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will i lose him for this?
Okay. I have been off and on with my current boyfriend for almost 2years! Ive done some real stupid bad things during the time we were broken up. I dont know if i did these things cause i was hurt or no. When we broke up the last time he got a girl and it really hurt me bad even though i made the decision to break up. Anyways i started to talk to alot of guys to get him off my mind but it didnt work. During this time i half way had sex wit two guys. .when i say half way i mean it started but i stopped! With one of the guys the condom broke and i got sooo damn scared of being pregnant, std's, everything! So i took this pill called the plan b, its suppose to kill all sperm cells and it did! Thank God i wasnt pregnant! But the real problem is, about a month ago my friend called me and told me that she heard that he had something and i freaked out. I went to get tested before but i never came back for the results! I am now back with my ex(of almost 2years) and we have had sex and oral sex plenty of time before i got the phone call. Nothing feels different too me but im just scared. I called and ask the guy and of course he denied it but i still made a appointment to get checked out! Im sooo scared of having something. Im not scared for myself cause if i had something i would take responsibility and get cured but i just scare of me giving him something and him leaving me! He dont know about this or the guy. Im planing on telling him but not now! What do i do? How do i tell him if i do have something? Am i a whore? ugggh! Please help!
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You guys were broken up, so please don't beat yourself about that! He got a new gf at that time anyway! I really think it's actually mature you went through the plan b, and getting checked out, because ALOT of girls don't even do all that. It's so great to heart you're taking all these precautions :] Honestly, if you love this guy and you don't want to lose him, WAIT until you get all the results from whatever test/s you took BUT please refrain from doing any sexual activity! If it turns out you have something, that's when the absolute truth has to come out no matter what, because it's about his health also. If the tests turn out good and you're okay, then I don't think it's necessary for you to tell him... just make sure you don't have sex until the results come in!
be careful! and hun, to be honest, he could have something from whatever girl he was with during the breakup! so it's not only on you... relax! and good luck :]
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Hello,well first off you are absolutley not a whore, everyone makes mistatkes and its not like you went around sleeping with tons of guys when you broke up with your boyfriend after all you barley did because you stopped it, which was agood choice. More importantly communication is vital in any relationship if you want him to trust you and beleive that you can be there for him you first have to be open and honest about any and everything. Since you guys have had many sexual encounters if you do have an STD then you more than likely have passed it on to him as well. It is better to tell him as soon as possible the whole situation in detail that you might have an STD it is better for him to find out now than in the future without you telling him that shows that you do not truly care for him because passing an STD to a boyfriend is pretty intense, in a relationship you have to be honest or you will have nothing, if you tell him now it will be easier and way less stressful because if he finds out on hiw own that you were carelessly having sex with him while maybe being infected it will hurt him in a numerous amount of ways and you will more than likely loose his trust,friendship and everything else that comes along with a relationship also it will be very uncomfortable and not enjoyable if you have sex with him knowing that you are possibly infecting him. So what you have to do is have a serious hear to heart conversation with him and put EVERYTHING on the table, In this situation he could either accept your mistake get checked with you and move on or become really angry and not want to be with you because of the decision you made, If you get your results soon and find out that you are not infected than a huge burden will be lifted off of your shoulders and you will feel less guilt. I hope this was helpful if you need any more advice on how you should approach him with this information or anything else for that matter I am here,you can send me a private message and I will be glad to help you with anything..the best of luck to you!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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