Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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I'm 18 and going to a Foam party in a club after getting my results back with all my friends and I want to know what to wear?
I was thinking of wearing some black shorts and a tight top maybe but should I wear a bikini underneath or something and what kind of shoes?
I never been to a foam party but been out a few times, I'm pretty sure the short dresses don't apply for this one though lol btw It's legal to drink at 18 so I'm not breaking any laws. (link)
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Wear what you would normally wear to a club, but don't wear anything that will get see-through when its wet.
Shorts are a better idea than a dress and a dark colored top would be best. You can wear a bathing suit underneath if you want, but thats not really necessary.
My cousin's phone got wet at a foam party and it was ruined, so be careful what you bring in with you.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I'm interested in getting a Palm Beach Tanning membership but I am just so confused on the membership options. On their website, it says there's different levels- Silver, Gold, Platinum, and Diamond. But it doesn't say exactly what those levels are.. What does each level offer me? Also, how long are these memberships? Is it a monthly membership (I pay once a month?) can I purchase a weekly membership or a yearly membership?
Anything else I should know about the memberships?
Thanks! (link)
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I would go into the store and ask the employees all your questions. I signed up for a tanning membership and was VERY confused, so please be very well informed before you pay a cent.
At my salon you would purchase months of unlimited tanning or a certain number of sessions. With sessions you can use them whenever, so that might be a good option for you.
READ THE CONTRACT! Yes, you have to sign a contract at a tanning salon. What the signs at the salon didn't tell me was that it was $50 a month, not in total. And it also didn't tell me that I had to CANCEL my membership. Even though I paid for a 3 month membership, it kept going unless I cancelled it by a certain date. They charged me for 3 extra months that I didn't even want to tan.
And pay attention to how knowledgable the employees are. My salon was relatively new and I could tell the employees were unorganized. After paying $100 for the extra months I didn't need, I cancelled my membership. I thought it was over with. The salon actually forgot to put my cancellation in the system, and they lost my paperwork. I was charged again.
It's been a nightmare. So all I can tell you is be very careful.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I heard it cleanses out your colon, then I also heard that its bad for you. So is it good or bad? (link)
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You really aren't supposed to ingest salt water. You can use it for other purposes, like gargling to help a sore throat or mouth ulcers, or use it on wounds to help keep them from getting infected. I wouldn't drink it.
-Abby
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Me: 17/F
Him: 15/M
Every single one of our dates has been watching movies at my house, and I accidentally fell asleep on him one time too and I feel terrible about it. I have my license and he's got a job right now... I'm wondering what I can do to make our relationship better, what kind of dates can we do, what movies to watch, something! He's too shy to tell me what he wants, so I'm thinking I'm gonna have to take charge again. What're some things we could do? (link)
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He's younger then you, and probably feels a little powerless because he can't drive and has to depend on you for that. He doesn't want you to have to chauffer him around.
Try getting out in your area and doing something. Bowling, mini golf, ice skating, swimming, etc. My boyfriend and I like to go for walks in the parks or in the woods. Walking around the mall is even fun if you are tired of sitting at home.
You can try a group outing to a theme park, or a double date. Go out to eat somewhere, go for ice cream. Go see a movie in the theatres. Drive to the beach or a lake one day, if possible. Go for a picnic! At state parks they sometimes have boat docks where you can rent canoes or paddle boats, this is another fun outside activity. You can go to the dollar store or five and below and find some stupid stuff to play with.
Be creative and ask him for suggestions sometimes.
And don't pressure him into anything, the age difference of two years may not seem like a lot but when you are this young, it can be huge.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I was wondering if I bought the gel stuff the nail shops put on your nails (what they put on every 2 weeks) would make my nail polish stay on longer? (link)
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Nail polish does last longer on the fake nails they put on you at the salon, but it is not easy to apply on yourself.
