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If a boy friend wants to know about your past sexuall eperiances would you tell him the truth, if he is not your first, or just say you do not wish to discuss the subject.I only had 2 guys in the past but fell he will not belive me. i am 17 years old and did not have sex with my new boy frind yet. (link)
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It really is not any of his business and if it makes you uncomfortable talking about it tell him "I prefer to keep the past in the past." He is feeling inadequate to you hence his wondering if he will let you down if other guys have been with you. It is his issue and if you do not want to discuss it tell him the above. If he persists "Whether I had sex with anyone should not be your concern. I am with you now aren't I."
As far as sex with him goes hold off. See where his maturity level is with the subject let alone actually going through with it. He may not be the right sexual partner.
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Anybody know of any fundraisers they have done or know of? Open for anytyhing!
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Several companies will help work with you if they know the funds are going to a school. Be resourceful and see how you can get a BBQ off the ground, donations of things, food etc assuming this is a school BBQ. That's good for the kids and teens. Also have a dance if possible with teens paying to get in.
For the adults if you need their money have someone arrange a theatre event or tickets to be sold for raffle, live entertainment somewhere. Also go to companies like McDonalds, Pizza Hut etc that help do school fundraisers. They do all of that.
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There is this guy I really like. I've liked him for a while. I realized that he would never really like me back but I still like him a lot. We don't really talk but he says hi and knows my name and stuff which is a start. I want a guy to tell me what girls need to do for you to notice them and what I should do. girls tell me what you would to to get him to notice you in a more that friends way. (link)
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Who said he would not like you or talk with you further? YOU DID. Yes, that is right you never heard from his mouth he was not interested in you or did not want to know you or talk. Your self-esteem issues are trying to win here and not even make you try. WAKE UP. Go talk to him, SCREW FEAR, and see if he does have interest in you be it as a friend or more.
As far as being noticed by anyone look good all the time, be kind, help people and mean it. People look for qualities others have that they like and not always at physical beauty. A girl could look like a knockout just off the runway but if she is a total bitch she can forget about any guy liking her. Be sincere, flirt a little and LET THINGS UNFOLD NATURALLY ALL RELATIONSHIPS HAVE TO.
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I broke up with this guy a week ago but we still talk when i see him at his work. and i texted him today n he didnt text me back so i called and i asked if he was mad. and he said he wasnt and it was cool but he asked to call me back in 7mins cause he was almost home from work... everytime i called him, he was always on his way home from work. he gets off work at 9. and it was at 9:45 when i called him and he lives about half n hour away. he hasnt called back yet and its been over 10 mins. is he lyin to me? (link)
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To anyone else and the eyes of an adult it appears you have blown it. You are too eager here and are driving him bonkers with calls and always just being there physically or by phone, e-mail, text-message. If you want to piss someone off and make them not like you that is how to achieve it.
You should not have called him back so many times as it's unattractive and being seen as a pest. No wonder he does not want to call you. If he gets off of work at 9 p.m. and lives 30 minutes away and has to walk from a bustop to home or a bus was late in traffic 9:45 is reasonable for an arrival. Count your lucky stars if he does call you back.
Guys and or girls for that matter do not like clingy people or those who go overboard in trying to snag them as their mate. This guy sees you as a nuisance and the stalker type and wants not to be involved with you. His problem is his signals of not being interested and not calling are not being picked up by you.
Frankly, he's not interested in you and does not want to come out and be blunt about the calls and text messages, e-mails etc to hurt you but you can bet the "Oh it's okay" really means "F--k off, don't call me you are driving me nuts." that some people would say. He has more compassion and tact then to do it that way. But yes, move on as he's not going to go for you.
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im 15/F and i know this guy who likes me, and when im hanging around him, im afraid to show him that i like him too, so i dont show it. and one day when we were hanging out, it seemed like he didnt like me anymore (which he did) so i didnt flirt or anything. well now, a week later, he doesnt like me anymore (thats what people tell me, and i believe its true.) and i really wanted to go out with him, but now i think he likes someone else(im not sure though.) i really want him to like me again, so we can go out, but he doesnt. i dont know what to do. does anyone have any ideas that might help me get him back? please help. i rate high for good answers. --i really messed this one up...-- xoox - sad and confused. (link)
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You never had him so you have lost nothing and cannot get it back. You have to create something to have something. He's frustrated with you and not someone who likes to waste time getting a girl to notice him and make a move back. You may have blown your chances and may not.
