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Name: Kelley ♥ I'm a jv cheerleader for my school, Keystone Oaks. it's pretty insane there. i have great friends and a very conplicated family. being loud and obnxious pretty much describes me and my friends. i text all the time. i get annoyed very easly though and random mood swings. trying new things is very exciting and i'm usually up for anything. i love piercings and bright jewlery. i don't go anywhere without my bracelets. i made this not only to give advice but to get it too. nobody perfect. i struggle with tough issues all the time. people need guidance and i'm here to give it and receive it :] IM me sometime uhohxomfg!

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is it true that guys are only your friends if they are some what attracted to you .. like theyd only be your friend if they like your of if they think your hot is that true? - 15/f

I dont think so. some guys can be like that but not all. i have tons of guy friends and some of them like other girls or have girlfriends. usually one or the other end up liking the other if its a boy girl friendship but nope i dont believe that one bit. hope i helped

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im 13/f and i am confused. every guy likes me n i like them... * i mean the ones below not every one*

*not rl names*

colten- nice skater a couple inches shorter then me kinda bossy gets into fighs easily goes to a school nearby cute
ashton- lives states away from me, best friend nice sweet romaantic cute kind of into himself prep & model
connor- best friends with colten, a foot taller then me skater goes to nearby school.. not cute in looks but in personality
rylan- has a gf for the past 1 1/2 yrs nice cute my height & school preppy
kevin- my grade my school nice athletic preppy sometimes weird


i just dont know which one to focus on... i know.. wow a lot of guys.. but they all mean a lot to me in different ways.. no i m not a whore.. i promise.. .well i know you girls can all relate to me sometimes..


thanks in advance

I would say Kevin. he seems like best fit for a boyfriend. i mean weird is fun sometimes. but maybe instead of making a pick you just see which one can treat you the best :]

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My niece is a High School graduate who dropped out of college in her freshman year. Although, she is not a "genius" she is probably an average student. She says she quit school since she was "bored". Since then, she has gotten 3 different jobs (sales clerk or receptionist) and has been fired from all 3. She keeps blaming the company. But, I think it is her attitude or something she is doing. Should I tell my sister that her daughter needs to go back to college? Should I tell her that instead of blaming the company, that perhaps it is something that my niece is doing (or not doing) that is causing her to be fired? I think my sister is in denial over her daughter.
For example here is an edited version of an email I got about my niece's latest firing (names have been changed):
Susan called me to tell me that the boss of her new job- fired her. It doesn't make much sense what he told her- he said that she doesn't meet their exception for growth in their firm. That they are expanding and she doesn't fit with that plan. Didn't they know they were expanding before they hired her? Why waste their time and
hers?

Susan said she didn't have much to do- the
phones weren't busy and they told her that they would give her other stuff to do. So- I don't know what went on. Its nuts.

Oh well, I think she was bored anyway since there wasn't much to do. Everything happens for a reason and there is something better for her
elsewhere.

Thanks,
DB

I think you should tell her but definitly not straight on because that will cause more of a problem. just hint on like whenever they talk about the situation like ask her if she was doing all her work and crap and that maybe she would have an easier time getting a good job if she went back to college. hope i helped some

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okay. well i just moved to this new school about 3 months ago & i absolutely HATE it, but i know i will love it next year.. buttt i have a choice of going to my old school which i love! and plus my boyfriend lives there .. , buttt my mom really wants me to stay where i am now. :(

I think that you just need to sit down and think about where you would be more happy at. i mean if you hate it this year it might be the same next year even though you think you might like it. just sit down and think of the good things & bad ones of each school and then that should help you make your decision. also think about where you have more friends at. and whats going to be a better place for social & education life. haha hope i helped alittle bitt

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I would really like a boyfriend,
just to love and be loved in return.
I'm just lonely, and everyone says,
you'll fall in love eventually.

Eventually .. huh? aghh, I'm just sick of being alone.

I mean does anyone actually get my point.. of how i wanta boyfriend, i want to be in love?
ahghh what can i do? is patience the best answer?

dont give me some mean/smartass answer please.

thanks.

I'm sure your sick of this answer but you just have to wait for the right person.. you could also experiment with boys that you think are cute that you might have had a crush on. like go out with them for awhile and see how everything is going and just have someone there for you like you want. if that dont work then just be patient. remember, you always have your friends. they are 100x better then any guy in this world! haha good luck dear

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does anyone know what age it is legal to get a belly button ring in new york?
gracias!