You would need to buy the acrylic powder, the liquid solvent, the brush, the oil they use on your cuticles, and you would need a drill system to shape it. If you are talking about gels, then you need a UV light source.
And you usually can't just paint over your nails, thats why they glue on a fake tip to start you off.
If you are talking about the 'gel' top coat they apply after your nails are done, this can be bought but again, you need a UV light to cure it.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Okay, I really don't want to sound pathetic but this has been bothering me for a while...
Would a guy ask another girl out right in front of me to see if I would be jealous? We had been talking and just asks this other girl out who was near us. I was pretty mad... (link)
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Guys absolutely do that stuff to make other girls jealous. If it seems like he purposely did it in front of you and made it super obvious so you could hear, and he didn't really pay attention to this girl before, then he may be doing it to see how you react.
You also have to consider the possibility that he actually likes her.
I would lie low for a little and see what happens. He'll act interested in you soon and look for your reaction if he only did it to make you jealous.
Good luck,
-Abby
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When yours popped did it burn when you peed because I was 7 an it my vagina an a bike an later that day I went the bathroom an it burned an there was blood so is my cherry popped or what very confused at the time (link)
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The person below me is not entirely correct.
First off, 'popping your cherry' is a slang term for breaking your hymen. This is the thin layer of skin in your vagina. Many people associate sex with 'popping the cherry' because that can happen during sex. But that is not the only way it can happen.
Some girls are born without a hymen, or it is in a position where it will never be broken.
Other girls break it in ways other than sex. Sports, physical activity, inserting a tampon, etc. can break it. I broke mine at the age of 12 when I put in my first tampon. I bled and it did hurt and was sore for a while, but it healed just fine.
You might have broken your hymen, and if so then it isn't anything to worry about. If you are doing well now and aren't in pain and aren't bleeding anymore, then don't be concerned. If you are not feeling well, see a doctor.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Do older teachers..(men).. like in there late 20's and up..fantasize about younger girls..like in the classes they teach?
I know this sounds odd ..but I was just wondering..since all the crimes about teachers seduce there students, the students seduce them..
Like, I've noticed to guy teacher's I know..make a lot of eye contact with me. I think it's just because they wanna make sure your listening, and that they really care about your learning..etc.
I was just wondering! Thanks! (link)
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This REALLY depends on the situation.
Do all male teachers do this? Absolutely not.
The worst stories are the only ones ever talked about on the news, so it's easy to think its common to have a male teacher sexually harrass a younger student. This does happen, but not as often as you think. When it's the case of an older men making advances on a much younger girl (like from elementary school and up) then that person is disturbed and has a problem. If its a pervy teacher who makes advances to his high school students, obviously he has low moral standards and doesn't care too much about respect or his job.
At my high school, there was a case where a teacher just out of college fell in love with a high school senior. They actually started a relationship and he was suspended for a year. However, now they both teach at the same high school and are considered great teachers by many students.
But is that common? Not typically. Most schools will not be so understanding and it is easy for a young teacher to end his career before it has even started. I've had many fresh out of college teachers and student teachers and none have ever made innapropiate advances to me or other girls in the class.
What I'm trying to say is, if the teachers who fantasize about their students, the majority of them will not let that be known. Once that line is crossed it can destroy reputations, careers, and emotionally damage people. Think about it this way, your school probably has a cute teacher that all the girls talk about, but none of you would ever ask him out on a date or try something with him. A teacher may see a cute girl and be attracted to her, but he won't do anything about it.
And btw, you're right about the eye contact. Its a technique used to help the students focus.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Okay, some basic information you may need or not. I am 16/f (virgin NO Possiblity I am pregnant) I am a little over weight but in the past year I have gotten on a regular exercize routine, so the weight is slowly going down. I drink a lot of pop. I am moderately stressed I would say over my relationship issues... but that's constant I am used to it now.
