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Ok here's the basics. I help people it's my thing. I'll answer all questions. Even simple ones. I give my opinion sometimes but you can ignore it.=) Im pretty nice ask me something and I'll tell you straight up!
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i am writing a song, about a girl i am going out with, what are some good ways to write a song accompanied by a guitar? what are som chords that would sound good with that mood of song?
I suggest you got ot jack johnson the genius of pretty sweet love song or cute songs at least.
What muscle groups can I work out to make my obliques less protruding? They're by no meens fat, just a little too muscular.
Um if there too muscular than stop excercising! Then you will lose that muscle and it will not protude to much. I hope I helped =)
I'm 19/f, if it matters.
Okay, so I used to have this...well, I dunno what else to call it aside from a "huge" personality. Like, my aura was so big that when I walked into a room EVERYONE knew I was there. I had so much energy in my personality, and I was so present...
But now I find myself more "there," and I feel like, drained half the time. Not like I'm tired, just like, too quiet.
I'm really not a quiet person so I don't know why this is the case. I'm very confident (I've even been called cocky on occasion), and I usually have something witty to say, but I feel like the wit has diminished lately, and I feel like I'm draining the people around me.
It's odd, because nothing has changed, except for the fact that I have LESS stressful drama in my life than I normally do at the moment.
What happened, and how can I remedy this? Any ideas? I want to be the high energy person like I used to be.
How long do you sleep a night. If nothing's changed at all then maybe it's just because now your bored. I become a couch potato during the summer. I don't know what to do with my energy so usually I stuff up on the food and go into my lazy mode. Try drinking fruit juices ro just eating fruit before 12. Brushing up on your skills or going to get a manicure can sometimes be a rememdy. Pep yourself up! If your body is lazy get it active. Join a club. Make yourself useful. Go out to the beach. Don't stay at home and be bored. You have not lost your aura! You just can't be bothered to let it shine through! My motto is when life sucks get happy because it will be better soon! Btw practice makes perfect find a joke or something on the internet and try to laugh a little more. Feeling happy is what gives you your natural bubbly spirit. Being bored doesn't make anyone very lively does it ^^ Hope I helped!
How can you give a guy you've never done anything sexually with the best possible handjob you can, and make it seem as if you've done it before even if you haven't?
Ok it's not that hard dear but I don't suggest you do because your going to feel pretty shitty after you do it. Usually you just move your hand up and down and that does it. Look confident. I've personally never done it but all my friends have and they have usually felt degraded after that but Im not your conscience lol you have your reasons! =) Hope I helped.
My boyfriend and i are spending the night together, but we can't think of where to sleep. My house is out and so is his. Any suggestions?
Ask a friend? I can't think of anyother safe place or person to ask.Sorry! I think you have to be 18 to get a motel! Hope I helped! =)
19/F
I work at a resort, as a housekeeper and dishwasher. I do dishwashing two days a week.
For some reason, I get severe back pain whenever I'm doing dishwashing. I've done some research, but a lot of the ideas they give don't really help me; I can't change my work surroundings, and I don't have the option of standing with one foot on a step stool, because I have to walk a lot.
Any ideas as to why my back is hurting so badly? And any tips (from someone with similar experience, preferably. I don't need research, since I already did that!) as to what to do to fix this? I'm in so much pain by the end of my 8 hour shift that I have trouble breathing!
Got some icy-hot and rub it on your back. Not the pill the cream before you got o work. Try to stand as straight as possible when your washing dishes or as bended over as you can. At night lay flat on your stomach or on your back. Do not sleep curled up! I know it's so comfortable but the straighter your back is the better. Maybe you should try somewarm showers in the morning and sit with your back straight too. It hurts but it's molding the back back into the correct comfortable shape it should be. =) Hope I helped!
one of my best friends lives about 5 hours away from me. one time when her best guy friend was over he saw my myspace on her top friends and said that i was pretty. so she told me and i added him to my myspace. we started talking, but just small talk stuff. when i went to visit her i saw him twice, but didn't get to hang out with him or really talk to him. ever since i came back we've been talking more and more (i visited her at the beginning of april)
i think i really like him, and i think he likes me but i don't know what to do. he lives 5 hours away and i would normally just be friends with him but i'm VERY picky with guys and have turned down at least 6 in the last year. I actually like this guy but i don't know what to do. i would only be able to see him maybe once a year...
