I'm a fourteen year old girl looking to help you people out. Leave me questions and i can try my best to answer them.
I love the Redsox. they make me so happy. lol
Ok, i'm not into that whole bf/gf thing, so unless you really like me or something weird like that, don't ask me those stupid does he like me questions. i can almost garentee you're not going to like your answer.
i'm a little crazy, but for the most part, i'm not going to screw with you guys like with jokes when it comes to advice.
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me and my best friend might go to a haunted house for halloween w/ her sister and maybe some other people (prob. her boyfriend) and i wanted to be either a hooker or a gothic chick or a playboy bunny for halloween. what should i be? and should i have her be it with me and just have fun with it? and what should i buy or wear? sorry and another thing should i invite this guy i like with us if she brings her boyfriend? thanks so much! (link)
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HOOKER!
if you do invite this guy, go as a playboy bunny and convince him its not a costume.
nah, you wanna look better than her!
well go to a costume shop and buy bunny ears, and see if they have one of those costumes.
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i moved in june to the west side of canada, and in september one of my freinds died from cancer i wans't able to go to his funeral but i still miss him, and now i jsut found out another one of my firnds has cancer in the same place that my freind that died did, what can i do to get my mind off of this (link)
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its not so much that you need to take your mind off of it, because when and if he/she does die you'll feel gulity for not thinking about it.
what you should do is try your damndest to do everything in your power to fight cancer. ya i know that sounds stupid, but i just recently found out that my mom had breast cancer, and now i'm participating in the breast cancer walk in my communitee, and i feel good about it. try to participate in as many cancer fundraisers as possible, so that you feel good about yourself. it will also help take your mind off of your friend who died, because you're working hard to stop this eppidemic.
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I am not racest at all..but I have a problem..Okay well I have a really good friend..hes black..im white..I have liked him for about a month now..I really like him..hes all I think about! I found out a week ago that he liked me and wanted to go out with me..he even wrote the sweetest peom ever about me..I cant go out with him because my mom would flip if i went out with a black person..she just doesnt believe in black and white..and neither do some of my friends..It just wouldnt work..I really like this kid and I need to get over him! what should I do?! please help...
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dong get over him. say screw you to mom and your friends, and date him. don't let race rule your life.
you might be surprised and find out that mom doesn't mind, and that your friends would be ok with it. there's no reason that they wouldn't be.
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I finally figured out what I'm going to be. Magenta from rocky horror picture show. http://www.midnightinsanity.com/Photo/Cast/Markbecky.htm
thats what it looks like... and as you can see her hair is long and parted in the middle. i have bangs! what should i do?
PLEASE HELP?!? (link)
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tease your hair really well, then try and pull your bangs under the front part of your hair.
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What age do you consider to be old enough to have a baby. Not like.. "when you feel you are ready" or anything like that.. i mean like.. 16.. 20..
how old do you think someone should be before they have a baby? (link)
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regardless of what age you are, you should abslutely be married before you have a baby. so maybe in your twenties if you need a number, but like i said, you should absolutely be married. its not fair to the baby otherwise.
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I HAVE THIS WRITING ASSIGNMENT DUE ON TUESDAY & IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT I GET A GOOD GRADE I HAVE TO WRITE A 400 WORD PAPER ABOUT ANYTHING I WUNT PREFERABLY AN ESSAY BUT BASICLLY I NEED A TOPIC CAN ANY1 HELP ME?
~AnThOnY~ M/13 (link)
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write an editorial about a contriversial issue, like gay marriage or abortion. write about who the better canadate is for president. write about Iraq. Vent your oppinuions about how gross school lunch is (mine is anyway). Write about how awesome the redsox are! ha ha.
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I don't know what's wrong with me... Maybe it's low self-esteem or something but I never think i'm good enough for any guy. There haven't been many guys that I've known liked me. Most of them look right to my friend... So the guy i reaaaallly liked likes her now. But whenever guys flirt with me i never take them seriously because I always think "oh he would never like me" and then I turn kinda mean to the guy... can anyone help me out here? (link)
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guys need girls to be mean to them . . .
ok but if you don't wanna be the girl to do it, just be nice to them. flirt back. think highly of yourself the next time a guy compliments you.
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There's this girl in my grade. She really doesn't have any friends, except she persists to hang out with me and the rest of my friends. She's ALWAYS complaining about how fat she is. I tell her that she is not obese, but she merely says, "Oh, God, just shutup, will you? Of course I'm fat." Sometimes I tell her she's not like those obese people, but sometimes I don't say anything. Then she'll say, "So you agree. You think I'm fat?" She gets very much on my nerves. Except the thing is, she kinda is fat. Just like super super chubby, but it's not like she's really obese. Just how do I respond when she complains about her weight?
