Hello my name is Diamond, I am currently a third year psychology major. My passion in life is to be of aid to mankind in any way possible which why I aspire to become a Psychologist no matter what it takes. I find complete and utter joy in helping others through giving them advice or by simply being an open ear for someone you just need to talk to or express your feelings to. I love to make others happy in anyway possible, it brings joy to my heart like nothing in this world. I have given advice to a large amount of people, usually people I barley know. The people I meet tend to open up to me and share their feelings and/or problems whether big or small. I have been the ears for many people who just want someone to talk to,when they feel no one else is there to listen or atleast cares enough to hear what they have to say. I have been a shoulder to cry on and I must say it is very fulfilling to have people see this sort of security and comfort in me. I am open to any questions, I am open to listen to anyone that is feeling alone or scared, I care about everyone in this world even if I have yet to meet them, I know that every human being is special,unique, and beautiful in their own way and I just want to be there for anyone who doesn't know or believe this. I want to install the importance of positive thinking into everyone I encounter in my lifetime. I am even here for those who aren't going through any particular hardship but just wants advice. Advice is always good because it is always good to have a second persons opinion to weigh your options and decisions even if you choose to use the advice or not. I am looking forward to your questions,conversations, or anything you would like. I am just a message/ e-mail away. Please do not hesitate to contact me. You will never be ignored or simply forgotten about.
E-mail: princessdiamond1314@yahoo.com
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heyaaa female 17!
thanks for reading :D
i had unprotected sex , i no its wrong but its done now, and he told he didnt cum but i think he did coz he stopped after he said he didnt , 3 days after im starting too feel ill, icould just be me thinking about it , could i be pregant or watever sti? (link)
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Hello,Unfortunatley there is still a chance you may be pregnant because even before a guy ejacualtes or even begins to have intercourse they produce pre-ejacualation which can still impregnate you. However there is still a chance you may not be pregnant because you may have not been ovulating and you can still have sex with a guy and he cums inside of you and you dont get preganant,it could be because of the way your ovulation cycle occurs or simply because the specific sperm did not fertilize the egg. i think you should take two store bought pregnany tests and to see the results,if you get two posititves or even one negative and one positive you should go to the doctor to make sure so you can figure out your next move!:) I hope this helped and the best luck to you,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic you can send me a private message and I would be more than happy to help you!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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Sorry, I dont really know if this is in the right catagorey. Is masturbation better the less you do it or the more you do it? (link)
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Hello,well masturbation is a great thing,"pleasure with no strings atttached".There is no rule to how much you masturbate,you should masturbate when you feel the urge but I can tell you that it can be addictive, it is so pleasureable that you can overdo it but there will be no side effects so there is nothing to worry about. They do say however the longer you wait for something the better it is but when you want to masturbate you should go ahead and do it,alittle pleasure never hurts. I can admit that I do it quite often and it is still just as great from the first time you ever orgasmed,also the more you masturbate the more you learn about your body and what pleasures you the most, you learn different,more effective and pleasurable ways of reaching climax, i think it is a good idea to do it rather often but it can still be done sparingly,its your choice and what you feel!I hope this helped and the best ofluck to you!!If you have anymore questions on this topic or any othe topic you can send me a private message I will be happy to help!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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Is it really bad to masturbate? I really really really want to. I have not had sex and plan not to until marriage. But I really need masturbation. Is it bad to masturbate. Even if its only every once in awhile. Like every month or every other month?(I havnt masturbated since november) (link)
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Hello, I was asked the same question a few days back and I can use the same answer I used before here..that is a very frequently asked question.Almost everyone in the world by the age of 18-20 have masturbated or attempted to,it is instinct and it gives you a chance to explore and understand your body. This is not a sin although it may feel wrong to receive sexual pleasure from yourself,all things related to sex has been correlated to sin but masturbation itself is not,however when you add in pornography for arousal while masturbating it does become a sin because it is form of fornication.It is stated that sex before marriage is a sin and sex is an act done with two or more people..usally the penetration of the penis into the vagina,oral sex etc..It is natural to feel uncomfortable when you first contemplate and or begin masterbating because you may feel that God is watching etc but God installed this sexuap drive inside of us and in the meatime until you get married it is natural and healthy before you delve into sex. I encourage masterbation ovr sex before marriage for a number of reasons.So have fun and get acquainted with yourself,because if you are not comfortable with your self it is not good idea to become involved with someone sexually.I hope this helped,If you have any further questions dont be afraid to ask..the best of luck to you SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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14/f.
