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im 13 and a male and some girls pick on me at school what should i do?
Girls can be really mean sometimes, especially at this age. You don't deserve to be picked on & you shouldn't give them that power over you. Keep in mind why people ridicule others: to make THEMSELVES feel better. I don't know how you're currently handling the situation but whatever you do, don't let them see that it bothers you. Bullies of any sort, whether it's physical or verbal (in your case), thrive when the victim is-- acting like a victim. My advice is to not show that it's bothering you. Just laugh it off. They'll loose the thrill of it & just stop. Good luck & if you need anymore help, let me know ♥
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there is a guy that i have liked for 2 monthes now and every night he asks me to sneak out with him.....to make out and crap like that and i talk to his friends and i found out that he never liked me but he asked me out 2 weeks ago but the only time he will hang out with me is at night when we sneak out!!!! sometimes i say no but he always says he has a surprise for me which always works but im tired of just talking to him at night i want to hang out with him and talk during the day as well but he wont!!! so i no i should break up with him but i dk!!! please help me!!!
I think you should break up with him. If he's seeing another girl & just using you for a fun time at night then he does NOT deserve you. I know it may be nice to hang out with him & you wanna continue in the day but he's got some problems if he's doing this to you. Listen to his friends because they are around him more than anyone & it's nice that they care enough about you to tell you the truth. Maybe one of his friends could be future boyfriend material? If you need anymore help, feel free to ask me!
ok... so i know this is going to be one of the dumbest things you've ever heard... but... my best friend.. idk she doesnt make me feel very good.. she does things that cause me to cut myself.. and she steps all over me.. i bend over backwards to try and make sure she's happy and everything.... but she just doesnt seem to appreciate me.. i'm a really pure hearted girl.. and it's gotten to the point where she could slap me and say she hated me and i'd still love her.. kinda like when you hear about those guys that beat there wives and they stick arond and dont rat on there husbands.. i know its dumb.. but idk... im not happy in life... she's made me weak and insecure... she swore she hated this girl amanda....those two hated eachother for the longest time... and now its like nothing happened and they're best friends again.... i hate it.. and all of my friends say to just forget my bf because she isn't worth it.. but no one understands how hard that is for me..... i know i shouldnt stick around... but gosh.. its so dang confusing.. please help me anyone!
5's to anyone that helps...... :'(
Hey sweetie, I know exactly what you are going through because I just got out of the exact same situation. How do I feel? Pretty relieved. Life will never be the same.
Basically, you have to make a choice that will change everything. It might hurt at first, maybe not. Sounds like you are just as loyal to her as I was to my best friend. I tried to stake it out for as long as I could but it ended up catching up with me. I turned to my mom & she gave me advice that I want to share with you...
Anyone that makes you feel degraded, hurt, scared, unloved, unappreciated, pushed aside, un-needed, unimportant, or drives you to self harm, they are not worth it. You have to decide whether you would rather live a life free of pain & sorrow without her, or go on living the same troubles WITH her there.
I know you're having alot of trouble making this decisian & that's what keeping you from deciding but you really have to choose. You deserve way better then someone like. I wish I had a friend like you that was that loyal. Anyone would be lucky so I suggest finding someone who will treat you kindly.
Good luck! If you need anymore help, feel free to ask, I'm here for you ♥.
I have been renting a home for 10 months now and I've paid an overraged of at least $300 dollars due to water leaks. I'm trying to find out if my landlord should be responsible for the difference in comparison to a normal water bill.I can't find advice without having to pay for it. Single mom with children and can't afford it already as it is.
Yes, the landlord SHOULD be paying the difference. My mom's friend is a landlord & when something happens in her house, she pays for it. Talk to your landlord because it is their responsibility if something in the house is out of commition or causing comotion. Good luck! ♥
Does anyone ever get questions in thier inbox???
I RATE WELL!!!!
