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I love to give advice and help people. I never think any question is too stupid or small, even if it's been asked a million times. Honestly, it's better to ask than remain in the dark. Some of my favorite quotes:
"People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us to see our own way more clearly."
-Brendan Francis
"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't."
-Erica Jong
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So I'm kind of .. "in love," i guess, with this boy, but he's ALOT older than I am.. well, not alot, but he's in his 20's and i'm in my middle teens, so. yea. But he seems so perfect, he's so sweet, we both love eachothers company & i am fully comfortable with him. We've gone all the way & he still wants me around as much as possible. But I don't know if his motives are what I've come to believe seeing as he's older. my parents don't want me seeing him, because of the age difference, but I always want to be with him & he seems to love my company even when we're just lying next to one another. Is this right, or is he bad news?
From my experience when an older guy is dating a teenager, his motives are usually not good. Think about it, why wouldn't he want to date someone his own age who's going through the same things as he is? You are probably more mature for your age, and it's great that you feel comfortable with him, but I think it's not good to be dating someone that much older when you are a teenager. Maybe you could remain friends, since you love eachother's company. But I do think he is probably bad news, and you should find someone who is closer to your age.
I'm a 15 year old guy. I am starting to grow some hair on my stomach and chest, not thick and disgusting. But the hair on my head is black, and so my chest hair is dark as well. I'm pretty sure that girls don't find that attractive. I was wondering if there is any way to remove it besides shaving and laser hair removal. Thanks!
Waxing is an option, but it can be painful. You could also use a depilating cream. As to girls not finding it attractive, I know plenty of my girl friends who love chest hair on guys.
this summer i went to choir camp w/ some of my friends, and when we were hanging out one night i recognized one of the guys there, (he went to middle school w/ me) and hes going to my highschool next year, im gonna be a sophmore and hes gonna bea freshman so hes younger than me. at camp for like the first day and a half he like flirted w/ my friend from a different school and kinda gave it up once he realized he wouldnt see her again. so we were flirting and like hes really sweet and hes a very touchy feely person (not in a creepy way) so i got the feeling he liked me. but im not sure if he was just being friendly or if he was flirting. hes soo funny and soooo sweet i know were gonna be friends this year but i sorta like him. he turns 15 next month and im like 7 months older than him. is that weird? hes taller than me and im like really tall. ill see him b/c of choir and im one of the trainers for football(watergirl, yes i kno its lame but i get a pe credit for it) and he plays football so i know i will see him and we will hang out. do you think i should just drop it? i mean i havent seen him in like 3 weeks, but i miss him like crazy! and the last thing i want is to date a freshman and all these fish girls to think im desperate or something b/c im dating him, cuz thats just anoying. i dunno anymore im sooooo confused! someone PLEASE help!!
You're not that much older than he is, and I think it would be fine. First become friends and see how it goes from there. Honestly, even if people make fun of you for it, the teasing will only last for a little way, but the relationship could possibly last more. There is nothing wrong with dating a younger guy, guys date younger girls all the time and it's not considered them being desperate.
I say first be friends and see where it comes from there. And plus, he's gonna be a sophmore next year and you'll be a junior and then it wont even be a big deal anymore.
My boyfriend left my friend a picture comment on myspace that said "your so sexy shortii." I'm really jealous. Should I be jealous? I don't want to seem so clingy but I'm kinda jealous.
Yeah, it makes sense you're jealous. but maybe it could be some inside joke? You never know. Talk to your freind about it, or bring it up causually with your boyfriend. Don't get too upset over it, the internet can be misleading.
I really need help. Ok there's this guy I like and i'm not sure if he likes me. Well, I think he likes me because his friend told my brother that he likes me. And all the signs are there too. But there's something telling me I shouldn't like him. I don't know why though. I mean we're friends, his brother is friends with my brother, he's really nice, cute, funny, and a great athelete. But I have a feeling that something bad will happen if he finds out that I like him and we start going out. What should I do?
P.S. I'm 13
I suggest following your instincts, if you're not sure you should go out with him, you probably shouldn't. Just keep being friends with him, and maybe that feeling will go away, but even if it doesn't- it's fine, you're only thirteen, you've got time to find a guy you really like and are sure you want to be with.