ok, so all my friends always say "the big o" and i was wondernig what tht meant? i know i should know this becasue im 14 but i dont!!! (link)
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Hello,well the big O is a sexual term,it simply means orgasm or climax. An orgasm is the ultimat e peak of sex. You have sex to reach this orgasm.An orgasm is a feeling of intense pleasure you get from sexual stimulation, you can receive an orgasm in amy ways,from clitoral stimualation and or vagianl stimulations. You can reach an orgasm by yourself(masturbating) or wuth a partner through oral sex,vaginal sex..etc. Also every women does not orgasm during every sexual experience, if the clitoris is not stimulated properly an orgasm may not even occur.In fact almost only 1 out of 4 women actually orgasm during sex,If a man does not know what pleases you or even cares about giving you an orgasm then you most likely wont, especially guys that ypu are not in relationship with,they mainly care about haveing their orgasm which usually always occurs in mean during sex,they can be prety selfuish. I hope this helped and the best of luck to you,If you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic I would be happy to help you,just send me a private message!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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15/f
I just recently got a boyfriend, and it's been about a month. I'm pretty close with my parents and I want to tell them but I don't really know the right way to bring it up. Every time I think about it it seems pretty awkward. Any advice?! (link)
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Hello,as you may know starting a conversation or anything is the hardest step but once you take that first step and begin it becomes a whole lot easier and more comfortabel. I believe you could just be up front with her because communication is key to any relationship, unless your mom is againts you having a boyfrien then she should not react any other way but with excitement,because usually when parents see you happy and hear news that makes you happy they are happoy in return. Don't be afraid to open up to your mother,if you just arent ready to tell her then you could bring it up casually like if you are maybe watching something on tv abotu a relationship you can bring it up then or when you have your mothers undivided attention you can just say it then like "mother I have been dating this guy for awhile and i really like him"just try to tell them all the good things about him,like what sports he might play,his interests,his attributes,anything. I hope this helped and the best of luck to you,if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic you can send me a message!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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Me & this boy, Jake * have been hooking up & having sex for a few weeks. I really like him, most of the time he is very cute/polite. But, today we were talking like we do everyday and I said, what are you doing? and he said popping a pimple and like said stuff about it and I was really grossed out but I tried to just be nice...It really turned me off. Were not in a relationship so do you think hes trying to show me he just wants to be friends? or do you think hes just being an immature 18 year old boy? help! (link)
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Hello, he is absolutley not trying to be immature, in my opinion he was simply telling the truth about what he is doing, he was being honest with you which means he is comfortable with even telling you things that are gross. It is hard to say if he actually wants to be in a relationship you would have to ask him what he fels about that,he may not know thats what you want. Its good to put everything on the table in the beginning,like are you guys just hooking up for fun or that you want to get to know eachother more so no ones feelings get hurt,comunication is key in any relationship! Its ok that you feel turned off but he wqas just being himself. If he starts to hint that he wansts to be more than friends than go for it but if not then you can continue this or stop,as you well know guys can have sex on an off with girls with no emotions attached so just see where it goes.. I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have any further qestions I would be happy to help you on this topic or any other topic,just send me a private message!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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okay so my girlfriend is pregnant and she dont get her period does that mean the baby is like drinking the blood? (link)
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Hello, Ofcourse the babe is not a vampire, When a women becomes pregnanat she never comes on her period until after the baby is born. Women have their period to prepare them to have a baby,if an egg is not fertilized all of the nutrients and blood built up to support that baby goes out through the vagina. When the egg is fertilize all of the nutrients and bloo buit up stays there to nuruture the baby.I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and your baby!!!If yoiu haveany other questions you can ask me anything onthis topic or any other topic,just send me a private message!
