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i am trying to conceive for first time,so i am very eager to get pregnant.to conceive quickly i want to know the minimum intercourse time. i also soon after the intercourse semen seeps out then is it that not correct for becoming pregnant? (link)
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If you're trying to get pregnant here is what you need to do:
Go to a pharmacy and buy an ovulation kit. It's the same as a pregnancy test. You pee on a stick every day and if it turns the right color (the box will tell you) that means you're ovulating. You can also try and figure out your cycle...there are calendars online that can help you with that.
On your three most fertile days you need to do this:
The day before you're fertile, have sex. Afterwards, lie on your back with your hips raised (just put a pillow under them) for a half hour. This gives the sperm the highest likelihood of reaching your tubes (where your egg will meet it)
You want to do this the day before you ovulate because you're more likely to get pregnant that way.
Wait a day.
Do it again, in the exact same way (you on your back, raise your hips when you're done)
You want to wait a day because his sperm needs to gain "strength." You'll also probably want to ask him not to masturbate during that time either.
You're more likely to get pregnant having sex every other day than every day.
I do have a question of my own, however:
Why do you assume there's a minimum time you can have sex to get pregnant? Does the man/boy you're with not know you're trying?
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Okay so i have been talking to this guy, and he is always really nice and we've become really good friends. So a month or two after we've been talking, he tells me he likes me and that he wants to go out on a date sometime. So we have been talking every day since, and we haven't gotten the chance to hang out. But he still continued to talk to me in school and text me and whatever, and we're always flirting.
So today he told me to go online because he had a question that was important. So i go and he tells me this girl was being really flirty last night, and i noticed he didnt text me last night. So he told me that this girl wanted to hang out with him tomorrow, and she mentioned something about hooking up.
He says he doesn't really like her, he just wants to hook up with her. (He claims he's 'only human')
But then he goes on and tells me that i'm always the girl he's dreamed of having and that he thinks im amazing and he likes me alot. He said that he wont go if it makes me feel mad or uncomfortable.
I mean, ofcoarse i don't want him to go, i get jelous when he talks to other girls. But if he really liked me, he wouldnt go.
And i dont want to tell him what to do because i dont want him to think im a control freak.
What do i do if he goes?
What do i do if he doesnt go?
Help?
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He wants you to tell him not to go. He wanted to see how jealous you'd get. Guys play stupid games like that just like girls do. Telling him you dont want him to go won't make you seem controlling but it'll prove to him that you really do like him.
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what is like an amazingly good hair straightner thats also reasonably priced?
what is a really good eyeliner pencil that stays on and doesnt smear?
whats like a really original store that isnt too expensive?
im looking to update my look... (link)
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Conair makes a straightener that will straighten and dry your hair at the same time, thus making it more likely to stay straight all day.
I don't use eyeliner pencils, I use liquid liner. It will stay in the same place all day and won't smear until you wash it off. Almay makes a really cool set of eyeliners, mascaras, and eyeshadows that coordinate with your eye color. They really make your eyes pop!
My favorite stor is Charlotte Russe. The clothes are absolutely adorable! It's a little expensive but I always wait until the clothes are on clearance before I buy anything.
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please help me...
ok i have been on and off with this guy austin for almost six years..i love him i do..but he doesnt treat me like i know i should be treated..sometimes he even just makes me feel shitty about myself sometimes though..he makes me feel reall good...we have been through more good times and bad times..than anyone i know...also..his family is my family..they adore me..and i feel the same about them...it that makes it harder....and everytime we break up..it never fails..i go back to him.. because i cant stand the sight of him and someone else...
but theres this justin guy that has just recently come into my life..and we have become extremely close over the last 5 or 6 months..give or take a few...but he makes me feel so good...hes so sweet..hes so good to me.he treats me like way too good i feel like..he makes me feel reall good about myself...and makes me happy...but yet so does austin..sometimes...but anyway...justin has me on this pedestle..and i dont feel like i belong there..or deserve to be there...he looks at me like no one has..ever looked at me...but i cant shake this thing that i have for austin..and i hate seeing him with anyone else...im just so confused..i dont want to hurt anyone..but i also dont want to hurt myself anymore...i really really love them both..and cant picture myself without either one...
please write me back asap. (link)
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Whether you go with Justin or not, please for the sake of your self, cut things off with Austin.
