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i'm kathleen.i'm thirteen years old.
i've been through alot.
i'm absolutely nothing special, and you'll find i'm nothing that will amaze you.
i have trust issues.
i hate many things, such as animal abuse, and labels.
i'm a vegitarian, and i don't drink milk.
i sometimes talk alot, sometimes i'm really quiet.
get to know me: kathleenxsaidd- AIM.
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My best friend hasn't been herself lately. She has recently been keeping a bit more to herself and has an angry tone towards her friends. She still flirts with guys a little bit which in my opinion is great.
About a month and a half ago she broke up with her boyfriend. They had been going out for about a year and a half. She says she has somewhat moved on but I honestly don't believe her---some days she will tell me she still likes him or will get jealous of other girls. I understand that she is hurt. She is a strong, confident person so seeing her this way really hurts. She tells me almost everything, at least that's what I thought.
A couple days ago I accidently caught her crying in the bathroom. Noone else was there. When I asked her what was wrong she gave me widespread answers such as "everything" or "alot". I tried to ask her more but she said she didn't want to talk about it and I respected that. The one thing she told me that got me really worried was that she admitted she has been crying almost every night.
I want to give her space but I am really worried for her. It is eating me up inside. I honestly can't think of anything else. We are really close and I care about her sooo much. What should I do?
Hey. Well, i'll tell you from experience. I'm a girl, and we cry, alot. You don't want to ask her directly what's wrong, it makes her[us] feel worse. I agree, it makes us feel really good when you just simply say "im here for you" and you let her cry on your shoulder. Hold her really close if she does decide to cry on you.
Well, there's more but this is kinda long, so if you want more advice, let me know. ♥ Kathleen.
Ok..so this guy im talking to is too romantic for me. Like..hes just feminine i could say..he says overly nice things to me..and he just doesnt seem very down to earth and just fun. Everyone thinks im weird because truth is..i dont like the romantic type..i like the fun..outgoing..dont give a crap type. I guess its a bad thing. Am i weird?
Hey, nooo you're not wierd at all. I'm the same way. I like it when guys are nice and rarely give some compliments and stuff, but mainly want to have fun. Don't feel wierd or abnormal at all ♥.
i cut often and im not really afraid as to what people think of me but i wouldnt choose to hear it...i just transferred schools and i know that they feed on drama.....i dont want to be any part of that but the summer is coming and its getting really hot.i want to be able to show my arms without hearing whispers but i dont know what to do......i know they will talk......i just want to do my work.....what should i do?
Hey. I do it too. But, if you plan on exposing your arms this summer, stop, like now. You can wait until they scab over and then start to put lotion on them. After a while, they should get better. If they don't go away completely, use cover up.
Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
okey.. im 16 and my bf is 17. we've been going out for like 7 months now and my parents dont know. his parents do and theyre cool about it. the major problem is that my parents dont like him or his parents. im getting sick of them bad mouthing him all the time, callin him a dickhead and that. im afraid that if i tell them then i'll probably get hit and stuff. i dont want to keep it a secret anymore but im too afraid. my sisters and all my friends know it.. just not my parents
Hey. Well, you should tell them. And as for your parents hitting you, it's not acceptable at all. Especially at your age, you do NOT get hit. It just doesn't happen. If by some chance it does, I honestly and truely have to tell you, TELL SOMEONE. It shouldn't happen at your age. Are you taller or stronger than one of your parents? Tower over them and act like you aren't scared. Intimidate them and tell them you aren't scared and if they hit you, you WILL hit them back, and you don't have a problem moving out [if you have a place to go]. I'm thirteen and it worked for me. My dad used to hit me, and one day I flipped out and hit him back as hard as I possibly could. He doesn't hit me anymore, but that depends on if your parents will go on like a rampage if you threaten them. However, your parents hitting you at any age is NOT right and isn't going to continue, I won't let you allow it, hahah.