I'm pretty sure that if your under 18 you need a parent to sign for it but i think above 18 you can get it done alone. hope i helped if im right haha but im almost positive.. by the way it doesnt hurt that bad once its done. just take good care of it cause mine got infected and i had to take it out and now theres a scar. gross haha good luck :]

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well, the girlfriend and i were havin sex last night...i came in the condom i was wearing, then pulled out....but she kept things goin till i got erect again about 15 minutes later...still wearing that same condom with the cum in it, we started having sex again...the condom then broke a few minutes later...i pulled out as soon as i noticed...but im worried that the cum already in the condom could still possibly get her pregnant??...id really appreciate an answer. Thanks ppl.

if you were still in her whenever it broke then yeah she could be pregnant. i would definitly have her get a test. there could be a chance that shes not with a great possibly but to be sure i would still test and make sure that everything is okay. if she isnt then next time be more careful. never use the same condom twice. thats how accidents happen.

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my Granny told me that my mom dosn't care about me what should I do?

ask her why she would say that. then talk it over with her mom. im sure she cares tons about you, but dont assume anything before you know the facts

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im having a bit of make up trouble. some people wear tons of makeup, and look really good, and some people just plain over do it. I know i dont over do it. sisnce i only put on:

lip gloss
foundation
concealer

& thats all. but i want to look pretty. without looking like some circus clown. and ideas on what to put on and how to do it? no web sites please :)

i ususal put on eye liner and eye shadow. but i use a lot of eye liner and idk if thats your thing or not but it really brings out your eyes. so you could try that and also a light eye shadow helps a lot :] hope you look stunning

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hey. this seems like a sort of stupid question, but please, i need a opinion on an outfit for tommorow. 13.f

here's the plan :)
blue soffee shorts
red and white striped boys polo
gray tanktop underneathe
and boy nike shox


its actuallly really cute, but since two of the pieces are boy pieces, i just wanted to check. PLEASE!

i think it seems super cute.. no1 will realize if its boys or girls. i think you should deff wear it :]

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My mom workshift has changed, so she is no longer able to take me to school. So now I have to ride a bike to school. And I just feel so embarrased. People in the car when they drive by sometimes laugh and point. So I just want to know how does everyone else get to school. You know do you take the bus, ride, walk, bike, etc.

I walk but i live near my school, you could find a friend to take you if you live far or take the bus :]

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I met this guy yesterday. he hangs with my friend all the time now cause she likes him and he has started been actin different to me like he'll put his arm round me when were outside in the rain and he'll make tiny sexual remarks. but at the same time he wants to be with my friend so wat should i do.

if you like him, talk to him about it. if not then just try to ignor the little remarks and crap. but be carefull if your friend ends up liking him

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My mom is bugging me to death. I've told my friends about everything that she does NOT let me do and they agree with me: it's ridiculous. I'll turn 16 in about 3 weeks. Anyways, she won't let me have a myspace because people get raped and stuff through that. Well the ONLY information about me that's on my myspace is my first name. I lied about my age and city and state on it. AND I set my profile to private, and I still can't get on it. It's not only myspace, it's parties. When I go to a party, I have to be home by 11 pm, and all my friends (even freshmen!) can stay 'til whenever the party is over. Not only that, but she won't stop asking me what I do at the parties. She'll say "How was the party? What did you do?" And I'll say "Good. Nothing." because she doesn't need to know everything (and no I don't do anything illegal or have sex or anything). She even asked my sister once what I did at a party because I told her, and she told my mom that we played truth or dare and I got kissed twice (which is true but who cares??). My bedtime is 10:30 and my friends don't have a bedtime. ALL my friends think that she's having trouble "letting me go" and I agree but how do I tell her that hey I'm about to turn 16 leave me alone? Today I got on myspace cuz I'm at my dad's house and my bitchy sister had to call my mom and tell her. Now my mom is mad. What do I do about all this?

tell her how you feel. tell her that you are respondsible and can handle yourself and that you think that you deserve more respect. also tell her that she can trust her. that everytime there was a time to be home or a bedtime that you were home or in bed and that it hurts you that you feel like you cant be trusted. just have a long talk with her. hopefully she will understand and give you some more freedom. about the myspace thing, just dont go on it whenever your sister is around or your mom. hope i helped

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Recently I tried out a phone chatline service and had a conversation with a supposed police officer. he seemed to be cool, not one of those all serious by the book type guys, rather laid back and open about alot of things. especially, his "freaky-type" ecapades. here recently alittle too open. in a conversation this morning, quite early I might add. the phone rings and it's the police officer, expressing his desires to be intimate with another male. not wanting to scare me off, he put what he wanted to share with me in the form of a question. like "you might not approve of what I did this weekend with this young guy still in high school whose build was simply too desireable to pass up." I encouraged him to divulge more information. he went on to say that the guy was kind of hestitant at first. but later relaxed and enjoyed the experience. his plan is to see the guy again this weekend saying he was going buy the young guy a few things. I was shocked. the policeman even shared with me his interest in another young guy. but, because this one is 14 he may wait awile. what if anything can I do? I'm in Mississippi and the police officer is in Lousiana. he also shared when he was younger his male cousins raped him. after which he came to enjoy the feeling, and because the guys he messes with are so young he uses no protection. I really don't know what to do, this is a law officer whose duty is to protect and serve surly he knows the consequences of his actions, or maybe he's abusing his authority.

