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Just recently my girlfriend has left me to go back with her old boyfriend. I know that he abuses her phsyically and emotionally,and I treated her like gold. What should I do? and will she ever come back to me? (link)
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Hi, try and tell her that she is making a big mistake and you love her. Thats the best you can do really. Daniel.
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me and my ex still have feelings for each other. i know he does because he tells me he does and we promised to date again once skool starts. but here's the problem we also said that we had summer off so we could date other people and he got a girlfriend. i didn't cuz well i don't really care for anybody but him. so anyways i think that girl and him might stay together for a long time and i'm worried cuz i love him and he's all i want. wat should i say to him. should i try to brake them up. i 'm really confused please help. (link)
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Hi, don't break them up. It could ruin your chances of becoming his girlfriend again. Your better off just remaining a friend to him for now. I know thats not what you want but you know he's found someone else for now and as much as it might hurt you need to just leave him and her. However becoming his friend is alot better than not being anything to him. The only other way to express your feelings to him is by just telling him that you still have feelings for him and that should give him a decision for who he's going to go out with. Hope things go well for you. If things don't go well then just remain a friend and wait and see. He may yet change his mind. Daniel.
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13/f my best friend's boyfriend and I are also best friends. we're the kind of best freinds that are always fighting and teasing each other. now he is completely inlove with my best friend and i dont think i like him and even if i did i wud never do anything cuz he's my best friend's boyfriend. all our friends (including his girlfriend) think we like each other. how can i convince them there rong? (link)
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Hi, you can't really convince them because it's their opinion. By spending less time with him and just not bother with him is one way I guess. But who cares what anyone else thinks anyway? Daniel.
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Okay, what are some subtle ways to flirt with guys without being overly obvious?? and guys, what makes a girl stand out or atractive? what makes you like a girl? ANYthing i should know! THANKS A LOT!! (link)
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Hi, flirting techniques can be things like:
1.Stroking your hair back
2.Smiling and eye contact
3.Slightly open your mouth and roll your tongue around
4.Play on words
5.Fondling a glass or something
6. Wink at him with your eye
Guys usually go for girls who they find sexy or attractive. This isn't everything though. They also go for girls who have friends and join lots of clubs and get noticed more. But most of all they tend to like girls who feel good and confident about themselves. Flirting can get you far sometimes, but your personality is more important. Unattractive is usually someone who isn't appealing wether it's looks, clothes or personality. Really to be unattractive is to be ugly really. Hope that helps with your questions. Daniel.
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Okay, I feel like my friend doesnt need me anymore. Because a long time ago we used to talk like 24/7! and he used to call me all the time and he used to talk to me on the computer all the time. But now it just seems like he doesnt ever have time for me. I need help to get over this! And p.s-i forgot to mention that i like this guy more than just a friend! (link)
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Hi, time goes by, and as you get older you do more things like join a group and have a part time job, lots of schooling and of course going out with girls (courting). If you feel so strongly towards him then just ask him out as a friend to dinner or movies or something you would both enjoy doing. Then at the end invite him over and just tell him that you are starting to like him more than a friend and would he like to go further. He might be busy lately because he already has a girlfriend but keep your options open. Daniel.
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sorry i don't know wat this goes under but i am wanting to be an foreign exchange student. i don't know anything about it though so i was wondering wat you could tell me about it. anything will help i want to know where good places to go to are. i am thinkin about london, scotland, or australia but i really want to go to scotland although australia looks pretty cool to.please any help would be great! (link)
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Hi, I don't quite no how the system works but one good place I reccomend you go to is New Zealand. I think the south iseland is the third most attractive place to go. New Zealand has alot of good places to go like Rotorua, Auckland and Nelson. Daniel.
