ask if he's missed the bus. We hang out once a week, sometimes not at all. I guess I just really miss our old friendship and we've talked about it numerous times, I promise. And it seems while we're talking that he gets it, and the next day usually everything's so much better. But then he starts with his old habits again, and I don't know what to do! I guess I'm just asking did he give up trying to be my friend because he doesn't like me anymore? That's what it seems like to me, but I really need some thoughts here. It's been awhile since January, and I'm still confused why he seems to not be making an effort at this friendship. I'm really hurt, and just need help please.
maybe he likes you alot and hes trying to decide weather to ve friends or more then friends with you.that would be a good reason to ignore you while he clears his head.what do you think
lwt me know how it all works out
lots of love lizzie

Q: I need to ask a guy out on a date [1st date ever!] and i need cute [but cheap, please] date ideas. NO movies / dinner / my house [ew]. The first 2 are cliche and the last one will sound sl*tty lol.

Thanks in advance =] i'm 14 years old btw and the guy is 16. so no things like "local coffee house" lol

also, FOR GUYS...what's your dream date? [WHAT, not WHO. and no sexual things please haha] & would you rather call it "hanging out" or a "date"?

haha i'm so wound up about this
heres a simple answer for you if this guy is as amazing as you say he is then he will understand if you tell him that you want to stay wit him but you need more freedom
let me knw how it all works out
lots of love
lizzie

Q: Alright so i am basically in a messed up situation. I have been dating this one guy for about seven months and i love him with all of my heart. Then, this other guy came into the picture. I like him, and i just have so much fun with him. But, sometimes i just think it's a phase i`m going through because it's been seven months with my boyfriend and phases do happen. I want to give the other kid a chance, but i dont want to break up with my long time boyfriend for him. And another thing is, they are so different from each other. Like, my boyfriend is more sensitive and feminine like into style, skateboarding and shoes and stuff. And well the other kid is just like active likes to ride dirtbikes and do stupid stuff [like a tipical guy] So, i couldnt really compare them.

Any advice would be very good

Thanks
well I cant tell you what to do but if i were you i would go for he guy you have the most in common with.try to do something fun that you and your boyfriend both like then do the same with this other guy and see who you have a better time with. maybe you and your boyfriend just need to spice things up
good lck
lots oof love lizzie
p.s let me know how it all works out

Q: Hi im a 14/f and i just recently broke up with my boyfriend. I broke it off because i didn't like him anymore and i think maybe i might like him agin. I had broke it off cuz he loved me and i didn't think i loved him, So how do you know how love feels and what is love? And im not going to go back with him i don't really want to, but i would like to get a boyfriend, so how do i do that because im kinda shy and boys dont really talk to me like that. I guess im not pretty enough, i sometimes think i am. Well anyway, any advice, Thanks:)
well if you font want to get back with him then dont worry about how you feel about him.and for ;your what is olove question there is no anseer.to me love is when you can waljk aup to someone and not even n what to say.you get butterflies everytime jyuo see him and he makes you glow.when your looking for a relaionship dont look for love just let someone you like turn into so,meone you love,trust me when you find hhim youll no.good luck,
lots of love lizzie.

Q: i straighten my hair almost everyday and i have a lot of split/dead ends.. what could i put in my hair before i straighten it so the heat dosnt distroy it even more?

thankss =]
you could try baby shampoo like baby oil it reallly helps.

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ohhkayyy. me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 5 months and i really love him and he loves me too. and he wants to have sex and hes not forcing me to he just wants to make sure im ready before we do. and i mean i want to but im not sure. any input?
well make sure you are deffinitly ready and that you use protection

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ohhkayyy. me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 5 months and i really love him and he loves me too. and he wants to have sex and hes not forcing me to he just wants to make sure im ready before we do. and i mean i want to but im not sure. any input?
well make sure you are deffinitly ready and that you use protection

Q: if your best friend told you that they like you and they are the same sex as you. will you stay friends? or not? please explain.

if they ask you this question "why did you seem okay when i told you how i felt about you?" meaning when the best friend told you how they care and love you more than a friend, why didnt you responed to it. do you like me back or afriad to tell me you hated it when i told you?

this happen to me, i told my best friend that i like like her. she didnt responed to it but very surpized. this happen 3 years ago. now i cant stop thinking about the talk. why didnt she answer my question when i send her the note that read:"why did you seem alright when i told you how i felt?"
i was expecting for her to not talk to me or not be my friend, and stop being close too. but till now till this day she is still my friend and we are close too. (but not in that way)
well she does love uou just not as more then a friens

Q: Is it normal for an 18 yr old girl to be addicted to wathing gay porn (guys having sex with guys - especially when oral sex is given)?
(I also love watching girls giving oral sex to other girls)
So is this considered normal??
umm its unusual but dont be ashamed have you ever had feeling fore a girl becase you might be bi ????which is not a bad thing

Q: When a guy fingers you or when you give him a handjob, do you still keep kissing while doing it or do you stop kissing?
its bbetter if you keep kissing but if you want you can stop

