about

hey!
ok, so, my name is vanessa! i' a real fun crazy gal =) I'm 19 years old, and about to start my second year of college! i love to challenge myself, to be with my friends, help them out to the max that i can.. mainly reson why am here.. duh lol i love you help people =) and can simply be a great listener. I've been through a lot in my life already... i guess that can be both good and bad. But that means i have some experience about a little bit of everything!
like I said, am in college, am in love with this amazing guy whom i've been with for over a year and a half, am bi, have been in love, have had my heart broken, have been places, study, work, and well, am crazy =) hahaha! in a good way ;-)
so, anyway, ask away anything thats on your mind =) no matter how crazy or whatnot, i'll ceratintly be here to try my best to help =)

advice

does anyone know when the new season of degrassi is coming on? thanx!so excited!lol

today!!!!!!!!
=) wooohooo! lol
i love that show! lol

VB

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am i still a virgin, even though my cherry's poped because i fingered myself?

yes darling =)
You are still a virgin. You lose you virginity by sexual intercorse. =)

so don't worry =)

VB

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Is a girl considered a "virgin" is she has had oral or anal sex but not intercorse?

as a matter of fact, yes =)
even though oral and anal sex has taken place, you are still considered a virgin, sincevirginity is defined by not yet having ever had intercorse... penis penetration into the vigina...
so, yup, still a virgin
=) hope this helped

VB

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I've been watching porn on TV for the past couple of nights. Not the whole thing but just segments. Im 16/f by the way. I've never had sex, or even kissed. Im feeling pretty ashamed by it. Does anyone else watch it? Is it a common thing for teens?

sweetie, its more common than you think... or other may want to admit! haha =)
its nothing to be ashamed of, so don't worry =)
i've watched porn for years! i guess you can say its just interesting... its curiosity too =)
anyway, don't worry, and enjoy it =)

VB

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what is the best tampon to use if you have never used one before? my body type is petite. i got my first period over a year ago.

I would definitely recoment tampax pearl =)
and use the purple ones.. they're really small... perfect for first time use. then after that you can use the regular ones (yellow)
I do recomend this one since they seem to be the easiest to slide in. =)

well, good luck!

vb

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i had sex wit my boyfriend but he didnt come inside me can i still get pregnant if he didnt come inside of me. does precum get u pregnant? please reply only if ur sure! thnx

To answer your question, yes. you CAN get pergnant from precum.... since it does still contain sperm and all...
thats why the pull out method is really not effective...
well, hope this helped some =)

VB

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does anyone know is blockbuster hires underage persons? im 17 and looking for a summer job to pay for college. aslo any idea how much they would pay? and is there anything i should know about, like tips, if hired this would be my first job. thanks

unfortunately the answer is no.
Having tried to apply to blockbuster myself last summer, they turned me down because i wasn't 18... =/
as for how much they pay, really couldn't tell you, didn't get that far... haha!
but i'm sure there alot more places hiring near your area =)

good luck in your search =)

VB

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is it really bad to have a dog lick your private area? couldi get an infection or something?

As a matter of fact, yes it is bad...
Just think about it, where has the dog's tongue been???
and then takes all those germs and just dirt or whatever into your parivate parts.... parts that are very sensitiveincluding to germs...
You could get an infection, rash or many other things similarly... and it'll hurt and sting like helll!
so, yes, its bad!
not a good idea at all..

VB.

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I know the theory is that if you have sex without birth control and he cums in you, you're pregnant.


But does this really happen ALL the time?
Can you have sex without getting pregnant?

Even if it IS a small chance, I just wanna know.
And dont tell me "dont have sex", I dont plan on it, I'm just wondering.


I'm sick of people preaching about sex on here.

haha! its not true that if you have sex without birth control you'll be pregnant for sure. It is highly possible, specially since sperm can live inside you for like 5 days.... but there is still a very small chance that you might not get pregnant. By telling you that you'll be pregnant for sure, is just a way to scare you so that you wont have sex whatsoever...
and as for preaching about sex ...people who say "don't have sex" are just full of it! you know they do it! and love it! hey, its a great way of exercise and relief! just have to use protection, and you're set to go! =)

hope this helped =)

VB

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how old were you when you lost your virginity? and how far along were you into a relationship if you were into one? also when do you think is okay to lose it? thanks!

Well, i'm 18 years old. soon to be nineteen, and am yet to lose my virginity. And currently am in a relationship that has lasted over a year and 7 months...
As to when? when both are ready phisically and emotionally prepared not for the sexual part, but for the consequences.
When the moment comes its just something that it'll feel right, that you want to be with him, and are ready for the moment in every way =)

VB

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i like to watch gay porn and jack off to it but i hate seeing guys kiss, its just weird and i can never think of loving a guy. i date girls all the time and naked girls turn me on too i like to think of myself of straight...what do u think.

Sexuality can be very hard sometimes.
Not sure of your age, but that may be a bit significant to it too. But to the sound of it, i belive that if anything you're expiriencing some curiosity! which is perfectly mornal, specially if you're of young age.
only time will tell if you're "straight" or not =)
till then, enjoy =)

have fun!

VB

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Hi... i'm 15 and my penis size is 5 inches is that normal?

Hun, =)
yes, that is normal =)
don't sweat it.
and contrary to what other might have said, ur not below average. specially considering your age. you're body is still growing. heck, its barely started!

much love

VB

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i jerk off almost every day is that helthy?