Thanks. Sorry it is so long, but I really need help. I would really appreciate it. (link)
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"You are what you think you are. say your fat and you are fat bitch."
"Yeah, you are fat, what now?" jk, don't say that.
"If you're so worried about being fat, why don't you lose weight?"
"Look, there is too much crap going on in my life to listen to you whine about your problem. i have my own." even if there isn't. i have a very similar situation, and that line works ALL THE TIME. usually though, there is.
Whine about being skinny (even if your not). that'll piss her off.
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ok me and my boyfriend are close but theres this one girl we'll call her Ashley and like my boyfriend broke up with me 2 times with me for her and now we're together and hes broke up with her for me 3 times and when we are together *me and my boyfriend* we are together a lot longer than them..and "Ashley" likes him I found out but she promised not to interfere but I'm scared that if he finds out that she'll inerfere..what do I do to keep her away? (link)
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nothing, that'll make you seem like a bitch. try hooking her up with another guy, like on a double date.
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May 17, 2004, ((st. patricks day)) one of my best friends committed suicide. She was 13 years old. She was born on September 11, 1990. Her name was Alyssa, and she was walking to school late and she was walking on the tracks. She heard the train coming and she turned around, put her hood up, and gave the thumbs up sign to the conductor. He couldn't stop the train. Alyssa got hit and died. A month later the investigators claimed it to be suicide, which everyone already knew. She had tried committing suicide a couple weeks before that, but I had to drag her off the tracks by her hair. I had made her go see the school counselor before that and I guess she still wanted to committ suicide. The night before she was hit, she wrote R.I.P Alyssa on her and her boyfriend's bedroom wall. She killed herself for many reasons, but I only know of how her boyfriend was cheating on her and she was in a gang and family problems. She told me there was more though. I tried so hard to convince her that death wasn't the soulution, but she didn't listen. I did everything I could to help her. Anyway, I know it's long but I thought you needed to know the whole story.
So my problem is, I still haven't been able to cope with it. I cry all the time and nobody seems to understand me. I miss her so much. I've already seen numerous counselors but they haven't helped me much. I just want to know if there's any way that I could start the "healing process" or if it'll just take time. I would appreciate all the help. Thank you so much!
Love, RacheL
((xoRachel))
R.I.P Alyssa Gonzalez.. I miss you so much.
9/11/90 - 3/17/04 (link)
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ok, i know that you probably don't want to hear this, but it will take time. crying is actually a good thing. bottling up feelings is very unhealthy. its good that you knew yourself enough to go see a counselor. You're a smart kid with a good head on your shoulders. even though this is tough right now, you will be able to move on with out this pain. i know that it seems like that'll never happen, but it will.
i'm really sorry about your friend. its a tragic thing to happen.
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ok see i knew that i would be seeing my boyfriend on friday (last friday) so i didnt eat rly anything all week maybe 3 things..seriously! and i only drank water and see when i saw my boyfriend he said i looked thinner!!...i was happy and i was wondering what are other bad things that'll happen if i keep up what ive been doin?? plz dont say..you'll die or get sick!! it made me feel better about my self cz my stomach wasent as big almost flat (link)
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umm, you don't want to hear it so i won't tell you that you're distroying your body, and i won't tell you that you're breaking up vital organs, and i sure as hell won't tell you that you're also destroying muscle, and soon you won't look good, but just grossly skinny either. you already mentioned the other two things i'm not going to tell you.
i will tell you that there are other ways to A.) lose weight--like the healthy way, and B.) feel better about yourself.
eat less and excersize more.
tell yourself you're beautiful even if you think you're being cocky. find things about your self that are good. body image should not be the end all of how you feel about yourself. maybe you're a really great artist, or you're really smart. maybe you're athletic or something. those are all positive attributes that should make you feel better about yourself that don't involvee body image.
i blame barbie. yes indeed i do. if she hadn't inflicted this damn body image idea on all of us poor girls, we wouldn't have this problem of belimia and anorexia. stupid plastic doll!
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When you get your first period is it normal if it just lasts for 2 days? (link)
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wen u get ur first period EVERYTHING is normal. its that irregular
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Hey...I'm not sure how to say this but I will anyway...I want to start dating but I don't know If I can build up enough courage to ask my parents if I can have a boyfrined. They are the most protective people in the world sometimes the don't even let me go anywhere with my frineds. I do have a guy and we're frineds but they get suspicious of him...I do like him but they don't know that
Do you have any tips for me to ask them if I can ask him out?