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ive known robbie since the 8th grade. we used to chill alot, but we stopped for a bit. now that we are going to be juniors we have talked. in may i saw him at the carnival and we were talking. he started IMing me after that and we talked alot. since june hes been texting me alot. we`ve been talking a real lot and when he was away for a week and a half we talked every night either texting or on the phone. i know its sounds like a stupid- non serious thing but we`re older and its just idk. we hungout on the 4th and hookedup. we like eachother and he said hed want to go out with me after we chilled. but.. im scared.. i know he already likes me but we`ve only chilled like twice, and thats fine but we are going to a concert tomorrow and im scared hes going to think im like chubby or grosse. idk i have no confidnece and im just so scared about him. hes not snobby or anything but yeha im a pretty girl but i feel he can do alot better and it just scares me. what should i do when im with him at the concert tmra to make sure hes like serious and stuff? (link)
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Hi, it depends on how serious you want things to be with him. If you want to ask him out then just have a conversation with him and then ask if you want to hang out sometime. Otherwise if you just want to make a good impression then be yourself. People usually go for someone for who they are as a person. Daniel.
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hey!! im ogin to the movies with the guy this thursday!! he asked me!! ur advice worked heaps well!! thanx heaps for ur help!! one more thing, is it ok to kiss on the first date??
cheers (link)
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Hi, yes it is OK to kiss on the first date, but I reccomend you just kiss and nothing else. I also reccomend that you kiss at the end of the day. Finishing off with a kiss is quite nice. Feel free to ask me any other questions. Hope things go well. Daniel.
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hey. I'm 14/f. Me and my ex boyfriend had sex ,i thought it was a good idea at the time and i felt really comfortablewith doing it but now i don't think it was right. He dumped me the day after and i felt realy bad because i liked him alot but he obviously didn't like me. Now he is calling me horrible names and being really mean. All my friends are all acting wierd to me now and i don't know what to do.
If anyone has any advise it would be much apricated! xxx (link)
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Hi, he sounds as though he was just using you or he might have regreted doing it and decided it wouldn't be a good idea to continue with the relationship. I think your better off just leaving your ex now. You have nothing to feel ashamed of especially in front of your friends. Daniel.
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I planned on having sex for the first time a few months ago with the amazing guy i was dating. He is 16, im 15. Neither one of us have ever had sex. The time came and we messed around a little (fingering and handjob) and then we tryed to put it in and it didn't fit, like at all. Me and him both were surprised and a little embarressed. Him and i still talk about hang out alot but we only kiss now we have never tryed again. I have been masturbating with a toy alot since then to try and make me loosen up. Do you think that since i have been masturbating alot that it will help us when the time is right? (link)
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Hi, the only way for your vagina to open up is for it to get a little wet. If your turned on it should start to wet a little bit making it easy for him to slide the penis in and out. Just practise maybe getting it to open up. Also you might want to think about contraception. Daniel.
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Me and my girlfriend have just recently started having sex..and for some reason its been hard for me to come..i waited like a week without masterbating because i told her i would wait until we did it..the first night we had sex i drank a little and im pretty sure that the alcahol was the reason..well one day during the day we had sex and i came..it felt amazing and then like 2 days later i tryed to masterbate and it was difficult to come..it took forever..not like normal..what seems to be the problem?
Also the one time that i did come i went in her..shes on the pill so its fine..but that was on tuesday and we've had sex since then but i didnt come in her..she says that it still burns a little when she pees..is that normal?
thank you. (link)
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Hi, yes it is normal but if it becomes a problem then you might want to book an appointment with a Docter. Part of the reason that you didn't cum 2 days after sex I think is because your penis might have been a little sore and needed time to feel right again. It is worth asking a Docter though. Daniel.