You'll be hapy to hear that yes! yes it is =)

Well, there's certainly nothing unhealthy about it, if anything it helps you destress and whatnot =)
..no matter how often you do it!

so, enjoy! =)

VB

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my friend saw some girl on his profile on myspace
like the whole ilysfm jazz.
and i asked him why hed cheat on me.
and he said he isnt.
i dont know what to believe.
i even went on hers an she had his picture too saying how much SHE loves him.
i love him alot.
im really hurt.
i pretend to him that it was okay
[we didnt breakup]
i just pretended i was reassured.
why cant he be honest with me?
what do i do?
l:

Just because your bf has girls on his prifile doen't mean that he's cheating on you. Myspace is just a site where you can keep i touch with friends more easily, and perhaps meet new ones!
Don't be stressing about the people that are on it or not.
Consider this, do you have a myspace? If you do, don't you have male friends on it? and if you don't, don't you think that some would be?
I know that I have both guys and gals on my page...
and as fr the loving part... I love my friends! =) I tell them i love them all the time. =)
Doesn't mean i'm being with them... just means that i love them! =)
Give your bf the benefit of the doubt =)
Myspace is just for fun =) don't take it seriously =)

VB

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so my bf was like
"will you give me a bj"
and i thought he meant like ben and jerry's and i didnt hear the & part
well he whipped out his whacker and i was like wtf am i supposed to do with this and hes like suck it...

i was soo confused...can someone elaborate plz??

A "BJ" referes to a blow job...
basically that means sucking on a guys penis... you can think it almost like a lollipop.... haha!
Guys love getting bj's, it feels good for them, because it gets to the point of orgasm...
=) hope this helped some =)

VB

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my bf had sex with me and he didnt wear a condom and it was so good

could i be pregnant?

Because he didn't wear a condom, there is a possibility that you might be pregnant. weathe he orgasmed in you or not, if he did there's a higher risk, but even if he didn't, the male sometimes ejaculates some fluid before his real orgasm.
And i'm sorry to say, that no matter how good it feels, unless you're on the pill or patch, or even with the uva ring, or trying to get pregnant, is a must to wear a condom...
Otherwise, like now, you'll be freaking out about being pregnant after every time you guys are together...
The only sure way to know right now is for you to get tested, not a hundred percent sure how hong after sex you can take a pregnancy test to find out, i think its like a week or something but don't quote me on it...
But at the same time, you might not be...
good luck!

VB

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Hey this is really embarrasing..but i'm 13/m and my pens is a bit more than 5 inches long. Is that normal? And how can u make ur penis bigger?

PLEASE ANSWER! I WILL APPRICIATE VERY MUCH!!

Hey sweetie =)
Let me start by saying, you're perfectly nomal! Thats a pretty nice size, specially considering that you're only 13 years old. Nothing to be embarrassed about! =)
And as for making it bigger, you're way too young for that! your body is still growing, and it wont stop until you're about 21 years old. At which point if you're still not happy with your size there are all these pills that are coming out in the market, or even have surgery.
But i think you'll be just fine =)
don't worry =)

VB

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while having sex what does it mean to ride on a guy? like i think i know kinda what it is but hhow exactly do you do it? and does it really hurt more?

When you ride a guy, it basically means that the guy lays flat on his back. and the female lowers herself down on top of the guy, so that his erect penis goes into her vagina...
And then she pretty much bounces and moves around on top of him... riding him =)
And as for if it hurts? No, it doesn't =)
If anything is a great position for the female in particular because she has the power to determine how deep and fast to go. So she determines the pase and just how she wants it, to her comfort and desire =)
Not to mention that guys love it too! so its a win win position! =)

VB

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i just turned 16 and the last time i was with a guy was about 6 months ago and i jacked him off but he didn't finger me. then we split, so he never ended up fingering me. now i'm with someone different who i know is very experienced and i know pretty soon he is going to end up fingering me. i've tried fingering myself to see what it feels like but i cant seem to do it. i always think i'm doing it right but don't feel it at all. i just want to be prepared for when he does it to me. please help! i'll rate 5s. thanks everyone!

One thing to keep in mind is that its going to feel much different when you're doing it as to when someone else does it. I know exactly what you mean... trust me, and matter of fact is, you actually might be doing it right! But it just doesn't have the same amount of stimulant as when somone else does it.
Don't worry about preparing yourself by fingering for when bf does it. For the most part, you're most likely just be in pleasure heaven!
Specially considering the fact that you say that he is more expiirienced, then he'll know just how to touch you, and what to do and to what point.
If you still want to try to be doing something for when the time comes,you can still try to continue fingering yourself, that way when your bf's fingers are the ones doing the fingering, its not painful, and just pleasureable =)
Hope this helped some =)

VB

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for all the girls that got fingered for the first time- did it hurt? or was it just uncomfortable? thanks.

oh the memories...
haha! no, seriously, the first time my boyfriend fingered me it wasn't painful. but it was a little akward i guess i can say, first time nerves and just i don't know.. haha! More than anything though, its pleasurable., specially after the first few seconds =) that is of course keeping in mind that its something that you both realy really want to do... because otherwise, it is gonna hurt, ..like hell!
hope i was of some help =)

VB

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