SINCERY,DIAMOND:)
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Thank you so much well there's that guy zach I told you about and I'm not sure if I like him but then there's this guy named matt (real name) and he is super nice. He dosent go to my school yet next year( high school) he goes to my rock school which is where yourr in bands with other people. And whenever he sees me he waves and says hello he is sooo cure but when I'm around him all his other friends ate there I don't know what to do. And when he's alone I have no idea what to talk about? By the way u have really great advice. I gave you another 5 haha
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Aww thank you sooo very much I really appreciate it. I am glad to have helped you. About mike, well how well do you know him,have you ever had a real conversation with him. When you get him alone or even around friends just to make it seem like casual conversation just simply go up to him and say hello and ask how he is doing this evening,you can talk about anything like random questions like "soooo are you ready for highschool", ask him about the instrument he sings or about the lyrics he sings,compliment him on what he is wearing, his hair or anything or when you guys are all together you can agree with something he is saying or ask him an opinion on what you guys are talking about. Guys love when you have simialr qualities and intersts as they do so agreeing with him on something or saying yoiu like something that he likes is recommeneded. Just be yourself dont try to say what you think he wants to here,once you start the conversations will flow from there and dont try to hard just be causual. The best of luck to you,if you have any further questions or if I was not deatailed enough I can answer any more questions you have on this topic or any other topic!!I hope this helped allittle,if and when you do talk to him do you mind telling me how you approached him and how things went I am looking forward to hearing good news about this:)
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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It's a smaller, a bit older, two bedroom, one bathroom mobile home, it has just been remodeled. We will have to pay gas and electricy. It's clean. It meets code for everything. The neighborhood is nice. It comes with all appliances (besides a microwave and dishwasher), inlcuding washer and dryer.
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Hello,sounds like a pretty sweet deal to me, $500 dollars is a pretty good price I mean we want cheap in the economy today,you want to enjoy where you stay but still be able to keep up the rent and everything else you know. That is great that the neighborhood is pleasant because that and pricing are very important factors. But a question, have you been searching for a place for awhile and in neeed to move in now? And is a mobile home what you are looking for and what is your price range because if you could go alittle higher on the rent and you are not in a rush then might be able to find a nice apartment or a decent apartment that is just as nice but I must admit that the mobile home coming with the appliancesis a plus,take your time that is if you have time and try to weigh your options,it might be alittle frustrating and or tiring but it will be owrth t because after all this is going to be the place you will come home to. Take those quesions into acount please before you take the mobile home you never know what else is out there. Take into accoun the kind of area you want,if you are living with someone, what is in the area, and others, dotn try to rush be patient and you will find what is best suited for you, but the mobile home,I think it is a pretty good deal on the rental but it is all in what YOU are looking for!!I hope this helped, the best of luck to you,if I did not answer your question fully or if you need more advice on this topic or for any other topic for that matter you can always send me another message I would be happy to hear from you!!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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please help me...
ok i have been on and off with this guy austin for almost six years..i love him i do..but he doesnt treat me like i know i should be treated..sometimes he even just makes me feel shitty about myself sometimes though..he makes me feel reall good...we have been through more good times and bad times..than anyone i know...also..his family is my family..they adore me..and i feel the same about them...it that makes it harder....and everytime we break up..it never fails..i go back to him.. because i cant stand the sight of him and someone else...
but theres this justin guy that has just recently come into my life..and we have become extremely close over the last 5 or 6 months..give or take a few...but he makes me feel so good...hes so sweet..hes so good to me.he treats me like way too good i feel like..he makes me feel reall good about myself...and makes me happy...but yet so does austin..sometimes...but anyway...justin has me on this pedestle..and i dont feel like i belong there..or deserve to be there...he looks at me like no one has..ever looked at me...but i cant shake this thing that i have for austin..and i hate seeing him with anyone else...im just so confused..i dont want to hurt anyone..but i also dont want to hurt myself anymore...i really really love them both..and cant picture myself without either one...
