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I'm a nineteen year old girl whos dreams are to help the world. But for now, I'll start on Advicenators :)I can't say I can relate to every question that comes my way (probably most though!), but I guarantee I'll understand. And sometimes that's all you need...a little understanding :)
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My aunt recently emailed me to ask me if I would pay her monthly house payment as she and her husband have had a difficult year financially. She works in a factory and her husband is a truck driver. Both have had their hours/pay cut due to the recent economy. However, they live in a rather nice home that they built 10 years ago, so I'm sure the house payments are quite high. Twenty years ago, she borrowed money from my mom and never paid it back. This has been a point of contention ever since. I have the money to help, and I know it's the right thing to do, but why do I feel as if I'll never see this money again? Should I give in and give her the money?
Heres how I look at it. If she's got the balls to ask for money, you have every right to have to balls so say listen here, you borrowed money from my mother 20 years ago and never repaid it. I'll give you the money (because that IS what family is for, to help each other out in times like these!) but not until I get a signed agreement that you WILL pay me back. (And negotiate about how she will go about paying you back, make up a plan!) And tell her flat out, if she doesn't work according to the plan, not only will she definitely be on the family shit list, but you WILL take legal action, family or not.
I'm a pretty straight forward kinda of gal. Everyone needs to be sometimes! Hope this helps :)
Hi there. I'm 16/f. Well here's the story. My mom has a boyfriend,i'm not sure how long they've been dating exactly but my guess is about 4 months? anyways, he has 2 really cute nefews who are 18. But there is one in peticular i think is really cute. But i'm just now starting to meet his family, and i've only met this guy twice, and all it was like "hi i'm so and so". but see both of these boys are having a graduation party next sunday, and i want to go to get to know him better, but i think it may be really weird. like since i don't really know them i don't want them to think, why the heck is she here. but thats my problem. i overanalyze absoulutly evething. my mom thinks i should go because i'm "associated" in with their family, but i just think the boys will think i'm weird for going. but my mom says they won't mind because they're pretty laid back and easy going. but i just don't know. so do you guys think i should go, or would that just be completly weird?? thanks! and also, to get to know him better, what should i talk to him about? i really stink at the whole boy situation. thank you!
Yes I think you should go. It's a graduation party! Honestly, running through his head will not be "What is she doing here...?" All people who are graduating think about are "MONEY MONEY MONEY!!! More people, MORE MONEY!" And your mom's going, right? She's dating the dude...it's pretty much expected of you to be there. NO ONE will think "Why is she here?" So yes, you completely thought WAY too much about that situation, but that's ok! :) lol
As for the whole getting to know him better...I don't think now is a good time. I'm going go assume that his opinion about getting to know his maybe future step cousin isn't a good idea. But then again, maybe he thinks your cute too. So, instead of "getting to know him" see if she gives you "the looks" or makes any other gestures that show he's into you, ya know? Hope this helps! :)
i whant to mastrobate but i dont know if i should or should not so what should i do
Well, if you have the urge, what's stopping you?
I'm going to assume it's the fact that your only 13 and feel that at your age masterbating is considering to be "weird". BUT we're all different. We all mature at different speeds. Some of us sexually mature faster than others.
So, if that's the only thing stopping you, then try it! haha
I've had acne issues since i was 12, and i am now 17 and ive always had oily skin. When i was about 14, i started getting acne all over my chest, and a year later i also had it on my back. nothing has worked and i had heard about accutane and my dermatologist said i would do good on since since nothing has worked. i hated the fact that i would scar and not be able to wear tank tops because of my acne. Now i finally got my prescription.
Problem is that ive noticed in the past month my acne started to subside... and I never had cysts or anything, maybe one or two here and there...but i did have a lot of pimples, some big... but now my skin looks better than ever and i feel as though taking accutane would not be good since im getting better on my own...
what can you guys tell me about it, and is it okay to take?
btw, my skin goes through times when it's better and i get hopefull but then it gets bad again...
I've been on Accutane. DO NOT stop taking your pills. The minute you stop it will all come right back.
Hey im 17/f and my boyfriend is 20/m. Yesterday i made a terrible mistake. I promised my boyfriend i wouldnt talk to my ex boyfriend again. I made that promise at like the beginning of our relationship. I broke that promise. I wanted to give him his stuff back and it was only like 5 min. My mom hates my ex boyfriend and she saw me with him and she freaked and called my current boyfriend and told him that im playing games with him and how i was with my ex. I tried explaining the entire situation to my boyfriend and i just wanna get all of this behind us but hes making a huge deal about it. Is there any way i can try to fix this. Im trying everything. And also my mom grounded me i have no phone no car and suppose to have no computer. Please help me :(
Thanks so much sorry so long!
