Hey! I'm Melaur-F 16 5'7 111 pounds! I've been through some tough times in my life and I have heard that I give really good advice. I LOVE helping people out no matter what age.. oh, and I can be kinda bitchy sometimes about stupid people that write LyKe DiS.. I'm not saying I always use correct grammer but COME ON lets atleast speak the same language people! I love to help on long complicated problems... they make me think! I'm an EXTREMLY deep thinker as well, sometimes I get so bad I have to see a doctor about being crazy.. which I'm not, I promise :o) Well anywhoooo... ask me absolutly anything, I promise I'll answer as long as I can read it! Take care!!!
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im trying to put in a tampon for the first time and ughhh im doing something worng ive used 4 and still hasnt worked, im tense too. how can i relax (link)
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haha like the person before me said, make sure you have the right hole, else it deffently won't work. once you know where it goes you just put it up there and take the plastic out. I think EVERYBODY has a hard time with it first so don't feel bad! and to relax just take a deep breath and remeber that youll have to EVENTUALLY get it so keep trying Good luck!
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My fourteen year old daughter has been going out with this nineteen year old boy since the beginning of January, first of all she lied to me saying that he was sixteen. I am quite worried about this. Can somebody help me and tell me what I should be doing. She is my only daughter, in fact my only child. I am worried. Help. (link)
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Wow, first when I read this I thought you were my friends mom. She has the exact same problem with my friend. First, don't yell at her about it, that just makes teenage girls *want* to make you mad. When my friends mom yelled at her, she snuck out and met up with her boyfriend. Also, as much as you would like to, don't forbid her from seeing him. She WILL no matter how much you keep your eye on her, she WILL find ways to meet up with him and since they arn't ALLOWED to see eachother alot, they will do more then they would do if they were to see eachother everyday. So, my best advice is to sit her down, tell her you are worried, and it's not HER you don't trust but it's the fact that MOST older boys only want sex from younger girls. Tell her you would be more willing to accept their relationship if you were allowed to meet her boyfriend and maybe he could come over for dinner one night. I hope I helped, by the way, I am 15 so I know what your daughter is going through, and I know that's exactly how my mom would deal with it, and I would be perfectly happy that way.
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I am a 17/m and i really like this girl. I have a plan to ask her out. The only problem is that it involves two weeks and Valentines day. The plan is to leave notes in her locker with no name just ending it the same way. Should i go for the two week plan or should i just ask her? (link)
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YES do that she'd LOVE it! awe I wish I knew a guy as sweet as you! On Valentines day bring her roses and a really cute teddy bear and ask her out that day!! :o) Hope she loves it, I bet she will!
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theres this girl i really like but she barely knows i exist. she knows i like her because her friend(who is my friend to) knew all the time. im really desperate on advice on how to get her attention p.s im only in 7th grade so dont be so technical (link)
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awe! talk to her about something, anything at all, shes just as nervous if not more to talk to you so just go up and ask her out to a movie. aw yeah do that! :)
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ok i got this friend and i thought he rly liked me and or so he says and then like so i would you kno kiss him and things like that and we were supposed to have sex this weekend i was supposed to lose my virginity to him but now this moring i found out at the high school hes sayin all kinda of rumors about me and how he can get anything from me.. so my question is how do i ask him about this? (link)
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He is using you. After you have sex with him, he will leave you right there and then. He doesn't care a thing about you.
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Hey I have dark brown hair and I was wondering if I should put blonde highlights in them? I have done it before for like 2 years and then I stopped for some reason. I was wondering if blonde highlights are still in or should I leave my hair dark brown. Oh and I'm kinda sick of blonde so what other colors can I put in my hair. I have a pic on my column its xo_sherry_ox :) (link)
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Your so pretty already! I personally think you should leave your hair the way it is. Natural hair is deffently the prettiest, I mean, that is the way you were made right? If you really want to get it dyed then I'd say dye it darker, thats the new "in" color for people to dye their hair, or you could put red and blondish highlights. That would also look really good!