please write me back asap. (link)
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Hello,well you should always follow your heart but always do what is best for you becuse your feelings are at stake here. I am sure Austin is very important to you I mean 6 years but in my opinion if you guys have known eachother that long and he still has yet to appreciate you and treat you as you deserve then he never will, who wants to be stuck in a relationship like that and yes since you are close to his family that is a big factor but you can not base that on rather you should stay with him or not it is your choice and your choice only. Women should always be treated respectfully and be cared for to the upmost ad what justin is showing are alot of good qualities, he is treating you exactly how a women should be treated and more and the is really hard to find so you are very lucky. You should never feel like you are not good enough to be treated this good and put on a pedestle, him doing this shows his maturity,his loving kindness, his debotion to you and just how he treats women in general, I know you havent known him that long but for him to be showing this admirable qualiteis now is very good and should is probably what makes you have these strong feelings for him. Remember you deserve the best and should never ever settle, I am sure Austin i a very important guy in your life it may not be meant to be I mean guys come in and out of your life but the guys that you know are for you are the ones that show they care through their actions and are willing to change, Quick question have to actually discussed the way that he treats you to him personally because he may not even notice he is making you feel bad. If you dont tell him he will never know and still continue but even of you tell him their is still a chance he wont change, he is just used to treating you this way and just not willing to change. I think if you havent already you should discuss your feelings with him because after all if you cant communicate with him comfortably then the relationship may as well be doomed, all relationships are built on communication, if you discuss this and he is willing to chnage then you should stick around to see if what he says is true but if not you should definitley move on to better quality which is from what you said Justin. Dont worry he will always have a place in your heart and you two could still be friends because everyone is put in your life for a purpose but not everyone you meet stays in your life. Follow your intstince it will guide you in the right direction. I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic you can send me a private message I would be happy to help you..Don't forget that you are special and deserve soemone just as special as you!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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remember me? Asking how to flirt never had a bf. Well it advice was really great so I had to come back for second. Well the guy "zach" keeps walking by my table at lynch looks at me and keeps walking what do I do when we just look at eachother I feel like a retard. Help please u did a great job at awnseering my last question I gave u a five. Thhx
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Hellp,aww thank you soo very much I appreciate it. It is cute to have the little eye contact with eachither it shows his interest but hey you can always say hello lol and ask how he is just to start conversation or if you talked about something previously you can bring that up. Trust me looking at eachother is not retarted but if you look embarassed or awkwad when he lloks at you it can feel weird, you also dont have to say a word, give him alittle smile or wave just be confident and remeber be yourself,if one of your friends walked by what would you do,either smile,say hi or start conversation that is a simialr situation because after all you two are not in a relationship and you guys havent openly came out and said you like eachother, it will get easier as time goeas along just try not to worry about it too much, a guy can tell,only time will tell what will happen. I hope this helped and the best of luck,if you gave any other questions I am always here!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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I am sad. I don't know if it's just stupid hormones, and I'm not depressed. It just seems like my Mom yells at me a lot. It makes me really sad. It makes me seem like the only place where I'm happy is alone at home, which is rarely, or at school. It feels like nobody understands me. Sometimes it feels like nobody likes me at school either. I have some friends, but I say one thing by mistake and everyone hates me. I feel like I'm left out, like I'm in a world I hate. I keep telling lies and plastering a fake smile on my face. But I'm sick of it. I need help. Welcome to my Life by Simple Plan is my stinkin THEME SONG. It;s true. Welcome to my life. (link)
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Hello,well your situation is understandable,your home life effects you greatly but you have to realize that everyone in this lives go through ups and downs,some people have a life much tougher than yours but that is not saying that your situation is not just as important. Feeling sad all the time is no good for your health and life as a whole but in your situation it is difficult not to be. I beleive your mom might be stressed ir going through her own issues at this time so in return she is taking all if her anger out on you in return. I think you guys should sit down and talk about how her constant yelling is effecting you a great deal, I doubt if she realizes and if she does not know then this will continue, talking to her may bring you closer as well and right now you need to be closer to your mom to know you have someone who cares for you in this life and understands you. Your mom will be the most likely to understand who you are because