Ohhkay. To make a long story short..I am realy nice to about anyone.. exept if i hear you talk about me.. then i realy just talk to you about it. Anyways.. Well almost a year ago a girl started talking about to me so i asked her to stop/ asked what was up .. and i thuoght that was the end of it.. then she started saying nasty rummers. and one of them was that i had a hairy back.. of that of that the nickname "silverback" started.. now EVREY POPULAR kid and some non-popular ones call me it. .. well anyways. lately ive been told i was fat. and i dont want to eat now.. like ever again. and yea i can probaly stand to lose 20..30 pounds as you can tell from this - ( www.myspace.com/meg_92 ) but anyways.. i am about to go anteresic and idk wat to do .. like i REALY want to loose A LOT of weight and FAST and idk any othe way how.. dont tell me its not healthy to loose a lot of weight fast. i just want to do it.. no its not healthy but i NEED/WANT to! Please give me tips/ideas!
14/f
Yes it's not healthy, and I'm glad you realize that. Honestly, based on the pic (altho I couldn't see the rest since it's private), you don't look fat at all. There is no way you can lose that much weight in a short amount of time, and starving yourself should not be an option.
Honestly, it sounds more like these people are jealous of you, and I don't think you should try to change yourself in an unhealthy way so they'll stop the rumors, cause the fact is they WONT stop spreading things about you. They'll just find something else, trust me I've been in the same situation.
If you want to lose weight, eat healthy and good portions and excercise. It is the ONLY way, trust me I've tried everything else. Go bike riding, dance around in your room, do yoga. You'll see results.
Honestly, at your age I felt the same way, but just have confidence and try to ignore the rumors. When they see you're not bothered by it and are comfortable with yourself, they will stop!
hi, i weigh 101 and i'm 5'4 and im a 16 yr old girl. im a ice skater and my coaches think im fat. i am very insecure with my weight and afraid to gain. i have decided that i am going to hardxcore diet but not become anorexic, what would be too skinny for someone my height and age.
You're already very skinny, and considering your BMI (http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/), you might be underweight. I think your coaches are very wrong on this, and I wouldn't listen to their advice. I think you're at the perfect weight, and it wouldn't hurt if you gained a bit of weight anyway.
13/f
Me and a friend, lets call her Ann, have been friends since kindergarden. But now we never see eachother, hardly talk, and really have nothing in common. Then a week ago we had an agrument, I don't remember how it started, but I said she changed and started caring what the popular people thought and really wanted to be popular. When people started wearing their jackets backwards, she followed. When people started wearing converse, she did. When I told her I was getting an Ipod, she went out and got an mp3 player. She even said she was going to throw a party and make sure she invited some 'popular' people!! Then I asked why she wanted to be popular, they were just rude. She said she had some popular friends and they were nice. But they're not, hello I know them! Now we are not talking and she says I am wrong. So answer this: How can I be wrong if everything I said was true?
At your age, she is probably trying to find her identity and where she belongs. Almost the exact same thing happened to me and my friends. Don't try to convince her that these people are not her friends, she needs to find that out for herself. Just let her be, and if you two really don't have much in common anymore, maybe it's time for you to give eachother some space and find people you have more in common with.
i need to know if it is ok for an 17 year old and an 23 year old to date my cusion is seeing this guy and no body wants to get in troublb so will somebody tell me something please!!!
Well legally, it depends on where you live. If they are having sex, it could be considered statutory rape in some states.
http://www.lewin.com/NR/rdonlyres/ee6c4ee7ynpckrtikzxdngpdfb2gwmiw6twdlzfdy2blv7eqnt2an4yuzgiv5evzclbaiq3lobnr6e/3068overview.pdf
http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/rpt/2003-R-0376.htm
those are some good sites to check out what your state laws are.
i need some new music, i like rock, alternative, indie, the stuff like that. Please give me new bands or non common ones. Becuase i already know of a lot of bands so i need new ones.
Jess
I like many of those same genres. A few suggestions are: Wilco, Talking Heads, Tegan and Sara, Stars, Eisley, Imogen Heap, The Legion of Doom (They do mixes of songs, and can be found on myspace or purevolume), Punchline, and Amy Millan. IF you search on myspace, you usually can find a lot of good indie bands.
Don't know if you already know some of those, but if you need more, feel free to ask.
well this summer i did some theater thing and i ended up liking this boy who is a light designer. he liked my best friend and they almost went out but it didnt happen. then i found out that he was going out with my best friends brother so i thought he was gay.. but now were talking and he says he likes me and we kissed and that kinda stuff.. he says that hes bi but is it weird for me to think that hes lying? i really like him but im not sure if i should be thinking that hes going to end up not liking girls at all.
also.. i dont know how i can tell my best friends about him cause i know they would go insane on me.
