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Q: I'm not good with matching clothes.

How do you make layers look good?
I've tried doing it.. and it looks out of place.

Are there certain colors to wear together and everything?

I want a more mature look. I'm 16 and I dress all comfy. (like t-shirt & sweatpants) I want to look good, you know?

Wear low cut shirts with camis. If you want a pretty look you can use a lacy cami. Wear short sleeves together as long as one is a tad longer than the other. Things like that. It usually doesnt matter what colors as long as its not like orange and black and weird colors like that. Haha. If you have any specific questions, just ask me.

Q: "If someone says to you that you look drawn (tired, haggard, etc) for example on Saturday, August 25th and then a week later they tell you you no longer look drawn (tired, haggard, etc), but you now look good would you accept the fact that they no longer think you look drawn (tired, haggard, etc) or would you still think about what they said to you a week ago that you look drawn (tired, haggard, etc)"

I personally would be like "yay i dont look tired anymore. and i look good!" haha if that answers your question.

Q: okay well this guy i like said he liked me and he didnt tell me that he had a gf until a week later i waited for him. and i dont know if i should move on or wait for him

Hmm thats a toughie. If he has a girlfriend then he is obviously not commited to either of you at the moment. He seems like hes not commited to either one of you. If hes telling you that he like you then he isnt faitful to his girlfriend. And if he is not breaking up with his girlfriend then he is no commited to you. I would suggest talking to him. Ask him if he is going to break up with his girlfriend soon. If he says yes then, wait for him to do so and then make your move. If he says no, then move on, hes not worth your time.

Q: 16
male
ok well i have a gf i really really like and this christmas i want to get her something she will never forget money is not really an issue at least if were not talking hundreds of dollars.and well i really want to get her something that will be nothing like she has ever got. she has asked for a bunch of diff prefumes and lotions and stuff but yea ne ideas of what i could do ?

o and on christmas im gonna finnaly tell her that i lover her cuz im not one of those guys that says it the second day after we start going out i wait till i mean it but yea im gonna tell her on christmas im gonna wait for the right moment then wisper it into her ear(this is way of topic but i want to know what ppl think of that good idea or not)

Aww thats so cute. Um I suggest getting maybe one of the perfumes and then make something. A picture frame, a mixed cd of her favorite songs, you know whatever you think she will like.

Q: i am 13 years old and in seventh grade (female)
all the girls in my grade wear eyeliner except for me. My mom won't let me. (i asked her one time over the summer) what can i say to her or do so that she will let me wear it?

I didnt wear eyeliner in 7th grade either, even though a lot of people did. Tell your mom that its not a huge deal, and you wont put too much on. And follow that. If not, just wear mascara, if you mom lets you wear that. And you can apply mascara like eyeliner but tapping it against your skin.

Q: ok, i've been dealing with acne since grade 5..i'm now it grade 10, have tried perscription stuff, didn't work, tryed noxema, tryed clearasil, and have been on proactive for about 2-3 years now. its not working all that great, any one have any other suggestions on what i should do? also, how do you stop whiteheads from forming on your nose??? i haven't been able to and its starting to really bug me. any tips would be great, thanks

alyssa

Okay. Proactive didnt work that great for me either, and when i got off of it I was worse than when I started. Go to a dermatoligist and ask him about Accutane. You might not have serious enough acne to go on it, but at least ask him. I am on it right now, and even though I am suffering through dry skin, my skin is SOOO much better. Actually, I have no zits, just scars. And you are only on it for 5 months and it is worth it. My sister went on it and she hasnt had a pimple since.

Q: i'm in ninth grade and i started my period in 6th grade. i still haven't used a tampon yet. i know people that just started their period, like, a week ago and they are already using a tampon. i guess i'm kind of scared to put it in.. i tried a couple times, but didn't go through with it. should i just suck it up and do it? does it hurt? is there any chance that i, like, won't be able to put it up there? i'm just scaredddd. any advice?

Just get over it! Haha. It doesnt hurt. It feels awkward the first couple of times but it doesnt hurt.

Q: mk so i have bad chest/back/shoulders acne. is there anything i can buy at the market that would help? even a little help?

pleasseeee help. I'm gonna have to wear a dress for a dance soon and i dont want my boyfriend to be grossed out.

helppp

Well I know there is a Neutragena thing called Body or something. I don't know if its good, but you could try it.

Q: i have AIM and say if i have a buddylist titled "girls" and i want to change the name how do i do it without deleting everyone and putting them all back on? thanks in advancee.

You just right click and hit edit name.

Q: Why do women get their period at the same time as their families and friends for example? Such as when they are together a lot or live together. I'm so confused.

Thanks!

For families it might be just genetics but for friends.. theres no real way to know. Its just one of those weird things that happen.

Q: Ok im bi, and I like this kid but I dont know if he is or not. What do you people think I should do? Come out to him? That what I was thinking but what if he tells everyone and what if hes not? Do you think I should come out to the school or just come out to people slowly like just tell friend first? Im in the GSA and most people know about me there. Does it matter? Im really depressed.

