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im having urine tests and i masturbate alot... if the doctors check the urine can they find traces of sperm? (link)
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No. They originate from different pipes and do come out the urethra. When you give a urine sample they make males clean their penises and under foreskin if non-circumcised with an antiseptic towelette. Picture a wet-nap.
Doing this cleans all bacteria and anything dried on the penis. Then they usually ask you to do a mid-stream catch sample. This means you start to urinate into toilet and then hold it in for a few seconds and keep urinating into the bottle to fill the sample bottle.
I'm not female but it's a similar process for collection of urine. They make you wash the vulva with the same kind of towelette before proceeding. You're fine.
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What does it mean to be physically attracted to someone? (link)
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This article explains physical attraction far better than I ever could from Wikipedia. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness
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Yesterday I had sex with a partner I've been involved with for about 2 or 3 months now. He's very well endowed and the sex has been great every time. No problems. Well yesterday he was slamming into me HARD and deeper than usual. It felt soooooo good. But then all of a sudden he did it again but hit something and it hurt pretty bad for a second. We switched to doggy style shortly after (we were just in missionary with my legs up high) nd I noticed it hurt a little this way so I finished him off with a blow job.
Anyway... later on I could still feel some discomfort but nothing too terrible. Embarrassingly enough it felt kind of like gas and it helped a little to fart but even that was difficult now too and I had to pee a little more often than normal.
Anyway the pain got bad before bed so I took some ibuprofen. I was able to fall asleep but the pain came back and woke me up so I took 4 more ibuprofen. I think it might be helping but in scared to move cuz it hurts. I have had a lot of sex and I'm experienced so it's not that. I just got a mirena taken out so could that do it? anyone know what might be going on? How long the pain will last and if it'll go away on its own or if I should see a doctor? Please help!!:( (link)
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Do you have a gynecologist? You need to see one and probably need to see a family doctor for a referral if you don't. They can determine what is going on here and tell you what to do.
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how to get my husband back? he is having a relation with another lady and always angry with me.please help me.i am from india. (link)
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I know you love this man but this is far from healthy and you shouldn't put up with the affair or his anger. He's not showing love or concern for you. As hard as it is moving on for your own health and well-being makes a lot of sense. I know you didn't want to hear this but he's not about to change any time soon.
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I am 17 year old female. I have been dating this kid for about 4 years off and on now. I have came to find that he was skyping with this guy and he masturbated on camera for this guy and he didn't tell me about it, but I found out by going through his ipad. I confronted him about it and he got mad cuz i went through his stuff. Then the next day he told me that he did and he was really sorry about it and he didn't like it at all whn he was doing it. That he just wanted to know if he was into guys or not, he told me he isn't and he knows it for sure now. But i still have thought that he maybe into guys and doing things just by the way he acts and things he says. Please help me. What do i do?? (link)
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He needs to figure out if he is gay, bisexual or straight on his own and is deeply conflicted about it and or lying.
The fact he's covering this behavior up and doing it is troubling as you really don't know if doing this on a web cam is where this risky behavior starts and ends or what else he may be doing with male partners without your knowledge. Not to mention it's kind of creepy.
You need to tell him that you want him to figure things out in that area but that you can't be involved romantically any longer nor remain a friend (stay firm on this) and found this dishonest and it deeply disturbed you as relationships are 100% based on trust without secrets.
I would completely move on as he likely is gay and could be exposing you to risks if intimate if he's with same-sex partners that are random or met on the Internet like this guy. There could be a great deal more to the story that you haven't learned I'm afraid. Cut him loose as sorry doesn't cut it given the circumstance.
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Me and my bf have been dating six days and yesterday he told me he loved me and now he's trying to tell me I can't hang out with my friends and is calling me babe we got into an arguement today because he said something that should not have been said about one of my friends what do I do( I'm 14 he's 16 (link)
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He's the wrong match for you and will only continue to make you miserable. Anyone who would cut you off from your friends or try to dictate what you do is bad news.
You have to be blunt with him even though you do have feelings for him that you won't put up with this shit and that he makes you extremely uncomfortable.
I think it was Braiden who told you to run for the hills. He's right as nobody who has dated you for six days should act like this. You deserve better be patient and seek it out.
His personality isn't right and he doesn't truly value you. More or less tell him to take a hike with a mighty roar and stand up for people he's talking ill of.