My ex and I had a similar relationship for almost five years. We're apart now but we still come together when we need somebody. It isn't good for either of us and makes us feel like crap every time. What happens is that sometimes you get stuck with someone and you develop an attachment. The attachment phase is the last stage of love (lust, attraction, attachment). It's possible to love someone, to be attached to them, but to not want to be with them anymore. That is why he stopped treating you the way you know you should be treated. It's normal for relationships that have run their course. Some last a lifetime, some last days, and some last that awful in-between stage.
Basically what I'm saying is that even though you love this Austin, it's better for you if you're with Justin or someone who will treat you better. It will still hurt, regardless of what you choose, but at least with this option, the hurt has a chance of going away.
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Is it weird to feel like you don't have a chance with a guy because he's part of this close group of friends? I mean it's not like this is just a bunch of guys its like guys and girls who've been friends for a pretty long time i guess. And all of them i either don't know well at all or I'm merely aquaintances with. I mean I feel ridiculous because first of all he doesn't even know I like him and I'm still in the process of trying to get him to like me, and I don't even know if he likes me. And the thing is it's very possible he does like me but it's also very possible he doesn't, and I'm not going to start to explain the reasons but I don't know everytime I try to imagine the possibilities some thought like this makes me feel like I don't stand a chance. Am I being ridiculous or is it normal to feel this way?
And please don't say get to know his friends because it would be totally obvious and I'm not just gonna randomly talk to them (link)
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Calm down. It's absolutely normal to be confused about whether he likes you or not. The best source is, of course, the guy himself. Forget what the friends are making you feel like. Ask him if he wants to go out for ice cream or a cheeseburger. Don't make it a romantic lovey-dovey date situation, just a casual friends thing. Spend a lot of time with him. Remember to smile, flirt, and have fun. The worst he can do is turn you down. And if you never ask him, you'll never know.
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Ok so this guy just recetly told me he likes me, and he asked me if i wanted to go on a date with him sometime. I said yes, and i really really like this guy alot.
We've been talking for a really long time now and we hang out in school.
So he changed his facebook status to 'Its complicated'
What does that mean?
He didnt even talk to me about it, im not even sure if its me.
Why doesnt he just ask me out? (link)
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If you guys are getting pretty close, I'd go ahead and ask him what it was about. You aren't going to learn anything unless you ask. Just bring it up in casual conversation. He won't freak out on you or anything and if it's another girl, then at least you'll know.
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I'm sure it works that way. But i cant tell because i wont give it a try though. I guess it may be that i worry about what people may think, but i also dont see myself with another guy around my family and friends. I think it would be too akward, and i do like girls and can see myself being with one around people, but i think thats only because it is 'normal' to be guy & girl. It's not my opinion though. I think a girl/guy should be able to love a girl/guy. But how do i forget about this and move on to live a straight life? (link)
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The best I can tell you is that you can't "make" yourself straight. You never said how old you were but know that from adolescence well into the early adult years many people struggle with their sexuality. (On a side note, If you want to be with a girl, ask yourself if you can love her. It isn't right to lead anyone on just because you're uncomfortable with the alternatives) Remember I said we're attracted to people, not sexes? Hold off on dating until someone really "strikes your fancy" so to speak. Just be playful, have fun, flirt. You won't be missing out on anything just because everyone else has a boyfriend/girlfriend. You've got to wait until the right person comes along. Trust me on that one. You'll know.
