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A lot of people think I'm different, because I'm Jewish. Well, I consider it! And everyone else says, "Are you a catholic or christian?" ANd I say, "No. I'm way more on the jewish side." And they say, "Ooh, that's too bad." WHY CANT THEY MIND MY RELIGION? WHY DO THEY DO THIS? HOW CAN I MAKE THEM STOP? WHAT CAN I SAY BACK TO THEM?
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Those people are ignorant that is why they do it. They don't understand that it's ok to be different from then and that is ok. All you can do is try and educate them by telling them that it really isn't a bad thing and you like being jewish. There's always going to be ignorant people in the world, and the only thing you can do about it is to understand that they don't know anything outside of their own little world. You can't really do or say to much, but just let them know that you are offended by their comments and that you are not ashamed of your religion.
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my boyfriend asked me to makeout with him and i dont want to but i dont know the right way to tell him and he keeps asking me what should i say that woudlnt hurt him??? (link)
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Just tell him that you aren't ready. If he doesn't respect that, then he doesn't deserve you. You shouldn't feel pushed in to anything.
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The guy I'm dating is sooo much better than me in so many ways. He's in all the really smart classes at school, he's so sweet to his mom, he's really responsible... I feel like such a ditz around him, and I don't know if this bothers him or not. I mean, I guess it's like the whole Nick Lachey/Jessica Simpson thing, but I don't know if my guy will be able to tolerate it as well as Nick. I like this guy more than I can explain, and I REALLY want it to last and be a long-term kind of thing. So, I guess my question is: How can I find out if it bothers him or not? How can I stop being such a DITZ??? (link)
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Well, you're probably just worrying about nothing. If you've been a ditz from the beginning and he still went out with you, then it probably never bothered him in the first place. The only way you can stop being a ditz is to conciously make a change. There's not always something wrong with being a ditz either. I think you are just being insecure, but if it really bothers you then just ask him if he thinks you are a ditz and if it bothers him. I don't see why there'd be a problem in being straight forward about it.
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Okay here goes... I have a great boyfriend... But he is really shy... He is younger then me. But the thing is, he is really really shy. We hardly talk. I mean i really like him. But there is times when doesn't seem interested. But i really like him like i said.. I jus don't know how to react. cause i went from a boyfriend, that was majorly clingy, to one that hardly talks.Please help (link)
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You just have to find a way to make him more comfortable. Talk to him about it and see what he thinks about the situation. Also, try talking about stuff both of you are interested in. He probably just needs a little time to open up.
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this girl is having her sweet 16...and im not invited but the rest of my friends who dont even talk to her are. I was just asking...do you think when i have mine i should invite her? or should i not invite her. (link)
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Well, if you are friends with her and like her then go ahead and invite her. If you want to get catty, then don't invite her just because she didn't invite you. I guess it depends on how good of friends you two are.
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There is this guy that i went out with and we broke up because we really didnt know eachother that well. We talked after we broke up and we got to know each other better, and weve become pretty close. Now i like him again and my friends says he likes me too because of the way he acts towards me....and he told me the other day that he wants to have sex with me and all, and that it was something hes wanted to do for a while. I told him i wanted to too....because i do. but he also says he likes this chick at work.....so now i dont know if he truely likes me that way, or if he just wants some.....so, does he like me, and should i have sex with him?
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No offense, but this a guy we are talking about so he probably just wants some. If he mentions liking another girl, then he isn't committed to you and you shouldn't have sex with him.
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ok well i have this serious problem there's this girl named "sally"* and she has both lunches with me at carroll high school. i have known her since 4h=th grade and we have always been amazing friends but i think that since we have been at the high school she has made more frinds being freshman homecoming queen and everything. so im not really one of her favorite friends anymore....well i realized what she was doing in about the begining of the school year around homecoming time so i asked my mom to start making her cookies to see if she would be my friend again and she has but there are 2 problems i think she is just being my friend because of my mom's cookies(they are pretty good i will say so myself) and 2nd problem we have spent so much money on cookie dough that my family is going in to debt and all because my friend was ignoring me what on earth should i do?