Anyways my periods are never right. I had my period in the beginning of May and then I had it again on June 6th but I still haven't gotten it this month. It does this a lot ever since I was 12 and got my first period. I used to go for 4-5 months between periods but now it's down to 2-3 months apart. Then there are the occasional months they are normal... I just don't understand! Is this a problem, will I be able to have health children ( is that a stupid question)??? What am I doing wrong? (link)
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Many girls have irregular periods.
First off, when you first start your period, it can take years to get on a regular schedule.
Exercising can sometimes delay your period, as well as stress.
It isn't abnormal to skip months or be irregular. This happens. You may find that as you get older it gets more regular, or that you are just one of the people who always have irregular periods.
I think your health is fine now, but next time you go to the doctors, talk about it. When you reach the age where you want to have kids, you will probably have already seen a gynecologist and know if you can have kids or have some issues with that. I wouldn't worry about it too much now.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Being raised on a good family, I am loved by so many. I am a good child, a friendly person, and I do have a lot of friends to turn to and trust. I don't think life could be any better. I'm so happy, despite the fact I just got over a nasty breakup. I have a normal, decent social life and I don't think I have any reason to feel lonely, but I do. I tend to get depressed at times but I don't understand why. I am the happiest I have ever been in my sixteen years.
Lately I have been feeling alone and scared. But I don't even know why. I started crying before I wrote this and I don't even know the reason for it. Why do I feel so lonely? I have such a wonderful family and a lot of friends and I know that I don't have anything holding me back.
When I was in therapy my therapist was going to prescribe me with anti-depressants but our sessions got cut off due to poor healthcare. I've always had a faint thought I was bipolar or something but I think I'm just very emotional. I feel like I have no one to talk to yet there are plenty of people I'd talk to if I wanted or needed to. Help? (link)
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Hi darling,
I just want to tell you that I can relate. In 9th grade, I went from a very tiny school (15 kids in my grade!) to a huge high school (800 kids in my grade!) and it was a SHOCK. I went from being a big fish in a small pond to being one of many. I still had my good friends but I didn't get to see them often, so I fell into depression. No one really understood it since I was just a teenager and I had a pretty good life, so my mom wouldn't even accept that I was depressed.
But I worked through it, some how.
Now I don't know your situation, maybe its the break up that is causing you to be depressed, or maybe your prone to depression, or both. I'm not a doctor so I can't be sure. But I firmly believe that depression doesn't have to be cured by medication in all cases, and that as people we can overcome it. Of course there are some people who would really benefit from the medication and thats great, but if you can do without it then you will become so much stronger for it.
My boyfriend moved 4 hours away, and that has caused me to feel very lonely. It is hard with relationships because one second you have a person that will always be there for you and you can depend on, and then once you break up thats over. I hung out with him every day, so I wasnt surprised that i was lonely all of a sudden.
Most importantly, you need to understand your feelings. Try keeping a journal. Write down everything that you feel each day. You can look back on these feelings and try to determine what is causing them. Listen to music and pay attention to what songs you choose. This can be very telling of your state of mind.
Try to do something soothing, like meditation. I hear that doing this each morning when you wake up and before you go to bed it makes your day so much easier and less stressful. Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and let the thoughts come to you. Accept the bad thoughts while you breathe in, and let them go when you exhale.
Finding someone to talk to is a great way to vent. Pick someone in your life who is very empathetic and understanding. It would be great if you could talk to a friend and a family member, so you could get each point of view. Being able to talk about your feelings and then get feedback can make you feel so much less alone in all of this. You have people who care about you and want ot help.
Hanging out with my friends helps get my mind off of things, and so does doing new things. Plan a beach/road trip, take up an instrument, start exercising, do something exciting! Adding something new to your life can make a whole new world of opportunity appear.
Another thing that helps me stay positive is reading. Putting your nose into a good book can get your mind of of things and put yourself in someone elses shoes.
Lastly, a good attitude is key. Just take deep breaths and try to see the POSITIVE in your life. Remember that everything that isn't so good in your life now can be changed or will pass. Things will get better.
