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quotes on highschool? :)
"These are the roots of your early life. You're just being born in a certain sense." (I thought of that one, sorry if you wanted a different type)
"Enjoy these years, they will be some of the best of your lives."
17/f I use to be a pretty average studant my whole life, i made ok/descent grades, i have always been a very happy person, great personality,good kid but that was through about when i was 15, i met new friends i started drinking and doing drugs. i believe they have effected my brain ALOT. i make horrible grades, i have horrible short term memory, i am never happy anymore, i flip out on everything, and i have the attention span of a 3 year old, i cant pay attention to anything. im sure there i so much stuff i need help with but i just dont know what it is. i fight with all my friends about the stupidest things. and i use to want to go to college, but i feel like there is no way since im so dumb. what should i do? helpppp
The only dumb decision you would be making is choosing NOT to go to college! You need it to make money. if you try to stop the drugs and stop hanging out with those people, and stop drinking then you might get better grades. i think if you really apply yourself, you can do better. i know you wanna fit in, we're human so we all do but in a sense, none of us do. think about it: the popular kids do it because they think they're cool. but the only reason the popular people will hang around you is if you have interesting gossip, and then later you're yesterday's news and they turn the gossip you used to be popular, against you. if you wanna fit in, then be yourself. i tried being myself and i have more friends than i would ever've had trying to be someone i'm not. i'm me. and people like me for that. you're almost 18, do you really wanna spend your last year at home like this? i wouldn't. think of somebody you look up to for motivation. did they ever do that? no. everytime i start to do something wrong i put myself in another position of someone i look up to and think, "would this person be doing that?" and they probably wouldn't be. now, i'm not saying you have to be so classy as to drive with your legs crossed- lol. but i think you get my main point. to help you stay off the drugs...
find new friends- in your neighborhood, classes etc. if you're not successful there, join an after-school-activity. when you're not bored-you're most likely having fun. and the only reason you'd smoke or drink is because you're bored. well... one of the only reasons, anyway. people that are busier get into less trouble in most cases. try that!
maybe go into rehab?- i have a 17 magazine that tells you the steps of rehab real people went through. it's in the may issue. maybe go buy that and check out the article.
see a counselor- i don't know how deep youre in this situation so i shouldn't be suggesting these things so quickly, huh? anyways, they can really help you get to the root of your problem and get rid of the root. when weeds grow in your yard, you quickly rip it up, without getting the root. without getting the root it can grow back again. in other words, if you don't take care of all of the problem, it can get bigger.
congratulate yourself- you're not dumb. because a dumb person wouldn't come on this website for self-help. they wouldn't know to. they wouldn't even think twice. so try to boost your self-esteem a little and give yourself a break! so many people don't even realize how smart they are to come on a website like this and ask for help.
hope i helped!
my friend is at the hospitial.. something to do with her ovaries bursting?
what does that mean?
ovaries are the organs that carry the eggs to make babies and send them through the fallopian tubes- as you probably know already. so if they're bursting this could cause serious damage, especially if they can't fix it! which basically means her organs are bursting.
hope i helped
Ok well i wore a t shirt today. I looked in the mirror when on side slipped and oh my god that area was so light compared to the skin colour of my neck! How can i make my neck the same original colour as my body? it got tanned so bad..and i have to wear a dress soon so it'll show really bad.
bath & body works has nice tanning lotion that takes about a day to work. or you can use bare minerals makeup on your neck- it works perfectly on your face, anyway. both of those products are from experience so don't worry. yea, you could try to tan the rest of you like the columnist before me said, but that might be a bit weird because your neck would only get darker and it'd get worse. might i add that artificial tanning can kill you and if you spend too much time tanning under the sun, or artificially it will give you wrinkles early- like early 20's! maybe wear a dress color that flatters you and your skin and makes it look maybe a bit darker? hope i helped!
i'm not "sexually active" i mean i don't have a bf so yeah. but i'm 15/f and should i like shave "donw there" or not?
