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Hey I'm Jodie.

I'm pretty awesome at giving advice to everyone.
I dont beat around the bush though. I am blunt and sarcastic, and I'll tell you exactly what I think. Get used to it. If you rate me low, it doesn't break my heart.

I haven't had the best life. Its had its stressful times. But I use that to my advantage now. Its made me a wiser person.

I'm funny, and outgoing. I'm generally a pretty happy person. And I'll try my best to answer any question that you throw on the table.



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hi i'm a 15 year old guy and i like this 15 year old girl....we met almost 5 years ago and ive cared for her so much ever since..we are great friends and i would do anything for her just to see her happy and we went out 2 times before about 2 years ago but she broke it off the first time because she thought our friendship would b in jeopordy and i said i understand that and then the second time i broke it off because i had heard she was going to break up with me and go out with sum1 else so i ddi it to save sum of the pain but it still hurt and i dont know what to do because i ve tried to go out with other girls and none of themm compare to her and i tried to tell her how much i care and she said she just didnt see me as more and i want to show her we can be ive tried this summer to get together with her but she claims she's very busy...summers almost over now and i want to see her before school starts but i also want to tell her i ve tried to go out with other girls and none of them compare to her..is that a good thing to do? Thanks in advance for the help

Hey.
Well you could try being just really nice and sweet to her. But don't overdo it. She knows she has you as a friend, so you can talk to her and spill your heart out to her, or just give her subtle hints.

Be there for her if she feels depressed, just be an all around good guy, maybe she will find that she has the same feelings for you when she knows that you can treat her so well.

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im 13 and my sister is 9 and our next door neighbors have 2 sons (one is 6 ryan and one is 9 chris) my sister and chris are best friends and they do everything together and hes always at our house or shes always at his house. they cannot be seperated, ever. but the younger son (the 6 year old) who is the most whiny cry baby annoying kid in the whole world always has to tag along with chris. everytime chris comes to hang out with my sister,ryan has to come to. since hes 6 he has nothing in common with any of us and he always tries to play with my sister and chris. my mom hates ryan and wonders why he cant find a friend his own age to hang out with and she doesnt want to watch another kid because even though ryan is 6 he still cant walk right he always falls and he cries all the time and my mom doesnt want to put up with it. she sends ryan home but he wont leave and my mom tries to be nice and says "i have alot of things to do i cant watch 4 kids including my own so could you please go home" ryan just wont listen and if he does leave he just sits in OUR garage for 3 hours. of course his parents dont care, they just want whatever is easier for them so they send both of there kids to our house all the time. we dont mind chris since hes my sisters age but ryan is 3 years younger then them and 10 years younger then me so we cant entertain him no one has anything in common with him. today ryan rang our doorbell we knew it was him so we didnt answer but he rang our doorbell 9 times in a row so fast so my dad opens the door and says can you please not do that and ryan asks to come in the house my dad says no where leaving soon to do errands but ryan WOULD NOT leave. he kept begging to come in the house for 5 minutes and we kept saying no sorry and closed the door. then 2 seconds later he rang the door bell 20 more times. my mom told his mom and she just thought it was funny. my family has hinted in every way that we dont want ryan over our house because he doesnt leave and hes too young for us to watch and if you look away for a minute hes getting himself into trouble like running into a wall or falling down the stairs. we've even walked him over to the another boys house who was his age but he didnt want to play with him. how can we keep ryan from coming into our house even if the doors are locked he will just knock and ring the doorbell for an hour even in the pouring rain and if no one answers he starts screaming and crying so loud. his parents dont think anything is wrong. i want to say something to ryan to let him know that we dont want him over but i dont want to sound mean. how can i nicely tell him not to come over to play anymore??? its driving us insane

Sometimes you have to be harsh with people.
Talk to his parents. Be firm with them. And tell them that he is bothering you and your family to the point where you cant get things done. Bug the parents every time that there kid bugs you, and maybe after a while they will get the point.

Thats a toughie though. I would just not give up talking to the parents and try and explain to them why you dont want him over there.