If you still feel lonely and depressed after trying hard to improve, then I do reccomend therapy or seeing your doctor again, if possible. You can probably get free counseling at your school or local church. Just remember there are many solutions, and one will work for you. Just keep trying.
I hope that could help a least a little.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I drink 2 sugar-free rockstars daily, and I have been for a few years, and I think it's messed with my kidneys really bad...I feel discomfort in my lower back, and I know it's not just muscle pain...I know I need to stop drinking the energy drinks, and I'm going to stop starting tonight, but I'm worried I may have caused permanent damage...I DID have a Scan done last year to see if my kidneys were damaged, and they said they were fine, and my bladder was just fine, but there was just a pebble-sized kidney stone, but one that wouldn't need to be treated...so I went on drinking the energy drinks, and now I'm worried I f-ed things up... (link)
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I don't know if energy drinks can damage your kidneys, but they aren't healthy in general and if you can eliminate them from your diet then do so.
Your body is probably used to them and going cold turkey isn't a good idea. You should go to one a day for now and then once you get used to that only do it every other day, and wean yourself off of it.
Once you have gone a few weeks free of energy drinks, you should see if you feel a difference in your health. If your symptoms continue to persist, then you may want another scan. This can be a kidney issue or maybe something totally different.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I'm getting married in 9 months time, the venue has cost more than we expected so we're having to cut costs elsewhere, which means I will be doing my own make up.
I'm 27 years old and I still have no idea about make up, I have very dry skin so I have to put mosturiser on my face, then foundation and it still looks flakey.
This is my main problem so if anyone can recomend any brilliant foundation fo that smooth airbrushed look? I've read about "Primer" too but I have no idea what that is, i'm never used it.
Next i'd like gorgeous eye make up, celebrities wear it a certain way which seems to change the shape of their eyes.
As you can tell i'm completely clueless and desperately need some fab advice.
Thank you (link)
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First off, Congrats on the wedding!
I'm a huge make up fan, and when I get married I'll probably do my own make up because only you know what you want to look like on your special day.
If you aren't great at it, I suggest practicing a lot. Google make up looks and try them out. It might take many tries to get what you want.
Have you ever gotten your make up done at one of the counters in the mall? Ususally they do not charge for this, it's just assumed that you will buy one of the products they use on you. You can schedule a consultation and then make an appointment on your wedding day. You can buy perhaps the lip color and mascara they use, and get out of it only spending $40.
If you still want to do it on your own, then here are my tips.
Primer helps your make up stay on longer and go on smoother. I use it every day, and you will definitely want it for your wedding day.
For eye shadow, get Urban Decay's Primer Potion (around $18). It is the best out there.
For your face you can explore and try different things. I use Bare Minerals prime time, and I love it. You can find cheaper options, like from Rimmel, but you might not want to skimp on your wedding day. They have primers for dry skin, oily skin, etc. so look for your skin type.
For your foundation, I suggest a cream foundation. It's thick and covers a lot. I use Maybelline Dream Smooth Mousse, which is a drug store brand.
There is a more high end foundation I also reccommend. Makeup Forever HD foundation. The HD products will help you look GREAT in pictures. I suggest the make up forever hd powder on top of everything to set your make up.
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P217905&categoryId=B70
http://www.sephora.com/browse/product.jhtml?id=P210400&categoryId=B70
You should also use bronzer, which you don't need to spend a lot of money on. Look for a matte (meaning no sparkles) bronzer. This will be natural and give you some color. Use a dark shade to contour. This means to give your face definition. Make a fishy face and apply the bronzer to the hollows beneah your cheeks.
Blush can also be purchased really cheaply. I suggest a cream blush, with a powder blush over top. The combo will create multi-dimensional color as well as hold it down longer.