i mean like during the summer i shave like a bikini line but should i shave like all of it?
and when i do become "sexually active" should i?
yea if you shave it's considered more feminine and if you're looking for a bf it can be an immediate turn-off if they see it when you wear your bathing suit. it's completely up to you however because if you're happy with yourself, why change? don't change to impress others. do it because you think it would make you happier etc. etc. so bottom line: yea if i were you i would shave it. but use skintimate if you decide to, because it works really good down there. but be aware that razor bumps come with it. should you shave all of it? yes, if you're going to shave some of it you might as well get rid of it all. as for the sexually active part, if the guy's really into you- he won't care. but if you want to be more appealing to him then yes, shave it.
hope i helped
Hey!
K so, I got a new babysitting job this weekend, and I havnt met the kids yet. All I know is that they are a three year old boy and a five year old girl. I have to babysit for about 6 hours, from 11 am to 5 pm. and I'm not sure if they are going to take a nap or not, but I need to try and find some things to do with them. Like I can take them out in the back yard and stuff, but six hours is a long time. Is there anything I can bring to get through the boring parts of the day? Oh, ps, it's supposed to rain, so I kinda doubt I will be able to take them outside for very long.
Thanks!
hey, i'm in the same situation except the kids i'm babysitting are a baby, 5 and 3! anyways, play-dough is fun. when babysitters babysat me i always wanted play-dough. what about a coloring book? kids love coloring and art crafts. how about you rent some movies that their parents permit you guys to watch and watch a couple? that should take care of about 30 minutes- to an hour because they don't like to stay still for long. puzzles are fun too but they do get boring after like 3-5 minutes... or somewhere around there? maybe make them cookies or read them books. and if i were you, i would give them each naps because you don't want them cranky when their parents get back :3 milk makes them tired so if you want to put them to sleep for a nap, give them milk like 15 minutes before it and read a boring story to them- they'll get bored and doze off. that should take care of a good 1-3 hours of time off your shoulders. maybe put on a little show like a puppet show- i know cheesy, right? but it'll entertain them.
hope i helped!
thanks. the only part of it that i forgot to mention. he twisted it around and made my friend seem like i told him i liked it so she would say it. though she said she wouldn't. so now its like more of a twist of what actually happened and whats actually going on!
geeze boys.
Hah, lol. No problem. Happy to help! Feel free to ask me anything.
TTYL
well lately 4 of my friends keep saying one of my friends likes me. and yeah
today i had a conversation with him over going somewhere on friday with others
and he went "man you know what you never come when i go w.e i wont ask you to come anymore" then went "i dont know why im even makin a big deal i just get my hopes up" and i asked'why?'and he said "because i want you there!" and didnt respond back at all after that.
and a little over a week ago...one of my friends asked one of my friends who also knows him..if he liked me..and she said no and was smiling and the 2 of us plus 2 other friends all saw that.
then we were all like mmmm yeh that was a lie
i'm not sure what to do?
he pokes me and yeah.
he said he loves tickling me.
i said to myself yeah that was such a dead give away buddy.
today him and one of my friends were having a tug a war over me and after grabbing my arm he grabbed my waist and pulled me towards him.
and i cant figure out if i like him since i dont spend much time with him to really get to know him.
is it true does he really like me?
Yes hun, he's totally falling for you! If you wanna get him even more hooked: wear pink. It makes guys feel like they have to protect a girl when they wear pink. I know it's weird, but it's true! They also like big eyes like puppy dog eyes because once again, they like the masculine role of protection. If you trash talk, it might be a turn-off because trash talking is a more 'guy thing'. It takes on a masculine role. So yes, he totally likes you! But be mysterious. Guys like it when they can't tell if a girl likes them because it makes it fun to figure out. Tease him back, have fun with it. But remember this if he doesn't like you: "How did you learn to walk when you were a baby? You had to fall. But the important thing is that you got back up and that's what you have to do to ever get somewhere." -Lauren Cronin
I really do hope I helped!