after all she lives with you, knows your many characteristivs,what you like and dislike. I know your mom cares for you but it is hard for her to show because she is probably going through alot, I admit that it is no fair for her to take her anger out on you but you are the closest and instead of talking to you about how her day was and the problem she might be having she yells at you instead,if you two build a stronger relationship this anger will turn into loving kindness. As for school,that is a difficult environment and not everyone will understand you because everyone is unique and actually many of the friends in school,the cliques do not fully understand eachother,most of those relatiobships are based on shallow conversations and nothing really specific,those relationships will fade in time. As for your "friends" they arent your friends at all,if they hate you for saying something that probably was not even that serious then they arent your real friends, your real friends know you and would never dislike you over simple words.In the whole school you might find one or two people that you could call a true friend and hang on to and that will really understand you but right now you need to foucs on you,do things you like to do things that make you happy,a sport an activity such as drawing,writting,or anything to express your feelings. The world is a beautiful place it shouldnt be something you hate but when things arent going right then it does seem that way. Try to see the good in life no matter what,being optimistic and trying to think psitive will get you throught this, it may take time but negative thoughts only cloud your mind and can cause depression and make you despise even living when living is such a beautiful thing because you have so many opportunities out there waiting for you. You will make friends in time,REAL friends but it will take time I am a Senior in High School and still dont have one real friend but I have nothing to complain about I am overall a happy person because I am happy with myself and who I am, I dont mind being alone and doing things i love such as what I am doing now giving you this advice,fiding something you love and have a passion for does wonders with your life in alot of ways. Do things you like such as watching a comedy movie.laughing always boosts the spirits.You can tell me some activities you like and I will be happy to help you come up with some ideas to cope with what you are dealing with!I hope this helped,If you have any further questions regarding this topic or any other topic for that matter do not hesitate to send me a private message I will honered to be of aid to you..The best of luck to you!Remember,thinking positive is one of the only keys to happiness!!!Rememeber you are a special person and very beautiful inside and out,You have qualtites that no one else has and you can do ANYTHING you put your mind to,No one can take away your special qualities and others will love you for what you have to offer,you have apurpose in this life just like everyone else,you may not know what it is yet but you will find it out sooner or later!I care about what you have to say and your feelings and I understand what you are going through is difficult but i know you will get through..YOU ARE AMAZING!:) :-) :-0I hope this helped,If you have any further questions regarding this topic or any other topic for that matter do not hesitate to send me a private message I will honered to be of aid to you..The best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:) :) ;) :) ;)
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okay im 15/f and my boyfriends 14/m.
weve been dateing for awhile now. and we fight all the time. about anything we go to diffrent schools to. so it doesnt help.he has made me cry in public and pretty much every day. but the days i see him wich is only twice a week or so. but he has told me that he thinks its weird when were not together and my frineds really hate him like they truely do. but im in love with him i know im only 15 and i could say it about every guy i date but ive never felt this strongly for someone. he doestn like the fact that i have done alot with other guys we fight about that all the time. and he yells and says he doesnt want to talk to me then he says he loves me and is sorry. im greatly confused on what im supposed to do should i trust my friends when they say hes no good for me or should i go with what my heart says to do? both seem right to me but they both cant be right? (link)
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Hello,Well if you are going to have a boyfriend it should be somoeone that truly cares for you and excepts you for you no matter what happened in your past.If he truly cared for you and loved you the way he says he does he would not make you cry on a daily basis, I mean relationships have there issues but making you cry that mcuh is unacceptable, he should be the one comforting you when you cry not being the one making you cry. A guy that you are with should always want to communicate with you when you guys are having issues because talking about it is the only way to solve it,I mean yes some people need time to think about the situation but saying he doesnt want to talk to you is very selfish and inconsiderate. I beleive he is rather immature and you should talk to him about him making you feel this way and see what his response,if he his willing to change and you see a big difference then maybe you should give him a chance but honestly i do not hink he will change,people that hurt others usually keep this pattern and continue after time,he may stop for awhile then go back to doing the same thing and that is not what you want or deserve,you deserve the best,never settle for less than what you deserve. I know you may love him but you wont be with him forever,like Im not sure you will marry him but then again you dont know the future, you should be enjoying your youth and all your relationships not being miserable and crying most of the time.You will find a guy that respects you in every way, you will have lots of experience with guys, your time is just beginnging,you will really fall in love and have the joys of a real relationship. Friends can really influence your choices but you neeed to do what is the best for you at this time,remember your heart is not always right!I hope this helped,If you have any further questions regarding this topic or any other topic for that matter do not hesitate to send me a private message I will honered to be of aid to you..The best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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14/f