If you think it would work out seeing him only once a year than go for it. Just remember long distance relationships are hard and you should have a talk with him before you go ahead all eager and end up getting your heart cracked in half. No one's perfect so don't be tooo picky but I know what you mean. There is NO prefect guy just one that fits you so if he fits you go for it but think about what your doing! I hope I helped it's kind of a emotional question and those are always hard to answer =)
14/F
My dad met his best friend in the army, his best friend got married and a couple years later so did my dad. They had me and my dads best friend and his wife became my god parents. I was very close to my god father. He was more like my second dad.
When my god father and god mother got divirced, he just left. My dad tried contacting him so many times, but he made it clear that he didn't want anything to do with us anymore. And my father finally let him be.
It's been 6 years since. I miss him so much, and I thought about contacting him or writing to him. My father said I would just mess up what he had with his new family, and remind him of something he would rather forget. Re-open old wounds. I don't want to hurt him, but I want closure.
I want to know if he ever thinks of me or if he still loves me. How could he just leave me like that. Am I being selfish in wanting that? Should I just leave him be and accept that he's gone. Or should I risk hurting him or making problems for his family by writing to him?
This one is a decision I can only GUIDE you in. If you two were so close then why did he leave. Maybe he just didn't want to think about all those happy times he can't have anymore. I SUGGEST you write a short anonymous letter giving him a pretty good clue as to who you are. Asking him why he left and explaining that it hurt. Don't push him and fill him up with guilt because most likely he won't write back. Tell him how you feel and how you miss him. Ask him those long awaited questions. Keep the letter as short as possible and then if he doesn't write back let him be. Let go of those memories and conjure up some new ones.=( It's always hard when someone just sort of vanishes. Im just suggesting you send this letter because if you don't you might grow up with wounds too that were never sealed up properly. BUT again I can't make the decision for you. Hope I helped.^^
My girlfriend how I am hopelessly in love with is going to a party tonight and I can't go; and there will be alcohol there and she loves to get drunk...I trust her with my whole heart but when shes drunk she loses control of what she does and she has told me stories of how she got drunk and she made out with guys...she promised me that nothing would happen and we tell each other EVERYTHING!! I just want to know what you guys think will happen if she gets drunk and how can I find out if anything DID happen?
thanks guys
Tyler
Alright Tyler. She said nothing would happen so nothing should happen but she is drunk and when your drunk the part of your brain that tells you if your doing something right or wrong switches off. I watch discovery channel =P. Anyways if she has been drunk before than she knows this when she goes to the party. If she cheats on you you definetaly have a right to get angry with her but forgiving her is what could make her a little more responsible next time she decides to go out. Now you have to trust her! She's your girlfriend. To found out if she did anything ask people who went to the party. Information is going to pop out accidently or on purpose. No one keeps there mouth shut these days but the first person you should ask is her and don't interogate her! Tell her you trust her but just want to know from her if anything happened. =) Hope all goes well for you. Any other problems ask!
Is it possible to download movies or clips from youtube? And how do you do it. Please tell me it is... I'm desparate.
Thanks
You can't exactly download them I think but you can get the embed cod and paste it into your myspace =). Then you can watch it everytime you go onto your page.
I love my girlfriend very much..... I need to know how wrong i was here
There was this other girl that i was very good friends with that recently lost her boyfriend i left a comment on her myspace saying "hey dont worry ur hot u'll find another boyfriend in no time"
My girlfriend saw this and got very mad at me...I told her that it was nothing and i was just being a friend and trying to make her feel better. my girlfriend didnt believe me and said "u need to comment her physically to make her happy??"
Next I posted some bulletin on myspace it was some application thing for girls to be my girlfriend. I was trying to be cute with my girlfriend i wanted her and only her to answer it...but this girl who i commented also answered it...saying that she wants to do stuff with me...I ignored it and my girlfriend asked if this girl replied I lied and sed no...I didnt want my girlfriend to get upset I didnt want to hurt her...my girlfriend found out and almost broke up with me because I lied and she thought something might be going on btwn me and this girl....I DONT WANT THAT!!!! How wrong was I? Did my gf overreact?