If you don't stand up for yourself he will just walk all over you until you cut him lose. You see people like this thrive on their partners being too timid or weak to take a stand against it and show them they won't put up with it. That's what he expects and wants.
He may also be an insecure guy with no real success with girls and not know how to handle a relationship. He may fear losing you and that's why he's trying to control your movements and trying to hog you for himself. At any rate that's his problem to fix and not yours. You need to move on without him. Who needs the drama? Tell your parents how awful he's being and let them be a part of setting him straight also.
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I'm in the 8th grade, same for my boyfriend. We started dating yesterday and I got to thinking what could we do on valentines day? (link)
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Does he have a sister? If so she can be your greatest ally here in picking an inexpensive gift she knows he will love. She would know what he's longing for and all his major interests.
If no sister talk to his mom when he's not around and mention that the relationship is brand new and you're not sure what he would really appreciate as a gift. There's nothing wrong with doing that or consulting your own mother too for advice.
The other advice givers are right about employing the KISS method (Keep It Simple Silly) and not doing an elaborate gift or something big.
What you could do is make him dinner, watch a movie at home and a small gift and card. He probably won't be concerned to much with what you got him but rather that it came from the heart and a lot of love and thought went into it.
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Hi everyone so I was just wondering how much do hip anchor dermal piercings hurt and Tragus piercings? I want to get my Tragus and I'm just curious about the dermals. I have my tongue pierced and that barely hurt. Thank you :) (link)
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That's hard to answer. Why? Well everyone has a different pain threshold and what might hurt like a SOB for some may not for others. I do have a Yahoo link for you where people describe the procedure and how painful or not they found it to be. Maybe that could help.
I recommend that you research the studio where you want to get it done at. Call them and tell them that you want to get these piercings done but wanted to know what was involved and the intensity level of pain. Explain to them what your threshold is and see if they know of ways to help handle it or if they think you aren't a good candidate due to pain tolerance.
Here's that link: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081016081642AAGC56L
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Where do I go to to get the Bog fee waiver? I don't see it online. (link)
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I found the site for California but not Texas. My advice is to phone the head of your program and explain that you heard about a BOG fee or a fee deferral program that would cover classes, books, and residential but don't know how to apply to get it. They should know.
Even better is to call or go down to the financial aid office at the college and explain what you need. They will know how to get it for you as that's all they do.
I went to school in Canada and from my experience they called this a fee deferal and everyone getting financial aid would pay it at the campus and your spot in class was granted while the student loan was being processed and put in your account. As I'm not American I'm not sure if the system is like that but your financial aid office would hold the answer to the BOG question anyway as would the head person for your program.
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So, I started my period last month, January 13, and I am 12. Well, 21 days has come and gone, and I don't have my period. My friend has had her period twice in the time I have only had 1!!! It is very aggravating and I don't know anything about this! Some one help.
Oh and if it helps, I'm and orphan, my foster parents give me everything I need and I stay in my room because they are usually, um, er, baby making. Marissa Lay isn't a mother to me and Joseph barely has time for me between his job and his baby making. But I can tell he loves me very much. My email is suhailashewolf@gmail.com go ahead and email you're answer, please! (link)
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Congrats! When you first start (menarche) your menstrual cycle is irregular and over time becomes set so it's not unusual to have it now and not have another for awhile.
Nothing to freak over but if concerned see a doctor to try and figure your cycle out and always be prepared.
As far as your foster parents go it may be a good idea to ask them if you can work with a therapist as there are a lot of issues bothering you that you feel you can't talk about.
Explain to them that you appreciate them but as a foster child you aren't able to feel truly a part of a family and want so desperately to feel secure and part of their family. You just need reassurance that's all.
Also, although you aren't close with your foster mom you need to know you can go to her for any advice you need. You should tell her about your period and any concerns or fears about it. She was your age once and this may actually help you bond with her and communicate better especially about sensitive stuff. I think you need an older female to talk to. If not her maybe there's an older sister figure in your household.
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at my daughters schools from 6th -10th grade, in PE she attends the swim unit and boys and girls have
it together? Why is this allowed? Wouldn't this make girls feel uncomfortable
and give boys an opportunity to harass and humiliate girls? And cause
distractions and goofing off among everybdy? Not to mention young boys will be around girls shirtless which I think is inappropriate for young girls to be around of.
