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Feeling extremely lonely, but why?
Being raised on a good family, I am loved by so many. I am a good child, a friendly person, and I do have a lot of friends to turn to and trust. I don't think life could be any better. I'm so happy, despite the fact I just got over a nasty breakup. I have a normal, decent social life and I don't think I have any reason to feel lonely, but I do. I tend to get depressed at times but I don't understand why. I am the happiest I have ever been in my sixteen years.
Lately I have been feeling alone and scared. But I don't even know why. I started crying before I wrote this and I don't even know the reason for it. Why do I feel so lonely? I have such a wonderful family and a lot of friends and I know that I don't have anything holding me back.
When I was in therapy my therapist was going to prescribe me with anti-depressants but our sessions got cut off due to poor healthcare. I've always had a faint thought I was bipolar or something but I think I'm just very emotional. I feel like I have no one to talk to yet there are plenty of people I'd talk to if I wanted or needed to. Help?
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Hi darling,
I just want to tell you that I can relate. In 9th grade, I went from a very tiny school (15 kids in my grade!) to a huge high school (800 kids in my grade!) and it was a SHOCK. I went from being a big fish in a small pond to being one of many. I still had my good friends but I didn't get to see them often, so I fell into depression. No one really understood it since I was just a teenager and I had a pretty good life, so my mom wouldn't even accept that I was depressed.
But I worked through it, some how.
Now I don't know your situation, maybe its the break up that is causing you to be depressed, or maybe your prone to depression, or both. I'm not a doctor so I can't be sure. But I firmly believe that depression doesn't have to be cured by medication in all cases, and that as people we can overcome it. Of course there are some people who would really benefit from the medication and thats great, but if you can do without it then you will become so much stronger for it.
My boyfriend moved 4 hours away, and that has caused me to feel very lonely. It is hard with relationships because one second you have a person that will always be there for you and you can depend on, and then once you break up thats over. I hung out with him every day, so I wasnt surprised that i was lonely all of a sudden.
Most importantly, you need to understand your feelings. Try keeping a journal. Write down everything that you feel each day. You can look back on these feelings and try to determine what is causing them. Listen to music and pay attention to what songs you choose. This can be very telling of your state of mind.
Try to do something soothing, like meditation. I hear that doing this each morning when you wake up and before you go to bed it makes your day so much easier and less stressful. Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and let the thoughts come to you. Accept the bad thoughts while you breathe in, and let them go when you exhale.
Finding someone to talk to is a great way to vent. Pick someone in your life who is very empathetic and understanding. It would be great if you could talk to a friend and a family member, so you could get each point of view. Being able to talk about your feelings and then get feedback can make you feel so much less alone in all of this. You have people who care about you and want ot help.
Hanging out with my friends helps get my mind off of things, and so does doing new things. Plan a beach/road trip, take up an instrument, start exercising, do something exciting! Adding something new to your life can make a whole new world of opportunity appear.
Another thing that helps me stay positive is reading. Putting your nose into a good book can get your mind of of things and put yourself in someone elses shoes.
Lastly, a good attitude is key. Just take deep breaths and try to see the POSITIVE in your life. Remember that everything that isn't so good in your life now can be changed or will pass. Things will get better.
If you still feel lonely and depressed after trying hard to improve, then I do reccomend therapy or seeing your doctor again, if possible. You can probably get free counseling at your school or local church. Just remember there are many solutions, and one will work for you. Just keep trying.
I hope that could help a least a little.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Maybe you're depressed or stressed out. Surround yourself with your very best friends and family that always makes me feel better.
Maybe you need to get out more. Go do something fun like watch a movie, go for pinics with friends, go swimming etc. Just have fun!
Talk to your doctor if your really that concerned. They usually know best and probably know more on being depressed and what you can do about it,
Have you ever thought that maybe it could be hormones? I used to (and still do!) go through various moods. They're usually worse when I'm having my period. You could be very close to that time if you haven't already gotten it.
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