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how do i convince my mom to let me die my hair black . i have medium brown hair with old blonde messed up highlights. i don't like it casue it doesn't go with my style and one solid is what i like and dark.i have put hightlights in 3 times and dyed it before. i want to do it before school starts in 3 days

You didnt say how old you are, so if you are like 13 or 14, she can tell you not to do it all she wants. Listen to your mom, its for your own good.

Black is a pretty harsh color, I wouldnt let my kid do it. If it turns out crappy its really really hard and expensive to turn back to the original colors.

I would opt for a dark brown color instead. It will look more natural and better.

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Hey,
My sister is 12 years old & i just found out something that disturbs me a bit. She kinda has sex with a bunny.. but not really.. she leaves her pants and underwear on and everything and she puts the bunny against her genital organs and kinda like humps it.. she moves up and down and she says its pleasurful and she likes the feeling of it. Is this normal for a 12 year old to havce urges for this kind of stuff? & can this be harmful..?? Please help me.. I dont know if she young to have a vibrator.. so what should i do?

It is NOT normal to want to hump rabbits.

Is it a real rabbit or a stuffed one.

The urges are normal..but shes taking them out the wrong way. If this is a real animal..its animal abuse. Only other rabbits should hump rabbits.

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My best friend and I always go shopping at the mall together, but there`s been a problem lately. My friend always wants us to match & it's starting to get annoying because I want my own style. For example: We both were shopping together & saw the same purses. We ended up buying the same one`s but in different colors, and now my friend wants to make a habit of this and buy matching purses for every season like a fall purse, winter purse, etc. This friend & I went to the mall this past Sunday [ Yesterday ] and she saw what I had picked out to buy, it was like a tshirt and a pair of jeans, and then she picked out the same one`s. She DID ask if I was okay with her buying the same thing`s as me and since I was on the spot, I said yes. Well now I don`t really want to have the same thing`s as my friend, because I want to be an individual, not a twin!! I`m not sure what I should do or say, because I would feed bad asking my friend to take back her purchases and I don`t want to take back mine. So what I`m asking, is, what should I do to stop the matching in the future? Please Help!!

Your friends sounds insane. Dont shop with her anymore. Find someone else to shop with and buy the clothes, and if she buys the same ones, say stop buying the same clothes as me, its annoying and its tacky, and I think you should get your own style.

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13/f
Is it weird not to want sex? Other people have it before they are married, but I want it after. If even then. I always said I would adopt my children. How I see it children are like puppies. Puppies are sent to pounds because they were not able to be taken care of, or not wanted. (Same as children sent to adoption agencies.) And the reason puppies, and children, are not being adopted is because dogs, and women, keep having babies. Then when the puppies owners can't find good homes for them they are sent to the pound, which just keeps on growing. So why would we want children when there are several at adoption aggencies waiting for a good family to arrive and take them home? Plus there is all that pain, and blood. But because I don't want to do it are people gonna try to make me later on? Thanks in advance.

It's not weird to not want sex right now. Just wait a couple years, that all might change.

I wouldnt compare children to puppies though. For one..when people dont adopt the dogs they put them down..they dont do that with babies. There are LOTS of people who are on waiting lists for adopting children.

You are probably going to change your mind when you are older and find someone you really care about. Its just that now you dont have anyone so you dont see the point have having sex, but when you find that certain person that you love, your mind WILL change completely.

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ok so basically im thirteen new town new school i live in a apartment complex so i met a few kids already but now my best friend that i met here is moving [she was the only one on my team that i know]so basically im screwed but during the summer ive been all preppy i guess but the thing is i love emo gothic, & scene kids i love there style but its a new school and i dont want to seem all wierd is there anyway to incoporate preppy with emo gothic or scene? and i dont want a lecture about not listening to peoples comments and thoughts

Your 13, so you feel like you need to find your own identity.

By trying to fit into a certain label isnt helping anything.

I've said this before and I'll say it again..if you see clothes that you like and you think will look good..WEAR IT..

if you see clothes that a goth or prep or punk or WHATEVER would wear, but you arent really diggin it..DONT WEAR IT.

People respect people who are themselves. If you want to make real friends drop this whole "fitting in" thing, because the best way to fit in is to be yourself.

You will probably outgrow this whole image thing in a couple years anyway.

