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what can i do to like get somewhere in writing i really wanna b a writer when i grow ^!! (link)
To be a writter you have to start at the bottom like everybody else! Join the news paper staff or any other classes your school offers for journalism! Plus, your dont have to be a grown up to be a writter. People write books at any age! Good Luck Darlin! -*-Sonnie-*-


Thing is I love writing journals and storys.. I like to writsongs stuff like that.. I always want do magazines stuff. I very opened person I say lot things thatjust come out. like joyce meyers if some of u know who that is.. well thing is that I want learn more grammer and writing. there any books that show and give guid bout writing..
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Look in your library for any literature books and look for a book called WRITTING FOR DUMMIES! It's a great book! Good Luck, lemme know how it goes!


I'm really into writing Dark Poems, REALLY dark poems. But the weird thing is, I'm a REALLY happy person who leads a good life with a loving family and lots of friends. o.o; I don't have any depression or anything and I'm not going through Teen Angst. Is something wrong with me? o___O; (link)
Sweetie I'm just like that! I write very dark poems b/c thats what just comes to me! =) I'm also a very happy person! When people tell you to write what you know, they apparently have never wrote before! The best writters in the world, write about things they have only researched or just made up! I would love to hear your poems by the way. Hope I helped and u shouldn't be worried! -*-Sonnie-*-


ok.i got this new courdoroy tan/white skirt..what kind of shoes would be best to wear with it? Im not the best walker in heals lol. Would plain white sneakers be good? What kinda "fancier" shoes would be best?

Also..i have split ends...but i like my long hair..does layering it sound like a good idea? (link)
Shoes: Flip flops are a great choice! =) They aren't too dressy but not under dressed! They are very fun and flirty! Also tennis shoes woud be good but not to church or anywhere dressy!

Hair: Layering would be good. If your ends are too split though you may have to have them trimmed or they'll only get worse and your hair will become unhealthy and won't grow as fast! If you do get it layered or trimed try using a diffrent shampoo. They make a special shampoo to help prevent split ends. Good Luck and I hope I helped! =)


good and cheap makeup....what kind of brands? (link)
Make*Up ahhhh my favorie. lol. For fondation I use Rimmel Natural Sensations (I think its like 3 bucks but it last a while) or Cover Girl Clean Fondation! I mostly use Cover Girl for everything else but there are cheaper brands! The best thing I can tell u is shop around! You'll find the cheapest brands at Wal*MArt and try using the wal*mart brand (it's called equate)The cheap stuff works just as good! =) Good luck and for more make*up advice check out my page or lemme some in the inbox. -*-Sonnie-*-


Hi. I Want To Get My Tounge Pierced And I Was Wondering If It Hurts And Just Some Details About It. Like Should I Close My Eyes If I Get It Done. And Is It Worth It? Will I Got Into Shock? ( If you have never had it done dont answer because i dont want wrong advice ) Thanks. (link)
No darlin it doesn't hurt. You prolly won't even feel them doin it! First they are going to ask you to stick your tongue out as far as it will go! :P Then they will take a thing called a clamp and hold your tongue still! Then they'll push the needle threw it, put the ring in it and your all done! Let me know how it turns out! Hope I helped! -*-Sonnie-*-


is it normal for me to be crying over little things when i get my period??

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Yeah most girls do it hun! Nothing to worry about! =)


for skin-i have pimples on my cheeks and chin and i want clear skin be4 school...any ideas anyone?
for hair-i have blonde hair, down just a little bit past my shoulders, blue eyes, im 5'3'' and skinny, what type of cut should i get (no bangs).?? (link)
For Skin: okay there is no way to get rid of pimples completly! They just happen, but there are things that help and ways to cover them up! *okay as for helping them, the best thing to do is buy acne pads (they are lil pads that have alchol in them) If your looking for a cheap brand try EQUATE ACNE PADS MAXIMUM STRENGTH or if price doesn't matter then OXY PADS work good. Rub that on your face (all over not just on the infected area) Then get an acne cream. Once again a cheap brand is EQUATE ACNE TREATMENT CREAM MAXIUMUM STRENGTH and a more exspensive brand is CLEAN AND CLEAR MAXIMUM STRENGTH INVISIBLE BLEMISH TREATMENT!) Rub that on the infected area and where you usually get pimples (for me its my forehead and chin! blah!) Okay you need to use the acne pads at least twice a day and the creams every chance you get. Only wash your face in the shower. Washing your face to much can get rid of natural oils that help fight pimples!Okay another thing is if you dont have the time or money to go out and buy the products you can use things you have at home. Peroxide and Alchol work great. *Now for covering them up. Get a conceler (one shade lighter than your skin) and put it over the pimples that are showing. Don't rub it in yet! Then all over your face get fondation (Natural Sensation by Rimmel is what I use but whatever works!) and put lots of dots all over your face! Now rub this all together w/ ur fingers or a make-up sponge. Make sure and blend under your chin and up to your hair line to avoid having a very bad base line! Then set w/ powder. By the way setting means to put in place so basiclly just blot powder on your face! Then take a wash rag and rub it on your face (lightly) to get off excess make*up! It may not mask them completly but it will help! Also add a great eye shadow or lip stick to take away from them!
Now for your hair, u sound like me! haha! Hair is a hard thing to tell someone what to do if you dont know what they look like, so if ya dont mind im me a pic and I'll help ya out! I know it was long but I hoped it helped! Good luck darlin and have fun at school! =)