usa
thank you for reading this. i have a problem with my friends. latley things have nto been nearly of how great they used to be. there are these two that i thought i was really closed to. well i found out that they pretended to be someone asking me out on myspace but turns out it was really them. but i found this out about a month after it happened and they pretended to be him on the phone. i completly feel humilitated becuase i thought they trusted me. they are extremly sorry for that they did and i know i should forgive them but i have 0 trust for them right now. what should i do? should u be their friends or shold i try to move on. oh . . . one more thing. we are different people. they talk about sexual things a lot and im a christian with a purity ring. we have fun together but sometimes i think things go overboard. what should i do? (link)
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Hello,first off you should do what makes you feel comfortable,your feelings are at stake here.A true friend is honest,caring,someone you share similar qualities with,someone who cares for you and someone that you feel comforatble with overall. From what you are saying i do not think these are true friends,their qualties are almost opposite from yours and this could cause you to fall into temptaion with you being christian and not wanting to talk about sex because of your values.If they were truly your friends they would talk about sex alittle less or not at all when they around you,but they are pretty young so they probabaly do not take what you care about most and your values into consideration. If a REAL friend knew you liked someone and had a general interest in the they would never ever pretend to be him asking you out that is very immature and I am pretty sure it hurt your feelings.When you have a friend
they shoule be their to help you when your feelings are hurt not be the one hurting your feelings. Also everyone cannot be labled as your friend,just because you have a good time with them does not make them your friend,I true firend is hard to find and you will know a real friend when you have one because you will feel that special bond. You should definitley move on from them and or just label them as associates,friends do not bring your life down in any way,only up!!I hope this helped,If you have any further questions regarding this topic or any other topic for that matter do not hesitate to send me a private message I will honered to be of aid to you..The best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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ok so me and my friends were walking up to p.e 1 day and we wrere hanging with the crew when this guy let's call him zach walks up and like playfully hits me in the stomach I playfully punch him in the arm back. Then my friend goes around and tells secrets and I'm like what? And she's like well you and zach look good toghther And I'm like ya I knew you were going to say that. The next few days he's been kinda flirty and then stopped for like a day and now he's back. I'm getting mixed signals. I have never had a bf. Also me and my friends were taking pic and he hopped in one. If that helps. I have no idea how to flirt or do anything. Please I'm begging you I need helpppp I'm only 13 (link)
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Heloo, sounds like he might have alittle crush on you or maybe just being around you,there is no rule to flirting yo just go with the flow. If you are not intersted however do not try to flirt back,leading a guy on when you are not ready for a relationship is not good, You guys are really young so just have fun right now if you like something ab out him then just get to know him more, no needto start thinking about jumping into a relationship just yet. If he its you its always fun to playfully hit him back as you did, gaze into his eyes alittle while he is looking at you that will be a good flirting technique,give him compliments like if you like his haair,what he is wearing or anything it shows that you are paying attention to him and noticing him. One important thing is being yourself when you flirt do no try to act like someone you are not it will not help at all.Just have fun and see where things go, no need to rush anything:)I hope this helped,If you have any further questions regarding this topic or any other topic for that matter do not hesitate to send me a private message I will honered to be of aid to you..The best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 9 months now. We're both 16 and we love eachother.
but he has this crazy ex. (don't they all.) and she wants him back so bad. but he loves me.
so one night he got drunk( or so he says) and kissed her. but then practically fainted and cried. ( i wasn't there...his friends, who i'm close with, told me) so that first day back he told me. he told me everything, and didn't lie about anything. which i respect and loved that he told me. but ever since then, i feel like he might do it again, but he's that kind of boy who...tells the truth. i know its hard to understand, but like. He's a good boy, and had a good family...it's just he made a mistake. I still love him, but it feels like there's something missing. Of course, i'm still afraid, but its a cycle. One minute i'm fine, and the other minute i'm freaking out. Please help.