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Everyone keeps asking me what I want them to get me for my birthday next week. I really don't know what to say. I told them they don't need to buy me anything, but they keep asking! What should I do?

Dont complain about getting presents. At least you have people who care about you.

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some people say channing tatum is gay and some say he is straight so which 1 is it? I would like the people on this website's opinion and any true proof you have of why he is or not gay.i dont listen to magizines its bullsh*t so i want actual peoples opinons on the topic.

I dont know who that is, but I googled him.
He kind of looks familiar but honestly I cant say that I've ever seen him in movies.

No one knows anything for sure about celebrities. There are rumors everywhere about everyone so even if he is gay, people might not know the truth for months, perhaps years.

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ok so im a 15/f and i go to this YMCA pool and over there is a lifeguard... he's super cute... well the first time i went their he was making fun of me cuz my eyes were red... and the second time i went their he was staying stuff abt me i think and he kept smiling at me.. so i kinda got mad and the next time i went there he was like in my way and he goes am i in yur way and i go ya u r soo move and yeah i dunno if he likes me and im not sure if i should talk him...

Well..first of all, you need to type better next time.

But you cant tell if he likes you on that little piece of info. Just because he was in your way doesnt really mean anything.

I dont understand your question..
It seemed like more of a story than question..
But I will still give you advice..

Start talking to him..whats the worst that can happen?

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I have been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months. This is my first boyfriend and I love him a lot. But I am worried that he is losing feelings for me because before he would always say how he'd want to marry me someday and now it's like "things might change" and stuff like that. I don't know what to do and it drives me insane. If I ask him if he loses feelings for me he'll deny it but one of my friends asked him before and he said that he did before. What is that supposed to mean?

Did you really think you would get married to this guy?
High school relationships arent meant to last.
5 months is a long time.
Sorry to say but, People grow apart.

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I used to work at Walmart, until yesterday when I got fired for stealing $50 out of the cash register, to buy a present for my boyfriend for his birthday.

I loved my job more then anything, like it didn't even feel like a job, just because I had so many friends there, and going there was actually fun. I have to pay them back the money & stuff, so I'm not worried about anything happening, because we've already discussed it.

But it's really hard to get over. My parents are so disapointed in me, because my mom told me when I started the job, "Never to steal, you'll ALWAYS get caught." Obviously I didn't listen to her advice, but I just don't know what to say to them anymore, I know it's going to take time. But what can I do to gain their trust back? I get good grades in school, I'm always doing good things for other people, this just happened to be something bad that occured and I got caught.

Please help, I'd really appreciate it.
16/female.

Thanks.

Your just lucky that you got away with only paying the money back. Why couldn't you use the money that you made to buy your boyfriend a present?

As for the parents thing, it will probably take a long time for your parents to trust you again...you STOLE MONEY.

Your just going to have to wait until they think you have matured enough to have their trust gained back. Theres nothing more to say, you should've thought about it more before you swiped the cash.

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16-f

well last summer my cousin liked this one guy. and she hungout with him alot and wanted me to meet him so i did and we then all hungout last summer. my cousin and him kinda had a thing but never went out or actually did anything. and then this kid that my cousin likes(jeremy) went out with one of our old friends megan. but my cousin told me that jeremy thought i was so hot and everything. everyone liked jeremy and thats why i didnt really want to start liking him! and he told my cousin he would pick me over any other girl if i liked him back. but my cousin told me this just a couple weeks ago. i never really thought of him that way because my cousin liked him and i would feel bad to even like him a little bit. so then we just all hungout and he moved with his dad about 10 minutes away from us and all he does is hangout with his girlfriend megan over there. Now this summer we didnt really get to see jeremy that much and him and megan are back together. jeremy broke up with megan last summer for my cousin but then they went out again. well today me my cousin and our other friend casey went to jeremys moms (he goes there sometimes) and thats by our houses! and so we were over there for a little bit to hangout and say hi and stuff. but he was working for his mom in the garage and we walk up and he has his shirt off :D well jeremey still was flirting with all of us! and i dont know for some reason ive always had a LITTLE tiny tiny thing for jeremy just never told anyone because i know how much my cousin liked him and megan too. and when i saw him today i just wanted to like go up to him and makeout. like when we were all in his room signing his wall or whatever i just wanted to like hug him or whatever! it was the weirdest thing. and when he was flirting with my cousin and casey i would get kinda jealous and i dont know why! and my cousin was getting really mad when casey was flirting with him. so i feel bad when i do. i really dont see a point in liking him since i dont think him and megan will be breaking up but we dont get to see him that much and now all i think about is wanting to hang out with him! but i dont think he will be at his moms until like 2 weekends and we will be in school by then and it just wont work out! ahhh. i dont know what to do? i just want to like kiss him for some reason. is this because i missed him or havent seen him in about a year!? what should i do...

