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i love two guys and dont know which one to pick
please help me...
ok i have been on and off with this guy austin for almost six years..i love him i do..but he doesnt treat me like i know i should be treated..sometimes he even just makes me feel shitty about myself sometimes though..he makes me feel reall good...we have been through more good times and bad times..than anyone i know...also..his family is my family..they adore me..and i feel the same about them...it that makes it harder....and everytime we break up..it never fails..i go back to him.. because i cant stand the sight of him and someone else...
but theres this justin guy that has just recently come into my life..and we have become extremely close over the last 5 or 6 months..give or take a few...but he makes me feel so good...hes so sweet..hes so good to me.he treats me like way too good i feel like..he makes me feel reall good about myself...and makes me happy...but yet so does austin..sometimes...but anyway...justin has me on this pedestle..and i dont feel like i belong there..or deserve to be there...he looks at me like no one has..ever looked at me...but i cant shake this thing that i have for austin..and i hate seeing him with anyone else...im just so confused..i dont want to hurt anyone..but i also dont want to hurt myself anymore...i really really love them both..and cant picture myself without either one...
please write me back asap.
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Well I could give you an extremely longwinded, blabbering answer but I'll keep it dead simple - ditch Austin and go be happy with Justin! Why is it do you suppose that you feel you don't deserve to be treated properly, with respect, like a lady by Justin - yes because of Austin's handy work over the past 6 years!
The fact is people like Austin rarely change. Staying in a relationship with such people is like a never ending headache. Get some self respect, you know you deserve better!
Do these two guys know about each other? Because this is not fair on them either is it? Some may say what your doing at the moment is selfish! You're going to have to get the back bone to finish it with one of them. And if you can't get over this jealousy you have when it comes to Austin being with other people I suppose you'll just have to stay with him, be unhappy and be treated badly - oh yes and break Justin's heart! Don't be stupid ... Be happy! MM
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Hello,well you should always follow your heart but always do what is best for you becuse your feelings are at stake here. I am sure Austin is very important to you I mean 6 years but in my opinion if you guys have known eachother that long and he still has yet to appreciate you and treat you as you deserve then he never will, who wants to be stuck in a relationship like that and yes since you are close to his family that is a big factor but you can not base that on rather you should stay with him or not it is your choice and your choice only. Women should always be treated respectfully and be cared for to the upmost ad what justin is showing are alot of good qualities, he is treating you exactly how a women should be treated and more and the is really hard to find so you are very lucky. You should never feel like you are not good enough to be treated this good and put on a pedestle, him doing this shows his maturity,his loving kindness, his debotion to you and just how he treats women in general, I know you havent known him that long but for him to be showing this admirable qualiteis now is very good and should is probably what makes you have these strong feelings for him. Remember you deserve the best and should never ever settle, I am sure Austin i a very important guy in your life it may not be meant to be I mean guys come in and out of your life but the guys that you know are for you are the ones that show they care through their actions and are willing to change, Quick question have to actually discussed the way that he treats you to him personally because he may not even notice he is making you feel bad. If you dont tell him he will never know and still continue but even of you tell him their is still a chance he wont change, he is just used to treating you this way and just not willing to change. I think if you havent already you should discuss your feelings with him because after all if you cant communicate with him comfortably then the relationship may as well be doomed, all relationships are built on communication, if you discuss this and he is willing to chnage then you should stick around to see if what he says is true but if not you should definitley move on to better quality which is from what you said Justin. Dont worry he will always have a place in your heart and you two could still be friends because everyone is put in your life for a purpose but not everyone you meet stays in your life. Follow your intstince it will guide you in the right direction. I hope this helped,the best of luck to you and if you have any further questions on this topic or any other topic you can send me a private message I would be happy to help you..Don't forget that you are special and deserve soemone just as special as you!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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well i cant tell you how to feel but if i was in the situation i would proberly pick Justin but you need to find out how u feel about them. Maybe try spending alone time with both see what you like what you dont like how they make you feel take everything in then sit down and think and compare those two seperate times. Hopefully that will help you decide who you would rather be with. Hope i helped.
~sleepiesheep
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I'm kind of going through the same thing...
JUSTIN!! He obviously makes you feel the way a girl should feel, and even though you've been with Austin for a long time, you and Justin might have something really special. I say that you see how things go with Justin, but you said it yourself: you and Austin always end up together.
So if Justin doesn't work out, Austin might just be waiting.
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If you have beign with someone for 6 years... thats special. You will probably never have someone like Austin. While you knew Austin for a long time, and most likely know his good sides and bad, Chriss is new, and even though you have known him for a while, you still dont know him as well as Austin.
But Austin will continue treat you badly in the future. Do you really want to put up with it? Maybe you should give other guys a chance, and see how it works out with them.
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If you have beign with someone for 6 years... thats special. You will probably never have someone like Austin. While you knew Austin for a long time, and most likely know his good sides and bad, Chriss is new, and even though you have known him for a while, you still dont know him as well as Austin.
But Austin will continue treat you badly in the future. Do you really want to put up with it? Maybe you should give other guys a chance, and see how it works out with them.
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Whether you go with Justin or not, please for the sake of your self, cut things off with Austin.
My ex and I had a similar relationship for almost five years. We're apart now but we still come together when we need somebody. It isn't good for either of us and makes us feel like crap every time. What happens is that sometimes you get stuck with someone and you develop an attachment. The attachment phase is the last stage of love (lust, attraction, attachment). It's possible to love someone, to be attached to them, but to not want to be with them anymore. That is why he stopped treating you the way you know you should be treated. It's normal for relationships that have run their course. Some last a lifetime, some last days, and some last that awful in-between stage.
Basically what I'm saying is that even though you love this Austin, it's better for you if you're with Justin or someone who will treat you better. It will still hurt, regardless of what you choose, but at least with this option, the hurt has a chance of going away.
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