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Re-doing it soon..

Sorry everyone for falling off the face of the earth.

I was living in Vegas for a while, without a computer.

But i am back now and i hope to be helping people soon.

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Okay, I know that you have a ton of these questions, but oh well.
I'm 14/f, and I live in pennsylvania. In pennsylvania you can start working when you're 14, but few places will hire. Does anyone know where they hire at 14. I heard about McDonalds, and there's a McDonalds where I live, but I don't think they hire at 14. Wendy's doesn't hire until 16, neither does Rita's. So does anyone know any places?

Btw, I can't babysit. Not allowed to, and there's no one to babysit and it's almost fall so I can't do landscaping.

Thanks in advance!!

Wegmans- if you have one by you

So I'm curious. When I cuddle with my boyfriend, I tend to kind of wrap around him, but I always end up laying on one of my arms and it gets uncomfortable really fast. What the heck do I do with my arm?
Like, I'll be laying on my left side (and arm) with my right arm wrapped around him, but my left arm ends up going numb...
Weird question, yeah, but that's why it's under random weirdos.

Haha... im so glad i came across this question.

I actually had the same problem, because i am a "random wierdo" but my friends never took me seriously when i asked them.

Your best bet is to just lay like that and when your arm feels uncomfortable, switch sides. Let your boyfriend know that it is uncomfortable for you and maybe he can think of something. What i do now is just lay on top of him (dont take that the wrong way) that way i can cuddle but im not cutting the circulation off in one arm. lol. great question.

Leave one in my inbox if you have anymore.

is the movie "monster-in law" any good? i thought it looked good but idk

I really liked it, but i think it was a little over-rated. =)

what is a next bird or next girl i hear lads talking about it all the time they go oh i went with a next bird last night or a next girl it really anoys me cause i dont no what it is but i dont want to ask them incase i end up looking stupid they just come out with things like my mate wen of with a next girl does anyone no what it is or what it means

I agree with Scyber, ive heard the term "girl next door" used as a flirt or a slut. But if its JUST "next bird" or "next girl" then when you hear it just ask whoever said it. No imbarressment in asking questions!! =)

14/f hi! okay i am getting this tattoo http://www.tattoos-by-design.co.uk/Celebrities/cttattoo.asp?celeb_id=8&tattoo=21 on my right shoulder blade on my back.. and i was wondering like if i should get it the same color as the one in the picture.. or if i should make the inside of the rosary beads a different color.. i will rate 5's for any answers :-)

Id say to just keep it the same.

But dont get your hopes up on getting a tattoo right now, im not sure where you live but a lot of places dont let you get a tattoo til you are older. Make a good decision, you are only 14, you have to live with this forever. Its not like a piercing you can just take out.

Good luck though, make good decisions =)

Okay, this was my first time using tampons. I used a couple, just to practice getting them in and out. I have a little trouble finding "the hole" and putting it all the way in. Is there anything I can do about this? And I know I could've gone a bit farther putting it in, but when I sit straight up, I can feel it just a little bit. Is this because I didn't put it in all the way, or I'm just not used to it.? And I'm worried about getting toxic shock syndrome, and everything. Andd I have to go to my friend's house tmrw and swim and it's like a bbq w/ her family and all. I am so scared about this...I'm just ready to crawl under a rock..Then i'll be gone all day at my other friend's house on Monday. Omg, what should I do about this situation???!!!! I'll rate high!!!

It could be both. Since its your first time you probably arent used to it and it probably isnt in all the way. Its hard to tell if its in all the way or its in the right way... especially if you are a virgin. Did you read the back of the box? Make sure you are putting one of your legs up on the toilet seat or something elevated, or you are squatting. This will help a lot to insert it. Also, it has to be inserted on an angle, the back of the boxes usually get specific with this part. Make sure as you put it in, you put it as far as you can.. leaving enough string so that it will hang enough to pull it out. Its okay to practice putting tampons in but make sure that you are on your period when you do it. Because if you arent then you are REALLY going to feel uncomfortable and have a horrible experience. TSS is a lot more common when you have a tampon in without having your period as well. Good luck. Try what i said, if its still uncomfortable you may have to break your plans. Remember- tampons arent for everyone, just like pads.

My birthday is next weekend, and everyone is asking me what I want, I really dont know, anybody know any cute things i should ask for?? But nothing too expensive, thanks alot

I usually just ask for gift certificates from like malls or stores that i like. That way you can go pick out whatever you want and the person that is buying it for you doesnt have to guess what you would like =).

me and my parents are on the cingular family plan.. the 2 yr contract is up so were gettin new phone n all that soon. my mom didnt put text messaging on my phone before but now shes lettin me have it on the new one. shes psycho and gets detailed billing and checks who im talking to and when .. so my question is, does text messaging come up on the bill? like what number or screen name im texting n all that?

Yea it does, it also shows up who you sent it to and stuff.

What do girls think "BIG" is in penis size? Mypenis is about 5 inches. (im 13) how big is your penis? Is mine small or big? Please answer! i rate high!

Its normal for a 13 year old but you have to remember that you are only 13... you still have A LOT of growing to do before you are full grown. Guys can grow all the way to ages 19-21 and sometimes even longer than that. Dont worry sweetie, you will be okay.

