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I messed up. .parents don't trust me
16 f
Last friday I skipped school to go see my boyfriend. .I am aware of what I did so please don't lecture me about my wrong doing. .but the only reason why I did it is because my parents don't allow me to have a boyfriend. .they are what you call "strict" well I got caught and the result of it wasn't good. .my parents started flipping out and eventually forced me to come out with the truth that I have a boyfriend. .not only that but that I hadd skipped school to go see him. .since friday my mom won't talk to me and won't aknowledge me at all I tried appoligizing but she didn't accept it instead she said some harsh words to me and told me she wanted nothing of me . .it hurts to loose her trust but me and her have never had a good relationship still it affects me to see her hurt. .I never ment to hurt her the way I did . My father on the other hand accepted my appoligy but isn't exactly ok with me having a boyfriend. .I don't want to loose my boyfriend but I'm not sure I'll be able to see him anymore. .I just don't know what to do. .how do I get my mother to accept my appology or to atleast hear me out? How do I make them understand and accept me dating?
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I know from experience that it hurts deep when stuff like this happens but the truth is we all cant escape sadly what our parents want us to do. either handle it maturely and talk to them bout how much you love this kid and prove to them it'll better your life or sacrifice a boy that isn't going to be there forever. your 16 you no where near the point of when guys start to change and want new things same for you. you'll change to. parents are forever but boyfriends arnt. All i have to say is no matter what happens from here on never abandon family. They are the only everlasting things in the world
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Make dinner. If your mom cooks, tell her you're going to cook that night. If your family doesn't sit down for dinner, ask them to eat at the table for once.
When everyone is seated and has food on their plates, start the conversation. Mom can't ignore you at the dinner table and she will have to hear you out. Tell her that you understand that skipping school was wrong. You know that it was a breach of their trust in you and you're sorry. Tell them that you really like this guy, but you know it's no excuse for what you did. You just want them to understand that you're growing up. Ask them for a punishment. Seriously, do it. Ask them to ground you for such and such amount of time, to take away your extracurriculars, whatever. This will show them that you're willing to take on the consequences of your actions. Once you've served your "sentence," bring up the boyfriend thing again. Tell them that you can act responsibly. Ask them if you can bring your boyfriend there, to meet them, so they can see he's not such a bad guy. Eventually they'll come around. You did mess up big time by skipping school, but you didn't do any permanent damage. You just need to show them that you can be a little more mature than you were.
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