My daughter keeps saying she does not care but she is young and may not understand how wrong this is
this just seems wrong especially at school.You are at school to LEARN. Not to
goof off. Like it or not swimming is a class to workout and learn. Can't really
do that well with young boys and girls together. How can schools be so clueless?
can people really say honestly that young boys and girls will concentrate on swimming while they are around each other in bathing suits and not goof off? That boys (who arent known for sensitivity) won't use this opportunity to harass or tease girls? Seems kind of like a naive way of thinking to me (link)
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Think of it this way. They don't segregate kids at swim lessons or public pools. Like those pools for learning there is always a certified instructor and life-guards.
They are not going to allow people to goof off and do anything remotely unsafe. If they see kids at school being harassed (which isn't likely) or doing anything remotely sexual harassment they'd expel the kid from the program. The school would have a ZERO tolerance policy on that. If concerned ask them.
Let's say you had her at a public pool or even your own pool the proper attire is a bathing suit and no shirt for males. At those pools that's not inappropriate at all. Same at school. Does anything bad happen there? No.
Your fears aren't rational. You really are making problems for your daughter where there are none. She says she's fine with it and nobody is bugging her so let it be unless an issue arose and trust her teachers are on-top of that class and will not stand for humiliation and any BS.
If you relax and let her partake you will see that she is learning and can handle things and seek help if she ever needed it. If you pull her out over your fear she will be a massive target for bullies wondering why she isn't in the class.
The whole won't they lose focus if they see the opposite sex in a bathing suit is nonsense. The instructor won't put up with that. Sure there is curiosity but once they see everyone in proper attire or male without shirt they'll soon get over it as everyone in the pool will be that way each class.
I think you should relax and just let it be and if your daughter comes to you later on (which she won't)with concerns or wanting out of the course deal with it then but everything will be fine.
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How much is a tee-shirt press kit and what's the best website to buy them from?
How much are the things you put inside the heat press kit like words or custom quote design, that will be printed on the shirt? (on average)
Looking to change the world with my website and raise money for people, wwww.curethecollapse.com
serious answers interested in only. (link)
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Wouldn't it be a better idea to custom design what logo or design you want on your shirts and hire a company that prints quality T-shirts, hats, and does embrodery?
There's a lot of them around and they can mass-produce the items you want for you. That way you don't have to buy machines and such. Check out a LIDS store as they may be able to tell you what to do. They all have press there to add stuff to items people bought. Just an idea as if they can't do it they'd have leads.
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Alright, so there's this guy at school, (brown hair, really dark brown eyes, glasses, lots of freckles)
and there's me, (blonde, blue eyes, glasses) but he's in eighth grade and I'm in seventh. For valentines day I bought him a lollypop that says, 'BE MINE' on it. I'm going to leave it on his backpack while he's at lunch (our grades have lunch together, but I'm going to wait behind)and I was wondering if I should leave my name on the note I'm going to put with it. it's just a post-it that says, I like you in cursive.
backround info:
we hang out at lunch recess and in the morning before school, we were debate partners, he's my best friend's cousin, and I really like him and I think almost everyone knows it. except for him. Of course.
once again- should I put my name on the note? (link)
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If you leave him the gift and don't put your name to it how's he ever going to know which girl sent it to him? You don't advance that way as you'll still be in the same place as now.
Rather than leave a post-it that everyone can see get him an envelope and a card in it and be discreet. That way you can say what you want to say in the card "I Like You" and have only him see that you made that bold risk and admission. That helps especially if he's not interested romantically in you.
Even if he isn't he'll have respect that you told him. If he feels like the right one for you it's perfectly fine to do this and I recommend it. There's nothing at all to lose but a lot that could be gained.
Get an envelope, a funny card, give him the lollipop and relax. I'm sure he will appreciate it and even if he didn't like you in that way he'd tackle it with tact so you weren't embarrassed but it looks like a great idea though.
Sometimes if a girl wants a guy bad and he hasn't noticed yet you have to do something like this. Go for it. Inbox me on how it goes. I hope well.
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i have in doing gymnastics for a long time know and at a high competitng level. the training is staring to get really difficult and the traveling is unberleaveable. i spend more time at the gym then at home and im getting really tired at school and when i get tired at the gym i start to train bad and that is when my coaches will start having a go at me they will make me stay late and i live 1 hour away from the gym and i finish at 9:00pm so im inly getting home later, really need some advice should i quit gymnastics. (link)
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This depends on what you want to achieve with gymnastics. If you want to compete and be the best than you have to accept that it will be harder on you and a 24/7 focus.