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kay, so theres this guy, and he seems like a really sweet caring guy. i really wanna get to know him better and see where things go. but..theres one problem. i dont know him! i've talked to him, but only a couple of times at his work. but he's always the one that starts up a convo. he is soo adorable that i cant even stand it. and i just wanna talk to him, without him thinking im some stocker or something. ugg. what do i do? (link)
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Go to his work, strike up a conversation with him. It's that simple, I promise. Smile a lot and make it look like you're really comfortable talking to him. When he has to go back to work, GET HIS NUMBER (or IM...whatever). That's how you do it. You won't look creepy or stalker-ish. Once you've got a way to talk to him outside of work you can ask him on a date, get to know him a little better.
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There's this girl that lives about an hour away from me that I've only met about 3 times in real life, but we text and stay in touch on Facebook and IM sometimes. I move to her town once I graduate this spring, but the thing is I'm an average looking, kind of shy, really nice guy (which helps cuz she's had awful relationships), but this girl is a bombshell. But she's just so nice to me too, and I had a friend say "if she's still talking to you, then she likes you." I just don't know if its that simple.
Anyway, after some days of flirting with her, I seriously can't get her out of my head. Even though she's a bombshell, we've only met a couple times and her personality is to die for, so I don't think my attraction is physical yet. I don't want to do the long distance relationship thing. Should I tell her I like her, should I wait until I get up there? She's driving me crazy. And her Facebook statuses are always about love songs and she's said she has a big crush on someone, and I'm seriously praying that the person is me. Sometimes she talks to me a lot, other times I need to be the one who starts and maintains conversations, so I can't tell if she's playing hard to get. I don't want to put myself out there though and blow it, because I could take it slow and get to know her better when I move down there in May. But that seems so far away now. Do I got the bug bad? (link)
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Long distance relationships are hell on people who've been together for years (I know from experience). They're even worse for people who've just began. Don't do it. If she likes you and knows you're coming down in May she'll expect you to wait anyhow. Just continue flirting with her and she'll return the favor. I know it seems like a long time, but trust me, if you want to avoid jealousies and temptations just leave it be for now. May's not that far away. You can tell her you like her if you want, just please don't try and do the long distance thing. You'll regret it and you might lose something that could have been really good for both of you.
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how does one know whether they are... homosexual? (link)
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The same way people know they're heterosexual. Are you attracted to members of the same sex? Do you fantasize about them instead of members of the opposite sex? It just takes a little bit of searching. If you think you're gay, then you probably are. If you're with another member of the same sex and realize that it just doesn't do it for you, then you might have been wrong. Remember that people are attracted to other people, regardless of what sex they are. Once you feel that attraction, you'll know.
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Last friday I skipped school to go see my boyfriend. .I am aware of what I did so please don't lecture me about my wrong doing. .but the only reason why I did it is because my parents don't allow me to have a boyfriend. .they are what you call "strict" well I got caught and the result of it wasn't good. .my parents started flipping out and eventually forced me to come out with the truth that I have a boyfriend. .not only that but that I hadd skipped school to go see him. .since friday my mom won't talk to me and won't aknowledge me at all I tried appoligizing but she didn't accept it instead she said some harsh words to me and told me she wanted nothing of me . .it hurts to loose her trust but me and her have never had a good relationship still it affects me to see her hurt. .I never ment to hurt her the way I did . My father on the other hand accepted my appoligy but isn't exactly ok with me having a boyfriend. .I don't want to loose my boyfriend but I'm not sure I'll be able to see him anymore. .I just don't know what to do. .how do I get my mother to accept my appology or to atleast hear me out? How do I make them understand and accept me dating? (link)
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Make dinner. If your mom cooks, tell her you're going to cook that night. If your family doesn't sit down for dinner, ask them to eat at the table for once.