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i am a 45 year old woman and i have been with my husband for 10 years and married 3 of the 10. i have not been in love with my husband for a long time ( almost a year) and i meat a man that i am falling for but he told me last night that we are fuck buddies but i wantto know how i can get him to fall in love with me (link)
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Hi, I wouldn't go for this guy. He sounds as though he's after sex. Im quite suprised that your asking this kind of question at your age to mainly teenagers. If you don't love your husband then why don't you? If you don't love your husband then why are you still married? You need to tell your husband how you feel and some how have a really big talk. If it comes to the stage were you would sooner be with another man than your husband then really you might as well get a divorce. There is no point being with your husband if you don't love him. The question is why don't you love him? The best thing you could get out of this is being single again and starting fresh. Talk to your husband and see how things go. I would reccomend that you go and see a relationship counsellor and he/she can discuss this with you or the pair of you together. You must have some feelings towards your husband otherwise you wouldn't have married him in the first place. This question would have been alot easier to answer if you could have told us why you don't love your husband. Would you throw away 10 years over this. Talk to a relationship counsellor or your husband or both. Try and figure out why you don't love your husband. Otherwise if you simply don't love him then get a divorce. But don't stay married to him and think about making another guy love you. You can't make a guy love you, it's up to him to feel the emotion. Daniel.
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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months now, and we've only made out. If we go any further with him..would that make me seam Easy? (link)
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Hi, no I don't think it will make you seem easy. As long as your both comfortable then thats all that matters. Daniel.
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I work with this guy. But hes on a vacation break for about a month. Its his part time job becuase he is aslo military. I started this job in OCtober. He was the one that pretty much trained me on the job MOre then any others employees. Since i started there i have Had A crush on him.
Friday i drove on base to put my check in the bank and he was one of the security Guys checking the IDs. He saw me and smiled at me. And i drove away.
Also Theres a pretty big age gap. im 17f & hes 25m. And he has a girlfriend but hes not married.
My question is. Is there anything i can really do in this situation? And any advice that you would love to give to me.
Thank you;) (link)
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Hi, the only way to find out that he feels the same way is to ask him out sometime and take it from there. Bare in mind that he just might say no simply because he's already taken or he doesn't feel the same way as you do. There is 8 years difference between you, so he might not be into the same stuff as you are if you know what I mean. But yeah go for it. At least then you will know how he feels. Daniel.
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I had been into a net relationship with a boy from Aus for the past 4 years. We never heard each others voice or ever saw each other (except thru the net pics we shared).Four years was a long time to me and I could not stand the pain of being away from my loved one for so long.I desperately loved him.There was a time when he took me for granted and stopped being in touch.But then he was sorry and came back.And he really changed. But loving a boy on the net so desperately and knowing that I would not be able to see him for the next few years was a real pain and so I backed off from the relationship. He asked for a reason and I gave it to him. His answer was something like..."Sweetheart, Thank you for replying back and wish you all the success for the future. I like to walk in the rain cuz no one can see me crying... Good Bye. Yours__Michael"
It was a pain to me too but I don't think he thinks so. Its so hurting. I've been a failure in relationships even in the past and I don't feel like going for a relationship ever again.But deep down I secretly long for a person to love me.Though I have a lot of really good friends, I long for someone who'll call me his own.I know I am loved and wanted but the feeling remains.I try to distact myself by engaging myself in activities but nothing helps.And I can just not stop crying and like to stay all alone. Please help me!! (link)
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Hi, there is a famous saying "love hurts" and I guess they do mean things like this. You see, long distance relationships usually don't last long. The best thing you can do is go places were you have a really good chance of meeting someone. These places can be places like:
Night clubs
Pub
Mall
Disco or party
Or walking through the park even
Library
The only way to get love is to go up and get it. You've got to create the opportunity e.g. ask someone out, start a conversation, to actually get anywhere. Being alone and crying isn't going to solve it, in fact it can make you even more sad and depressed. You will just have to come to terms with how you feel and turn over a brand new leaf. Just create the opportunity and Im sure eventually you will get a boyfriend and find love. Who know's you might have a bunch of guys going for you. Just do the best you can. Daniel.