When I get period on my underwear, I try to rinse it out in the sink as soon as possible. My question is this-- should I use hot water to rinse it or cold? I've heard both opinios for the following reasons:

*You should use hot water because it will rinse it out better.
*You should use cold water because hot water will cause it to set and then it will be stained. So I guess my question is, is this true? (link)
you should use hot water! But if ya want a tip that wokrs great, put them in the sink and pour hydrogen peroxide on the spot that needs to be clean. Let it sit anywhere from 30mins-1 hours and then rinse w/ hot water. Once u do that throw it in the laundry! and there ya go! Got anymore probs lemme some in the inbox! -*-Sonnie-*-


What are love handles and where are they located? (link)
Their mostly fat stored above the hips! And if you have them don't worry, a lot of people do and most guys think its sexy! Hope I helped! =)


i mostly like hip hop and rap..but what r some good cds to get..i need to buy some new ones. any1 have any good suggetions???? (link)
I would highly suggest Usher! He's a great artist and he's came out with some great songs recently. Eminem's new one w/ "My Band" Alicia Key's (yeah I know kinda R&B but still) has a great CD out. Hope I helped! =)


any suggestions on avoiding razor burn? (link)
Replace your shave gel w/ conditioner. Conditioner has moisturizers in it that soften the hair and skin making it easier to shave! Never dry shave (shaving without water) Also put lots of lotion on after!!


Hey, I read your answer, and it was the only one that really said anything to me. You were the first to be like "Hey, I really want to help more, so tell me this and I will." That was cool.

Ne wayz, my mom was the one who really caused the divorce. It wasn't so much coke, but more crack and heroin. I told myself I would never touch crack cause, no offense, but I am from the south and that is what minorities do and I don't wanna be that dirty. And heroin I stopped like 5 or 6 years ago because of some reasons. How often I do it... depends... I usually get fiens or cravings around twice a week, but the second semester I didn't do it but twice. Towards the end of the summer I started getting money, and went back to slaning coke, weed, shrooms, anything to make money like usually. Then I did it with some friends that never tried it... and I have fiens around every two weeks. Usually do around 40$ every other weekend or somewhere like that. You asked how old I am, I am 17 years old, turn 18 in a month. And at the end of 8th grade I was in rehab for about 9 months, it was 8 months, 3 weeks, and then the last week they monitered us without meetings. That stopped me until I moved from the suburbs in the Houston. So there you go... if you want ne more info, just message me on AOL Instant Messenger, my s/n in crosstxweed (it's a knock off of a band) (link)
Hey, Okay I'm glad you were willing to answer my questions! That shows that you really want to get better! I want to congratulate you on at least admitting you have a problem! That's a big step. You have a good head on your shoulders, and that is why I want to help you. I understand where your coming from, I came from a small town in Arkansas where drugs are #1 for everybody. A lot of my friends and family had or still do have a serious drug addiction. My family moved us away from there about 3 months ago and I'm not living in Lockhart, Texas which is a much better place to be. I cant give you all the information now but I promise I'm going to research it just a little more and I PROMISE I'll get back to you. Sweetie, I really want to help okay? Don't loose hope! You'll be hearing from me soon!

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OKay I got a little information for you. Now I know you want to get help but you have a problem going to your father. Have you considered your mother? She's been through it before, and I'm sure she'd understand.Not only that, but this could be a genitic problem. I viewed several web*sights (and I know from experiences) that an addiction can be caused by an imbalance. So you may have gotten the problem from your mother! If thats also out of the question here are a few hotline numbers: Substance Abuse Help Hotline: 1-800-662-HELP, Cocaine Anynomous: 1-800-347-8998, Multiple Drug/Alchol Anynomous: 1-800-0-9372. Still not interested? Then I have a little more advice. Calming cravnigs is a lot easier with more than one person. If you IM me on aol (sonnieluvsya) then I'll give you my home and cell number where you can call me anytime. And I'll help you out. I really in all honesty think you should tell your dad that you want to relocate from Housten. YOU DONT HAVE TO TELL HIM YOUR DOING THE DRUGS! Just say "Dad, a lot of people at school and a lot of my friends are doing drugs and offering it to me. It's hard to avoid and I feel like I might fall into the trap if I don't get out of here." Tell him how concerned you are and you don't want it to end up like it has with your mother! Remind him that you want to make a good life for yourself, but you don't feel like you can do so there. Nothing will change if you dont try (and just by asking for advice your trying!) I want you to know I'm so proud of you and I hope that you get better really soon. If your not happy with my advice, please let me know and we can work something out! Good Luck Darlin. -*-Sonnie-*-