When it comes to other people they often know as much as you do about him--beans. Some if girls may want him for their ownselves and mislead you with BS information. Go talk to the guy, tell him you like him, be honest and mention you are awfully shy in these situations. Be honest and get him to warm up to you again. It's the last shot you have.
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Hi! I need to do a temporary makeover on myself and need some tips. First of all, everything has to be as low budget as possible. Now, here's what I need. I have red hair and I need to make it look brunette or at least darker. Then I'll also need it to look somewhat blonde. Or a lighter shade of red. If anyone knows any cheap ways to do that that won't effect my hair long term that would be great! I also have really white skin and I want to make it look tan. Chest and up. I don't want to turn orange or anything... And I don't want to actually have to tan in a tanning bed. Any ideas? I hope I made sense! Thanx! Luv ya! (link)
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My only question is WHY? What is so wrong with you now that you want to go to such length to do all this to yourself be it temporary or not? Coloroing your hair properly would take a professional to get it right after all you did to it. You would also have to get a professional for the tanning and there is much evidence of that being an unhealthy way to achieve a look.
From what I heard you also have to be 18 to do it and I have never heard of a child or teen being allowed to. It can cause cancer so do not mess with it. I know of no other way then direct sunlight that will tan a person and even that is dangerous. Coloring your hair is perhaps the easiest and only thing to try.
What bothers me here is you may be doing this just to impress some classmates or something. Do not waste your time. If they do not like you for you forget it same goes double with guys. I sense your problem may be a self-esteem issue with your body and pople liking you. That may be what needs the change and not you physically. The reasons you give for wanting to do this drastic makeover make zero sense to me.
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awhile ago me and one of my friends got arrested for vandilism. we spray painted some cars and broke some windows. when will my parents begin to trust me again? me and my friend have talked and we wont get in anymore trouble. we want to hang out. i want trust and think i deserve it.
Thanks a lot
Timothy (link)
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Trust must be earned and you are not trustworthy having broken trust and commited a crime. It is going to take a long time to regain that trust let alone see this "friend" of yours who dragged you into it. If you ever see him'her again hell will freeze over first. Telling people you have changed is lip service and not bought. You have to SHOW through actions what you have learned. Right now it seems as though you are not that remorseful thinking that you can still talk through it and not suffer consequences. You have loads to learn still.
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I'm really shy! Like, whenever someone even suggests that I might make a cute couple with someone my face turns like... BRIGHT red. I can FEEL it turning red. And then I get this dizzy feeling in my head... It's awful! I hate being shy like that. Well, I'm not that shy...maybe it's just embarrasment??? I don't know what it is but it happens all the time, it's bugging me, and it won't go away! What do I do!? Thanks in advance... (link)
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Public speaking courses are an example. Student Council will do it. You need to feel at home with an audience or group of people who either know you or don't. You have to get talking with people as well as doing and the shyness will vanish like that. Find out how to become comfortable with them and make attempts. It will come gradual but by the end of the year maybe you will have this licked.
As far as the dizziness I do think you need a doctor's advice as it does not seem normal for that to happen blushing or not. At least you will find an answer to why it happens, what makes it go away and am I okay. Fainting, dizziness or any of that is not normal red as a tomato or not.
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okay so guys are like.. weird.. all of them like want sex from me and i dont want to be like no go away.. but i also wont have sex with them.. whats something i can do to try and tell them i dont want to have sex.. im not mean or anything so please dont put anything mean to say! thanks a bunch! (link)
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Nobody can force you to do anything you do not want to. If they do not get the message from your lips then they must be shown the door. All you have to say is "I like you but I am not ready for this right now. When the time comes to do this with the right person they as well as I will know." Leave it at that. If people tease you at least it is for a good thing this time--morality, conviction and the desire to have something so personal remain that way between people who love one another. Think about it? isn't this whole desire to lose virginity thing screwed up? Who the hell are classmates to come up with the idea of when you should have sex and if you don't by that time you are weird? It's dumb.