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for like a week now. and the other day he asked me if i wanted sex.
we r madly in love, but im not sure if its the right time in the relationship?
what should i do?
luv nicki xxxxx (link)
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Yeah, of corse, thats what a relationship is all about, are you 13 by any chance?
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Sorry in advance for it being long. I'm 14/f and there is this guy that I really really like. The thing is we don't talk much, we don't see each other a lot, and earlier this school year he said I freaked him out. Well, during this year he has been flirting with me, and my friends noticed too. He hugs other girls, and awhile back he said he doesn't hug me because I'm too specail for his hugs. Then a couple days ago, one of my friends asked him why I don't get hugs. And he said that I don't want his hugs. I just want him to notice me, and we could talk more. But I'm kinda afraid to go up to him and just start talking or even on AIM. What should I do? I really like this guy. Does he like me or am I just being retarded? (link)
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He doesn't like you, Im sorry. Move on he's not worth your time. Find somebody who won't make an excuse to not hug you.
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What does it mean when your around a boy and he makes u feel like no one else is around? (link)
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well depends, if you don't know him that well, you like him, when you have known him for longer then your memories go back then yes, I'd agree with everbody else your in love. Remember, love is an extremly stong word, it can either make or break somthing.
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Ok, I finally started crushing on this guy, lets call him Bob, like 3 months ago, or somehting like that. He and one of my guy friends got into a fight before that, so me and Bob never really talked. I didn't evn know who he was. Then..., I started noticing him, and realized his locker was like 8 aways from mine. I was really phsyced ... I mean I'm a freshmen, and I've had a ouple of crushes this year, but nothing serious, like more then 2 weeks until I started noticing Bob. I started to get all these butterflies. Finally, after two months, I got the courage to finally talk to him. I asked him to meet me in the library once and after that we started talking. That's when I reallly fell for him! =) And then we decidedto keep meeting after school at the library and stuff and I called my friend Alice, because I knew she USED to like him and she talked with him, so I thought maybe she could help a sista out. lol. Firstly, I asked if she liked him and she's like 'um, no, i don't think so ... ' and i explained the whole story and told fhger everything. She said she'd talk to him. So the next day, my friend Kyle calls me and says I saw Alice & Bob in the library on top of each other and flirting, so i was like wtf...?! And I called her, and she said she talked to him and he told her he didn't like me. SO I was like oh, ok, I mean what was I supposed to do? ANd she told me how HE *was all over* HER! And I was like, well are you guys gonna go out or what? And she's like no, he's too much, too fast. And the next day I asked him about her. He's like 'wtf, i hate her. what a jealous bitch. i'd choose you over her ANY day, he told me that like 21 times, lol. And he'slike she's just jealous, what a jealous hoe. So then, I just you know, went on with it and then I hear that he wrote here a not later on that say say said dont ever fucking o talk to me you fucking bitch i hate you dont look atme dont talk to me ... etc. so then she strats saying stiuff that the only reason I like BoB is cause she does, which SOO isn't true, cause I asked her in the first place. S me and her aren't talking and we USED to be best friends, so yeah. then here comes the problem, Monday, no school, Tuesday I saw Bob, and said HEY to him, i was shy, lol, and I havn't seen him since. I asked around, and I thought he had ACes(suspension!) but he didn't and I heard that he left to Siberia or somewhere (he's arabian) because its some arabic holiday. BTW, he'sonly 50% arabic. And i did notice that lots of Arabs were missing in school today, so I'm not sure if its that. then I also heard that he went to iraq or palestine or wherever for 2 years and he's coming back his junior year! i was like no, i seriously wanted to cry. then I heard, he moved/transfered. my one friend has class with him and she said he was moving or something bcz he returned his books and yturned in transfer papers so I'm not sure ... He was actually the first guy I've felt reall good about. I mean just when things were going good, things got screwed up. SO does anyone know if there *IS* an ARABIC HOLIDAY? and please I need help with all of this, I don't even know what to do. I'm like obsessed with the guy, I fell for him wasy too soon and he's just gone for sure now without a site. I'm still going to try to talk to his friends but I'm not sure. I just need some help, what to do about all of this. And I CAN'T moce on ... there is NO ONE else.! thanks for at least taking the time to read this!