this guy that i was friends with for a long time was having a bad day and when we were in art class i asked him what was wrong. and he was like back the *uck off and leave me alone. i was like jesus okay i was just asking i didn't mean to get you upset. that day we were making these clay things and there is this tool that has a very sharp edge on it and he held it up to my throat and he said if you don't get away from me i'll stab you with this. the look in his eyes was absolutly terrifying. that night on AIM i had asked him what was wrong and he was acting really funny. his typing had changed. he was making alot of errors and not correcting himself like he normally would. he threatened to blow up my school and then he threatened to kill me and himself. i got scared and i told my dad about it and the next day my dad called the school and my principal, my guidance counselor, and the schools D.A.R.E. officer sat down with the two of us and we were talking and he kept saying that he was joking about everything that he had said to me that night. We aren't friends anymore and i do not want to start a new school year knowing that he hates me. what should i do? should i try talking to him? or should i leave him alone? he was my best friend for a while and i miss having him as my friend (link)
Do you know if your friend drink or does drugs? Sometimes that's a big part of violence. I don't think you should bother having him as a friend anymore, find better ones! But pleaze dont mess w/ him, it only turns out bad. I speak from experience darlin! -*-Sonnie-*-


I know your a christian person but how do you feel about abortion? What are the right or wrong reasons for doing it?

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I have a very strong point of view about this subject. I'm just going to tell you straight! okay? Before the 60's the abortion law was that the mother could only have an abortion if she or the baby were in danger. In 196? that law was changed by the Supreme Court. They are still legal today. Now to the point, in my personal opinion it's wrong. I believe it is murder and that life begans at conception. I think that if you are willing to have sex, you should be willing to suffer the consiquences. I think that it goes against all my morals, values and christian beliefs. I think that if a woman is in danger (her life) that an abortion should be considered, but then and only then. BUT the laws are not based upon morals and values. So if the mother see's fit to end a babies life, for whatever reason, I think it should be left up to her and God. Hope this helped sweetie! :D -*-Sonnie-*-


Hey girl. My grandma just died and I'm really upset. What should I do? (link)
Its totally okay to be upset. Actually I would be worried if you said you weren't. My advice is just to let it take its corce. Crying, being sad, loosing your temper and all of that other stuff is all a part of the healing process. Its gonna hurt for a while but you'll make it through. I promise! -*-Sonnie-*-


how do you make out? what do i do with my tongue? please explain in detail....i do not understand...this sounds to diffulcult (link)
Okay sweetheart, if you've ever french kissed that's what you do when you make out. But just in case you haven't I'll try to explain the best I can okay? Well first of all when he kisses you open your mouth just a little so that he can out his tongue in. You dont want a droll fest so don't open your mouth to much. Then you want to take your tongue and kinda like play with his. Massage it, run it in circles whatever, just don't shove your tongue in and out of his mouth or just stick it in there and let it sit still. Move it around. If you feel more comfy leaving your tongue in your mouth then do so! Don't be embarrased if you mess up, make lil sucky noises, or you bump noses, just laugh it off! Making out is all about having fun! Remember that!! If you need anything else or dont understand some of this lemme some in my inbox. -*-Sonnie-*-


ok when people have sex ....does the guy all have to insert it... or does it just "go in" when they lay on top of each other...is it lyk a magnet effect...or something? (link)
O I looked this one up for ya......They always have to insert it!


how do u get rid of blackheads on ur nose without using any of those products that u buy at the store? something like a home-made remedy (link)
I use store bought products most of the time but you can use toothpaste and/or alchol!


My parents have been divorced for several years now and until about a year ago I've had a good relationship with both of them. I live with my mom and I used to see my dad every second weekend. Then about two years ago he got re-married. At first things were going good and then she got pregnant and my step-sister was born just before Christmas. I spent last Christmas with them and that was the last time I've seen my dad. I don't know what happened but all of a sudden he just stopped calling me. I used to try and call him but he never answered the phone or was too busy to see me. So I've basically given up. It's gotten to the point the point I don't even want to see him anymore because I really feel like he doesn't care. Everyone tells me I need to re-establish a relationship with him, and I've been thinking about it, but he acts like he doesn't want to see me. What should I do? (link)
Sweetie, thats terrible! On this subject I can almost promise you your going to get coflicting advice. You have to do what u feel is right. I know that u prolly already know what to do (you see, advice is what u ask for when u know the answer, u just wish u didn't.) gl darlin. lemme know how it goes! -*-Sonnie-*-




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