I have been in that EXACT same situation except for the whole mother getting involved like THAT.
I promised my boyfriend I would never talk to my ex again PLUS my mother absolutely despises my ex.
Well, I broke the promise. I told my boyfriend though and he was upset, but he understood. My mother, however, did not get involved and it's not her place to.
Give your boyfriend some time and during this time think about how you want to explain this to him. Explain you just wanted to give him back all his stuff because your sick of looking at the junk! Tell him it meant nothing. If he can't understand that, then he needs to be single for a while and get his own crap straightened out.
Okay here is the thing my ex and I broke up over a month ago. I had this guy friend Tony who invited me over to watch a movie and talk about things. He kissed me a cried and so he stopped. we ended up having sex some point that night. well it ended up he just wanted sex so i quit talking to him all together.
David.. I meet him talking to him online. we hung out a few times. he keep grabbing my face because i keep pulling away to kiss me and he kissed me for like 30 minutes well we ended up having sex. he really likes me a guess but im not attracted to him and i get annoyed easy with him
Dustin.. My best friends brother and my ex's cousin. my ex doesnt talk to any of them. We all drank at his sisters house one time but i was dating my ex at the time. I seen him and his sisters baby shower for a minute on saturday. and we talked for just a minute. I texted him that he and i should go drink sometime but he didnt get it because he doesnt have service where he lives. I called him yesterday (sunday). i went out to his house we went dirt roading and ended up having sex but he didnt force me i told him i wanted to. and he didnt even kiss me until i was positive. we talked for hours before that. im attracted to him just hearing his voice gives me butterflies. he asked me if i was wanting to date someone and i said i wasnt sure. which i am sure. he had running around to do in town today and asked if i wanted to come and of course i said yes i wanted to see him.
i dont want to be judged on what i did with having sex. im just looking for advice. i dont know if im pregnant or not. i doubt it. i havent got my period but i dont know what day i started last month.. thank you for taking the time to read.
Well, if you didn't use protection, why in the world would you think your NOT pregnant?
But again, like the girl below me, I'm not quite sure what advice your seeking. You didn't ask a question.
Take a pregnancy test though.
I want to make a cologe out of different movie snippets I have on my computor. is there a free program I can download to do this?
Check your computer to see if you have Windows Movie Maker.
If not search "download windows movie maker" on google
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i have dirty but shiny blonde hair. it's kind of hard to explain, but it's a darker shade of blonde but it gets really light in the summer time. it's also kind of wavy but i want it curly. I have side bangs, but they can be turned into straight blunt bangs if i knew how.
Lately i've been really bored with my hair and make up. I want to know how to get curly/wavy hair that's sleek and smooth and shiny. also, some pin-straight styling tips would be good since i get the flip at the ends when i straighten my hair. I don't really want to go out and buy anything so here's what I have--- straightener, volumizer rollers, curling rollers, and a whole bunch of straightening and volumizing hair products. my latest curling iron broke, so i can't use that.
i love taylor swift's hair and i want something similar but less puffy and supermodel-esque. im in the 7th grade so anything grown up makes me look 17. easy curling and straightening or very cute styles would be greatly appreciated. i really want to do something with my bangs, so any tips on that would be great.
also for my make up, i want something to really bring out the brightness and blue in my blue/green/gray eyes. i've used almay's play up the blue before, and i dont really like it. i love the saying less is more, so the less make up i put on makes me actually look my age instead of older.
im sorry this is so long, but more descriptions the better for hair and make up. thanks in advance everyone!
**websites would be great too***
hmm interesting. I've never knew of a younger girl actually trying to AVOID looking older and looking her age. Props to you! :)
Well, Taylor Swift has naturally curly hair, that's why it's curly AND sleek like it is.
But heres a good HowTo Video! :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nz4Giq66dUQ
I need help, I need confidence and secerety, so help me what should I do!
Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. All the little things your secretly proud of. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed either, no ones going to see this list. Don't sit down one night and try to complete this whole list of things. That will only piss ya off more. Your list will never be filled. Sit down tonight though and start it...once you go on through out your day, you'll learn a couple more. Add them to your list.
Then, make a list of all the things you personally want to see yourself improve on. There is no such thing as an ugly girls, only lazy ones. Whatever it may be, wanting to accomplish a goal, if your feeling "unpretty", what would make you feel better? When write them down, accomplish them, then add them to the good list. I guarantee you'll feel better about yourself. And when you do, if just sorta shines out, ya know? And others see it too.
i've been going tanning to get ready for prom. i get a little burned in between my boobs and it itches. what is a good yet affordable lotion to use after i get it out of the tanning bed so the tan will last longer, burn won't itch, and moisturize my skin at the same time?