*privacy reasons
lol kiah jk i love you!!! (link)
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You're right, she is just using you for your cookies, but atleast you know that she'll keep being your friend, right? You're family going into debt thing.... well who's more important, your friend or your family? Your friend of course. Just kidding miss Erin. lol I love you 2 and I would never use you for your mom's cookies (although I do love them). You are one of my favorite friends so no need to worry haha :)
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I'll just get to the point...I told my friend today that I liked him and he said he likes me too. Well, we were talking a lot the rest of the day but he never asked me out. Yet he told my friends AND his friends that he was going to. So why do you think he never did it? I would call him, but if I did I wouldn't know what to say and what if he like thought I was obsessed or something because I never really called him much before. So if you have any idea of what I'm asking then..well..help? (link)
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He's probably nervous and chickened out. Let him ask you out on his own terms, just wait a little while. When you go back to school, he'll probably ask you out or he might call you and ask you out. Don't worry about it yet, you still have time.
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hey, i think i like this guy alot and we used to be really close and everything. I really want to talk to him more but he doesnt go to my school and i used to talk to him online but hes never online any more and i never see him. And, i think i really like him and want to get close again. HELP! (link)
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You need to find his phone number or a way to talk to him through a mutual friend if you have one. That way you can call him instead of waiting on him to get online. If you two have mutual friends, then have them invite you both to a movie or party and you guys can hook up again there. It's really hard to find a way to get back in contact when you don't stay in contact much, but whenever you do just kind of be casual about it and say hey we haven't talked in awhile or we should hang out sometime. I'm really sorry if I didn't help.
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I've noticed my mom acting very quiet and different today. I think that shes feeling depressed. This isnt accually a thought, its obvious. I saw that she got books from the library about depression.
Anyways, Im feeling quilty myself because I feel that being the 'teenager' I havent put enough effort towards the house. I dont think thats its menopause because she's only 40. but I dontknow. Also my brother is having a baby, its not that hes too young. But maybe that its scaring her that shes going to become a grandma?
Should I be feeling Guilty? It just scares me because I dont want my mom to be depressed.. (link)
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It's normal to feel guilty. I don't know if you should be, but it's ok that you are. Just try and help out more around the house and make more of a conscious effort to be helpful. Hopefully, it'll get better. If not, maybe you should ask her about it and see what she needs you to do to help.
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I'm 13 and I need some help with my friend "Kelly"* I've been best friends with her since 5th grade and now we're in middle school. She has always been a very competitive person but lately she has been plain nasty. She insults us and makes comments that really hurt. She has even said something insulting about my mother. She always likes to win and makes sure she is right in everything. She is pretty self-centered and thinks highly of herself. I've been her friend too long to totally drop her but both of my other best friends agree she has been acting really horribly lately. What should I do?
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You need to be upfront with her and tell her what's up. One of my friends was hurting my feelings and I told her and she stopped. If she doesn't stop, thne you need to drop her no matter how long you two have been best friends. There is no point in having a friendship when the person is being mean to you. I can only say tell her what is going on.
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Ok i'm 15/f in 9th grade.
I'm in both of the advanced levels of classes here at my school and when it comes to friends vs. homework, i chose friends...
How can i stop myself from doing this? b/c my parents say i can go, so what do i do? i go
I need help b/c idont want to fail! (link)
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Manage your work. Decide what you have to do that day and what you can do the next day. Do all of your homework right when you get home before you get distracted, and then you can have as much time as you want with your friends or if you go with your friends first, kind of give yourself a curfew that gives you enough time to do your work. Don't procrastinate too much because it all piles up in the end. You are the only one who can make yourself improve, so it depends on how much you really want it.
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Since September, I have been friends with a girl, we are both 13. I really like her but I am very worried about her. Before she came to our school, her Step-Father, she hasn't seen her biological father in 10 years, threw her, her Mother and her sister out of their house and they had to move back here.
Since then, she has been cutting her wrists and talking about how she wants to kill herself. Recently, she has started taking paracetemol everyday because she says that she gets headaches and feels ill if she doesn't have any. She used to smoke and I know she still has cigarettes at her home in case she needs them, I'm worried she might start again.
She hates her Mother and yesterday she told me that her Mother is moving to another city and leaving her and her sister, who is 14, behind. I can't tell anyone because if I do, my friend will be put in care and she will never forgive me. No one else knows about all this except me and I am so worried about her.
I don't know what I can do to help her, I am going through a difficult situation myself and I'm so wrapped with it that I don't know how to cope with my friend as well. I have tried talking to her and telling her to get help but she wont and there is no way I can make her. I don't know what to do, I can't tell anyone and she wont get help. I'm so scared that one day she really will kill herself, she's threatened to so many times. What should I do? (link)
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Are you willing to save her life? Sure, she'll be mad that you told at first, but in the long run wouldn't it help her. If you truly care about her, you will tell an adult. This is too big of a problem to take on yourself, especially if you are having issues too. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but it's the truth. The girl needs help and you can't give it to her, so get someone who can.