Alright don't panic. This is commom a series of things has been making you look like the not so great boyfriend. Buy her some flowers and tell her your really sorry. Then explain to her keeping your voice very sincere and calm don't raise it as if your desperately trying to tell her something. This makes some girls nervous like your trying to cover up something. Tell her calmly and surely that you do not not not want anyone else but her and that you did it so that she would feel better about herself. Tell her you care about her a lot and you really are not thinking about cheating on her and next time you post a bulletin only for her then put on the top (her name)answer! alritey. If it doesn't work tell me. Btw the flowers can be substituted for something else she likes. For example a pair of warm socks her favorite color!lol I don't know. Girls find it sweet when guys put thought into there gifts! Hope I helped!
my friends grandfather died this morning. hes really hurt. but i dont know what to say to him. im scared ill say something wrong. what should i tell him?
My bestfriend's dad died so I know how you feel. You can just ask him how he/she is holding up. Don't add on the Im sooo sorry too much because this usually makes them feel even worse. Letting them know that your there for them is usually all someone needs. You can ask when the funeral is and then say sorry. Don't linger on the subject too much. Be the friend that is willing to talk about something else and DO NOT ask them how.
okay i used to like breakdance a lot and i tried to learn it and i even went to the club to learn it because it was fun but i stopped because i i couldnt learn it since im a beginner so i stopped and then my friens told me to try skating so i did and it was fun and now im gonna buy the skateboard and trying to learn how to do the tricks but the question is am i being a poser?
OMG nooo. If you really enjoy skating skate! Your only a poser if your doing this because you want to fit in. You could do diving tommorow just to try out new experiences. Your NOT a poser you just like trying out new things and living life to the fullest so don't worry about it and learn those tricks! Hope I helped =)
heyy im nikki and im 13
well i have a really cute and hot boyfriend and he tells me to come meet him which fine ... but i get very bord like all my boyfriends i have put there arms around me and kiss my neck and all that and hook up with me and stuff but this one hugs and kisses me but how do i tell him to put his hands arnd me ?? is he fridget to hook up with me coz hez like to me "don't be fridget, lol" and im not ..should i be making the first move or should he ??
Look if you don't want to just tell him to put his arms round you then you can sort of be flirty. Throw his arms round you and kiss him. This usually heats things up a little and is a little less your doing something wrong if you know what I mean. It's always fine for girls to make the first move. If he's not getting it than you go for it. I've never met a guy who said oh no too much body contact lol. Just be sure that you don't come off like a tiger ready to pounce! Hope I helped =)
idk if this is in the right catergory but oh well
alright well im thirteen: in the beginning of the school year i was outgoing fun perky and always happy and now im always just blahh &the exact opposite:
did i just change? am im going to be like this forever? whatsss happeninggg :(
i need tips getting through this too: pleasee
thank you in advance!
Dear it's called school! lol. It gets to even the best of us. Is there a guy involved in this one? Look summer is a great way to get happy again ^^. Ignore all your troubles or put them past you and have fun. Next year try to balance things out. Be outgoing and fun and perky and when your feeling down surround yourself with these great things called friends. When your alone in your bedroom at night thinking how much the world sucks. Well I just think about how great it is. I change my view on things. For the next week I want you to try to go for the glass is half full NOT half empty. You won't be like this forever trust me. Sometimes when life is just giving you a really bad couple of months you have to suck it up and work in what I call doubletime. Fill yourself with fun activies but don't forget to do your h.w. etc. I suggest that now you know how tiring everything in life can get PLAN STUFF.I found this a hugeeee time saver. I took an hour out of my entire summer to make a week plan for school. Calculating h.w. time and showering eating I found an entire 4 and a half hours that I could spend going or just relaxing. You'll be your bubbly self in no time and if your not suggest a physcologist or therapist. Your not crazy your just feeling the monday blues over and over again. Start yoga or kick boxing stress reliefs! Ask me for more advice if you need it!=) and smileee
Okay so I always seem to be the ONLY person making plans out of all of my friends. But the thing is, everytime I make a plan, no one even bothers to remember it or are ALWAYS too busy to hang out with me or sometimes don't even bother to show up. EVeryone just acts so flaky all the time. Idk what I'm doing wrong; when I do get a chance to hang out with these people, we have a great time. So why should I be the only one ever taking action and making plans, and being disappointed when they all can't time out of their "busy" lives to just hang out for one day during the summer?