You're there right now because you have a considerable amount of talent at a high-performance level. You sound scared though and unsure of your abilities. Also, you aren't used to the intensity and demands needed to make it at that level. If you're quitting because you are scared than STOP yourself from walking away. You would regret it otherwise.
However, if you love gymnastics but not this level of intensity talk to your parents and tell your coaches that you have no social life, are totally drained all the time and your school work has taken a nose-dive because of it. Tell them you wish to quit this level but go back to gymnastics where you just did it for yourself. Let them know the fire and love is gone--and that's okay. You have to dictate your future--not them.
But if giving up just because it's harder is depriving yourself of something potentially great. You always have to sacrifice a lot if you want to be an athlete. Ask yourself what do I really want here? Then go with what the gut says. It's never wrong.
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I have a boyfriend, but I want to hook up with a girl. Not a specific girl, just a girl. I want to experience what it's like hooking up with another girl because it looks fun! I think I've been watching too much lesbian porn. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love my boyfriend. We've been together for over 2 years and we have great sex. And me wanting to hook up with a girl has nothing to do with our relationship. I'm just curious. Is this wrong? What should I do? Oh, and my boyfriend has no clue. I'm pretty sure he'd go nuts. And sorry for the raunchiness. (link)
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You are not abnormal so you can relax. You're just curious about this and fantasizing with What IF scenarios. I think that's all this amounts to unless you really do want to act. There's nothing wrong with that if it's two consenting adults and you're trying to figure out your sexuality.
There's nothing wrong with being bi-sexual either if you do discover that it's your real orientation. As far as experiencing something with another person it's really up to you and what you feel comfortable doing. But it should not be with a random person just for the sake of doing it.
Is it wrong to engage in this? If you're two consenting adults than no. Some people may think it is wrong for religious, moral, sins, other views but what matters is not what they believe but what you do and what feels right in your own mind about sex and partners.
You have a boyfriend and as hard as that conversation will be with him you need to tell him you love him, always have, always will but that you are conflicted right now as you have strong feelings for him but also for women and need to figure out if it's your sexual orientation or not.
Or the best thing in my view is to put this aside and NOT act on the curiosity unless he's out of your life and have everything as it is with boyfriend and not risk destroying it. However, if you did tell him the truth he may be supportive and open to you figuring out this aspect of your sexuality and even if he isn't the truth is always better than hiding this.
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Hi, I'm just responding to your advice/asking for more on this question I asked a while ago: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=610528
I didn't do exactly what you suggested - telling R outright how I felt - because I wasn't (and am still not) really sure what I'd want out of it. I don't know whether I'd actually want a relationship so I thought it would be confusing for both of us if I asked if there was anything there. However, I did think I should make it more obvious that I like him and just see where it goes. So I asked him if he wanted to go out at the weekend, to travel to another city, which was the first time we'd spent an entire day alone together. I was more obviously flirtatious and he responded to that and acted in a way which implied to me that he was interested.
But then, since then it's always me initiating things - eg. online conversations and future meetups. He has initiated conversations sometimes but in this case he'll always mention at some point that he's 'killing time until he has to go to a lecture' or 'doesn't have anything to do,' which implies that he's just talking me because I'm there. Though our conversations are still great and we get on really well and are still flirtatious, it just makes me doubt whether he's that into me.
So I thought maybe it's just because I've been talking to him too often and he knows he doesn't have to go out of his way to speak to me, because I'll come to him - as you said, I wanted to stop second guessing everything and just go for it, so I hadn't really been thinking about whether I was being too over the top. I've gone home for the week, so I thought I'd just not speak to him while I was away and see if in that situation he contacts me. Yesterday it had been four days since we'd last spoken and he sent a group message to those of us living together next year to suggest we all meet up soon, but hasn't contacted me personally.
I hadn't particularly expected him to, I'm just hoping that by the end of the week, or when I arrive back at uni, he'll suggest we meet up. Obviously it's less straightforward now since we'll be seeing each for the group meet. But I'm just not sure whether I'm doing the right thing. When I get back, I could easily suggest we hang out alone and he'd probably say yes, and we'd probably act flirtatious with one another, but if I'm ALWAYS the one asking and he never is, that's hardly a good sign, is it?