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I have a boyfriend, and we kiss and make out, but he never says he loves me and he never really payz attention to me when we are wit his friends. On weekends he sayz we can hang out, but then sometimes he ditchez me. Does he really love me or is he using me?
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Well, since he's never said he loves you then he probably doesn't, but that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. I wouldn't really say he's using him, but ask him why he ditches you and why he doesn't pay attention to you when he's with his friends. I don't think it's too big of a deal, so don't make it into a lot of drama. If it's really bothering you though, might as well see what he has to say.
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my friend is well a "slut" because she goes from boy to boy and the only reason why she does is because she thinks they are cute but recently my other friend broke up with her bf and now my "slut" friend wants to go out with him what should i do because they are both my friends but i dont want any of them to get mad at me...what should i do? (link)
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Warn your friend about the consequences of going out with this boy and ask her is it worth it to go out with him when you know it isn't going to last that long? In the end, neither of your friends should get mad at you. Your "slut" friend ,as you called her (which she really isn't a slut since she hasn't done anything with all of these guys, but whatever you think), has no reason yo be mad at you. You aren't exactly supporting your "slut" friend ,so your other friend shouldn't get mad at you either. It's not like you're going out with her ex.
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okay this is really weird.. im 13/f and i juss found out one of my best guy friends is gay! he doesnt know me and my friend know.. but now me and my friend cant look at him the same.. were not aggaint gay people but i mean when we see him talking to another guy its kinda freaky cuz what if he is flirting with him.. i dont know he has had a girl friend and me and my friend thought he was gay because he hung out with all girls but we didnt want to believe it.. and we want to be friends with him still but this is all happening so fast and we dont know what to do!! can you please help us and help us find a way to not think of him as gay and think of his as we used to.. we will rate 5's
sincerley
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One, how do you know he is gay if he hasn't told you? Don't believe everything that you here. Two, gay people aren't a totally different species and they are not attracted to every guy they see just like you are not attracted to every guy you see. If you are really his friend, the whole gay thing wouldn't bother you. I guess just talk to him about it and either you'll become more relaxed or you will no longer be his friend. He's still the same person as he used to be just a different sexual preference, and his sexual preference probably won't even make a difference until high school.
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is being a vegetarian a bad thing?? my friends think it`s like being anorexic or somthing! (link)
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No, being a vegetarian most of the time doesn't have anything to do with wanting to become ridiculously skinny. It's either the belief that you shouldn't eat anything thats lived (meat) or you want to live a healthier life. As long as you take vitamins for all of the things you are missing from meat, I don't see the problem with being a vegetarian.
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Make it short and sweet. Met the girl at the gym,talked for awhile. Gave me her number,then when I call it she tells me she's got a bf. I think it's a lie and she would really want me to rot in hell. What does anybody else think in here? Was she lying, or if she wasn't, why'd she waste my time in the first place? I'm an 18 year old guy. I want RussianMailman to answer my question,too. I need a good laugh. (link)
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She probably didn't want to hurt your feelings. Yeah, it'd be better and easier if we just told you straight up what was going on, but we don't like to hurt people's feelings and turn them down (well, half of us don't). She could or could not be lying, but I guess it doesn't matter now.
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Hi, i really like this guy but he doesnt like me. he doesnt go to my school but im really attracted to him and flirtatios wen i see him. I dont want him to think im a ditz or a slut(which his freinds do) and ive been trying to get him to call me. but he nvr does. any advice on how to get this guy? (link)
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Well, first you don't want to seem to desperate. Just act like it's not big deal if he calls or not. Try to be his friend before you try to get him to like you. Once he sees your real personality, then he'll probably end up liking you. There is a possiblity that he just doesn't like you like that. It's nothing personal, but you might just not be his type. If in a month or so he still doesn't seem interested, then move on to someone more worthy of your time. There's no point in wasting your time on one guy when there are so many more out there. Sorry if I wasn't any help.
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in my class ther's this guy who sits behind me who's really hot and he blows on my neck and flirts with me but im not sure what to do. i mean he has this huge reputation for like having sex and i want to keep my virginity at least for freshman year! he's a year older and im pretty sure sex is all he's interested in but i really like him and he's really cute! i don't know how to handle this... (link)
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You might as well take a chance with him, but if it turns out all he wants is sex (which is probably true since it's a teenage guy), then don't even bother with him. If you're not ready for sex, then don't put yourself in a situation where you'd be pressured into it. You can still have your little crush and everything, but don't get involved with him. Try and find someone who is cute and isn't just in it for the sex.
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