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My bangs are comepletely uneven I Would have a stylist cut them so their even but if i had her do that, by bangs would probably be about an inch long. They are very short in the midle and then get longer as you get further from the center.

1.) How can I grow my bangs?
2.) I really like side swept bangs. Can I do that now? Or do I have to wait till they grow out? (link)
I cut my bangs myself, right up to a little bit below my eyebrows. People said they looked good, but to even. Whatever. But i think that if you put them straight across, it would look really funny. And even funnier if they were only an inch long. Good luck doing anything with them if you do. And if you want to swoop them [my bangs have always been swooped ever since i can remember] just take a shower and part them the way you want them to swoop. Don't blow dry your hair, just let them air dry that way. It'll work. I've been doing it for the past few days. Also, you can have them swooped on days you want, or on your face the other days. It's all up to you. but i wouldn't get it professionally done. It would look really bad to have them barely an inch long.


Im 15 F and a virgin. lol i was wondering, how bad do you think it would be if i had sex with a guy if im dating him for about 4 months.. Also what if this guy was my first boyfriend and first kiss ? (link)
You're fifteen, a female and a virgiin. It would be horrible for you to give your virginity away to someone you've only been dating for four months, even if he is your first bf/first kiss. You're so young, you have to much going for you to give away your virginity so some boy who probably wouldn't care if you got pregnant or something. and what if you did get pregnant? if you're school is like mine, and you're in any extra curricular activities, you won't be able to do them. you'll be screwed in jobs and stuff. And you'll probably end up raising the poor baby by yourself. I would say, yes it would be bad. But then again, it's not my life. i can't stop you, but i don't think you should.


I was wondering if any one could tell me their experiences with adopting children (or if you are adopted). Do you feel like there is a "bond" missing? Do you wish they were blood? Things like that...And if you are adopted do you feel like you are missing your biological family? (especially kids who were adopted after like age 2 (so that they remember the process)?

Also, does anyone have any experience adopting kids from an abusive home??

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I was adopted by my father when i was seven. he's always been my father, but i was adopted when i was seven. i still have my biological mother and stuff, but when i was eleven my parents told me about it. I'm almost fifteen now, and i still feel sorry that my "real" father didn't care enough to stick around after the one night in which he met my mother. But then again, i have to realise that he didn't want me, and my mother did, and my father did too. I always feel bad at least once, then i remember that my dad had decided to take me and my elder brother, whose dad was abusive and he doesn't know him, and he wanted to take us as his own kids, even though he has my other older brother of his own. I think that if you do adopt children, it'd be for the better, and they will realise that their real parents either didn't want them, or that they just couldn't. But you did, so they'd probably really like you. They'd feel bad, but it'd be for the better, and they'd be really happy in the long run. Just don't shut out the biological parents, or the truth. If they wanna talk, listen. If not, leave it be. Hope this helps.


Hi , can anyone help!!!!!! I am 17 years old. I have a problem in that I would like to become a Goth/Gothic/ but I am also thinking about going to college /wanting a career working with horses. But how is this possible? Can Goths get jobs working with horses? Can i work with horses and still be a Goth realistically?? PLEASE HELP!!!! it's just I desperately want to do both! It's just I have NEVER EVER in my life SEEN ANYONE who is a Goth/gothic who works in a stable yard. Also the hours working with horses are long....so how can i be a Goth in my spare time ..if I don't have much spare time? But I really want to do both...WHAT CAN I DO?? help!!!! Also I was also considering a career as an actress. I would quite like to go to college do study 'performing Arts' but again:.....can I be a Goth AND an actress...because I don't think I have EVER seen a Goth actress.Do you know of any famous actors/actresses who are also Goths/gothic/follow the gothic lifestyle??? What can I do?? I haven't decided whether I want to work with horses or go into performing Arts yet.....but whatever I do I would also like to become a Goth/gothic. Can I still become a Goth if i get a job as an actress or with horses??? Please can anyone out there offer me any advice???? PLEASE HELP!!!!! Do you know of any people who either work with horses or who are actors/actresses but who are also goths?? HELP? CAN I BECOME A GOTH AND WORK WITH HORSES/AS AN ACTRESS??? please be realistic.
I am from England
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Okay firstly, no offense, you don't just decide to "go goth" it's a lifestyle, and a thought of mind. Most people see goths as dark haired, dark and lots of make up, and dark wardrobe. Trust me, it's just a state of mind, a way of thinking. You can be gothic, and not look like it. Which would help in your career. And yes, there are lots of movies and such looking for gothic roles, and just because you are gothic, doesn't mean you would be gothic in said role. They change you. See, i am punk, but if i were to be cast, i could be changed to a "prep" wearing mini pink skirts and white polos, which i would never be caught in. As for the horses, it depends on what you are doing with them. Are you planning working with kids? because i would not suggest the goth role if so, most parents do not enjoy that. Are you just working stable hand? Because you'll probably have a uniform, and they can't stop any look you choose, as long as you follow their uniform. So yes, you probably could. But, you're seventeen, and you're choosing to just go goth? is there a reason? i was reading this, and if you just choose to go goth, you'd've probably done it by now. You shouldn't have to think so hard about something like that, you probably would have done it by now if you really wanted to. I'd say, don't go with it at all, because no one would take you seriously and if you don't want to go into horses, they may not enjoy it. It also depends on your additude. And no, dear sorry, you cannot just be a goth in your "spare" time. That's stupid and insulting to true goths. I would say, since you are seventeen, you are still finding yourself, but you've also been the way you are for a few years. Usually you find yourself by fourteen, or maybe that's just my experience. Eitherway, i would just stay true to yourself, and your future will decide itself. Hope that helps.




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