I use:
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=10322238
It's sold at Walmart, works great for the thing you want it for, and smells good! :)
PLUSSSSSS it's cheap. $8
is it trained? is it rare to find people like that?
Its all about sticking to your morals!
Its usually people who are comfortable with themselves and don't have low self esteems that are good at keeping secrets.
People who have low self esteems for some odd reasons think blabbing about other peoples bussiness makes them cool.
HELP!
OK so in French class last week I got a detention! I've never had a detention in my entire life! My teacher assigned it to me for this Wednesday! And the most annoying part is that the reason I got detention was because I missed three homeworks. THREE! And not even in a row, either! Over a period of time!! So now my BITCH of a teacher gave me detention (Just to say, she gives them out like candy. She gave one of my best friends an afterschool detention because she was chewing gum). So I don't know what to tell my parents. I know they're going to be really mad at me. Once I got a D and a C on my PROGRESS report (for those who don't know, it's like a report card in the middle of the quarter. It's just to check up on grades), and my dad threw a tantrum and took my phone away and grounded me for a week. My mom probably won't be as mad, but still. And I really don't want to lie because they'll get even more mad at me.
Ok I know I sound like a goody-goody and whatever, but I'm really not, it's just I've never had a detention, and I'm just afraid of my parent's reaction.
Please help!! Thank you so much!
So what exactly is the advice your seeking? Heres what I'd do. I'd do the three assignments that I missed, turn them in (even if your teacher won't accept them, DO IT ANYWAY), THEN like the adult your wanting to be, tell your parents straight up "Hey, my teachers rule is you miss three assignments and you get a detention. I missed three and I got what I deserved. I'll deal with it, BUT I made up the assingments."
If your parents through a bitch fit, oh well. Take notes on it and when you have kids and they come to you with a similar story, don't act how your parents reacted. Such is life.
My boyfriend and i have been together for 4years and have been haveing sex since July 08,(hes my first) And have been haveing sex with no protection sice Novermber or December 08. He just pulls out. We have a great relation ship. And wouldnt mind having a baby if it comes to us but i dont think its the time. Anyways I thought the pull out method didnt work! is he just really really good at it or is there something wrong with one of us. or are we just not doing it enough. We usally do it once or twice a week.
It's not that the "pulling out" method doesn't work, it's just that most people don't do it right! haha Because theres pre-cum before the actual big shaboogle lol
THAT anddd it all depends on your time of the month. Look up the rhythem method and that will explain it.
I can't flirt or ask out guys in my town, but I'm totally fine with guys from like, two towns away. Is there something wrong with me?
No. I know a lot of people like that. Sometimes its because people have grown up together and have known each other too long to think about you in that way cause they've known you since you were little, ya know? Think about it. I'm sure you know some guys you would never date simply the pure fact you've known them for such a long time, you've kind of lost appetite to even think of them in such a way.
well me and my best freind have been friends for about a year and we are like sisters but i feel as if i want to have more i am in love with her but i am scared to tell her because i dont want to ruin our freindship because if i dont have her as a lover i want her as a friend ( sorry its so long ) please help me im so confused
Your question wasn't long :)
Well, you said your like sisters, so I'm assuming your either bi, or a lesbian.
Situation A) If you know your best friend likes girls, too, then do this: Tell her how you feel about her and explain that no matter how she feels towards you, you still want to be best friends.
Situation B) If your friend doesn't know you like girls, tell her. She IS your best friend, you should be able to tell her anything without getting judged. If she's cool with it, then she's a true friend. If not, then you know someone who ISN'T a true friend. IF SHE IS cool with it while your telling her you could jokingly tell her "Don't worry, I won't hit on you, unless ya know, you roll that way, too ;)" haha :)
*Just because you like the same sex, doesn't mean you can't tell when your having a "moment" like boys and girls do, ya know? So, when your in the situation, you'll be able to feel if she's feel'n ya too.
Hope I helped! :)
Just message back if you have any other questions
17/f
I met my current boyfriend two months ago but we have only been dating for a few days now. I am a virgin (prior to meeting my boyfriend I was too busy to care about serious relationships and didn't want to have sex with someone I was casually dating). My boyfriend is not a virgin.
We have been teasing each other since the moment we met so the sexual tension is hardly bearable. I feel obligated to wait until we take things to the next level. On the other hand, I had been hoping to be single when I start university in the fall (I could change my mind) - regardless, I want us both to enjoy however long we get to spend together.