I was wondering, do douches really work?
do they stop the smell?
if so how long does it last?
is a douche like a mop that kind of goes up in side of you?
they cause infections because your vagina has its own natural way of cleaning itself.
so don't use it!
it WILL get it clean, but not in the right way.
if you're looking for a better product maybe you should consult your doctor for cleaning it. just use soap every day in the shower and nothing more. that keeps it clean along with the discharge it produces.
hope i helped!
i read in a magazine that if you put a dab of toothpaste of a pimple, it will dry out by morning.
i tried it once, and it started stinging a little. i'm just wondering if thats ok, because i don't want to make it worse..
so is it alright to use toothpaste?
help is appreciated.
yea it's fine.
it works "ok" but it wouldn't be my first choice, it's really meant for more of an alternative.
it's supposed to sting, that happened to me too.
you're okay!
just keep doing it for about a week straight and it should go away ;)
if i run like an hour a day, or more like jogish.
could i go from like 140 to 110 like by june.
like im gonna try to losee it over the summer too.
but im also a diabetic, so like i have to eat a certain amount, and like its hard.
but yea so if i ran could i?
or what else could i do that would work really well.
30 minutes of walking on the treadmil is all you need! As long as you do it every day and eat healthier progressively throughout your diet, and after your diet etc. but not eating as less. RUNNING= BAD! If you run, your legs will sag and wrinkle at a young age. Coconut oil, (a spoonful everyday) also helps you see a difference. Which you can find at a supermarket. It will probably help you about 3lbs a week and eating grapefruit raises metabolism which is probably burning 10 calories per grapefruit.
HOPE I HELPED!
on my ipod, i plug it into the computer and in the corner there is a little battery in the charger which means its charging and its supposed to pop up on my computer..but my problem is that when i plug it in the battery comes for about 5 seconds then goes away, is my ipod broken? HELP!
I don't think there's anything wrong.
It's not broken as far as my knowledge reaches.
I have one too, but I don't watch it charge.
I think maybe this means it only charges for a few minutes? If you haven't charged it in the past for a full 3 1/2 hours each time, it will only charge for a short amount of time, EVERY time. So it may not be able to be fixed. For more information you can go to the iTunes website for help. I don't remember the link, sorry! Hope I helped.
ahh! so i have this big problem =(
i get reallly shy around this guy i like.
and its getting worst every day!
ahh. in the beginning it wasnt that bad but now its getting worst and worst. ahh and i hate it. i mean i try to pull myslef together and get a grip and face him but im just too scared to!! why do you think that is?
also i want to be around him but once im there i pretend i dont know him and he wont talk to me either, hes the same as me.
but its weird becasue we used to talk in school a lot and we talk online almost everyday for atleast an hour!
this like almost never happens to me.
well it does everytime its a guy i like before im freinds with him =(( help me to get myself to RELAX and talk to him already!
"How did you learn to walk when you were a baby? You fell. But the important thing is that you got back up. " -Lauren Cronin
Do you get the message in that? It means if you ever wanna get anywhere, the only way you'll do it right is if you do it wrong the first time. You're afraid of him thinking you're some loser, aren't you? Well everyone is. And losers are the ones who don't get up after they fall. So what I'm trying to say that if you talk to him- YES, You WILL get scared and you WILL be rejected eventually in the dating world. And that's life! But if you don't jump back into the dating world, you'll never learn to live in it. Does that make sense? Hope so. You're not afraid of HIM rejecting you. It's not the chance of the fact that he won't like you back that bothers you. It's the rejection.
But everyone faces it.
And you'll live on.
So go ahead and talk to him, IMing, email, texting, or even in person. He probably thinks it's weird too that you guys don't talk anymore.
Bottom Line: You're gonna fall. And you're gonna succeed. You don't know if you'll fall or fly with this guy... so you're afraid. But can you name somebody who HASN'T been afraid? Relax! It's life. Everyone does.