Pat the cream blush on and very gently blend. If you swirl it on then it will create a 'hole' in your other make up. Go for a color that is close to your natural shade. Wedding make up should be very you, but just enhanced.
For the eyes, I suggest neutral but sparkly colors. You can do to any drug store and find colors that would suit you.
Make sure you put a high light (a very light, shimmery color) on your inner tear ducts and right under your eye brows. This makes you look more awake. Put the darkest color on the outer corner and blend into the crease.
I suggest using colors like warm browns, champagne colors, whites, taupes, maybe a little bit of a plum, or some golds. Keep it simple but radiant.
For eye liner that stays on, I suggest Mac Fluidline in Blacktrack. This is a gel liner that is water proof. Top this off with a black eye shadow to set it.
I strongly suggest wearing fake lashes. You can get a set that looks natural at the drugstore, walmart, sally beauty, or even the high end stores. They take some work to learn to apply, but once you get the hang of it it isn't bad. When you cry you won't have a ton of mascara on your face because you are wearing fake lashes.
Get a waterproof mascara to 'blend' your lashes in with the fake ones. Really test out your mascara, because I've had waterproof ones that are barely waterproof.
For your lips, you can use a lipstain if you want it to last all day. The drug store has lots of them, but I also like Tarte products which are very moisturizing.
I use urban decay Dew Me make up setting spray to set my make up. It's moisturizing, so this might help combat your dry skin through the day.
As for your dry skin, you might want to try a new moisturizer. Philosophy (sold at Sephora) has a raved about moisturizer called Hope in a Jar. I hear it works wonders. If you start this before you wedding, you might be able to eliminate the dry skin problem.
Did you know youtube has a beauty community. There are TONS of users who create make up videos and tutorials which really help me, and they have lots of wedding inspired videos. I think this could help you a lot!
I hope that could help. Good luck!
-Abby
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Last Thursday I was at the beach and I caught a yeast infection. it started out with slight itching and a lot of discharge. Then, a few days later it formed raw skin. A risen bumpy red rash. The inside of my vagina was swollen white with discharge. I started taking Azo Yeast (pills) on Thursday. the bottle says to take 3 a day if you have a yeast infection. I took 3 a day plus daily vitamins. We came home from the beach monday night and I told my mom. She's a dr so she checked it out and said to take probiotics (acidophilus) and to continue with the Azo Yeast. It still wasn't going away so while we were at Walgreens yesterday, (wednesday) i purchased some Monistat 1 day Ovule. I used it right before bed. Within two hours of sleep I woke up to a heavy rubbery white discharge and my vagina was VERY irritated red and itchy. The itchiness was UN BEAR ABLE. it still is. It's very swollen and red and nothing is comfortable. I looked up reviews online and it's an allergic reaction to the ovule preservative. How do I get rid of this reaction??? It's so unbearable. Today is Thursday. it's been a week and i'm still suffering. Help me. The dr's is closed because she is on vacation for a week. How do i get rid of an allergic reaction? (link)
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I took the Monistat 1 day for a yeast infection and I had the same reaction. It was horrible, itchy and burning. Thankfully, those symptoms only lasted two days or so. I literally put an ice pack between my legs to help subside the pain, and this actually helped A LOT. I also used the anti itch cream that came with the monistat.
You might want to go to the emergency room if this has persisted for so long and your doctor isn't there. You probably still have an infection as well as an allergic reaction. Yeast infections are not always easy to self diagnose, so you might even be suffering from something else like a UTI.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Well, I wanna make my bedroom look more sophisticated. I have about 9 posters on one wall of celebrities. I was wondering how I could arrange it on the wall to make it look cool and mature. I was kind of hoping to take off 3-4 of the posters, but I think it would make the wall look bland then. any advice would be appreciated, thanks :)
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Get wall decorations that isn't all about celebrities. Picture frames and mirrors can make a room look more sophisticated. You can even get stickers/paint meaningful quotes on your walls.