What wins out? Feeling obligated to wait or enjoying the potentially short time we have?
Everyone is different when it comes to the situation of your "first time."
Some people want it to be extremely special. Meaning, they want it to be someone WORTH giving such a special gift to. Determining if that special someone is special enough takes time, which is why a lot of people wait till marriage.
Then others don't see sex that way. They see it as "Well, as long as you use protection, your fine, have fun! ;)" lol
Either way is ok. I don't know if you'd call this advice per say, but I'm the first type :)
Just think about. And also remember just about every single relationship who has sex too early in to it, ends soon.
i have been friends with taylor on and off for more than two years. me and a few frriends will stay over her boyfriends house on weekends and part there random weekdays too. we always have a lot of fun, we are all exactly alike and just wild teenagers and twenty yearolds. i was shopping with our friend melissa last night and she told me thattaylor told her a story of how one day taylor was in stop and shop and when she came out i put condoms all over her car as a joke and she had to pick all of them up..., never happened. she also told melisaa that one time i put a bumpersticker on her car that said somehting funny.. never happened. and she also tellls me she has her nipples pierced but she tells me not to tell anyone else. so she clearly doesnt. she also told melissa i called her a pervert because she madeout with a 17yearold. and to be honest i dont care, its sort of funny. there are so many more stories like that, its just so aggravating. what can we do?
I've had a couple friends like that. Theres a name for it. It's called compulsive lying. It's like people who are addicted smoking; for some reason they just do it and they don't know why nor can they really stop.
Notice how I said I had a couple friends like that. Eventually their lies grew so bad it was getting scary. Once, one lied about her birth date. HER BIRTHDAY. Who in the world lies about that?! I don't even want to go into the stories she made up...CRAZZZZY Stuff.
When they tell stories like that, it's like tanning in a tanning bed. We don't want people looking at us when we're white, so we cover it up by tanning. We feel self conscience when we're white, too. In her case, she doesn't want people thinking she lives a dull, unfulfilling life, so she covers it up with fun stories. Make sense? :)
First, not in front of everyone though, just a one-on-one conversation between you two, confront her about the lies. People who lie like that do it because they want others to think they have an awesome, fun life who does crazy and wild things. (Don't believe me? Think about the stories she's telling. When those stories ARE true, you and I both know we love telling them) So confront her. I'd say something like this "Look, I know about some of little make up stories you've been telling, and truthfully it's getting out of hand. I don't know why your lying about stuff like that, but it needs to stop. Your a cool person and one of my best friends, but obviously your lying about things for attention or something. If you need to talk about self-esteem issues, talk to me about it. Don't lie about fake things..." Just remember, your her friends, your suppose to support her, especially when she's doing things like that because obviously, she has an issue. That's what friends are for.
16/female
normally i dont need help but this is like serious haha. my exboyfriend & i went out for 2 years.. im finally over him after 6 months. of course there are a cute guy in atleast 1 of my classes, but most of the cute ones are in honors.. surpisingly. haha well this one boy lets call him shae, is in my math class but sits on the other side of the room. hes REALLY quiet, but i kinda am too cause i dont talk to alot of people in that class. ive only talked to him twice lol. i asked him if he talks and hes like yeah i do i just have no friends in this class.. and i asked if he got a haircut and he said yes and i told him i liked itt lmao. i really dont know how i'm spose to talk to this boy who sits on the other side of class.. same with alot of other boys. & we have assigned seats. s0o how do i talk to the boys that arent in my classes.. or sit on the other side of the room lol =)
Try convincing the teacher its time for a seat change and cross your fingers! ;) haha
what is a really good, really professional voice editor and song maker program for computers? (windows, not mac) like, you can compose your own songs, and edit singing voices to make them sound alot better and proffesional. ive tried a few, but havnt found a great one. any suggestions?
I have one on my computer actually. You may have it, too. It's called Windows Movie Maker. Look real good to see if you have it first. If not go here to download it:
http://www.microsoft.com/windowsxp/downloads/updates/moviemaker2.mspx
It's fun :) You just have to mess around with it and figure out everything.
Hope I helped! :)
You know how everyone says that your gut instinct is usually right? Well... I know this is random, but is your gut instinct the best thing to follow even if the decision that you have to make is purely based on chance? For instance - If someone had to make the choice to move to a brand new place and their gut instinct told them not to, even though there is a 50% chance that it will go really well, should they take it? Could they just be confusing that instinct with anxiousness/nervousness? Sorry if that is confusing - trust me, I have a good reason for asking it : )
That's exactly why they tell you to go with your gut instinct. Gut instincts are always 50/50 chance. You go with the one that for some odd reason, always feels right.