It's not about age, peer pressure or any of that it's down to stong decisions and informed choices. If those are lacking you truly are f--ed biut not in the vulgar sexual sense of the word.
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ok heres my problem
i had this boyfriend for a little over a year ( on and off) and i was CrAzY about him he was my first love but he cheated on me about 3 times but i found it in my heart to forgive ( b/c he really was a sweet guy) but he didnt cheat on me for a looong time but we did end up breaking up..
then i got this boyfriend( who i am with now) and he treats me like gold if i told him to do something he does it right then and there...
but i think for some reason im still in love with my ex-boyfriend and my boyfriend at the same time..
i just dont know why i would even think of having feeling for my ex when he did that to me and my boyfriend treats me like gold.
is this wrong should i still have feelings for my ex? what do i do?? (link)
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I stand by my original comments having been mailed by the person asking this question. Any rational adult will tell you the same things I did. It is not normal to identify with, want to be with, have a fantasy about a relationship with someone who is long gone out of your life or someone who hurt you by cheating.
You should get that this person is bad for you the first time not the third. If he screwed you over three times and you still do not get the fact not to date him you need professional help from a therapist to figure out your wonky ideas about love. Most people would not be asking themselves the questions you do about him. Right now, you and relationships are a disaster until you figure this out.
People who need therapists are normal people who like you cannot figure feelings, emotions out and why you in this case love someone who did this to you. It's a toxic relationship and you have a habit of going back to it. Normal people, every day like you do not even allow for a third or fourth time to be cheated on. People who need help are blind to it. It's a good investment as your view is askew on dating and what is a healthy loving relationship and why or should I love a guy who stabbed me three times? If the answer in your head isn't no, talk about it with a professional as you are not thinking rationally about any of it.
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im getting headachs alot and i recently got an ipod so i have been listening to that alot.. could it be that? also i heard if you dont blowdry your hair, you end up getting headachs.. i wash my hair everynight and i dont usually blow dry it ..what could cause these headachs? (link)
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Headaches happen for a variety of reasons but I never heard not blowdrying hair as one or a leading cause. Trust me, if that caused headaches there would be a ginat surge in the amount of hair drying devices bought. That's nonsense hun, from whoever told you.
You should get your eyes checked though as straining to see what you cannot all the time can cause it. You also should see a doctor about it and see what they say. In an extreme case where they cannot figure it out a CAT-SCAN can and will. Relax, people have headaches for all kinds of reasons--we just need them to figure out what triggers yours. Go to the professionals.
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can you give me good, DETAILED directions on fingering a girl? like should i rub her stomach before i do it? i have never don it before, but my girlfriend wants me to, and i want to but i dont want to come off as really wierd and inexperienced. i want to make her comfortable, feel sexy, i want to make me comfertable and sexy, etc. so everything from A to Z on fingering (music and lighting to how many fingers!!) every single step!
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I hate to say it but some of the younger advice givers in here mean well but are naive. I have worked for Teen Advice Online, Teenhelp.org and the top sites going. When we get a question like this one it never gets an answer.
90% of the time the person who wrote it is a sick, perverted, predator trying to fulfil a fanttasy by asking and learning teens, kids, habits be it of regular things and or sexual. Think about it, how many 15-year-old males would come out and say in public or on the Internet for all to read how to sexual questions? Most kids do not do it--but some sick adults do.
If you see a question like this again tell an admin to check into it. Maybe he is a teen but I doubt it. Most advice sites have a PG rule where no questions like this are answered and they deal with the ISP and person asking it.
Most of these sick people use words only teens and kids would, spell in correctly, do not capatilize and use big letters like DETAILED. Kids/teens write differently and though they make those errors above it's not consistent throughout.
Instead of an A-Z guide to what he requested if truly a sicko someone from admin read this and give him an A-Z link of prisions to look into if he tries it again. Just my two cents.