Yup :) I've been getting many lately & I find it to be a great way to give more personalized advice.
ok this is the thing. i've read about the veet thing. if it doesnt work for anyone, well it might not work for me.
this is the real question.
if you shave your leg, does it get thicker?
i kno this sound so stupid cuz i wasn't allow to shave my dang legs. and just in case i have to do it behind my mom's back...
well i heard it does and gets thicker and stuff...
is it true?
and if you shave, how long does it last?
my friend says her legs only last for like 8 hours
Hey hun, I'm here to help! Okay, the "thicker" thing is a TOTAL myth. It just grows in FASTER but not THICKER. My legs can stage shaved for up to 2 days. I can't imagine why hers would only stay up to 8 hours. Parents make shaving out to be way more of a big deal than it really is. Try talking to your mom about it & how it's summer & you want to feel more confident about your legs. Good luck! If you have any more questions, let me know!
okay, well i have a black dad and a white mom.. well i dont have white hair and i dont have black hair either.. but its frizzy. it looks REALLY pretty when its straightened, but when you dont put special stuff on it, it looks bad.. anyway, is there any special straightening stuff that you guys know of to put on my hair?
Well nothing will techincally straighten your hair just by putting it in but there are however some relaxers that will make it straight for a while so you won't have to put anything in it for a few months. Let me give you the categories.
Cheap Relaxer ($5)
Will straighten your hair but it all depends on what kind of hair you have. It can be really dangerous or really weak. Consult someone you know or a sales person about this.
At-Home Straightening System ($30)
Not as powerful as the others but will de-frizz your hair. Easy to do at home & available at places like Walgreens.
In-Salon Straightening System ($200)
A stronger version of the "at-home" one. It works well but you need professionals to do it. To get a complete dead straight look, you'll have to flat iron it still but it'll be way easier.
Yuko, Ionic, etc. (up to $1,500)
These work a miracle on your hair. They'll completely transform it into shiny, straight hair. They cost alot depending on hair length. This is something you might wanna save up for unless you've got alot of cash.
Hope I helped you! If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask me. ♥ Good luck!
hey i need help deciding a screen name. which one do you think is better? xTHiNK PiNKx, or PiNK xx PaRaDiSe? also, if you have other screen name ideas, tell me, because that would help a lot! i have brown hair and brown eyes, and i like screen names like soursugar, lemondrop, drinksprite, godslilangel, and anglnparadise and stuff like that, but i can't use them because those are my friends' screen names, and i don't want to copy them, so help me think of one that's not JUST like theirs. i also like screen names that rhyme! i LOVE to shop, and i like shopping at abercrombie and hollister. i also do gymnastics. *~THaNkS!~*
Oh helping with screenames is one of my favorite things to do! Okay, let's see, judging by what you look like/like, here's what I came up with:
hOlLiStEr xx hUnNi
GyMnAsT fOr LyFe x3
Ox sHoPoHoLiC xO
BrUnEtTe fLiRt x0
I wrote last time how my ex wants to hook back up with me the advice was great. i talk to him and i told him how i felt and told him i was tryed of him leaving me to talk to some other gurl, and how he never sends any times with me. I seeing change in him he comes every moring to see me where it's mostly all of my girls. come to my one study hall some days to one of my class and we write notes to each other. we spend time after school with each other when we can. The thing is couple of my girls and one of my teacher friends are telling me not to get back with him. that all he want is bootie. i don't think that what should i do?
PLZ HELP ME OUT
Hey hun! My advice is to keep up a friendship for a while. The only way you can really test to see what a guy is up to is to give him rope-- but not alot. Spend time with him, hang out but don't make anything official. Then try taking him where there are other girls that might be of his "interest" & see if he stays hanging out with you. If he does then you know he's commited & with you because you're you. If he doesn't then you know that the whole time he was up to know good & that you deserve better. Good luck & if you need anymore help, feel free to leave a question in my inbox =] ♥
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SaRaH
Oh thanks so much hun! =] I'll IM you & you can IM me anytime for advice @ cRaZii x SuRfEr ♥
Can you be 14 years old and apply for a college?And can you take the SAT at the age of 14 because I took the PSAT at 13 and I just want to know? Can you?