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Wow, that was really long! haha but if I was in your situation, I would deffently ask some of his friends. Find somebody that you KNOW he hangs out with and just ask them what happened to Bob. Also,The Hajj(Arabic holiday) is happeneing right now, everbody who is Aribic must go to Mecca,Saudi Arabia atleast once in their lives to celebrate the Hajj.I think it lasts for around a week? This might be the time he went because his parents probably didn't go when they were younger and decided to go now. If that's the case then yeah, he should deffently be back next week. If he moved and is coming back junior year then I'd say you find out where he went and get his phone number or IM address! keep intouch so when he DOES come back, you'll be the person he knows the best. If he transfered and is never coming back then my best advice there would be to get over him, I know thats hard but that is the ONLY thing you can do, other then follow him and move with him but I bet he'd be pretty creeped out ;o) haha well I hope that I helped you and I hope things work out between you, your best friend, and bob! :o)
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So how do you talk to a girl when you're in ninth grade, have no classes with her and see her once a day surrounded by her friends? I really don't know much about her, but she seems like an interesting person. Anything is better than nothing. (link)
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When you see her in the hallway, smile at her.If she smiles back, then next time say "hi". If she says "hi" back, next time be like " hey, whats your name? ive seen you around alot" and then get in a conversation. Every time you see her after that, talk to her! then eventually ask her for her number and things will all be good :o) haha well atleast thats worked for some of my guy friends good luck :oP
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Ok, I Love this guy i know and i dont mean just another crush,ive had plenty of those, this time its diffrent, this time i really think im in love, hes so perfect, and its not like i just like his looks or money or anything cause hes not like rich or anything and he really isnt what most people would consider to be hot hes just really nice and funny and i can never stop smiling when im around him, but i know for like a fact that he dosent like me,so my question is...how do i just get over him? Please, I need someones help!
Love Sick (link)
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Well, I can't answer this question fully because I don't know WHY he doesn't like you, or why you think he doesn't like you. But my best advice to get over him is, think of him getting hit in the head with a ball, or a rock, or any hard object,haha he'll look like such a dumbass and when you see him you'll be like " HAHA I liked HIM?!?" haha well that's what always works for me and my friends.. best of luck
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hey um im in 7th grade and i have never made out before, the guy that im going out with thinks i have, but i haven't, and hes tried to make his move a couple of times, i've been going behind my parents back, im not aloud to have a boyfriend let alone frech kiss a guy. My parentes are strict, they wont even let him call me, but he does anyway, lol im scared that i'll like screw up and he would think im a bad kisser. I would have no idea what to do, help me out (link)
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awe, well making out is great, honestly, it comes naturally. Let him take the lead at first, like do what he does. When he moves in to kiss you, move it alittle, when he kisses you slowly, kiss him slowly, when he puts his tongue in your mouth, do the same thing, you get used to it and you'll forget about following him and you'll end up doing it by your self. Be passionate and don't forget, nobody likes to open their eyes and see somebody staring at their cheek, so close your eyes. Have fun and dont be scared!:o)
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ive been going out with my boyfriend for a long time. he never pressures me or disrespects me. but the other day in the movies he started touching my boobs which is really unlike him. then apologized throughout the whole movie for doing it. we went out to dinner and i flipped out on him and he started CRYING. this morning at school he decorated my locker saying "im so sorry i love you" with hearts all over it. i found out that he stayed up all night making it. he was crying all day in school, and he wrote me a long apology letter. everyone says im overreacting. should i get back with him because i really want to... (link)
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YES!!!!! awww he seems like such a sweetie!