by the way my cousin and i dont really like megan that much anymore or dont talk to her if that is any help?

So, let me get this straight:

you think you like this Jeremy Fellow..but he is taken by a girl named Megan, but you and your cousin both don't like Megan, and Jeremy flirts with everyone all the time?

Well Jeremy seems like the flirtatious boy that everyone likes. You seem to have a physical attraction to him, and possibly more?

I would'nt get in between his relationship with Megan..even though you dont like her, let her have her boyfriend. Maybe one day they will break up and something might happen with you and him.

He seems like he is kinda a player too..if hes always flirting with people. Would you want to have a boyfriend whos always flirting with everyone?

I would talk to my cousin to see what she thinks, dont get in between Megan and Jeremys relationship..and just kind of admire him from afar. Maybe you wont like his personality after a while.

Thats all the advice I got.
Good luck with everything.

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OK my best friend is going out with my ex and i think i still have feelings for him. They are trying to help me through it but nothing is working. Can you help me?

I personally think the best thing to do is just wait it out, and try and get over him.

I know its like you don't want to ruin your friendship, but don't want to completely throw everything away with your ex either, but your friend is dating him now...in time you will get over him.

If you are really gutsy, then talk it out with your friend. She may get mad, but she might not.

All in all, its up to you.

Good luck.

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What is the earliest time you can get an abortion? If fertilization happened a month or so ago, when's the soonest an abortion would be possible?

http://www.fpamg.net/faq.html

thats will tell you everything you need to know.

Good luck
:-)

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hellllo

ok so lately whenever i look at the mirror i look at like every. single. thing. on my face. and i notice all the things wrong with it. it's really starting to annoy me because every day i notice more and more t hings that are wrong with my face and i never used to be like this! i used to just look in the mirror from like a foot away, for 10 seconds after i put on mascara and be like "i look nice today" and then be satisfied. now i have to pay attention more, and i just want to know how i can make myself not care as much. i still want to look nice but i just think that if i keep doing this my self esteem will definitely go down...and it's weird because im not girly at all or anything im just paranoid about how my eyeliner looks in certain lighting and stuff. i actually put on makeup inside and outside and see if i can tell the difference. i hold a mirror up and see how i look directly in the sun, or the shade, or with my back turned to the sun. i dont know if im like OCD or what but its bugging the shit out of me and dont know why i do it.


sorry its long.

Hey.
I think every girl does that somewhat.
We all look in the mirror lots, just to find little flaws that probably no one else sees.

When you get ready in the morning, just do what you regularily do, then look in the mirror and say "I look good today." And leave it at that.

I dont think anyone other than yourself will be looking at you under a microscope. I do this too though, but I just think to myself.."whos going to notice these little flaws"..and also..

look around..everyone else has flaws they have to deal with..nobodys perfect, and everybody is somewhat self concious.

I recomend doing something that makes you feel good about yourself, so you feel better about the way you look.

Hope this helped!

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hI,I have a question. The thing is I really want to become a Goth. Only I have failed all my GCSEs in school. i only got a few G grades (apart from getting a C in English)
The thing I need to ask is: don't you have to be quite clever to be a Goth. They write poetry and draw/paint but I don't have a clue about any of these things so couldn't do them. Can I still become a Goth? If so how would I go about it?Or do you DEFINATELY have to write poetry/paint to be a Goth? Am i too thick? Will my lack of eduaction pose problems if I'm going to become a Goth?
Also I AM PANICKING SEVERELY OVER MY FUTURE/OPTIONS/EDUCATION but for a time I was thinking about working with horses. ONLY THINKING!!! i wanted to explore all my options.

was thinking of going to college to do Equine(horse) studies so that I could eventually get a Job with horses. Could I still be a Goth if I did this? If so then how? I haven't seen many Goths around stable yards.should I just be a Goth In my spare time?
Also I might not work with horses I might choose to do something else. What types of Jobs do/can Goths get? And would employers be put off employing them because they're Goths?
Can you provide me with any answers. PLEASE HELP!!!! I'm sorry if this is a really strange question by the way!!!!
I live in England by the way.