No, you cannot apply for a college as far as I know. You can however, take part in numerous scholarship programs for great schools like Duke & Harvard. You do that as a young age & they have you take the SATs. If you get a good score then you will be awarded a scholarship to the school. I'm 13 & I take my SATs in October. Talk to your school (when you're back in from summer break) about what programs they have to offer. Colleges target you through your testing scores (you know, those BIG tests you take around March at school). Good luck! If you need anymore help hun, just let me know!
This year, i got put into the earliest lunch period at school- i eat lunch at 10:30 am. because of this, i stopped eating breakfast, so that i'm hungry at lunch. but then, since i eat so early, i am starving my the time school is out. by dinner, i'm not very hungry, and i get hungry around 930ish. i hate my eating schedule- its so screwed up and i know it can't be good for my body. any ideas?
When I was in 6th grade (2 years ago), I had the same messed up schedual. It took awhile for my body to adapt because it was something new. My advice is to just wait. I know it doesn't sound like very good advice but it is. Trust me, I went through it. Your body needs time to adjust to this new routine. If you can, talk to one of your teachers that you have in between lunch & the time school's out. Tell her that you're not used to the schedual & ask him or her if you can eat something during there class. If you have any nice teachers, they would be the ones to ask. Also talk to your parents & see if they can coordinate an earlier diner. Another alternative would be to eat something for breakfast & then when lunch rolls around, just bring a light snack to school like a salad or some fruit. Good luck & if you have any questions, I'm here. =]
Ok i am moving...and i live in one place and im moving to another and im only moving 10 or 20 mintues away and all my friends are really sad!Im not gonna be going to there jr high next year either... and i dont know how to react to it can you help me!!??
I've moved many times in my life, once across country. I know you're going through a tough time & it may take awhile to adjust. There's alot about moving that causes sad emotions to erupt but some good things too. It's natural for your friends to miss you. Things will be different for them once you move. Even though you're not moving far, you'll be at a whole new school & there will be new challenges awaiting for you. I reccomend assuring your friends you'll keep in touch with them. Tell them how close you'll be & you'll come visit alot. Explain to them how much they mean to you & how they will NEVER be replaced. Suggest that you spend some quality time together like a sleepover or a spa day. Also invite them to come over once & a while when you move & talk to them on the computer & phone. Just keep the friendship going & everything will be fine. Good luck & have fun! I hope you have a great new experience at your new school & if you need any more help, feel free to drop me a question in my inbox. ♥
ok, so recentally i have been crushing on one of my friend's brother. I know she is really protective of him and i dont know if i should tell her or not. what should i do?
I'm so happy I found your question because I was in this situation not too long ago. My friend's very protective of her younger brother & when I started liking him I knew things might be weird. For right now, I would keep it to yourself. I know from experience that sisters who are "overprotective" have the power to put a stop to many things-- even relationships. What I reccomend doing is letting things run their course. If a relationship buds from this crush then you'll tell her-- together. But as her friend, just try to keep it to yourself even though it may seem like telling her is the right thing to do. Good luck hun! If you need anymore help, I'm here for you. =]
i am 14/f with very low self-eteem. I have grown up ugly and now some guys tell me i'm hot, but some tell me i'm ugly. I dont understand. Also, I am quiet and am aftaid of rejection.
I am working on loving myself, but it is hard when you have so little friends.
Any sudjestions?