Im sorry hun but Im going to have to say this quite harshly so that you won't forget it and be back in that vicious circle again. THEY DON'T LIKE YOU. =( Think about it always busy or leading you on that they are going to come through then not. I went through the same thing. You can't really call those people ''friends.'' Anyways Im really sorry next time notice the signs first before you get too caught up with them. For example not picking up your phone calls or if they do it's always only five minutes long. Seeing them all out together when they said they were ''busy.'' Them all laughing together and ''joking'' about you all the time. Girl read the signs they are so low they have to pretend they are better than you to make themselves feel good. Who needs friends like that. Im sure they all talk about eachother behind there backs. It's one thing about girls I can't stand. I hope I helped without getting too harsh.=( Ask me for more advice I have a column. Let me know how it's going. It's scary making new friends but your better off being alone then being degraded like that. =)
it all started yesterday. yesterday was a really bad day for me.. i mean we had to clean our entire house, and i couldnt even go out with my friend to see fireworks at some place, since we're not going anywhere for 4th of july, cause my mom has work, and my dad's busy as always. and i recently made a myspace, and i asked my friend (not her friend anymore i guess) if i could be on her top, and she said no, and then i asked what i should reply to her after she said that, and you guys at advicenators gave me advice and i took it and well.. this is what happened.
(by the way, i have been friends with this girl since like 4th grade, and she was more my friend during 5th and 6th grade but it changed during 7th. it was like she wasnt even interested in me sometimes... it got annoying but i didnt think that she didnt like me till she didnt invite me to her end of the year sleepover. i asked her if i was going and shes like "sorry its for close friends only" when some people she invited she didnt even know as long as i've known her! so it hurt.. and im real confused.)
me: hey (her name)! hows your summer? add me to your top? =]
her: umm...no your not going in my top
me: whatever, thats cool. by the way, why have you been acting kinda weird around me?
her: because, your rude. you piss me off alot and, you act as if the world loves you sometimes!!
now i dunno what to reply! cause what she said stuck in my head for the whole day. am i really rude? im usually nice to everyone, i dont even think i've ever been mean to her.. well i was mean to some girl because after a long time she just kept pissing me off, and i scribbled on her face in my yearbook. i didnt think people would find out but some of my friends saw it who didnt care, and this girl im talking about saw it and she didnt like it.. but it wasnt even about her and besides she doesnt know how that girl had been acting so i'd scribble on her face. i dont regret doing that, and it wasnt like i was gonna show them that i drew it, though they found out anyways... their problem.
and i dunno how i piss her off, and if i act like the world loves me.. doesnt that mean confidence? i dunno but maybe its cause im optimistic and stuff, but i really dont know cause nobody's ever said that to me before. :( what should i do? if im really rude or anything how can i fix it? and is this a friend i should really keep and how should i reply to that message without being "rude" or should i be rude?
Hey,I had the same problem so don't worry about it. So you want to keep this friend obviously and she means a lot to you. Get her by herself somewhere. Talking is the key to sucess.^^ Just ask her why she thinks your rude. Explain your actions to her. If she's friends with that girl you scribbled over then if you really want to keep the relationship apoligize to that girl. No matter how much she annoys you suck it up and say sorry. Tell your 6th grade friend that she should talk to you next time she gets annoye at you instead of buliding it up. If you guys are really friends then you should be able to get through anything. Just remember that not all people think things through before they react so she might even be feeling kind of harsh. Confront her and then swoop in and look like the person who took the highroad. No matter how badly you screw up she'll remember that day forever trust me. Hope all goes well. Ask me for more advice =). P.s. You might want to wait till school's over to scribble all over someone's face XD.