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Hello.well as you know he is human and he made a mistake while under the influence and if he was really under the influence then he in a way had no control over his actions because when you are intoxicated your concsious mind is sort off blocked and thinking tends get get thrown of balance as you may well know so if you think about it in that way it makes it a little better. It seems like you really know your boyfrend and his past which is important because things that happen in the past usually come up in the future and effet the future, if he may have cheated in the past it may come up again in another situation. However if you honestly beleive that he care s about you and is there for you then you should have alittle less of a problem beleiveing that he wont do it again,just try to have alittle faith and know that you can only live in the present and you have know way of altering and or seeing what will happen in the future. Everything happens for a reason and if he was to cheat on you in the future then you will know that he obviously is not the right guy for you, every girl deserves a guy that will care for her,respect her and cherish her and if he is with a girl that he shouldnt need attention from any other girls. If you keep worrying about this it might effect your relationship and will make you become,jealous,or overprotective and may well ruin the relationship you have now. So all in all try to think positive you know the kind of guy he is and live in the present that will help you in a number of ways even with issues that do not involve your relationship. I hope this helped,If you have any further questions regarding this topic or any other topic for that matter do not hesitate to send me a private message I will honered to be of aid to you..The best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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i have many guy friends. i am really really boy crazy. i'm fifteen and a 10th grader.
around one boy i am a complete nerd and i can act myself and loud and i have so much fun around him and i cant even do that with my best girl friend. i am usually pretty shy around guys.
I really think i like like him a lot because i can act my full self.. i was actually wondering if i.. loved him.. is that possible? because i have no idea why i can act so normal! or do i just not care because i think of him as a friend and dont care what he thinks? i've hooked up w/ him before and i did like him and when i kiss him it is something special but the problem is i can't like him because of my best friends.. (thats a whole other story)
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Hello, well you are in a very confusing state of your life, you are 15 and still figuring out yourself and others. When you become older you will realize that your awkardness and or counfusion about boys will dwindle, When you mature you will find that you can be your total self and be toatally comfortable with a guy and not like him in that way to ahve a relationship but just to be good friends. This may feel different because you may be use to only feeling this close to a girl that is a friend and when you feel this way about a guy it gets confusing because of the whole relationship thing, PLenty of girls have guys that are there bestfriends and or girls its just about who you connect with and who understands you. But you know yourself better than I do so may very well have feelings for him, you do not have to convince yourself it is just a friendship it is what it is and only your feelings can tell you this, Friends are important but they cannot make decisions for you and have them alter your decisions you have to do what is best for you and if they dont understand then they may not be the friends you think they are,friends support you but after all i dont know the situation you are in.I hope this was helpful if you need any more advice with this information or anything else for that matter I am here,you can send me a private message and I will be glad to help you with anything..the best of luck to you!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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Okay. I have been off and on with my current boyfriend for almost 2years! Ive done some real stupid bad things during the time we were broken up. I dont know if i did these things cause i was hurt or no. When we broke up the last time he got a girl and it really hurt me bad even though i made the decision to break up. Anyways i started to talk to alot of guys to get him off my mind but it didnt work. During this time i half way had sex wit two guys. .when i say half way i mean it started but i stopped! With one of the guys the condom broke and i got sooo damn scared of being pregnant, std's, everything! So i took this pill called the plan b, its suppose to kill all sperm cells and it did! Thank God i wasnt pregnant! But the real problem is, about a month ago my friend called me and told me that she heard that he had something and i freaked out. I went to get tested before but i never came back for the results! I am now back with my ex(of almost 2years) and we have had sex and oral sex plenty of time before i got the phone call. Nothing feels different too me but im just scared. I called and ask the guy and of course he denied it but i still made a appointment to get checked out! Im sooo scared of having something. Im not scared for myself cause if i had something i would take responsibility and get cured but i just scare of me giving him something and him leaving me! He dont know about this or the guy. Im planing on telling him but not now! What do i do? How do i tell him if i do have something? Am i a whore? ugggh! Please help! (link)