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I love helping people, and when I say that, I mean the kind of "giving advice" kind of help. I know I can be a psychologist, but are there any other options? I don't want to be a psychiatrist, so please don't suggest that. Thank you! (link)
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Three wors Child and Youth Worker.You have to be willing and able to put up with a lot here. These people tackle handling kids and teens who have been through a lot and the system spat them out. It's bleak but the one job that always has openings because others did it and it got to them. Seperating work from your own life has to be the biggest skill to develop when working with children and teens in situations and or crisis.
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Has anybody masturbated when they were 12? If so, what did you do? (link)
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You have to use common sense here in having posted this and in giving advice. There are such things as predators pretending to be kids writing this kind of thing for kicks or to pull you in. On any advice page including all I have worked for this one would be quarrentined until the site owner could figure out and trace back who wrote it. Anyone asking for how tos on this subject or what someone else did sexually ought not to be touched.
Having said this, you can be any age to do this activity and it is not wrong and being 12 or younger will not screw up your system reproductive or otherwise. Where did you hear that? That's a new myth.
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all of my friends, even people younger than me have kissed a guy/girl. i havent! i only kissed little boys that i babysit. lol PATHETIC!!! dont be like "dont worry, my first kiss was when i was 20 or 14" or something. i want to know how i can make it happen soon to a cute guy nd dont say "it will happen when your both ready" cause that doenst help me! (link)
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You cannot force something that comes naturally and spur of the moment. Forcing it will make it impossible to enjoy and not worth the effort. Good things come to those who wait. It is not a competition and age means nothing. Maturity is what attracts a mate or someone who want to kiss you in the first place. Do not look let alone sound desperate here.
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I have an LG Flip Phone from Verizon, how would I go about geting ringback tones? (link)
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Check their Web page it should all be there as well as a customer service number to call. Verizon.net
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Alright, well basically the story goes that i'm a freshman. And my first homecoming is a big deal to me. I said yes to a sophmore who i barely know. Then after about two weeks I said I didn't want to go with him.(this happened today) I feel so guilty but he never talks to me or even tries to get to know me. I want to go with my best friend ever (whos a guy duh) but i secretly like him and he goes to another high school. He wants to go with me too. I feel really bad about ditching the sophmore though and all my friends think im a big bitch for doing that. What do I do? Go with my bff? and do u think my decision to break the date was wrong. any advice is appreciated. im a girl also. thanks!! (link)
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I do not agree with any of the advice you have been given so far. You promised someone months ago you would go with them. What changed between then and now? Stringing someone along you do not know for months making them think you are going together is indeed wrong. So what if this best friend ever as you refer to him asked you yesterday? He must be wise and friend enough to know as do you that you had that date planned. Should you feel guilty? HELL YES.
Can you imagine how that guy must of felt to learn this and after he told everyone he knew you were going. The thing is he likes you and did like you well enough to ask and may have seen this as his opportunity to get to know or impress you. I think you ought to go--you could not do worse than him or STAY AT HOME. He should not feel like egg is on his face--YOU SHOULD.
You might not like any of this but I am a straight-shooter, tell it like it is guy, with 27 years worth of life experience. If you do not go with him, STAY HOME, what right do you have going now after doing this? Go with him, give him his date and after that decide what to do. Friends can wait but those who went out their way to be with you shouldn't. How would you feel if you were him thinking you are going for months and then suddenly this so-called friends issue came up? You wouldn't tolerate or like it so why should he?
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Thank you for taking the time to read this. Please, If you think of anythihng "catchy" that I could put in, please, do NOT hesitate to do so.
(i am running for freshmen class president)
Hello,
For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Ali. When I first found out that I was accepted into this school, I was very excited. Now, seeing that I have the chance to be an important part of it, I am going to try my hardest to fulfill that position. My main reason for running for class president is that it has always been my personal goal to become President of my class. If elected, I promise to help make wise decisions and to put this class as a whole before myself. There is also another thing I want to point out to you. I will not lie to you. I will go through with every promise I make. I refuse to make you empty promises. I hope that you all realize how important this position is to our school. We as a class need to elect a president who is wise, mature, and that will make good decisions. I feel that I fit that part.