Hey sweetie. I went through the same problem. I had very low self esteem & I thought I was ugly. I was also petrified of rejection of any kind, especially since I didn't have many friends I could depend on. Then things changed. I met a girl who was very hyper & always talked about how hot she was. She wasn't THAT pretty but she was decent, & people seemed to take an immediate liking to her. We're friends but not that close. However she taught me something I want to share with you. It seemed that despite her faults, she kept confident. That's why people took to her so well. Guys are naturally attracted to girls who show how assured they are of themselves. I reccomend making a list of things you like about yourself. Also, have some close friends do the same. You'll be surprised about the things people will say about you. Then try walking around reminding yourself of those things. Hopefully it will show. If you need any more help, I'm here for you.
can you get TSS from wearing Pads?? thanks
No, you cannot get it from wearing pads. Only from tampons if you keep them in too long & they are a higher absorbancy rate then necessary. However, it is important to change your pad often (not TOO often but within a few hours) in order to stay clean. =] If you need anymore help, feel free to let me know hun.
Heh sorry, but your good advice was tempting to have me come back for more. You know that previous question you answered about cheerleading? Well, one of the answers I got had to do with cart wheels, round offs, etc. I'm just wondering if cartwheels and roundoffs have to be perfect for tryouts because those are my worse. Honestly, you haven't seen a terrible cartwheel until you've seen mine. Also, do you have to be able to do a split? Center or side? And what's a herkie? Thankyou!
Hey hun! No matter what people tell you, you DON'T have to be perfect at tumbling to be a cheerleader. Cheerleading is, as you know, a team sport & there are all sorts of jobs you can do on a squad that don't have to do with cartwheels, round offs, etc. Here are some of the jobs:
Backspot: If you've got concentration & are ready to save the day, this job is for you. You are there on the side incase the flyer falls & the base needs help. You're like the superhero of the squad.
Base: You're holding up the flyer. If you're strong & known for having great stability then this could be you. I find bases the most trustworthy people & a great position.
Flyer: If you're tiny (able to be lifted easily) then this is a great chance for you to shine. The bases lift you up & you're the one who's on top. Let's just say, not for anybody who doesn't LOVE risks & heights.
Tumbler: Basically, the person on the ground flipping around. Usually an advanced cheerleader doing all the complicated skills like round off backhandsprings, layouts, back tucks, etc.
And no, you don't have to be able to do a split. Like I said above, there are different jobs on the squad & not all of them have to do with flexibility. I do, however, reccomend stretching daily because it'll get you ready for try outs. Also, start eating plenty of nutritious food because you're body will need extra stamina. A non stop dance routine for 3 minutes can be quite strenuous.
A herkie is a type of jump. This is a picture of it: http://www.cof.ens.fr/cirque/pompom/pics/hurkie.jpg. It's an intermediate skill so don't worry if you don't have it down by try outs. Good luck & I'm sure you'll do great! If you have any more questions, I'm here for you!
i'm going to florida in 2 weeks and i'm staying there for awhile. when i wake up early in the morning to go to the parks and stuff, after i get out of the shower i don't really have all that much time to do my hair. i don't like blowdrying it down there because it is really hot! does anyone have any cute & easy hairstyle that i could do while my hair is wet without making it frizzy? thanks! i rate high!
Well, I live in Florida so I have to deal with the sticky, hot weather all the time. Pull your hair back into a tight bun and put gel on the top. It'll keep it frizz-free & out of your face. You can also use gel to sculp your hair into 2 braids or 2 "knots" on the top of your head. That way it'll be out of your face when you're at the parks. Have fun in the sunshine state!
I have a friend you always says she's really depressed. At first i really was worried and i belived her to the fullest, but now its like she does it only for attention!! I hate it! She wont even eat anymore! I try to get her too but she refuses to! I dont know how to act around her anymore, cause she always takes everything the wrong way, Please please please help!! I'll rate high i promise!! I just dont know what to do!
You've been doing what any good friend would. Trying to get her to snap out of it. I understand what you're going through. My friend acts the same way to get attention. I know it's probably really hard on you, especially since you know she's not for real. The only way to get her to stop is that she sees she's not getting the attention she's after. Just leave her alone for a while & don't pay attention to what she's doing. Then she'll realize that it's all a waste because you're not there telling her how much you care about her & urging her to get better. I know this is a hard on you, hun but I know you'll be fine. Good luck! If you have any more questions, feel free to ask me =]