If you really admire a celebrity, frame their poster in a stylish frame to give your room some character.
-Abby
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whats the difference between sex and oral sex? (link)
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Sex is a loosely used word. It can describe many things, such as oral sex, anal sex, vaginal sex, etc. But when most people say 'we had sex,' they mean vaginal intercourse. That means the penis entered the vagina. Unless you are talking to a homosexual person, in which case they mean anal sex (for men) or oral sex (for women).
Oral sex can stand on its own or be an act of foreplay before sex. This means one partner pleasures the other partners genitals with his or her toungue and mouth.
-Abby
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I'm only 13 so I don't have to worry about it yet, I hope. And I'm a girl but should girls shave there vaginas when having sex? What do guys like? (link)
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You are 13, do yourself a favor and don't worry about it yet.
You are no where near old enough or mature enough (emotionally and physcially) to have sex. A guy shouldn't be down there for YEARS.
Once you start shaving there, you have to keep up with it. You can easy get cut there, or get razor burn and ingrown hairs. It's a pain in the butt.
And guys have different preferences. Some like it completely bare, others like some hair. When the time comes, you will probably be safe if you just keep it trimmed and neatly groomed.
-Abby
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I just recently finished a bunch of stressful exams, and a period of stress induced (and antibiotic induced) anxiety/melancholy. It's summer now and i feel much better, ready to get my life back on track, but i'm scared i'm still going to have the occasional 'black day', like a day where i fall into anxiety again and don't feel like doing anything. Any advice on how i can keep myself up beat and enjoy the awesome summer?? (link)
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I totally understand where you are coming from. After a depressed period, I am always scared I will fall right back into it.
To keep myself happy, I try to stay busy. Hang out with friends or family. Plan a vacation or some day trips. Read a book, get a job, clean your room, etc. Make a list of summer goals and try to accomplish all of them. Go shopping and try out a new look, or a new hairstyle. Keep new and fun things in your life, and you won't have time to feel sad.
When you do have bad thoughts, take it in stride. Write them in a journal or meditate each morning. Accept the thoughts, think about how that makes you feel, and take deep breaths. You can handle it.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I'm a 13 year old girl and I want advice tips etc to help me become a better singer. people say you have to be born with a great voice but i wanna no how to be a good singer. I mean I can rap i just wish soo much that I could be a good singer. Please help! Thanks. :) (link)
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I've heard many times that with proper training, a voice can improve greatly. That doesn't mean you can turn into Christina Aguilera if you don't already have some of that talent, but you can work with your voice and get it to it's fullest potential.
Voice training is the best way to do that. Find a music teacher who offers lessons. This can be expensive and time consuming, but if you really want to improve your voice then it is worth it.
Maybe you can join your school choir? There you will get lots of practice warming up, singing, and reading music.
You can look up vocal warm ups online (google, youtube, etc.) and other voice exercises to extend your range.
http://www.ehow.com/video_2385247_warmup-exercises-voice.html
Most of all, keep trying new things and practicing.
Good luck,
-Abby
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14 year old male and a few months ago i started masturbating and lately i've started to masturbate a lot more it feels really good it is normal to masturbate a lot isn't it? (link)
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Masturbation is normal as long as it doesn't interfere with your relationships with other people or your responsibilities.
-Abby
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im 15 almost 16 and ive never gotten kissed before, and im scared and not sure what to do. what if we bump noses or something.
melissa (link)
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Hi Melissa!
Well I didn't have my first kiss til I was 16, so don't worry about it! I was a little nervous, but when the time came it happened very naturally and wasn't awkward.
Wait for the right moment. Take it slow and tilt your head, (then your noses won't bump!)and keep your eyes open til you are in position. Start with a short, gentle kiss, and work your way up.
There can be awkward moments when it comes to kissing, but if you can laugh at it then it becomes a funny story to tell. Don't stress, it's really a lot of fun :)
Good luck,
-Abby
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