Enough about me, let’s focus on you. We all worked hard to get into this school, right? By electing me, you’ll be able to let go of some of the concerns you've had about school issues and let me take care of them. I will make it my personal priority to address every reasonable concern.
Please realize that I am not in this competition to fool around and I am taking this seriously. Please, take me into consideration when it comes time to vote! If you are convinced that I would make a good Class President but you have friends that don’t think the same, please, try to make them understand that I am in this competition to make their freshmen year a memorable one. I want to become Class President because I love this school and I want to be as much help to it as I can. Thank you and please, Vote: Ali for President.
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Too freaking long for one thing. I am cutting it down. Trust me, they know your name and it will be announced by others. Do not look like a kiss up to the school or anyone. It looks phony here. They know already why you are there and how much you enjoy it or don't.
The thing about promises will bite you in the ass even if promised something you can in fact do sometimes you do not get to pull it off. Personal goals to become class president sounds vain and people will wonder what kind of selfish reason has she/he got? No need to point anything out for people they will get it from the speech. I got rid of two paragraphs that would have killed your chances with voters for being "all about me." or promisibg this and that.
GDR.
YOUR SPEECH
A lot of promises are being made in this election by people who simply cannot when elected fulfill them as half of them are lofty goals that are not reasonable or anywhere near able to accomplish. The promises most candidates are making to you will get shot down by teachers and principals once elected. Other candidates do not see the writing on the wall and nor do most voters. Be WISE! I warned you and was the one candidate that told the truth knowing what is in store for someone who is elected. Not all can stand tall and deliver but I certainly can and will.
I never waiver or change positions on an issue because of inside or outside pressure on me. I think with my head when faced with tough decisions and whaen adults try to drop things students want. I am a fighter. Furthermore, This is not a popularity contest. Face reality, you only get one shot at getting this right, when electing someone as president. Thank you and please, Vote: Ali for President.
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tomorrow is 'decade day' at school and i need some ideas. so far i have a..black and white polka dot tank top and a longist black poofy skirt. i have alot of black high/low top converse..so would this make some sort of style from the 60's, or 80's?? i dont want to do the 70's because i dont want to be like a hippie. I also have a lot of jewelry of alot of types like beads or stars or black with stars..etc. same thing with bracelets i have alot fo those. So i just need to know if this is okay..and i need alot of suggestions because i wanna look cool!! Thank you guys!
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Hippies belong to the 1960s more so than the 1970s. The 1980s are easier to pull off. Just talk to your parents. A lot of striped shirts seemed to be in on kids those years, New Kids this or that, a ton of bands and really weird hair like mullets. Your parents can help there. 1990s still qualifies considering the decade is over but is still too easy to re-create. I would ask for a bit of guidance. It is hard for you to re-create an era on your own you never lived in. If you want to look right ask an adult that lived it.
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I am running for class president and I just wrote my speech. I need people to not only edit it, but to tell me what they dont like, what they especially do like, what i should take out, and what i should add. Anyone willing to do that?
then please, IM me at gre3neyedxgirlx3 or email me at justxlovelyx3@yahoo.com (link)
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It does not have to be a popularity contest. All this person needs to do is show those students she does not use candies, badges, stickets to bribe people for a vote and stands on honesty and integrity and is straight up what she can and cannot produce and goes after in the nicest way her opponents and shows to voters that what they promised cannot be done. It is the tell them no lies approach and promise nothing more than you can do approach and show them how other plans fail.
As far as editing a speech goes being a journalist I typically get paid for it. If you post something here provided it is not pages and pages long I will look at it. Polish it though the best you know how. Look it over at least 10 times and take lines out before putting it here.
If I am to help you with it I will be savage and cut 100% of what should not be in there. Keep it simple and do not overwrite what should be no more than a page long. If you thought your teachers would be rough with editing wait til you see what a pro will do to make this thing better and flow.
Worry about your lead sentence being eye-opening and everything typing up to it and your theme. If it is not doing that re-write it. Like I said, edit and re-write it 8-10 times before shoing anyone and remove the fat and words that do not need to be there. Do not give us cliches or 10 words when one word cuts it. Good luck!
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