Q: Ok theres this boy and I reallly really like him and his my brothers like bestfriend in the holl widest world.. and hes about 3 years older then me. I dont wanna like him cuz this boy i like refers to himself as a big brother to me..which i dont like.. that AND he thinks of me as this little girl WHICH IM NOT
how do i show him im not a little girl and so my brother wont get mad
he may not really consider you that it could be a cover up like he dosnt really think of you as hifds little sister nd he reallt likes you

Q: okay she (Jackie) doesnt like every thing i like. but i told her that i like skulls on t shirts and belts and i think I'll get a tattoo of one. One week later me and her hang out with all of our friends, and she came up to me and said "i like to get a tatto too, like a skull" i respond "yeah me too but my own design"

(it might sound like she likes skulls too)

and then my friends talk about life in futuer, i said i dont like kids & i never wanted kids cause i dont see my self as a good parent. but Jackie always wanted kids, we all were at the movies & there was kidds making alot of noise in the movies, she moved up to me to whisper in my ear and said, "see this is the reson why i dont like kids." i nod okay and began to watch the movie. then tonight i was checking her myspace page and it read the persons details (that list about themself) and it read, children:someday.

whats the deal!?
it kinda sounds like she is liking what i like so i can like her. What do you think?
i agree i would just nicely tell her that hey you dont have to pretend to like what i like for me to want to go out with you or like you
lots of love,lizzie

Q: what's the difference between "Loving" and "likeing" someone????
love is when you can look in to a persons eyes and tell them you love them and you think about them everyday.then you can walk up to them and dont even npo whst to say

Q: i am a really insecure person and i am always getting teased about the way i look kids say things like what you looking at fatty and stuff like your never gonna get a boyfriend and if you did i feel sorry for him.and i have pimples anyway i can get rid of dem help me plz.
well now those kids are just ignorant.what you should do is go to a cheap store and pick out this gorgeous outfit,then order some acne stuff or what else works really good is bar soap on your face and you leave it on for like 5 minutes do that for like 2 weeks and your acne should be gone .then pick the day you want to look the prettiest and get up extra early and do your hair and a little but not to much make-up.trust me everyone has the power to be beautifull you just have to learn how to shoow it.
lots of love,lizzzie

Q: I feel that me and her are made for each other, but she doesn't feel the same. What can i do to change that? I really, really love her, mind you and i don't want to lose her.
well i hate to tell you but you cant make someone love you.i wish i could because i would of had the gu i wanted for a long time alot faster.just take her out and talk to her about issues,let her kow the real you.if she cant except you for who you are then shes not worth your time.
lot of love,lizzie

Q: 18/M
There's this girl I like. She's pretty and nice and everyone seems to like her. That's the problem. Almost every guy I know likes her and most of them are my friends. She flirts with a lot of guys and probably likes a couple of them. I need to know what do I do to make her like me best. Don't think because I am asking this question I probably can't stack up but I know I can. Just need some advice for how to use it. It's what I guess you would call raw talent. Anyway I'll take whatever advice you can give.
well if alot of guys like her shes probably just looking fore a guy that dosnt get all weird around someone that can just sit down next to her and say"hey whats up?"trust me it worked on me it will weork wonders for you
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: If a girl hits u all the time does that mean she likes u. and if it does should i ask her out
well only if she laughs after she hits you and if she dosnt hit you really hard,and if she giggles after she hits you and you like her then i say go for it
let me know how it all works out
lots of love.lizzie

Q: Okay, so I've been wondering about something & I wanted to hear you guys opinions.

My boyfriend & I have been together for five years & we are both twenty one. I love him, I'm in love with him & there is no one else I'd rather be with. We're still young so we don't really talk about marriage but here & there we do say things like "when we get married..." & stuff like that. The other day when we were together we were talking about weddings & how my culture's weddings differ from his & he said he'd want to get married at a court house because it doesn't cost a lot. Then he said or he'd want to get married on an island & only our close relatives would be invited, like his mom & my mom. I know I want to marry him in the future & I've never straight up asked him "do you wanna marry me" but I think, well, if he's been in a relationship this long with me doesn't that obviously mean something? Like apparently he wants a future with me if he's been by my side for five years now? But then again I think, just because we've been together for so long doesn't mean marriage is definite, you know?

So my question is, do you guys think that when a couple has been together for so long that it means marriage is in the future? Are people in long relationships because they want to get married eventually? Ugh, in my head I know what I'm trying to ask but I can't seem to get it out the way I want it to but I guess these questions will do. Haha. Thanks for reading this & all opinions are appreciated!
well it dosnt nessasarly mean that marrige is in the future but there is probably a 90 percent chance that it could be if you really love this guy you shouldnt be afraid to ask him anything and the same for him.so ask him say something like"i know this is akward but do you want to marry me in the future or are you not sure yet?"well you can mix it up and say whatever you want.you sound like you guys really love each other so dont be afraid to say anything.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

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lizzielovesyou
hey guys whats up im Lizzie .i love to give people advice and i sometimes need to ask others for advice if i dont know what to do .the most important thing i want everyone to know is that they shouldnt be ashamed to ask others for advice.it will get you far if u ask questions.im not here to tell people how to live there lives,im just here to help .so if u ever need advice or just want to make a friend im allways hear .hope to hear from u soon ,
lots of love,lizzie

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