Well if he says he likes you, he probably does. And usually you can feel if he's interested in you by the way he kisses you. Do you feel a connection with him? There is a good chance he is actually bisexual, or was just curious with your best friends brother. I would say give him a chance, and see if you guys have a connection, I think over time you will be able to tell if he's into you.
sorry if this is long..
to start things off im 15/F..
my best friend and i have been friends since the 5th grade.(and by best friends, i mean you COULD NOT seperate us!) then towards the end of my 8th grade year i moved about 45 minutes away. we still kept in touch by phone calls and we always hung out. but this past summer was hard for me to get out places. i always had things to do, or i already made previous plans with people. and now i think that shes uber mad at me because i cant do anything. she says: "you said we would hang out over the summer.. and you go and make other plans" the thing is, ive had these plans since the end of the school year, its not like i can ignore them. and i really dont want to lose her as a friend, but now im not even in her profile, and its because i couldnt hang out.. when one of us can drive.. things will be different, because then we dont have to worry about getting rides places, but im wondering(AND HOPING!) that our friendship will last that long.. what can i do to explain to her that im not ignoring her or anything? and ive already tried to just tell her straight out. it doesnt work! any advice will be appreciated!
It's hard to maintain a friendship, especially when it's hard to hang out. I would suggest you taking time and writing her a letter that tells her how much she means to you and how you really want to hang out and still be freinds. I know it may seem like a corny thing to do, but it will show that you really care and want to make this friendship work.
Also, try to plan a special day, and if you can more than just one, where you guys can hang out for a long time. This will show that you are actually trying to hang out with her. Plan it out in advance so you guys can get rides and everything worked out.
Hope everything works out.
hi i'm a 16 years old girl and have never had sex, a boyfriend, or kissed a guy. people tell me all the time that i am pretty and must have a ton of guy friends. i get ridiculously nervous around guys i really like and act like a total dork. what can i do to get guys to like me or to handle my nerves?
here's pics of me lol
http://i8.tinypic.com/24fa8o1.jpg
http://i7.tinypic.com/24fadcy.jpg
I went through the same thing at one point, I would only have guy friends and never could go any farther with any of them. One important thing I realized is I had to gain confidence. You are a very pretty girl, so when you're around guys try to feel confident and let that shine through. Also, try flirting with any guy friends that you like. If you don't flirt, then most guys will think you only want to be friends. The "just friends" zone is a very annoying one, but you can break through that. When you're around guys you like, even if you are nervous, try to act like it's not a big deal. Have fun with the flirting.
Hope that helps, and good luck!
i'm a 16 year old girl who has never done it or had even had a REAL boyfriend.
is this abnormal?
cause my friends are all off doing it and they think im such a nerd.
That is not abnormal at all. Most of my friends that age haven't had much experience either. Everyone develops at different times, and you probably just aren't ready to have sex yet. Don't rush into these things, just take it slow. Real friends will understand, and maybe you should find some people who are also not as experienced that you can relate to.
There is no good age to lose it at, the only good time is when you find someone special that you can trust and truly want to give it up to.
okay so i have a friend over and were dying from boredom.. we ned things to do.. i live on a lake i have a big front yard a tv a computer and a room with a sterio so those are some things of mine tell me things i can do and then if you have ideas besides that TELL!!!! we have all day together!!!!! thanks
You can rent movies and watch them, or watch funny shows on TV. You can play sports in your front yard, go to the park, dance around to music. And if you have a lake, you can go skip rocks and talk. Or, if you're on the computer you can look up music vidoes or funny columns to read together. I'm sure you'll find plenty to do, have fun!
Whenever I shave my legs I always get cuts. So I tried using shaving cream but that only irritated them, and now I have little red dots everywhere! So what are some good razors that I can use, that aren't exspensive, to have smooth legs? And nair is out of the question. Thanks in advance.
I use the intuition razors, and I hardly ever get cuts or razor burn. Although, you do have to buy cartridges for it occasionally. Also, try getting a mosturizing lotion to put on after you shave your legs, I believe that are some aftershave for women's legs, that usually helps.
i have trouble sleeping at night.. what can i do besides sleeping pills?
I had the same problem for a while. 1) about an hour before you want to sleep, do not go on the computer, because the screen light actually signals your brain to stay awake. 2) Try reading to make yourself sleepy. 3)Try drinking milk before you go to bed, that usually helps me fall asleep.
hope that helps.
okay . well my best friend is going out with this kid that i really like and i am going out with his friend & i dont really like his friend at all . and i just started going out with him yesterday , i like him like as a little brother not a boyfriend but idk. i dont want anyone mad at me if i break up with him . what should i do
You shouldn't stay with anyone that you don't have feelings for, that's something that might make people mad in the future. Breaking up with him shouldn't make anyone mad at you as long as you talk to him about it and explain it to him.