When everyone is seated and has food on their plates, start the conversation. Mom can't ignore you at the dinner table and she will have to hear you out. Tell her that you understand that skipping school was wrong. You know that it was a breach of their trust in you and you're sorry. Tell them that you really like this guy, but you know it's no excuse for what you did. You just want them to understand that you're growing up. Ask them for a punishment. Seriously, do it. Ask them to ground you for such and such amount of time, to take away your extracurriculars, whatever. This will show them that you're willing to take on the consequences of your actions. Once you've served your "sentence," bring up the boyfriend thing again. Tell them that you can act responsibly. Ask them if you can bring your boyfriend there, to meet them, so they can see he's not such a bad guy. Eventually they'll come around. You did mess up big time by skipping school, but you didn't do any permanent damage. You just need to show them that you can be a little more mature than you were.
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so i was in a relationship with this guy named G and we had a thing going for us for about 3 months. we were perfectly fine but then he told my best friend something about taking a break with me when i would be gone for three consecutive weekends. so my friend told me and when g found out all these rumors happened because it was like the game telephone. he broke up with me because he claimed he couldn't take the stress anymore. a day later he told my best friend he missed me and wanted me back when i would be back from my three week horse show but he would talk to me straight about it. he has told all my friends he misses me, wants me back after thermal and regrets it. but he needs time to think and will talk to me when I'm back in two weeks about it, of course we still talk a lot we are great friends. do you think he wants me back or is just guilty? do you think he will actually talk to me about it in three weeks? or will he stop liking me when I'm gone? i want him back i love him. (link)
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Hun, he started those rumors. He started all of it. It's likely he felt trapped in a relationship and wanted out. Now that he's out he realized that he doesn't like to be alone. So he wants to start it back up the way it ended. Telephone again. That way YOU're the one making the decisions about it, not him.
When you get back, he will want you back...but it won't be what you want it to be. If you love him, really, you guys are better off as friends. At least you know you'll never lose him that way.
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I've been dieting and just generally eating better for about a month now, and I've lost around 8 pounds. I did this through cutting calories. I also go to the gym at least three times a week, at which I run on the elliptical 3 miles and lift light 2.5 lb weights to try and tone my arms [not trying to gain muscle just trying to keep from losing muscle along with the fat I'm losing]. I also walk to and from my classes, at least a mile total each day. I haven't slipped up at all with my eating habits since I started this diet, yet I went to weigh myself and the scale said I gained two and a half pounds... I'm kinda really upset about it since I have been doing really well with everything, and I could expect maybe staying the same weight but not gaining any!
I weigh myself at the same time everyday and I use the same scale at the gym, so unless someone screwed with the scale, I dunno how I gained weight. Any ideas? (link)
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Here's the obvious answer: are you on your period? Monthly cycles have a lot to do with weight loss/gain. If so, it could just be water weight.
You could also have been gaining muscle. Remember that muscle weighs more than fat.
The third answer might have to do with your water intake. Are you drinking at least eight glasses a day? Your body has a hard time digesting if it's dehydrated and it will often store the extra fat until it gets enough water.
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Hello. I'm in need of much help. My boyfriend and I have never had sex but we do fool around. My period is extremely light, like less than a drop if that, and both of us are really worried that some sperm may have been transferred from him to me down there somehow. Maybe through a hj and then me putting my hand down my pants for some reason? Is there any chance that I could be pregnant? It's tearing him and I apart, and I love him. Please help me, please. I'm 15 if that helps any. (link)
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No, hun. Sperm can only survive seconds in open air. The chances that you were ovulating, that live sperm got on your hand, that it survived the trip down your pants, that it still had the strength to swim all the way up your vagina and INTO your tubes to meet the egg---they're next to nothing. Like .0000001 percent.
It's likely you're just spotting before your period gets heavier. That's normal. If next month your period doesn't come, then you can worry about it.
But like I said, it's next to impossible that you are pregnant from just fooling around.