Well, hope I helped.
i need soemone to answer this asap! Me and my boyfriend just broke up and he tried to piss me of today and be all on other girls i want to wear something sexy as hell to school tommorow and talk to other boys i know its not right. But what should i wear? im going shopping in like an hour?
Hey. Try wearing like a tight jean mini skirt and a tight low-cut shirt. Hahah, I hope your school doesn't have a dress code. Well, wear your hair down and kinda messy and smell good, like the person below me said. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
so, i want to lose 10 pounds so im trying to eat healthier. i normally eat cheezits and fruit snacks but today i got those uncrustables (pb n j thing) and a bag of chips only because i was really hungry. but would the pb n j be healthy for me to eat everyday at lunch?
Hey. No, not for every day, becuase peanut butter has a lot of fat and sodium in it, but it also has a lot of protien, becuase peanuts have a lot of protien. I don't reccomend eating them every day, but do eat them sometimes.
Okay, I am not sure if this is an the right category to put this in. But I have a problem.
My boyfriend, of almost 7 months, dips. (Like copenhagen, tobacco, etc.) I have told him I don't like him doing it but he likes doing it and says it tastes good. He never does it when he knows I am coming over or he is going to be with me. And he always brushes his teeth and uses mouthwash all the time.
Should I still be mad about this?
Hey. I agree, more dissapointed than mad. But, almost everyone I know and love 'dips', including my own brother and two of my past boyfriends. You can try to tell him that he needs to stop... But, don't bother him too much about it, it gets annoying.
I've always had bad luck with guys, but somehow I have a "guy friend" that I've known for almost 5 years now. We used to have a thing but he's made it clear that he's not interested in me. I've always had feeling for him and that's never going to change. Lately we've been flirting and bordering on friends with benefits. Part of me thinks it's a good idea and another thinks I might get hurt. I'm realistic with myself and our lack of a future, but should I even risk getting hurt? Any opinions from someone that has been in this situation would help.
Hey, well if there's anything I can tell you about this, DON'T CONTINUE BEING FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS, YOU WILL GET HURT and it won't be pretty, you'll be upset for a loong time... just, no. Lol. Well, if you have feelings for him, and he made it clear he does not feel the same way, you want to stop, like now, before you get more attached. The absolute best thing you can do is not be close with him until you're over him, but I know that's really really hard. Try to get over him and get less... flirty with him. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
My boyfriend and my one month is tommorrow but i have no freaking clue what to get him. I mean i really dont know where he shops and stuff because we have been only going out for a month now and i hardly to get too see him because we go to different schools. Soooo i need your help. Tell me what some of you girls got your bf's for your one month or something. Ang guys tell me what you guys wanted for your one month or just a present. Thanks :]
xoxo
~katelyn~
Hey, well I'm not an expert on gifts at all, but if I were you I would say "seriously, I don't have any idead what to get you, and don't say 'don't get me anything' I'm really completely clueless and I need your help". That should work. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
well ok i have had a zit above my lip for at least a month and it wont go away !! i have tried to cover it up and that doesnt really work
:( please please please help
Hey. Well, you could pop it and that MIGHT make it get a little smaller, but I don't think that will work very well. I reccomend this stuff, called Witch Hazel. Just wahs your face in warm water, put the Witch Hazel on, and pat your face with cool water. Within a few days, it will work, it always does for me, anyways.
Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
Im 13/f depressed gothic girl. One of my bffs is having her 13 bday soon. Shes always been the sporty girl that has all (guy) friends and 4 (girl) friends. Shes as gross as all the guys and acts like one as in acting out sex and porn and everything like that. and tries to get people who like eachother to makeout and ya. And her guy friends spend the night a lot as friends. Her bday is paintball then a sleepover guys and girls. My mom wont let me spend the night but I can go shoot people and they shoot me? Whats so bad about spending the night with a lot of guys and girls as friends? Ive never had a bf and me and my bff (a guy) like eachother and she started it! So what do you think all will happen if I could get my mom to let me? My bff is going to. we love eachother. What would happen between us and at the party? I really wana go. never know what shed do ~Please help soon~
Ohh, Okay. Well, anyways, even if he isn't your boyfriend, he likes you and you like him. So, it's possible for something to, you know, happen. Well, you should still follow the same advice. Tell your mom that it is in fact a boy/girl party, but it is supervised, and that you're smarter than that and you wouldn't do anything stupid, especially becuase you have no one to do it with (!). With that, I think you shold have your mom call the parent or parents that are supervising, and have them talk to her a little bit, maybe that will ease her up. If she still says no, you can try showing her responsibility by taking on some extra chores and such around the house, maybe babysit a couple times. If she still says no after that, I think her answer is unfortunatly final, but you dont HAVE to sleep over, you can still at least GO to the party... Have fun!! ♥ Kathleen.
i am starting to chew gum more to keep me from eating and snacking on stuff i dont need to. is this good? all the gum i chew is like orbit or something like it, but its all suger free. is there anything bad about this new habit?
Hey. Well, no, I don't think it's too bad. As long as you don't start starving yourself or malnutitionizing (if that's a word haha) I think it's probably good but you NEED to have 3 MEALS, that means FULL meals a day and like one to two snacks. Actually, that's a pretty good idea, I'm gunna try it (:
Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
P.S. thanks for the idea (:
i like two boys. and so, i was wondering, is it okay to say the same things to both of them? they dont hang out together, they go to different schools. so is it a bad idea to say "i miss you" to both of them, and blah blah? or should i say different things to both?!
xo
Hey. Well, no, it isn't bad to say you miss both of them, so long as you don't start telling both of them things like "I like you" and such. That causes problems. So, as long as you don't get into trouble, you can say the same thing to both of them.
Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
I feel like I am loosing one of my best friends. We only see eachother in school... we are in two classes together and we hardly talk cause she is talking to her other friends. I feel like I don't know all of these things about her. Like i found out through a friend that she hooked up with someone last night for the first time. She didn't even tell me. I am really upset about this. What should I do?
Hey. You could try to hangout with her, like outside of school. You could also start trying to be more friendly towards her other friends, maybe that way you could hang out with her while she's with them without being a "third wheel."
Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
Ok.. I have this REALLY REALLY BIG crush .. (this is kind of embarrasing) on this guy on youtube. Like I wish I could meet him cause he seems like the perfect guy! He's sooooo funny and when I look at him it's like "this is the perfect example of what my perfect guy would be like". I even get jelous when other girls on youtube post comments with like "your so hot and cute omg". I know he's my age and everything. I even start to cry sometimes cause i'll never ever get to meet him. Also I cry because he has such a good personality and i'm so shy and even if I did meet him I would seem like a loser. What should I do about this? Should I try and forget about it?
Hey. Well, at this point, you like him a lot, maybe evn love. Who knows. So, you need to tell him you feel that way and see if maybe he has the same feeling. Tell him you understand there's little to no chance you'll ever meet him in person, but you still have these feelings.. Well, I hope it works out! ♥ Kathleen.
okayy well this is all over internet
like these people i don't know in real life but anyway
i made this best friend over internet named sally,
we have been besties for EVER. well ever since august of last year. anyway
she has made an enemy her name is adriana
welll
adriana is my friend and one day sally told me not to talk to her
i said okay
well i've been secretly talking to adriana
and sally figures out
now she is all like i hate you
we are not friends and blah blah blah.
i was very sad yesterday but today i realized
its over internet
why am i taking this so seriously.
but i am still sad because i dont have sally
she told me to wait till thursday and she will know by then if she wants to be my friend or not.
pretty stupid i know.
i told her that i should be able to choose my own friends.
she totally ignored my message.
and on AIM she ignored me to but only made stupid smiley faces ever now and then while i just spilled all my feeling to her.
i really don't know what i'd do if sally tells me on thursday she doesnt want to be my friend
and i know you guys are gonna say
she isnt your friend if she treats you like that
but i can't just stop liking someone i've liked and known for a while now.