Woah. Don't overthink this "goth" image too much.
If you feel like dressing some way..then go for it! You dont have to fit the perfect goth stereotype!! If you feel like wearing all black..but hate writing poetry..still wear black!
Just do what you want, no ones going to stop you.
I dont think there are any goth laws that anyone has to follow haha.
And as for the career path..it seems like you are pretty young still..maybe 13 or 14? You have alot of time to think about this kind of stuff. Dont worry about it too much, but if you think you want to work with horses then thats great!

Chances are..in a couple years or even months you wont want to be goth anyways..its probably just a phase.

Just dont worry about it, dress however you want, and act however you want, and think about having any career that you want.

Hope this helps.
Good luck.

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i am always very outgoing, funny, charming, etc, etc. but that is only when i am talking to someone on aim, through myspace. in real life i always feel akward. like if i'm walking towards a big group of people or something, i suddenly start thinking about my arms, and how it looks with them just swinging there, or what if they look stiff or something, so i emmediatly start tucking my hair behind my ear, or rubbing my nose, scratching my elbow, looking over my shoulder, etc. I HATE IT!!!!! i look like a complete dork like that. i am only like that around people i dont know, or around a big group of people. with my friends i never even think about those things. oh, and i dont think about it around really shy people, and people that are also akward. so basicly my question is, how do i prevent this, and if you had this, how did you deal with it?? any feedback would be really appreciated. &hearts

Hey.
I've kinda had this happen to me too. It was usually with people that intimidate me. But now, I dont really care what other people think, so I just walk normally, like I would be walking towards my friends.

So when your walking, just stand up straight, shoulders back, head up, dont look down at your feet, and if you feel confident, make eye contact with those people in the big group.

It might be scary as hell, but don't let it show.
Those people probably wont judge you either way..but if they do..who cares? Its their loss for not getting to know ya.

Hope this helps!
Good Luck.
:-)

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heyy im not a geek but im not popular at the middle school im at now, because i'm shy and because of the people i hang out with. im iin 8th grade right now, so i want to make a fresh start for highschool next year. andi want to be popular, and i want to be the leader of the group, or the queen b or whatever. but if thats impossible, then i at least just want to be like the 2nd most popular or just in the popular group. any tips??

Hey.
Ok. Im not trying to sound cliche here or anything but, popularity is nothing. Just be yourself.

High school is something your supposed to remember and cherish forever.
Dont waste your time trying to be popular.
Find yourself a good batch of friends and stick with them,
and make tons of memories with them,
and if more people want to be your friend..
well then, thats awesome.
If not, well then at least you have a few great friends that you will never forget.

Just have fun! Dont pretend to be something else, High school will be over before you know it, and you will wish that you would've been yourself..its funner that way!!

Hope I helped.
-Jodie

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I'm fat/not pretty. Yesterday two of my 'friends' IMed me saying 'Hey Sexy'. I know they were joking around, but for some reason it just really got to me, and I felt like I was a joke to them. (they're both guys) Now I'm very mad at the two of them, and I know they both feel bad, they've sent me messages, called me, etc, but I just don't respond. My question is, am I overreacting? What should I do?

Hi.
I think you are overreacting a tad bit.
I don't think they meant it to hurt your feelings if they feel bad for doing it afterwards.
Maybe you took it the wrong way?

Sometimes people say "Hey Sexy" or "hey bitch" or something like that to their friends to just joke around.

I bet you look fine. Everyone is self concious, and I dont know how old you are but we are all self concious when we starting to grow up.

Just shrug it off, they probably didnt mean it the way you think they did.

Hope this helped.
:-)

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