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myspace..etc
My mom is bugging me to death. I've told my friends about everything that she does NOT let me do and they agree with me: it's ridiculous. I'll turn 16 in about 3 weeks. Anyways, she won't let me have a myspace because people get raped and stuff through that. Well the ONLY information about me that's on my myspace is my first name. I lied about my age and city and state on it. AND I set my profile to private, and I still can't get on it. It's not only myspace, it's parties. When I go to a party, I have to be home by 11 pm, and all my friends (even freshmen!) can stay 'til whenever the party is over. Not only that, but she won't stop asking me what I do at the parties. She'll say "How was the party? What did you do?" And I'll say "Good. Nothing." because she doesn't need to know everything (and no I don't do anything illegal or have sex or anything). She even asked my sister once what I did at a party because I told her, and she told my mom that we played truth or dare and I got kissed twice (which is true but who cares??). My bedtime is 10:30 and my friends don't have a bedtime. ALL my friends think that she's having trouble "letting me go" and I agree but how do I tell her that hey I'm about to turn 16 leave me alone? Today I got on myspace cuz I'm at my dad's house and my bitchy sister had to call my mom and tell her. Now my mom is mad. What do I do about all this?
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It sounds like you're not close enough to your mom. First, you have to gain her trust. This sounds weird, but you have to become best "friends" with her and try to tell her a lot about your life that you don't tell her about. When you tell her about all your friends and such she won't feel as paranoid about you going to parties with them. If one of your friends are really bad and you don't want to tell her about him or her because you think that she'll get more paranoid, then either lie that they're good, or don't hang out with them. The closer you get to your mom, the more she'll trust you. Soon you will probably be close enough that you can say "I'm 16 and I should be old enough to make my own choices. You don't need to make all my choices for myself." About the myspace... tell her that you only have your first name and that that's the ONLY information you have & you only use it to talk to your friends. Tell her that you don't do stupid things like having sex and that you never will. Maybe she had a bad experience when she was your age and she's trying to protect you so you don't experience what she did.
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She has the right to ask you questions about the parties.. i mean your lucky she let you go.
but even I have a myspace... and im 14. and you should let her know that its private, so only your friends can see it. And let her know that it only has your real name.
Just let her know your getting older and you should start to get more privledges.
but no matter how old you are your parents are still in charge of you until you move your ass out
Rae <3
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tell her how you feel. tell her that you are respondsible and can handle yourself and that you think that you deserve more respect. also tell her that she can trust her. that everytime there was a time to be home or a bedtime that you were home or in bed and that it hurts you that you feel like you cant be trusted. just have a long talk with her. hopefully she will understand and give you some more freedom. about the myspace thing, just dont go on it whenever your sister is around or your mom. hope i helped <3
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I hate to say this, but look at things from your mother's point of view. I honestly until this year thought my parents were idiots, and too restrictive, and weren't giving me any credit as being an adult. Now that I'm away from home, I respect their opinions and advice, and wish that I had been closer to them instead of turning away their protection.
I KNOW you're sick of hearing this (and I was too, believe me), but at 15 years old, you're not an adult yet. You're not necessarily fully capable of making the wisest decision, where someone with more life experience can. I'm not being condescending here, because I know how much it used to piss me off. I'm only 18 now, but having been away from home for a year, it's taught me a lot about maturity, and how even when I thought I was mature and self-sufficient at 15, I really wasn't.
I know it sucks having an early curfew, an overprotective mother, and a bedtime, but trust me on this one. Girls get raped, assaulted, murdered and hurt, and your mother just wants the best for you.
Keep in mind the fact that I'm not old, I'm only 3 years older than you... but I've seen what's happened to people who walk into things without fair warning. Only a few weeks ago, I had to go to the walk-in clinic with my friend who was raped while she was drunk, and I wouldn't wish a similar experience on anyone.
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