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this friday I am goin to sleep over my friends house and she has her bf sleeping over too. I dont have a bf and their probably gonna make out and other stuff. I'll probably be WICKED bored! Should i invite someone for me or just be bored? (link)
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i personaly think you should sit there and be bored
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ok this kid I like like, we knew who each other were since the begingig of the year but we never really started talkin til like Late October.. well now like everytime we talk, we flirt. and well ive grown to really like him. but these girls dont like me bc one of them likes him i guess but anyways i guess he was testing my jealousy bc he was messing with the other girl at lunch one day and thats the place where we really talk and i stopped talking to him for a day and he never went back over there to talk to her.and like.. he live up the street from me and my friend lives near him.and we were walking down the street and we saw some other boys we knew and they were like yeah uhmm we were gonna play football and ur boys the last stop.and im like ok and sarah, my freind goes and gets him
BUT she tells him that I wanted him. and he comes down the steps like what? and im like i didnt want u! and he jus looks at me.and im like anthony and Roman wanted u.but they had gone around the corner to get someone else.and I looked really stupid jus standing there.but anyways,ever since that day..i guess he found out that I liked him alot or whatever but ever since that day, he always finds a reason to give me a hug a least once a day.and like now ive really fallen for him.
Does he like me? How much longer should I wait for him to make a move? Im jus really into him and im kinda confused.
I rate 5 for anything!!!!!!!
*crazy in luv* (link)
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aww!!! i think he likes you! it sounds like it! ah enjoy every hug you get. and hang out with him after school more often, like one day during school ask him if he wants to go on a walk or something maybe hang out at your place and watch a movie.. im betting then hell make a move! and dont be scared to do stuff with him but dont do so much that he would think your easy and then hed use you (experienced it my self) aw i wish you the best of luck!!
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alright there is this boy that is 4ever try to mess around (and people think we're family!) w/ me either snacthing my food or callin me and my friend gays witch WE R NOT AT ALL and 2day at lunch he comes 2 my table and sit right next 2 me and start mess w/ my friend and i he points 2 my friend and says 2 me that ur gurl? i say hell no then my friend asks him is that ur gurl? he stops and gets mad quite til i say push him away from me and then we start talkin' again and he moves right back next 2 me. so is he messin 4 fun or love? (link)
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by what you said it sounds like hes messing around
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I have this in school and I would consider her one of my best friends. She has a boyfriend and I really like her boyfriend. I don't know what to do. I have asked some of my friends that don't know her but they tell me the same thing, don't do anything. I wouldn't want to lose her as a friend so I won't do anything. But know what if they break up and he likes me? do I go out with my best friends ex-boyfriend??
thanx (link)
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no no no no no never ever ever not good dont do it- unless hes the love of your life and you guys are going to get married and die old together then dont do it
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i used to hang out wit a bunch of my friends. now one of those friends has told the other friends privatly how she misses hanging out with eachother, only she didnt mention my name. now i didnt hang out wit my bestfriend to see what would happen. now none of them are my friends anymore. what should i do? (link)
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i dont get it were yall not friends from the start?
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well last year (6th grade) i was asked out by one of my best guy friends and i said yes, but then the next day i told him that is was just to weird and i wanted to go back to being a bff, so that whole rest of the year i have not talk to him and the whole time of this year i have not been talking to him, i mean sometimes we talk on AIM, but its just so weird, and im not sure that i really want to be his friend again, one of my other guy friends told me that he still liked me... so i was really confused. so in all of my class that are with him, i get soooo shy, and i have not raised my hand once in that class and im not as social, i am always just soo hyper and entergetic and crazy around everyone else! i dont want to talk to him, but is there any advice on how to just be more in to the game, because i am getting really bad grades in that class because im to shy to raise my hand to ask about something that i dont get!so i need serious help and advice! (link)
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aww! sweetie i think every single person knows how you feel. hes intimidating. you dont want to make a fool of yourself infront of him. but look at it this way, if you stay not talking you are going to get bad grades and never make things up with him, but if you grow the courage youll learn more in that class and theres not doubt in my mind that he'll still think your awesome because thats the way you were before right? leave somthing in the Inbox it'd be fun to talk about it!!
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