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i went on my first date (what i mean by first is that he had a car and he drove us to the movies and we drove around) with this guy in october. we technically had a thing for a month before that. after the date it went well and everything until the middle of october.
i still like him and we havent talked other than "hellos" and a few random conversations.
i know for a fact he doesnt like me :/
it felt like a movie once when he was walking with his friends and he was staring at me talking to his friend and so i made a cute smile and then he laughed and it felt like it was just me and him in the hallway. out of all the girls in the hallway he was looking at me.
do i still like him just because he was my "first date" and it went perfect?
i mean i don't like like him but i still have feeling for him...
he is very very flirtatious and i am very very boy crazy.
how do i get rid of those feelings? (link)
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You are going to have feelings for him. He was your first date. It'll fade eventually.
You'll realize soon, though, that you don't like him but you DO like flirting. It's fun! It makes you feel good. Be as flirtatious as he is! Find guys you're interested and get their attention. Just know you can flirt in good conscience but that it isn't going to lead anywhere. Once you stop wanting it to lead anywhere, you'll feel a little less boy-crazy (and the boys will be a little more likely to want to date you anyway).
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(17/f) I'm with a guy right now and I would like to do something nice for him for valentines day. We are not thatt serious, but I still want to do something kinda special instead of just buying him chocolate or something. Anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Have a romantic comedy movie marathon with popcorn and homemade heart-shaped sugar cookies. He'll like it (boys like food and funny things...always lol) You'll have fun and it'll be an all-day thing.
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Ok. Well i really really like this guy, and he makes me smile and all the normal stuff. haa. and well i told him like 5 months ago that i just wanted to be friends because he wanted something more.
And now i want something more than friends. and he asked me this question " Do you wanna be friends or something more than that?"
And i was like wanting to say yes but than no at the same time. And now i have to tell him tomorrow at school. And i mean i like him and all butidk what to say because he's sweet and all but is kinda weird. haa. helpp? (link)
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If you have a very strong friendship, then I would go for it. You'll spend a long time (if not the rest of your life) wondering if there could have been something there. He obviously likes you. If being "more than friends" doesn't work out for you two, you can be pretty confident that there won't be any weirdness going on afterward and you can still be friends.
Alternatively, if your friendship is kind of weak and you're not sure it can survive a relationship then break-up, I wouldn't risk it. Sometimes it's better just to stay friends.
You just have to figure out what kind of friendship you have.
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My bf is in a different state then me for college. Our half a yr anniversary is coming. His parents are going to go visit him before our anniversary so i want to give them my gift so they can give it to him. But i dnt knw what to get? Ive given him things he likes clothes, sport stuff but i dnt knw now. (link)
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Do you have any inside jokes? I know my ex and I had an inside joke about cacti (don't ask lol) so when we were going to different schools, I sent him a cactus for our anniversary. He really loved it and called me as soon as he got it. (He still has it, actually)
If you write, you could write him a poem or even a letter. Guys really like getting the corny stuff even if they don't admit it.
The point is: get creative. It's nice to get a new shirt or some boxers, but it's the creative stuff that sticks with him.
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okay i really like this guy and everyone says tthast i said i want to bathe with him in pudding and i dont and now he thinks im really creepy so how do i telll everyone i didnt with them believing me.?
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Well, you need to figure out HOW this rumor got started to begin with. Just to satisfy your own curiosity. Something that creepy doesn't just pop up out of nowhere. If you really never said that, and you know for sure the guy heard the rumor, then you can bet he thinks you're creepy. The best thing to do is to talk to him about it. Don't be weird about it. Just find a time when he's not surrounded by friends, walk up to him, and say, "Hey, can I talk to you about something?" He'll probably look at you weird but it's okay. Say something like, "look, did you hear some really weird thing about you, and me, and pudding?" (laugh a little because it'll ease the tension and he'll probably laugh with you). "I just wanted to tell you that that isn't true. [NAME OF WHOEVER STARTED THE RUMOR] made it up." And, if you're really brave, you can tell him that you do like him and would like to hang out with him sometime.
Not only will he think you AREN'T creepy, he'll probably be impressed by how brave you were.
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