Well, not that many people are bi/gay. Theres a chance that he is gay, but there is probably a bigger chance that he is straight. You should just come out to him because you'll never know what he thinks or if he is unless you tell him. And who cares if everyone finds out? Its part of what makes you you! I say come out to everyone.

Q: One of my best friends, who I've known since we were toddlers, is starting to really get on my nerves. She tries to be like the popular people ALL the time. She doesn't buy clothes from the "it" stores, but she tries to act like her clothes are the best... like, she rolls up her sweatpants like everyone else does (which I hate, but that doesn't really matter) and tries to make her hair have that bump on the bottom when she wears a ponytail. But... it comes off looking reaaaaally bad on her. Then, when she's talking to people, you can tell that she thinks that she's better than them, even when she's obviously not. And she always ditches me for her other friends just so she can be "popular"... like, my other best friend waits for me at the end of all of the classes we have together, but this friend just walks out the door talking to a different person every class. It really ticks me off. Although, when we're alone, she acts like she always used to. I think its great that my friend wants to try and be... cooler... but she's really hurting her other friends feelings, since I know she ditches my other best friend (we're a trio) all the time. And the thing is... her new friends are almost all geeky and nerdy. What should I do??? I don't want to seem like I'm telling her what to do.

Aw, that really sucks. You just need to tell her how you are feeling. Thats the only way to handle it really. You dont have to tell her what to do, just tell her what she is doing and how you feel about it. Dont yell at her and stay calm.

Q: my busdriver makes me sit in seat #2 on the bus because i "turned around". my busdriver said that its my permanant seat, no ands,ifs,or buts. its so annoying and i want to be with my friends in the back. i don't want to sit with the geeks in the front and when my friends come on the bus, they need to sit in the front with me. it sucks and i need help. i am not even turning around on the bus, its always the guys.

Okay. First of all, dont call anyone a geek. Second of all, thats really unfair of your busdriver. I say tell him or her that you weren't turning around, but now you know now to. Say it very calmly, and dont give attitude. If he still makes you sit in the front.. that sucks because theres nothing else you can really do

Q: Ok, so this is kinda weird, but i don't know how to flirt. I've never really tried it before. If i ask a question and say something like "how do i get this guy to like me..." then people will just say to flirt with him. But the thing is that i don't really know how. Could anyone give me some tips? Thanx!

Flirting is almost an art. Haha. You just talk to the guy and smile a lot and say cute things. Its really hard to explain how to flirt. It just happens and you just need to know how to do it. Just smile and be outgoing and cute.

Q: How do you give good oral sex? What are some tips?

To tell you the truth, I have absolutely no experience in this. I guess just suck it... I have no clue. Sorry. Haha

Q: im in love with this guy, his name is Steve, but i think he hates me, what should i do

He probably doesn't hate you. But you need to be uber (hahah uber) nice and sweet to him, but dont be all over him. Be funny and outgoing, but not annoying and you should have it made. Be yourself and hopefully he'll like you. If he doesnt, thats his lost.

Q: i know this is random, but do twin girls or triplet girls get their period at the same time or around the same time?

Not necessarily because they are twins if they do. If you hang out with someone a lot, usually you end up getting your period around the same time. Its weird but true.

Q: I'm 15 in 10th grade and My girlfriend says that she doesn't wanna go out right we should wait a while, she wants to be single, she's not ready for a boy friend, ect. does ths mean she doesnt like me or what i just want kwon because i love her i wanna be with her and i just dont understand could some one pleas help me.

It depends. It could mean that she just doesnt like you and she doesnt want to hurt your feeligns or it could mean what she says. Either way, she doesnt want to go out with you anymore. Sorry bud.

Q: Ever since break-up, my ex began to follow me wherever I go. He tries to get the information of everyone I associate with. Most outrageously, he hacked my e-mailbox, and intended to hack my laptop. WHAT THE HELL! I try every way to push him away but he's still clinging me like a dirty stupid parasite. I feel my whole life is monitored by him and that I have no privacy at all. Everything I do is watched by this sick bastard. How can I get rid of him?

I must say that that is reeeaaallly creepy. I suggest telling an adult who you trust because that is super creepy and he could do something even creepier to the point of rape.. soo i would definetly tell your parents.

Q: A lot of people have this problem but I can't figure out what to do.
My personality changes around guys. It's sort of like I'm trying to impress them, mold myself to who they want me to be, hoping I'll get a boyfriend. The thing is, it's never worked out that way, I've never gotten a boyfriend.

I really want to be able to relax and be myself around guys. T

his is harder than you think, so if anyone's gone through this, how did you manage it?

Haha i did that sorta. And kinda still do. You just need to learn to be yourself. A guy isnt worth it if he doesnt like you for you. So remember that while you are talking to guys. And maybe get a friend who will monitor you around guys when she is near by and she can tell you when you are forming yourself to them

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