Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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Brandi_S
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there's nothing wrong with making out, blowjob, tugging, and all the other fooling around with your guy friend, right? i just wanted to make sure before i do it lol, thanks! (link)
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Only do it if you want to do it and that you know him well, and you will not get any diseases from him. Also, do you like him and is this why you are willing to fool around with him? Because if you like him and this is as far as it is going to be, then you will not be happy and may end up regretting it. I guess if you are just having a friends with benefits relationship, you both need to make sure you are aware of exactly where you stand, because if you do not, then someone is wound to get hurt.
Good Luck.
Teacup
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I like this guy, we have been friends for three years and have dated a little in the last 8 months, he is quite a bit older than me, and I believe it bothers him a little bit but at the same time do believe he likes me, on my birthday he wrote in my card " your a great girl" what does that mean? (link)
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obviously, that he can't tell the difference between your and you're. Either way, it can mean a lot of different things. I have good guy friends that think I am a great girl, but do not have any romantic interest in me. I don't think you can read too much into it, by just those words.
On the bright side, he remembered your birthday and got you a card, that's gotta cheer you up. =]
Teacup
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I'm going to a water park and I have really curly, frizzy hair. Usually, I use hairspray or mousse and it looks fine, but when I go swimming and it all washes out, my hair gets really frizzy and it looks really gross.
So I was wondering if anyone knew of any hairspray or gel or anything that will hold even if I'm getting it wet a lot. I don't know if there's such a thing as waterproof hairspray or hair gel but if so, what's the best kind to get?
Thanks!! (link)
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You can always buy a little hairspray or gel to take with you and then fix it. =]
Teacup
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My boyfriend and I have sex almost every day. Some people see this as a bad thing others dont...Im not sure cause people keep telling me that Im confussing sex with love. I've had sex with 3 other guys. I never felt this way before. I know for a fact that I love this boy. But why does everyone think having sex is a bad thing. We have sex 2 or 3 times a day and we are always all over each other. I feel comfortable kissin and making out anywhere. Is this bad? (link)
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the sex thing is not bad. however, extreme pda is not. This sort of behavior drives people away because they know that if they will hang out with you and your boyfriend, you will be all over each other. It's great that you and your guy have chemistry, but it's best to only be expressed between the two of you. I'm not saying you shouldn't kiss once in a while in public, just don't take it overboard. Other than that, it seems like you are happy and normal. =]
Teacup
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15/m
last night my girlfriend was telling me she wants me to finger her next time we see each other. anyway i just want some tips on how to do it. i've never done so (nor has she ever been) and just want to do a good job.
thanks (link)
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Hi. I saw the last person said something pretty discouraging. First of all, make sure you both completely feel like you are ready for it. It really makes it that much special and intimate. As for tips...all I can tell you, being a girl, is be gentle...and don't just rush into it. Start by kissing and then you set the tone for when you actually do it.
Good luck.
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i have a problem with finding my g-spot, and i dont even know if i have one. ive had sex with my boyfriend pleanty of times, and i've never orgasmed. It could be because he needs to get used to my body, but ive tried and i cant even find my g-spot. i've never orgasmed and it really sucks for my boyfriend when i have to tell him that i didnt. when i think i've found it, i feel like i have to pee or even do a little bit. how do i find it? how did you find it? (link)
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I am not sure, I haven't experienced it. But I have read and heard from Sue Johanson, that if you are on top, your guys penis directly hits the g-spot. I also read that to find the g-spot...it's like aligned with your belly button...and just press down in a line until you feel a peeing sensation..sorry if I wasn't much help.
Good Luck.
Teacup
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Lay 'em on me girls! I want all your beauty tips - no matter how weird! Of course the guys can help too, but I though this would be more up the girls' alley!
What I mean is - I recently found out how amazing you look after tanning, or what a HUGE difference tweezing your eyebrows make! And if someone would have just told me this sooner I could have saved myself a lot of tears, i look 10 times better now and in 10 days I've gotten more boys than I ever have in my life! (i used to be bullied, boys wouldn't even look my way!)
So help me - tell me what you've got?! Any discoveries that completely changed your life (or atleast your look!) ?
Thank you! It could be anything from eye-make up to ... well, anything really. Haha :)
Thank you and have a good summer! (link)
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i saw that someone told you to put toothpaste on your pimples, and don't! Toothpaste clogs up your pores.