Hey. I agree. You should trust friends you have in person first. The people on the internet can't always be trusted. Someone could say they're a fifteen year old girl and they could turn out to be alot older than that and someone dangerous to be talking to. So, anyways, as with any friend, you should never side with someone on a fight that you were not involved in. You don't need that kind of drama. If Sally decides that she doesn't want to be friends with you, you don't need her. Well, Hope I helped. Let me know if you need more advice! ♥ Kathleen.
how can i be hyper,outgoing,and funny? like this WHOLE summer,i want to make myself something in THIS town. i dont know how to though. like,no one wants to hang out.i have "SCHOOL" friends. i don't know why. i know i can change,im determined. is it a good way to get to know a lot of people by joining a activity? like,i was thinking, Drama,Volleyball,Photography and stuff like that for extras NEXT year. I'll be in 9th grade.Also,how do i learn how to play a sport,like soccer or cheerleading? i really follow my own path,but lately,no one seems to like me. im just a "quiet" person on the outside.i REALLY want to change that. I've picked one group over the other,i know its low,but if they knew me,we would connet really well. i know it. im just so quiet and i dont know why,what do i do? Help!
Hey. Well, you could try asking your "school friends" if they want to hang out somewhere besides your house. Like, a friendly's or a skatepark or something [depending on where you live]. The key to being outgoing is having confidence. You need to know what situations make you feel uncomfortable, and avoid them. Well, that'a pretty much all the advice I know how to put into words. Hope it helped! ♥ Kathleen.
i kno this is long but please take the time to read it and help me. my best friend in the entire world has completely changed. i spent the whole summer with her and we were inseperable. but when i went back home, because she lives in another state, i met some new people. i met this girl and guy and the three of us became really good friends. she started talking to them and me and her talked less. we started getting in huge fights and now we are in the biggest fight ever because shes changed a lot. it used to be that no matter what we could call each other and cheer each other up. but i called her to cheer me up and she ignored me and then lied to me about calling the person i was upset about. now we are in a huge fight. what should i do?
Hey. Well, there's really not much you can do about who she has become. You could try to tell her that who she has turned into is someone you really don't like and you have no desire to be friends with the "new her." If she's any kind of a friend, she'll atleast pay attention to what you're trying to say. Make sure you ask her if she thinks that you're the one that has changed, or if you're doing something she doesn't approve of. If you want to keep a friendship, you need to say what you feel, whether it's the nicest think someone could say to you, or not. Hope I helped and good luck! ♥ Kathleen.
look i'm really scare of showing my inner self because i am kind fat and you will see me wearing balck shirts and if not a will were black sweaters. my mom tells me that i am very pretty
and that i have beautiful green eyes and that i have some big stuff that i have to let it show but i'm scare people will call me names like fat stuff and fat *ss. And also i like this guy but like i told you .please help me? i want him to like me but i'm scare too. heeeeeelllllppppp. please.
Hey. Well, if he's going to like you, he won't like you becuase you reveal yourself or you're "skinny" or "hot". He'll like you because he...just...likes you. However if you really feel like you need to get his attention, do what you need to do. Who cares what other people think or call you?! It's not up to them to judge you. People that make fun of other people do it becuase they have no confidence in themselves, and making fun of other people makes them feel important or "cool". Well, Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
on my myspace you to request to be my friend you have to put in my last name .. i didnt know this at the time so i just put random letters as my last name so now no one can add me.. i still want my myspace to be privite but how do i make it so they can request to add me without having to know my last name ?
thankssssss =)
Hey. Well, you have to put in your last name OR your e-mail. So, you can make your headline " e-mail to add me = ***@***.com/org/net or whatever. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.