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akwardness
i am always very outgoing, funny, charming, etc, etc. but that is only when i am talking to someone on aim, through myspace. in real life i always feel akward. like if i'm walking towards a big group of people or something, i suddenly start thinking about my arms, and how it looks with them just swinging there, or what if they look stiff or something, so i emmediatly start tucking my hair behind my ear, or rubbing my nose, scratching my elbow, looking over my shoulder, etc. I HATE IT!!!!! i look like a complete dork like that. i am only like that around people i dont know, or around a big group of people. with my friends i never even think about those things. oh, and i dont think about it around really shy people, and people that are also akward. so basicly my question is, how do i prevent this, and if you had this, how did you deal with it?? any feedback would be really appreciated. &hearts
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For most of my gradeschool years that was me most of the time. Now that I'm older, it isn't really a part of me anymore. So you probably won't always have to worry about it. But there are ways to at least look more comfortable until you can feel that way inside.
First of all, you need the mindset of feeling good. If you take a few more minutes to do your hair nice or wear your favorite outfit, or something simple like that, you'll have a boost of confidence. You will know you look good. It will make you excited to go out and show yourself off.
Sometimes, if you're in a really nervous situation, you might get shakey hands. If this happens, you have to learn to find which muscles in your hands are the shakey ones (they're usually the muscles you use to completely extend your fingers out). Nobody notices if you don't happen to completely extend your fingers straight, so it's not an awkward change to make.
Anyway, some people are intimidating because you can sense that they are measuring you up. People who even care to think about judging someone who just walked up are probably just too concerned with looking cool in the first place. You know that they are probably putting themselves through their own harsh judgements inside as well. Otherwise, they would just want to have fun and be friendly.
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Hey.
I've kinda had this happen to me too. It was usually with people that intimidate me. But now, I dont really care what other people think, so I just walk normally, like I would be walking towards my friends.
So when your walking, just stand up straight, shoulders back, head up, dont look down at your feet, and if you feel confident, make eye contact with those people in the big group.
It might be scary as hell, but don't let it show.
Those people probably wont judge you either way..but if they do..who cares? Its their loss for not getting to know ya.
Hope this helps!
Good Luck.
:-)
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