Okay, well one of my friends was talking to me, and she said she thought she was overwieght. She doesn't really look it, but she said she's gained about 20lbs in the past year. She thinks it may be due to stress because she moved just this past year. Well she had to leave her boyfriend behind and everything, and now she's maintaining a long distance relationship, which we all know can be stressful. Anyway, her boss usues relacore, and has an extra bottle, and my friend told me she was thinking about using it. So I asked her if it was safe and she said she wasn't sure. So I visited a website, relacore.com and I still wasn't completely sure if it was safe or not. She's only 15 and I wasn't sure if this was something that only adults should use, or something of the such. Anyway, we just wanted to know if relacore is okay for a 15 year old girl to take, and if not are there any other diet pills you could reccommend? Thanks in advance

I would say no. Even though she is 15, dieting isnt really good for teenagers going through puberty. And technically she is still going through puberty at 15. I wouldnt use relacore, it may mess up her body, although no website or relacore info would say that because they just want to sell their product. Slimfast should be okay, but like i said, try not to go too hard on the diet. You best bet is eating right and working out. If the gaining weight is all because of stress then there is no reason to take dietary pills anyways. Just working out and eating right should be fine. I know its hard when you first go through it, but eventually everything will work out. Just be there for her, and help her through it. Maybe eat right & workout with her. It always feels good to have some company. Your a good friend though for caring... the world needs more of them.

i am going in gymnactics soon and i want to be able to do a slit, i want to suprize my teacher. so can anyone give me tips on how to do one?
thanks a bunch

Your best bet is to just work down to it. Stretch out a lot and then try to do a split. The more you practice the closer you will get to doing one. Just remember - MAKE SURE YOU STRETCH FIRST!!!

Scar tissue has no character. It's not like skin. It doesn't show age or illness or pallor or tan. It has no pores, no hair, no wrinkles. It's like a slip cover. It shields and disguises what's beneath. That's why we grow it; we have something to hide

what movie is this quote from?

Girl Interrupted i think. I just watched it, its funny this question came up.

my cell phone plan is verizon and I know I have free nights and weekends. free nights starts at 9pm, but what time does it end? I'm only allowed to talk on my phone when it's free nights and weekends. Last night my boyfriend called my cell phone at 4:15am, and the day before he called me around 3am. Will I get charged for this? what time does free nights end?

Im pretty sure that its 7:00am, if you want to be technical, then 6:59am. So you're fine with those calls!!

alright well my hair is getting dried and my ends are splitting mostly because i straighten it like everyday. i use this gel stuff for when i get out of the shower so it can protect my hair from getting damaged but im guessing its not working... does anyone know of anything to use for my hair..?

You can basically use whatever you want, but if you straighten it constantly, it will dry out and get split ends. Your best bet is to not straighten it everyday. Straighten when you need to but if you are just wearing it up, dont.. because you cant keep damaging your hair. Some peoples hair doesnt get effected by flat irons but some do. Just wash your hair and use the stuff you are using, without straightening your hair for a couple days. You will probably see a difference already. Good luck!! =)

This is going to be the strangest question ever. My grandmother and my mother both carried a Bible as part of their bouquet for their weddings. I want to do the same. There are 4 possible Bibles that would fit the bill.
#1-Grandmother's Bible-She isn't around, and she wouldn't let my mom carry it. It's a faded ivory.

#2-Mom's Bible-She carried it, but she is now divorced. So maybe superstitiously, I don't really want to carry it. I will already be wearing her veil. It is white.

#3-The Bible I was given when I was Baptized. It's blue, and a little stained due to a fire. I don't think anyone will see the stained.

#4-The Bible I was given at or near birth with my name written on it. It is a very light pink.

All of these Bibles mean something to me. They aren't huge, so weight shouldn't be an issue. One day I want the blue one, and one day I want grandmother's Bible. What's your opinion?

Personally i would go with the light pink one (#4) because it has your name on it and youve had it all of your life. If you arent really wanting to carry that one, then i would do the blue one. Between those two. Good luck.

I just got that simply straight shampoo for my hair... Well the conditioner but anyway.. DO i have to do anything special for it?? Like leave it in or whatever??? Anything special after i shower and blowjob or whatever??? I'll rate too

I hope you mean blow-DRY not blow-job...
lol its okay, typo's happen.

Ive tryed that stuff and the one i used didnt really work. I let it sit for a few minutes but it just didnt work for me. Read the bottle, that will probably give you a more accurate answer. It depends on the kind that you use.

i hav just started developing boobs im at the stage where i cant wear a shirt with out like a sports bra but there uncomfortable. Is there a really small cup bra that i could try out?

You can buy a training bra. =) They are sold at any store that you can get underwear/bras. Just look. If not, try a really small A cup. Good luck.

i just had sex for the first time last night, and now i have a clear, odorless, jelly-like discharge comming out. is this normal?

Yes, its probably just excess lubricant (or cum) from your vagina that you produced last night. You should be fine. =)

i think i just made one of the biggest mistakes of my life. me and my best guy friend have always had a friends-with-benifits relationship. he was fingering me today and ended up sticking his penis in me. we were going for a little, but we had to stop because he had to leave. he didn't get to cum and we did full out have sex. but knowing that his penis was in me... is that enough to count for losing my virginity?

Yes, just because he didnt finish doesnt mean that you are still a virgin. If you guys had intercourse, it will consider you a non-virgin. Just make sure that next time you are protected.. if not then it may REALLY be the biggest mistake of your life.

hi i was the one who asked about getting your hair chemically relaxed..people say that it makes all your hair fall out and its the worst thing to do to it and people say ur hair still is curly after..is this all true? im just so scared it will liek ruin my hair or make it look rly ugly and greasey

No it doesnt make your hair fall out and yes it does work if it is done right, but its really not good for your hair. Just like using a flat iron it will dry it out a little but its up to you. My hair looked like it was naturally straight. But it grows out eventually.. and you will either have to keep up with the relaxing or just let it grow out curly. Theres always a little disadvantage. Did that anwser your question?

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