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Should I give my sister advice about her niece (who keeps ge
My niece is a High School graduate who dropped out of college in her freshman year. Although, she is not a "genius" she is probably an average student. She says she quit school since she was "bored". Since then, she has gotten 3 different jobs (sales clerk or receptionist) and has been fired from all 3. She keeps blaming the company. But, I think it is her attitude or something she is doing. Should I tell my sister that her daughter needs to go back to college? Should I tell her that instead of blaming the company, that perhaps it is something that my niece is doing (or not doing) that is causing her to be fired? I think my sister is in denial over her daughter.
For example here is an edited version of an email I got about my niece's latest firing (names have been changed):
Susan called me to tell me that the boss of her new job- fired her. It doesn't make much sense what he told her- he said that she doesn't meet their exception for growth in their firm. That they are expanding and she doesn't fit with that plan. Didn't they know they were expanding before they hired her? Why waste their time and
hers?
Susan said she didn't have much to do- the
phones weren't busy and they told her that they would give her other stuff to do. So- I don't know what went on. Its nuts.
Oh well, I think she was bored anyway since there wasn't much to do. Everything happens for a reason and there is something better for her
elsewhere.
Thanks,
DB
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There may be something better for her, but everyone has to start somewhere. it's her future. and you need to let your sister understand the importance of keeping a job and moving up in life.
but the problem of confronting your sister about it might not be the best solution, though it may seem the "right" thing to do, it isn't the easiest.
Remember this is her daughter. So instead of telling her it's her daughters fault, which would instantly put you on the "enemies" side, try helping your niece find jobs and pursue careers.
try to corner your niece. (that sounds a little mean..) but get her jobs that could not be boring. jobs that require lots of concentration. Also when you help her fins jobs, try to help her make the right decision in her life. Try to suggest going back to college, saying that if college really was too boring, perhaps she should take extra classes, that way, she would be too busy to be bored.
And maybe then, your sister will see what's best for her daughter. the reality, not the sugarcoated version.
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I think you should tell her but definitly not straight on because that will cause more of a problem. just hint on like whenever they talk about the situation like ask her if she was doing all her work and crap and that maybe she would have an easier time getting a good job if she went back to college. hope i helped some <3
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Sounds as though in a subtle way she may be asking your opinion. I think she may have her own doubts about her daughters story of the firing.
I think if you do it in a way that doesn't sound mean it is perfectly alright for you to give your opinion.
Your sister is right though. They wouldn't waste their time training someone just to turn around and fire them. She isn't doing something right. She either doesn't have the proper skills...either for office work or dealing with customers in the proper manner.
I think I'd say something. :)
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