It aould be appreciated
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well this all depends on how old you are. if you're like under like 11 years old, then like don't bother.
ok but if you're older, just be like "hey mom (mother units are usually less protective than father units) i met this really awesome guy at the ________(insert place here). He's really awesome and sweet. I think he's into me! We're gonna go out next ________ (insert date here), is that alright with you?" If she's hesitant, then bring up the whole, "oh mom, why don't you trust me? I've never done anything to have you not trust me before." if it really breaks out into a "no end of discussion" go, "Mom, i'm not your little girl anymore. What's you're deal?"
if they say yes, inform your significant other that your parentle units would care to meet him before your first/secound date. explain to him that (only if you think they are) your parents are over protective and just want to know who he is.
hope all goes well for you!
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If your a virgin (( girl )) then how can you get pregnant? (link)
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with out um false fertilization (i think its called where they inject sperm into an egg) there is no way.
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if i want to get on the patch i know i need to stop smoking but what about like cocaine can that be dangerous to cocaine andthe patch i thought about getting on it but now im changing my mind (link)
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cocaine is dangerous regardless. with the patch, and smoking, you're in some serious shit man.
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i feel so young all my friends are turning 15 this year and i just turned 14!! were all in the same grade though. i just want to grow up to where in 16 so i can party and drive. my parents are so protective because im there only child and they dont want to lose me with all the murders and kidnappers and shit in the world. it upsets me. they think im still a little kid still and they treat me like im a little kid. does anyone feel this way what should i do?? (link)
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yep, parents are like that, theres nothing really to do hun. you can't change your age, and you sure as hell can't change your parents. sorry.
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Last year I was cool nd evry1 kne who I waz but this year ppl r callin me by my friends name bcuz she looks xactly like me now, she died her hair my color has almost the same style as mine the same face the same frame nd etc. I kno i should b flattered but im not I want my life back! Ive told her this many times but she doesnt get it! Wut should I do? (link)
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die your hair blonde and totally disblondes. not permanently. just long enough so she can take a hint, use like that spray stuff for halloween or something. then maybe she'll die her hair back perminately and you can just wash the crap out.
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hey does anyone know where you get those bracelets that you wear and you make a wish and when the bracelet falls off the wish comes true? just wondering...I saw that on tv a long time ago and I thought it sounded cool. thanks. :) (link)
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trinket shops. like i bought mine a tourest shop on nantucket. in my town, little gift shops have them.
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Well, Ive liked this guy named Wesley for a while, and hes not supper popular but I stil like him and stuff. So, my friends asked him if he liked me because I was too much of a chicken. So then he was like "i want her to tell me" so i did, and he still isnt telling me anything. I kinda think he likes me and all his friends tell me that, so What should I do, why do u think he isnt telling me anything?
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he's probably shy. guys can be shy to, no matter how perfect he is. guys with "unpopular" reputations tend to be on the quiet side as well. he's just as afraid of being rejected as you are.
what does it matter if he's not popular anyway? its the unpopular ones that are going to make all the money in the world out of highschool.
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Hey all, it's Siren...Okay. Usually I pose my issue and ask for opinions, but I actually have a problem this time. Sorry about the length...I can't help it.
Here's the issue at hand:
My boyfriend's family is going to Mackinac for halloween weekend, and leaving him home alone. He's invited me over and would not object to my spending the night. My mom does, though. Here's how our conversation went: "Hey mom, how much would you object to my asking you if I could spend the night at my boyfriend's one weekend?"
"I...would...no. It's not appropriate."
"Just like, one weekend..."
"NO. You're not his wife, you're not engaged, it's not appropriate."
(The worst thing about that is we technically are kind of engaged. He proposed, I accepted.)
She's refusing to even CONSIDER it. How do I get her to let me do what I want? I mean, she lets me stay over at my guyfriend Sean's house when he has parties and we all drink...that's WORSE. My bf was actually at one of those parties, but she doesn't know that.
So...help me out? Bottom line is I want to get her to okay it. I don't want to lie, and I don't want to sneak around. I hate keeping things from mom. How do I do this? (link)
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"Hey mom, what have i ever done for you to not trust me"
don't say that if there are reasons for her not to trust you. If she has reasons, tell her that forgiveness is a virtue and that everyone gets secound chances.
tell her that you desperately need her to trust you, and you wouldn't do anything "wrong."
then, maybe just maybe you should subtly mention that you're engaged.
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