When we first started hanging out at the beginning of the uni year it was the other way round and I often ignored/forgot to get back to him when he asked if I wanted to hang, so it was understandable for him to stop then. But now I think I've made it pretty clear that I like spending time alone with him, it seems weird that he no longer asks. He always seems interested in me when we're TOGETHER, but I'm doubting whether he really thinks about me when I'm not there. I'm sorry to send another long message, I just wondered if you had any advice?
Thanks, x (link)
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It could be that he's extremely tied up or has a heavy work or study load. Obviously he is interested as a casual friend or he wouldn't have included you on the "let's meet up" e-mail blast.
I wouldn't contact him via phone, e-mail, text, or social media for a few weeks and see if he gets back to you. He has an idea of what you want so let's see what he does next. You want to show him that you're busy too and not sitting waiting on his words.
If he shows no effort to contact you than you know two things: Everything is one sided with him be it friendship or otherwise and two: he's not interested at least not romantically.
Problem is historically people like these will screw you around and play with your emotions saying they will include you in plans or accept yours and then back out or say they are there for you and can never be counted on.
My advice is give him a few more days and then start looking at other guys and dropping him altogether as there's no friendship here it's a one-sided mess and he may be too "kind" in his mind to tell you he's not interested and hoping you take a hint from his non-responsive attitude. Don't get too involved and risk heartbreak as I would lean towards the he's not worth the time idea.
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Okay so here's the deal. I am 18 years old and for about a month I have been having horrible right side abdomen pain and then it starting moving around my belly. Well Friday (it is now monday) I had pooped and I looked and it was covered in red blood. And the poop was really easy to come out (kind of mooshy) well I called my GI who I just seen the day before for the fist time about my stomach pain. And he said come in immediately. Well when I got there he done a rectal exam and said there is no active bleed down there and said it might be internal. He sent me for a CT scan and I don't know what he was looking for but they came in and said it was negative I could go home. Well when I got home I went to poop again and there was a little poop and more blood actually a lot of blood. More blood then poop. So I went to lay down because it made me dizzy then a couple hours later went and pooped again and this time it was just blood. Well ever dince then there is poop and blood still and I have diarrhea. I don't have a fever as I know of and I have nausea and the abdomen pain still but that seems to be getting worse. So if anyone has any advice or know what it could possibly be please let me know. I don't have a colonoscopy scheduled until the last of next month. I am still pooping blood but its not everytime now when I go poop. Please help me! (link)
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Please head to an emergency room. Tell them you're frightened and that a doctor did do a CT, examined you but the problem is still there and apparently worse. It's possible the doctor missed the real cause.
This isn't normal and you know that. If you are having abdominal pain plus nothing but blood when you poop than it's not good. The ER will figure out exactly what it is and treat you. That's your best bet and most responsible course of action.
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This May, me and my girlfriends have our hearts set on going to the third annual Carolina Rebellion in Charlotte, North Carolina. The problem might be is that we're early teenagers, and that be music might not be appropriate for some, and that you have to camp out or go into a hotel since the rock concert is two days long. Tickets are already on sale, and we do have the money, and the concert's on a week end, so we won't have to skip any school. So do you think that early teenage girls would be allowed to go to a rock concert, where you might have to camp out for the night and with loud blaring rock music and where beer and everything will be sold (but of course not to kids)alone? Ya know, would you like your parents going to a concert with you? I know it's way early to be asking this since it's just Feb, but we need to know! It might help if you visit the website. (link)
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Unless it says on the ticket web site, the venue's web site or the bands when you actually are purchasing tickets that the concert is restricted to 19+ in Canada for liquor or 21+ in U.S. they will let you in with a ticket to see the concert each day.
They really can't say the music is inappropriate as that's up to parents to determine what your ears should be listening to and not a concert promoter or ticket agent.
I believe you are 13-years-old based on the info that came to us when you submitted your question. That's a HUGE problem only when it comes to hotels and camping. You need an adult with you for that DEFINITELY. There's no way the people running this will let you camp alone on site.
And you MUST be 18+ to rent a hotel room anywhere in the U.S. and need a credit card. Why? Well to ensure nobody takes advantage of kids and also so the room holder if they trash the room is on the hook for incidents financially.
