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I miss him.
14/F
My dad met his best friend in the army, his best friend got married and a couple years later so did my dad. They had me and my dads best friend and his wife became my god parents. I was very close to my god father. He was more like my second dad.
When my god father and god mother got divirced, he just left. My dad tried contacting him so many times, but he made it clear that he didn't want anything to do with us anymore. And my father finally let him be.
It's been 6 years since. I miss him so much, and I thought about contacting him or writing to him. My father said I would just mess up what he had with his new family, and remind him of something he would rather forget. Re-open old wounds. I don't want to hurt him, but I want closure.
I want to know if he ever thinks of me or if he still loves me. How could he just leave me like that. Am I being selfish in wanting that? Should I just leave him be and accept that he's gone. Or should I risk hurting him or making problems for his family by writing to him?
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ok, well first off i am very sorry for what youre going through.
secound, if this was me i would soooo write to him and tell him to please not tell your dad anything. if you guys were close he would do you that favor. if he did love you before then he should still love you because it wasnt your fault that everything happened. you just got stuck in the middle, which really sucks!
tell him that your really sorry that you miss him so much and that you wish everything could be the same. i dont think you will be hurting his family becuase your a youg girl who just misses her godfather. just write down all that you feel.
hope evrything works out.
xoxo,
blackluna7111
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This one is a decision I can only GUIDE you in. If you two were so close then why did he leave. Maybe he just didn't want to think about all those happy times he can't have anymore. I SUGGEST you write a short anonymous letter giving him a pretty good clue as to who you are. Asking him why he left and explaining that it hurt. Don't push him and fill him up with guilt because most likely he won't write back. Tell him how you feel and how you miss him. Ask him those long awaited questions. Keep the letter as short as possible and then if he doesn't write back let him be. Let go of those memories and conjure up some new ones.=( It's always hard when someone just sort of vanishes. Im just suggesting you send this letter because if you don't you might grow up with wounds too that were never sealed up properly. BUT again I can't make the decision for you. Hope I helped.^^
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there's really no right answer. you just have to ask yourself what is more important to you: trying to get closure &risking hurting him, or leaving him alone, letting him be, and letting him be happy. then again, you don't know if he's happy or not. it's really up to YOU to decide whether or not you think the risk is worth taking. if you two were really that close, i'm sure he couldn't have just totally stopped thinking about you guys. if he was that important to you, you must be important to him too. seeing as how he ignored your dad, he might really just want to have nothing to do with you. then again, if you try hard enough, he might even come back into your life. decide how much this means to you, and what he's worth to you; if you'd rather not even try, or if you'd rather hurt him at the risk to making everything better. if i were you, i would make an attempt, but not more than one. i would try, but not too hard¬ too much. keep in mind what HE wants. if he wants nothing to do with you, there's really nothing you can do about it.
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