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my boyfriend & i have been dating for almost 6 months. we love & respect each other very much. the furthest we've been is 1st, & we don't even do that anymore. i try my best to respect my parent's wishes which consisted of hugs, cuddling, & an occasional kiss. lately it seems like they're becoming more & more overprotective with this rule. my boyfriend came over last night & i had a stomachache & didn't feel good. so, he put a pillow on his chest/stomach area & let me lie on it. he spread his legs out so i could lie down while he sat down comfortably. our "private parts" weren't touching indirectly, because i know my dad doesn't like that. he was rubbing my tummy to try to make me feel better. no one told us to stop so i thought they didn't mind it. then i overrheard them talking about it today & how disgusting it was. how my "private parts" are above & below my tummy so he should never touch there. so then i told my parents later on i wouldn't do that but i just feel bad that they keep assigning random rules left & right & i feel like a bad person, because i do. my boyfriend is hurt everytime i tell him we can't do something because my parents don't approve of it, but they always feel uncomfortable telling us that. he feels like they don't trust us. & i feel the same way. why don't they? we don't do anything majorly wrong. i'm trying so hard to gain their trust. when we're alone, we do the same as when we're around them. i don't want to do nothing around them & then do more with him when we're alone [nothing past a peck] because i feel weird about that. like i'm sneaking or something. someone please help me fix all of this. i've talked to them about it many times but they just don't listen. they say they're too old fashioned. but they're really hurting my relationship with my boyfriend. we have a lot of love & sometimes we want to show it physically, but just with a hug & an occasional kiss. they're married & have sex, so why can't they understand that? ugh i can't take it anymore. thanks if you can help. (link)
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Hi, you should just ask your parents why they don't like you kissing and stuff like that. Tell them that you promise that you won't have sex and that but please tell them that your a teenager and you want to experience having a boyfriend and that. Really if they can't except that then it's their problem. Daniel.
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so i'm 14/m and she's 14/f...she really likes me..and i think i like her too...i wanna go out with her...but her parents are way to strict and so are her cousins...she's not allowed to go on a date until she's 18..i can't wait 4 years...wat do i do??? (link)
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Hi, if her parents won't let her out until another 4 years then there isn't much you can do. If she goes to your school then you could see her there. Otherwise if her parents won't let her out then it's up to her to talk to her parents about it. Just ring her up and stuff like that. E-mail her. Talk to her parents and maybe you guys can have an arrangement. I think her parents are being a little to strict. Make an arrangement like what time you would be coming home and you won't go far. Let her parents know that you can both be trusted. Otherwise there isn't alot you can do. Daniel.
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Is it weird to have a 3 year age difference between me and my boyfriend? Like 15 and 18? (link)
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Hi there, no it's not weird because your both teenagers and still young. Daniel.
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Theres this guy that I work with (I work at Worlds of fun, an amusment park were both 14) well anyways i really like him. hes one of the people that dress up as the snoopy characters (lol i know its funny) and i work in the gift shops so sometimes ill see him. that last time we talked we talked and kinda flirted a little bit. and the other day we walked passed eachother we just stared at eachother it was like neither of us could take our eyes off of eachother lol i know it sounds retarded but i really do like him but i dont know what to say so him when we talk please give me advice about how i can show this guy that i like him and hoe can i terll if he likes me? (link)
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Hi, flirt back then. Do things like:
1.Brush your hair back
2.Use eye contact
3.Smile and give him a wink with your eye
4.Touch his arm a wee bit
5.Start playing on your words
If you were flirting and you really were flirting then something like "your looking nice today, nice enough to eat". Do you see what I mean? Daniel.
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To graduate high school I had to take a theater class but I wasn't really into that stuff so instead of doing my assignments, my teacher let me do other things for grades (stay after and clean the stage, stuff like that). Whenever I'd do that, we would be together. We talked all the time and started to get really close. We ended up making out once but we didn't let it get in farther. We got together a few times outside of school for coffee and such but nothing more because we knew we couldn't
Well, now that I've graduated, he not my teacher, and I don't even go to that school anymore. So do you think it'd be okay to try to pursue a relationship with him? I'm 18 and he's 24 by the way.
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Hi, your both young and like each other so go ahead. Just make sure that it's both the right thing for each other. Daniel.
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