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Girlfriend and I
I love my girlfriend very much..... I need to know how wrong i was here
There was this other girl that i was very good friends with that recently lost her boyfriend i left a comment on her myspace saying "hey dont worry ur hot u'll find another boyfriend in no time"
My girlfriend saw this and got very mad at me...I told her that it was nothing and i was just being a friend and trying to make her feel better. my girlfriend didnt believe me and said "u need to comment her physically to make her happy??"
Next I posted some bulletin on myspace it was some application thing for girls to be my girlfriend. I was trying to be cute with my girlfriend i wanted her and only her to answer it...but this girl who i commented also answered it...saying that she wants to do stuff with me...I ignored it and my girlfriend asked if this girl replied I lied and sed no...I didnt want my girlfriend to get upset I didnt want to hurt her...my girlfriend found out and almost broke up with me because I lied and she thought something might be going on btwn me and this girl....I DONT WANT THAT!!!! How wrong was I? Did my gf overreact?
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I think she did. alot. I think that she needs to have more faith in you! I do think she over reacted, its no big deal, shes just a bit jelous, just tell her that, and tell her why you didn't tell her. explain yourself she should understand :) good luck
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Alright don't panic. This is commom a series of things has been making you look like the not so great boyfriend. Buy her some flowers and tell her your really sorry. Then explain to her keeping your voice very sincere and calm don't raise it as if your desperately trying to tell her something. This makes some girls nervous like your trying to cover up something. Tell her calmly and surely that you do not not not want anyone else but her and that you did it so that she would feel better about herself. Tell her you care about her a lot and you really are not thinking about cheating on her and next time you post a bulletin only for her then put on the top (her name)answer! alritey. If it doesn't work tell me. Btw the flowers can be substituted for something else she likes. For example a pair of warm socks her favorite color!lol I don't know. Girls find it sweet when guys put thought into there gifts! Hope I helped!
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Firstly, I think what you said to your friend was perfectly acceptable, I don't see why any gf would get annoyed about something like that when it was obviously there to make her feel better. I think on that part your gf did over react quite a bit and was pretty much just unjustified (maybe a hint of jealousy?).
As for the bulletin part, I answer those all the time and say a lot of funny stuff on there and none of my friends (or my gf at the time) would take it seriously. However, I never lied about it which was the main part of it. You were wrong to lie to her which was a very big mistake. You have to see this from her point of view to understand. She thought you were flirting with this other girl (from the comment you left for her saying she's hot and will find another guy) and then on top of that you lied about her replying to your bulletin message (as well as her saying she wants to do stuff with you and such). When you lied about it all it did is make her wonder what else you might have lied about and if there's now something going on between you and her or if you like her more than just friends and so forth. You put this little doubt in her mind by lying about something that was very pointless to lie about. I think you were right to do what you did (regarding the message you sent to your friend and posting that bulletin) but the only wrong thing you did was to lie. Never lie, not only will you always get caught out but it will put doubt into your partners mind which can be very difficult to remove and can cause major trust issues. The best you can do is make sure she knows she's the only one you love no matter what anyone else will say on myspace. Myspace really shouldn't be taken so seriously, she did over-react regarding you posting that bulletin and the message you had sent to your friend.
Good luck. :]
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well if you actually were trying to make this other girl feel better by saying this, then your girlfriend should of understood and about this girl who did the application for girls to do is totally fine because it's not like your going to go out with them or anything they are sharing there opinions. Your girlfriend has over-reacted. You can decide if shes over-reacted or not by pretending your her and reading all these messages and things and think what shes thinking try and she it from her side but she shouldn't have got soo angry.
but you also shouldn't lie..it just ends in tears!
hopefully i have helped you
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