i would definitly tell the police in your state. just tell them all the stuff that you just said and give them his cell phone number so they can look into it. they will deff do something. but if i were you i would just stop talking to him. ignor his calls. dont call him. you know that stuff. just be careful. hope i helped

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Well, there's this guy in like three of my classes. and we're pretty close because he sits next to me a lot in all of the classes and stuff. Well I kinda like him a lot. And I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I want to tell him, so how can I do that without ruining it?


like, this is why I KIND OF think he likes me (deep down I know he doesn't.)--

everyday we fake fight about the funniest stuff and I give him an evil look and he goes "im sorry" and puts his hands up defensively. and then today i was like talking about something and hes like, here give me a high five and i like laughed and im like, no... and he's like, UGH let me make it up to you. it was kinda weird, and i dont know what it meant.

instead of just coming right out and saying it just flirt like crazy .. well you two already seem like you got that convered haha but keep going slow like you are because you dont want to rush into things and then him get creeped out. so if the flirt is strong like it is for awhile longer just kinda keep hinting on and he should get the point then just tell him in like a joking way so he will know but also wont be scared or anything haha hope i helped

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ok.So i have NO bust,im very flat (im 4"8-4"9,13 yrs old) and its getting embarissing to have no bust at all. I feel like i cant wear as much clothes that i would like to wear.I'd give anything to have at least a little bit!Is there any ways to gradually get a bust over time by some kind of pill/medication?(i've heard birth control pills do stuff like that but i really dont want to take that,i mean is there and pills for just my main purpose?) I'm wicked embarrised to talk to my mom about it!(shes not one of those moms ) and i havent had my period yet. (will i get "bigger" when i get my period?) im sorry for so many questions!! i'll rate to 5,i'll do anything!

i was like that last year haha but i definitily grew. when you get your period you will most definitly grow. sleeping without a bra on i heard works really well. birth control will help but you really shouldnt take that untill you get your period. actually i dont think you can take it without your period. it might take some time to grow but in the mean time you could by padded bras or maybe even stuff them haha i hope i helped a little bitt.

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I feel that i am WAYY to skinny.I am 75 pounds and im 4"8 1/2.is this normal? im trying to eat like mad because you can see a little of my bones! It sucks :( any tips on getting...fatter in a healthy way? ?

lol i would say your pretty lucky lol but if you feel your too skinny then just eat a bunch of normal food and some junk food every now and then.. also stay active because that will build up an appitete and gain some muscle also. go to this website and see what it says about your weight. www.am-i-fat.com hope i helped

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i need to no what to do? i have a girlfriend but she says she doesnt want anyone all in her business so no one really knows we are a couple. how should i handle this situation?

i think that you should just respect her opion. if you want to stay with her then just let everything go. if it bugs you a whole bunch then tell her about it. tell her that you really care for her and you dont see why it matters if people know about your realationship. hopefully she will understand. hope i helped

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i asked a question a little while ago about if i should go in to work or not, when i have a paper due for school. i wound up calling my boss & saying that i can work friday if i don't have to work saturday, which she was okay with. however when i got off the phone my sister told me (she was being serious) that what i said sounded retarted. she said i was like "i um have an apointment with my mom um i mean i have an apointment and i can only work friday if she can change, i mean if my mom can change the apointment to saturday, so i wouldn't be able to work then." obviously saying i have an apointment with my mom souds reatarted & now i am embaressed. if by any chance they want to know what apointment it was, what do i say? i don't make apointments with my mom. i also feel embaressed that i almost sounded like i was stuttering (& lying, perhaps) when i told her this. what should i do?!?!

yeah i agree with her but if they do just say that you have a doctors appointment and you ment to say that your mom is making you go and thats what messed you up. hopefully they dont ask :] good luck!

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well

my ex dumped me for another girl but he said it was for another reason but it wasnt because he asked the girl that i hate out in just one week and he knows how much i hate her and know there going out and im kinda upset cause i still like him =[ and tehre alwaiiz holding hands and all that and i haev to stand there and watch them i try hanging with my friends but nothing works i cant stop thinking bout it and im so upset and this si teh second time tehre going out the first time she dumped him but now it feels like there gonna be togther for eevry and im nolii in year 8 and plz dont say your to younf plz ..plz help =[

the only thing you can really do is just keep urself busy and dont think about him as much as you can. try to date other guys. acting like you dont care will sometimes make your mind think that you really dont. try that. but thats just something you need to get over yourself nothing any advice can really help. stay strong babe

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