I really hope I helped!
I've been there. But you'll see yourself through it.
No worries
okay well this is the 7th time me and my boyfriend have gone out over a period of about two years now.the last time i broke up with him because he never talked to me. we're in the same school but hes a year older than me but our grades share everything. i saw him everyday but he never talked to me so i dumped him and went out with this other kid like 3 days later and we dated for like 5 months.and i broke up with him to date my ex. anyways. i feel like we're back at stage one. but worse. he not only ignores me at school, but online, never answers my texts, and whenever i ask him to hang out he either says ok he'll ask and then never does, pretends to forget and hangs out with other girls and stuff. and it really pisses me off but i try not to show it and when i DO talk to him, i can't help but be a bitch because he pisses me off. i really like him alot, he's my everything. by the way, i'm in 7th grade and hes in 8th. what should i do? i dont want to break up with him as like a wake up call because that wont do any good, i know for sure. any other ideas? sorry this is so long.
He's an ignorant asshole. Dump him. He's too immature and cocky for a real relationship with you. And the only thing he wants you for is to show off to other guys so he can say, "Yup, that's my girlfriend!" and brag to the rest of his guy friends. Needless to say, he's not worth your time and/or effort to change-- OR EVEN TALK TO!!! It's nothing personal if he wants to go out with you, if he still wants to go out with a bunch of other girls that he blows you off to be with. I hate to say this, but you're nothing special to him and neither are those other girls. If you have to be a bitch to him everytime you guys talk, who's fault is that? His. He's the antagonist. So good luck!
i have an iPod Nano. on one account on my computer all my music is there. on the other account on my computer theres 10 or so songs i need but when i plug my iPod in it says i can only be linked to one iTunes Library ;how can i fix this? and re-downloading them on the other account is not an option.
I have the same thing. And you can't change it. Your iPod network thing or whatever it is, only allows you to link to one PC or computer. Thus leading to you being given the mandatory option of redownloading the songs on your other account if you want them.
hey im 14/f
theres a guy i like and sit with at lunch who has been making fun of me all year, but in a "flirty way". for example if i drop a french fry he'll call me "ketchup fingers" (haha i love his sense of humor).
but sometimes he can get really ...frustrating, like one day he'll joke about me being a lesbian (which im pretty sure i'm not cause I like this guy :p) or comment on how short my skirt is (which it isn't), etc. it's really embarassing and it hurts my feelings because one of his friends who doesnt sit with us told me he likes me (i dont know whether to believe him or not because of how much he changes, but on the other hand over the entire year he has pretty much proved he likes me)
so should i get over him? he likes me (i believe), and i like him, but he's being totally disrespectful and i am a big believer in a thing called R-E-S-P-E-C-T
thanks in advanceee
Most of the time when guys act like that, they don't know they're hurting your feelings. I know it'd be awkward to talk to him about it, but that's the real test. If he's nice and stops, then he's a respectful guy. And if not, you know the rest of the story and to get over him. Another thing: Have you seen the way he treats his mother? That's the main key. If he treats his mom like crap, you'll be treated no differently. Most guys are oblivious that way when they tease girls and don't really know what they're doing or how they really make somebody feel... so don't take it too personally. But DON'T ignore it! You've gotta say something. And it's GREAT that you have self-respect. So keep that with you for the rest of your life.
Hope I helped!
there is a game that people play on the computer at my school all the time, and you like draw a line for this little guy to skateboard or snowboard or whatever off of it. and it looks really fun. whats the name of the game and where can i find it?
It's called LineRider.
okay so at my school now, im kinda really quite and shy. and i really hate it becuase i want to be able to meet new people. i was fine with it because i had my best friends and stuff, but we got in a big fight. and its over for good. i was devistated... and i was so depressed and lonely... and i still am now. but im going to go to a new school next year and i need so advice on how to meet new friends.. and how to over come being shy... and stuff like that.