And for some other tips:
Find good mascara, I personally like the telescopic mascara...only bad thing is that it is not waterproof...but it doesn't clump.
Do not bite/lick your lips, it's bad for them. Make sure you use chap stick to help with cracked lips. Vaseline is pretty good too.
More is not always better...a natural look is really the best look for everyday wear.
I love watching what not to wear...cause Carmindy gives pretty good make up advice and she is very into natural looks.
Good Luck!
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is there a website that shows what college you can get into with a certain gpa? mine is about a 3.7 or something and i need to know which i would be able to be accepted to (link)
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Well gpa is not everything. SAT or ACT scores are very important, extra-curriculars, and anything else that makes you a distinctive candidate. I know this may sound old, but colleges look for someone who is well-rounded, and therefore sometimes accept people with lower gpas because they have a certain something that they feel will contribute to their college. So do research and look for a place you'll like, and don't worry about your GPA cause it is very good. =]
Good Luck!
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ok so my boyfriend and i have been together for a year on thursday (next week) and this is what we're going to do, but i wanted to know if it seems weird or anything...
we were gonna go out to dinner at our fave restaurant (don pablos) and go see a movie and get each gifts and stuff... but instead, we both just got back from a cruise, so time is dwindling down to go shopping, so we decided to do this: there's this place like 20 minutes from my house called 'the promenade shops at saucon valley' they have lots of stores, a red robins and some other smaller places to eat, and a movie theater. it's like an outdoor mall and is really cool. we were gonna go there and go to red robins, and catch a movie. but before eating and the movie, we were gonna go shopping for each other but together... like pick stuff out for each other, but together. for a few reasons, one cause we'll both be there so we'll be sure we like it, two cause it's alot easier, and its just more convienant. now is that weird or strange? i think it's okay but i just want some opinions =) THANKS ♥
by the way we're both 16 and he has his liscense but no car... but he can probably get one to use for the date lol (link)
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haha no. it's not weird at all. It just means more time you two get to spend together. Congrats on your one year anniversary. =]
Teacup
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ive had this crush on a guy for a while now ,and he started to flirt with me so i thought we where gonna get together until i found out he messes with alot of other girls! i tried to end our "friendship", but i loved him too much to end it so we kept flirtin. but when he put his hands up my shirt ,and down my pants, i could not just keep quiet, so i told the cops i was sexually harrassed by him, and now i might have to go to court, but i dont know if i can cuz part of me is still in love with him.....
what should i do? (link)
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You should face this problem, even if it is hard. A lot of other girl's would not have done anything, even if they felt completely uncomfortable. It's good you are standing up for yourself, because if you don't that just gives him permission to do it again and again. And if he will disrespect you like this, then he is not worth loving. You may feel you are in love with him now, but one day when you meet a decent guy who will disrespect you, you will realize what a jerk this guy is.
Good Luck.
Teacup
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are oberlin and miami good colleges? (link)
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I don't know anything about Oberlin and I am not sure what Miami you are referring to, but UM in Florida is very good.
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15/f
my boyfriend and i are celebrating our 1 year anniversary in about a week and we both are low on cash right now. he has a surprise planned for me once he gets his first pay check from his new job, and i will do the same. we plan on seeing eachother that day, but i want to do atleast something to celebrate this important day.
what can i do that is not messy or expensive and he will like? (link)
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well you can bake him cookies, cook a romantic dinner for two, or make a scrap book and put pics or like if you have the movie ticket from your first date (hehe maybe make a copy cause you may want it).
Not sure what else...but hopefully this helps a little. Good luck =]
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I have recently started giving my bf hand jobs and our only problem is that he doesn't last long. so how do i help him last longer? and i want to do a blow job but i want it to last more than a few minutes...thanks (link)
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If you want him to last longer, you should slow down. Start off slow...then go faster...and when you find that he is at the point of finishing...slow down...therefore he'll last longer. If you want some really good tips...check out cosmopolitan.com
Good luck,
Teacup
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i would like to give my boyfriend head.
i want to give it to him.
but ive always thought it was grose.
but i love him so much and i just want to.
but im also scared that im not going to do it right.
so i guess im asking everyone (boys and girls) if anyone has any tips i would love to hear them.
Thank you.
