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when things change for the worst..
sorry if this is long..
to start things off im 15/F..
my best friend and i have been friends since the 5th grade.(and by best friends, i mean you COULD NOT seperate us!) then towards the end of my 8th grade year i moved about 45 minutes away. we still kept in touch by phone calls and we always hung out. but this past summer was hard for me to get out places. i always had things to do, or i already made previous plans with people. and now i think that shes uber mad at me because i cant do anything. she says: "you said we would hang out over the summer.. and you go and make other plans" the thing is, ive had these plans since the end of the school year, its not like i can ignore them. and i really dont want to lose her as a friend, but now im not even in her profile, and its because i couldnt hang out.. when one of us can drive.. things will be different, because then we dont have to worry about getting rides places, but im wondering(AND HOPING!) that our friendship will last that long.. what can i do to explain to her that im not ignoring her or anything? and ive already tried to just tell her straight out. it doesnt work! any advice will be appreciated!
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i had a friend like that..look you moved away and had previous plans. she shouldnt get mad at your for keeping your word.what i did was email her and tell her everything i felt. i think you should do the same. speak to her calmly ang tell her that you had previous plans with those people. then you could put down a few times that you are free and have her call you if she is available at any of those times and you can hang out.
i hope that i helped you out =D
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Well first of all,
she cant be angry at you for having a life.
You need to as calmly as you can,
or write her an email, explaining that you have had these plans for some time now, and that you shouldnt be angry at her for living your life.
People change, and relationships drift apart, its sad, but sometimes it happens.
Dont worry about being in her profile, on myspace? It doesnt matter at all, if she is really your friend she wouldnt do stuff like that.
Just finally for the last time be like "I'm sorry you feel if I'm ignoring you, because I'm not. I've just been busy, and I'm not making plans and trying to exclude you but I've had these plans since the end of the school year and I need to follow through with them. You can be mad at me if you want, but really theres nothign ot be mad about."
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hey! you two are so close i thought that your friend would have understood that you have other plans possible with other people as you obviously will have more then just her as a friend you need to let her know how much you dont want to lose her friendship tho and that you are closest to her and you could possibly try and include her in some of your plans if they are just with other friends as the more the merryer!!! but if not you need to tell her that you cant just bail out on other things just to hang out with her she should understantd if you two are as close as it sounds if you dont know how to put it into words invite her round to your hose nad show her this!!! meaning you question and repplies you get then she will understand how much your friendship means to you adn that you dont mean to hurt her feelings!! if you did show her this it sort of explains it self!! then you can work round you plans to fit time in for you tow to hang out
hope i helped!!!
good luck sorry its so long xx
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It's hard to maintain a friendship, especially when it's hard to hang out. I would suggest you taking time and writing her a letter that tells her how much she means to you and how you really want to hang out and still be freinds. I know it may seem like a corny thing to do, but it will show that you really care and want to make this friendship work.
Also, try to plan a special day, and if you can more than just one, where you guys can hang out for a long time. This will show that you are actually trying to hang out with her. Plan it out in advance so you guys can get rides and everything worked out.
Hope everything works out.
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