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Hello,well first off you are absolutley not a whore, everyone makes mistatkes and its not like you went around sleeping with tons of guys when you broke up with your boyfriend after all you barley did because you stopped it, which was agood choice. More importantly communication is vital in any relationship if you want him to trust you and beleive that you can be there for him you first have to be open and honest about any and everything. Since you guys have had many sexual encounters if you do have an STD then you more than likely have passed it on to him as well. It is better to tell him as soon as possible the whole situation in detail that you might have an STD it is better for him to find out now than in the future without you telling him that shows that you do not truly care for him because passing an STD to a boyfriend is pretty intense, in a relationship you have to be honest or you will have nothing, if you tell him now it will be easier and way less stressful because if he finds out on hiw own that you were carelessly having sex with him while maybe being infected it will hurt him in a numerous amount of ways and you will more than likely loose his trust,friendship and everything else that comes along with a relationship also it will be very uncomfortable and not enjoyable if you have sex with him knowing that you are possibly infecting him. So what you have to do is have a serious hear to heart conversation with him and put EVERYTHING on the table, In this situation he could either accept your mistake get checked with you and move on or become really angry and not want to be with you because of the decision you made, If you get your results soon and find out that you are not infected than a huge burden will be lifted off of your shoulders and you will feel less guilt. I hope this was helpful if you need any more advice on how you should approach him with this information or anything else for that matter I am here,you can send me a private message and I will be glad to help you with anything..the best of luck to you!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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what are some things you girls say to make your man want you. now i'm not going to be saying this to a boyfriend because i dont have one but i AM going to take your advice on a situation. i'm just in need of some "comments" to say that lets a guy know you want to become sexual with him without it being totally random. maybe in a text, maybe in person? we're both attracted to each other obviously but i just dont know how to bring it up in a hot kind of way that will make him think "wowwww, that turns me on" haha anything will help!
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Hello,well random is good,it comes out of nowhere and is unexpected it is the best way to go. Guys like when you are upfront and tell them exactly what you want no ambiguous statements it may confuse them. They loove compliments and oer names,like baby,sexy,telling them just how attractive you think they are and how bad you want them is always a plus. In person even grabbing him and kissing him is a real turn on it is telling him what you want without words,guys love a confident girl that is in control, If you know he likes something specific something that really turns him on tell him or do that, you should maybe bring that up in a conversation and try it in the future it will be great!I hope this helped,if you have any further questions you can send me a private message if you need me to be more detailed,the best of luck to you! If you want a more specific approach I can help you with that as well!!!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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"If you have it [ Love ], you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, It doesn't matter much what else you have...",,,or so the saying goes. You see, I am in this relationship with a different nationality and religion as I am. We are both currently in a country where we are both expatriates. We've been together for more than one (1) year now. We both love each other, we have the normal quarrels that couples have. But deep in our hearts we love and care for each other. We're like bestfriends where we can share each other anything, be there for each other no matter what. We have shared laughter and tears. But the thing is we both know that as soon as our visa expires and we are to go back to our respective countries, that would be the end of it. We both know it, its inevitable. We have not discussed the idea of getting married, it just never came up between us. It was hard for me to accept it before, until now actually, but slowly I have come to accept our situation. Thinking about our "doomed fate" made me feel a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. Some of you might say, "then why the heck are you still in the relationship?!?". The truth? I don't know. I guess its something you can call L-O-V-E? Pretty stupid and lame huh? Or it could be I'm scared to be alone in a foreign country where you cannot trust everyone that you meet. Or perhaps because of the special bond I share with this wonderful guy. Deep inside I know I should let go before I fall too deep-in-love and later I won't be able to recover from the excruciating ache and grief...
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Hello,well wow what a situation,it is hard enough finding someone you love but harder to keep them,remember that everything happens fora reason and everyone is put in your life for a reason,he is obvioulsy very important to you and it is going to be hard to leave him behind very hard but as you two well know it is inevitable. So I say enjoy yourselves while you still have eachother,there is no reason to end it early, enjoy every momnet with eachother and create fond memories to last forever, When the days start widing down do special things that you both enjoy and will never forget, life is too short to be miserable any second,enjoy yourself while you can and take it one day at a time,you have to live in the present to fully live if you waste time worrying about the future or about things that you cant change you wont enjoy it. People are in and out of your life and unfortunatley your journey with this guy will be over in time but you will always have him in your heart, having this relationship will prepare you and make you srtonger for realtionships to come, I know it is hard to think positive when you know what is going to happen in the future but you know it is going to happen and that is that if you continue to think negatively it will definitley bring you down and make the whole situation worse.So just have a blast with him while you can you will not regret it!I hope this helped,if you have any further questions you can send me a privatee message if you need me to be more detailed,the best of luck to you!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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