What you should do is talk to your friends, their parents, and yours and tell them you all have the cash but need adult supervision and someone to camp with that they all trust who is at least 18 and responsible. Maybe there is a babysitter or family friend, cousin, relative whomever that would be more than happy to take you having the same musical tastes.
Look into that and call the company selling tickets and find out whether the concert part is restricted to a certain age. If it's not and you have a chaperone than you're good.
Obviously, when you camp on site you'll need a really good tent, rain-gear, sunscreen, T-shirts, jeans, blankets, cooler, sweaters, thermal underwear (It gets cold), hair, makeup, personal hygiene products. And ABOVE all lots of water.
One thing that may SUCK outright and you have to know before going is if they do allow coolers and how big. Some promoters are really strict on NO coolers and others aren't or are strict about the size as well as what you can and cannot bring in. Why?
They want you to buy every last crumb and drink off of them. Find out the cooler, water bottle and outside food policy.
As far as money goes don't have a large amount on you so it can't be stolen but do have enough for breakfast, lunch, dinner, water, programs and probably $40 for whatever tour T-shirt or souvenier you want on top if that's your thing.
Let me know (Inbox) how it goes. With outdoor events like this you really need rain-gear and it can be inexpensive ponchos from a dollar-store as this thing goes rain or shine and believe me being soaked through your skin is no fun.
And above all water is needed. You have to constantly be hydrated and slugging it back even when you don't feel hot or thirsty. If you stop sweating that's a sign something's wrong but you're smart and will stay on top of this.
Also be sure to bring shower/bath gear, towels as they will have showers set up for campers.
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after abortion now suffering in pus now what can do? Give me some advice And tretment if possible. (link)
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I found an article from a site called Afterabortion.org that states and I quote "Minor” complications include: minor infections, bleeding, fevers, chronic abdominal pain, gastro-intestinal disturbances, vomiting, and Rh sensitization. The nine most common “major” complications which are infection, excessive bleeding, embolism, ripping or perforation of the uterus, anesthesia complications, convulsions, hemorrhage, cervical injury, and endotoxic shock.
Here's what I advise: It's better to be safe than sorry. If you are really suffering go to an ER immediately. Tell them that you had an abortion and are now in a ton of pain and want to see that this is a normal thing rather than a dangerous one.
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I babysit until midnight for this woman, so she can't drive me home. Her kids are in bed and they have school the next morning, so shed have to wake them up. So, she has one of her coworkers drive me home. He's really nice.. But, he's gay. I feel really uncomfortable about it. I sensed it the first time he drove me home, he said a house was pretty. And then I told him I liked country music and he said, So reba? I think she's country i know she has a tv show... And well I haven't ever heard a straight guy say anything like that! So I decided to facebook him and well it turns out he is in fact gay and in a relationship for 20 years with a man.... What should I do? I just feel so weird about this! The bible says homosexuality is a sin and I'm associating with someone who is choosing to live in sin with a man! (link)
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ADDITIONAL: I saw your feedback and I'm usually NEVER rude to people and NEVER abusive which this isn't.
But... I do have the responsibility as an advice giver to be brutally blunt here. You're clueless when it comes to your view of gay people trying to impose their lifestyle on you or trying to make you gay even. It is ridiculous and 100% factually unfounded and may get you in trouble with other people one day.
I respect your religion but you are way off-base when it comes to reality. They are into people they know are gay and know that you aren't and therefore have no interest in you.
They aren't going to be doing that or imposing a lifestyle or trying to make you gay even. They aren't out to do any such thin and stats/research firmly back that up. If you got to know someone who actually was gay and pushed aside these views for a moment you would see this as true.
ORIGINAL:
One in twenty people are gay. It's a fact. No matter your interpretation of the bible NONE of them chose their orientation and we're born this way. I have yet to see the verses that say otherwise.
Wouldn't GOD love all of his creation no matter what? Jesus never judged others and often hanged around with those deemed sinners and often healed them.
You don't have to like this person's lifestyle but you have to be tolerant and treat him like you would anyone else and see the good in him and his accomplishments in spite of orientation. There's a lot he could teach you about being a real Christian. Don't pass judgment on him.
I think you should really get to know this person and see good things about him rather than deny yourself a friend. As far as associating with someone who is gay, lesbian or bisexual no doubt you have been at school, work, anywhere you go for years without the person being open with it.
It's time to get rid of fear and prejudice towards them. If you were this man how would you feel if he didn't want to associate with you if you were gay? Think about it.
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