Get involved.
In soccer, or drama, or find an after school activity that meets your interests so you can meet people with the same interests and intentions. You'll get along if you all like the same thing, hopefully. As much as I hate to say this, your true friends are the ones you had since 2nd grade, or elementary school, or sometime way back when etc. I went to a new school this year, and I know I have ONE TRUE friend. I've been friends with her for NINE years, since kindergarden and we know we won't backstab each other because it was just be so out of what we both believe in. I'm not saying you can't find friends at your new school, you CAN find them. But before you start scheming for new friends I suggest you try to get back together with your old group of friends.
Be yourself.
I myself, have not overcomed shyness either and I know it's really hard. But at the beginning of the year, I started being a little more friendly and weird in a good way to one of my best friend's guy friend and we clicked instantly and we're great friends now because of it. Be friendly, outgoing, and just who you are! I know this one girl who was the weirdest girl, SO judgmental, so loud, so crazy, and she was herself and everybody loved her for it. But she snapped a lot too. Anyways, bottom line: If you're not yourself around people they won't like you for who you are or for the right reasons etc.
Compliment somebody, talk about bands, movies, where you're from etc.
Hope I helped.
Is cunt the same as cum?
No, your cunt is your vagina, and cum is the discharge-like stuff that comes out when masturbating etc. .
Try urbandictionary.com, they have TONS of answers if I didn't help!
so i liked this guy(he will be called A)over the summer A told me he liked me and he would always say really sweet things (we never really talked on the phone all we did was txt) well one night A ask for some pics of my boobs so i give him the pics after he tlks me into it and just bout every night he asked for pics so i gave him the pic. he said how he wouldnt show anyone well when school starts i found out that he did show people. to make a long story short i still liked him after that and he knew it(we also messed around twcie after i found out bout the pics n stuff) so i think i am over him now. so i was talking to his friend (i will call him B) B asked for pics n i gave hime some after he talked me into it.i really like B alot and he said that we sould be special friends (like friends wit benifits)i really wanna tell B that i want a relationship cuz im tired of getting hurt but i dont wanna sound corny bout it u kno..if anyome has advice please give me some!!!
Okay, let me start off by saying.... you are NOT a whore! An immature guy tricked you into profanity for his sexual desires that shouldn't be fulfilled. But what guys like him think is that women are here to keep their sexual fantasies alive and we have to live up to their expectations. NONE of those guys (A or B) deserve you! In the long run, could you really picture yourself falling in love with a guy you met through his friend asking to see pictures of your boobs? No. I doubt anyone could. I think he needs to clean up his act and gets his shit together before he's ready for any kind of REAL relationship. Sorry if I sound rude, but a relationship with one of those guys is going to ruin your life if you go further than "messing around" with them. TONS OF STDs out there like Herpes, AIDES etc. and there are no cures. But I'm sure you already know that ;) Guys can't expect us to be perfect goddesses for their "fun & games". We don't all have long legs, curvy and flat stomachs, huge boobs, and big lips because they want us to. And the little imperfections are what make us beautiful. Picture this:
You like him.
You like him right NOW.
You have sex with him.
You get an STD that you have to live with the rest of your life because that guy probably did the same with other girls and it was nothing personal with any of them including you.
You get pregnant.
Your baby inherits the STD.
You can't go out with your friends on a Saturday night because you have to take care of the baby.
You have to put the baby up for adoption. How sad would that be?
Immensely depressing. Better than abortion though!
And then you meet a great guy and have to tell him you had a kid before. Not fun. But you SHOULD feel a bit sluttish, yeah. Like columnists before me said, don't do it again. Imagine after this you meet a nice guy, and he hears about half nude pics. What would happen next?
Now I'm getting out of hand I know. I'm just telling you the consequences for your actions. So bottom Line: Don't date EITHER of those guys.
I think you get my point now :)