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I used to think it his whole penis in your mouth, instead use your was gross too, but it's not that bad. I also used to think that I would make a fool of myself and that he would not enjoy it, but the idea of them receiving oral sex is pretty exciting in itself for them. Don't try to take hand as well. Some good places to find tips are on the sally johanson (sp) website and of course the cosmopolitan website. The best advice I can give you is ask him what to do...he'll know what he'll like best. And remember, only do things if you are ready for them, do not let yourself be influenced. Good luck.
Teacup. =]
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I really do not understand the message behind any of these movies! There is something wrong with me.
The Royal Tenenbaums
The Life Aquatic of Steve Zissou
Garden State
The Virgin Suicides
Igby Goes Down
i heart huckabees
why do people like them so much (link)
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I've seen Garden State several times, and I think it is an awesome movie. Zach Braff's character is emotionally detached as a result of his childhood and Natalie Portman's character is the one who makes him feel again and thus brings his character alive emotionally. It's a cute story. =]
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14/f
this is kind-of long, sorry. :/
me and my boyfriend jordan have been going out since may 1, and as of now, we've only held hands and hugged, not kissed or anything. but we went to this school dance on friday, and they played our song [ bless the broken road, rascal flatts (: ], and after they played it, he looked at me and went in to kiss me, and the moment seemed perfect and such, but i turned away. he said it got him confused becaus he thought it was the right moment, but i told him i just felt like it was too soon. so just a few minutes ago he told me he wants to kiss me tomorrow after school, but i don't know what to do, because i don't think we've been going out long enough.
so basically, have we been going out long enough for us to kiss?? and please don't say it's up to me, or that it's whenever it feels right, because i honestly don't know.
so is less than three weeks long enough to kiss?
and we're going to the movies on friday, so i know he'll want to kiss me and maybe even make out.
thanks in advance.. (link)
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Honestly...it is up to you. I do not think it is too soon to kiss, however, just make sure you do not do anything you are not ready for.
Good luck.
-Teacup
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I'm in the mood to watch some really romantic movies, so if you can list any besides the Notebook or Titanic, I'll be soooo grateful! (link)
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Casablanca
Gone with the Wind
A Walk to Remember
An Affair to Remember
Sleepless in Seattle
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So, I met this amazing girl about 6 months ago and she's my very good friend now. Erm, she has a twin sister that I'm pretty good friends with but still not as good as a friend then her sister. Sooo I was wondering, at their birthday [Sweet 16], should I get only my really good friend a present or should I get her twin sister one too? I have never had twin friends so I don't know if I just get one of them one or both or if I get them totally different or similar things or a more "better" gift for my really good friends and a lesser one for her twin sister. AHHH what do I do with the presents?????? (link)
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Well, if you are going to their birthday party, you should bring them both a present. It's customary to do so. I don't think you should get them the same gift. I also think I'd get my better friend a better gift...however...don't make it like soo much better that the other feels bad. Basically, get them both a gift of pretty much the same value, but your better friend's gift will be a bit more personal.
Hope this helps.
-Teacup
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well heres the situation:
My best buddy has a girlfriend and shes sorta my friend too but I my buddy and I kinda like each other or at least it seems like it because we mad out and sex( not vaginal)
well ive been thinking about it a lot I feel like I want to have sex with him but I dont know, hes dating a girl and I know her but he ccheated on her already like with me so yea I dont know whether to do it again? what should I do??? =P (link)
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I don't think you should because he is with someone else. All you will do is cause a really sucky situation...and these kind of things have a way of always coming to light. If he wants to be with you...then he would be with you and not his girlfriend, so I suggest you don't do it. Put yourself in his girlfriend's place...how would you feel if one of your sort of friends made out with and even had sex with your boyfriend. Imagine how much you would dislike her...
Good Luck.
Teacup
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my boyfriends and their friends always ask me when im on my period and its annoying. they always ask me how it feels and if i like it. and if they can see it. i tell my boyfriend to tell them to stop and him to stop too but he just says im over exageratting and to shutup because im a slut and i like it? which isnt true. i like him alot though and he is very nice when he isnt around his perverted friends. and im not going to break up with him but idk what to do or how to get him to stop. alright thanks. (link)
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You should never let a guy call you a slut. It is also inappropriate for them to ask you things. You need to stand up for yourself and do not let him say these kind of things to you. He cannot act one way with you in private and then like an ass with his friends. If he's with you and genuinely likes you, he'll be the same despite the occasion. If you speak to him reasonably and tell him that he needs to stop, and he does not, then maybe you should not be with him. Having a boyfriend treat you like dirt is not worth it.
Good Luck.
Teacup
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