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I'm taking medication that makes my lips extremely dry. As a result, they are constantly chapped, and a few days ago, they started to crack and bleed on the sides. It is painful and not attractive AT ALL. Chapstick helps a little..I reapply chapstick about every 15 minutes.

How do I make the pain go away and help my lips get better? =[ Don't tell me to stop the medication. I need it, and the lip thing isn't a HUGE deal...

Do you have vaseline? Dry to use chapstick and some lipgloss or something to keep it wet.

You can go to a doctor and tell them this.. and see what you can do. They probably have something for you.

Burt's Bees lip balm is a good product

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I think Nicole Richie was anorexic, and thats how she lost all that weight right? Everyone says that like you gain all that weight back when you start eating but how come nicole didnt get heavy? thankssssss!

Yeah she was.. or still is.
She's probably on a diet, if she had/has an eating disorder.

She probably eats.. but not enough or maybe she has a high metabolism so she didn't really gain all the weight back... but most of it.

I don't know. I'm not her.
But she's probably watching her weight.

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ok so... for some reason, recently my hair has been coming out alot. like if i brush it it will come out.. take a shower.. run my hands throuh it.... and its annoying cuz its just annoying!!

is this normal??? my friends say it is because like i constantly have my hair pulled back and now its down..but i dont know...

It's normal to have hair coming out.
But not in CHUNKS, you know?
A couple of strands or so.
Especially when you run your hands through it, take a shower, brushing, etc.


Hair goes through a cycle.
And usually 100+ pieces of hair falls out.

There's also a certain amount of hair that falls out daily. Some of it is noticed while the other half isnt.

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its all the guys are into in 7th grade. I am at 13 year old female size 34 A. I am very slender and tall (5'4) or so. I want bigger boobs. How can I get them without pills or anything.

*I dont need advice on all that self consicous crud.k?

*And I dont want to have to stuff my bra.

Is there any special food that helps or something.

There's no food that will help. Exercises don't help either.
Just wait in a few years.

You can get a padded bra. That's about it.

There's only pills or surgery.

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I am 13 and latly i have been wanting sex but it is all so confusing!Is 13 to yong to have sex, and when does the bible say it is ok?Is masterbation a sin my friend said in the bible if forbids it, and is it ok if you already have done but you didn't know it was a sin at the time?Some people say that masterbation it totaly natural and other say it is sick and wrong and I don't know what to beleave >

Believe in what you want.
Believe in the bible if you want.
Or have your own beliefs.

Maturbation is a sin in the bible.
But I think it's natural and healthy. (It's not really sick. A lot of people do it.)

Your horomones are going crazy. 13 IS too young for sex.
In the bible it says to wait til marriage.

It's wise to have sex when you're 18 or older, have the right protection, and you're completely comfortable and ready to do it. You don't even have to do it on your honeymoon, you can have a talk with your hubby and tell him that you prefer to wait longer.

But make sure you're ready and you are commited to this person for a long time. You don't want to do it and then have that person walk out of your life. Just don't have sex any time soon. I think it's okay to have sex when you love the person but you aren't married yet.. But only when you're older.

Because you would have a lot of things to worry about.
Like your period- missing it, pregnency, STDs, boyfriend/guy troubles, etc.

Just think about it before you do it.

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can you get a job if you're 14?
like besides babysitting i mean

If you look about everyone, they might.
Usually they dont until you are 16.
I think you're better off waiting until you're nearly 16 then go out looking. I know some places hire 15 year olds but you need to get permission from the school..

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I'm a freshman in highschool, and I've started hearing more and more about people drinking, smoking, doing drugs, etc. I don't know if it's just my school, or if it's normal... but it seems like if you don't drink, people are like, "OMG?! YOU DON'T DRINK?!" Is it like that elsewhere? Or is it just my school? Because I'm hearing a lot about it now. Also, why do so many people do these things to themselves? What to they get out of it? A hangover? They like that? Can't they have fun without getting drunk or high? I don't get it. Sorry so many questions, thanks in advance.

Everyone does that in highschool. It didn't surprise me one bit because middle school was pretty much that..
But people over here.. aren't " OMG YOU DONT DRINK?" .. they are like "okay..."

People do it because they think it's cool. And usually guys want to get girls drunk and .. well, date rape I guess. Some people like getting drunk, some people are followers and yeah.. the hangover part. I wouldn't want that.

They can't have fun without it because it's not considered cool. Some people can because they see through it.

It's just like.. having sex at middle school is considered "COOL"
and it's not.

There's so many things people would do for attention but it's disgusting. Not my thing but I wouldn't avoid those type of people.

They are just like everyone else..

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i'm 14 and i don't know if im old enough yet but i want to get a job at abercrombie or hollister. if anyone knows from experience or anything else, how much does it pay? what are the usual hours? how much of a discount do you get? anything else you know will be great. thanks sooo much!

You have to ask them. But you have to be 16 before you can get a job.

You have to get permission from your school if you want a job though. When you're old enough.

I never had a job yet.. and I wouldn't work at those places anyway.

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I am 20 years old an i am engaged to my wounderful boyfriend of 2 years..i recelty found out that this month he has been poking holes the size of tumb tacks in our condums.. i was woundering if there was a chance i am now pregnant...and what should i do..he dose not know that i found out???? i want kids i am just scared that we are not ready

Okay.. it seems like this.

You're engaged right?
He's poking holes in the condoms yes?

Well if you get pregnant.. he probably thinks.. YOU CAN'T LEAVE HIM because of that.
So if you thought of backing out of marriage, you "cant" because you need support.

Maybe I'm wrong but
Buy some new condoms and switch them every night.

Or you can confront him about this.
Ask him why there's holes in the condoms. You don't want to have a baby yet. He needs to respect that.

Also.. please find out if you're pregnant

and if you are.. then don't give him the news.
Wait it out and see if.. what I said first, was right..

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I think I have a crush on my bestfriend!!and plus im always looking at girl!their hair,their body ther smile there everything!!!.Last year people made a rumor at my old school that me and my bff were lesbians and we got really mad and told everyone they were wrong!.We are always hugging,dancing together,holdings hands!and some people well think we are lesbians!but the truth is that I think im straight ...just curious!and well I think my bestfriend is straight but sometimes shes a little to friendly!I need some help!

Who cares what they think? If you know you aren't, then who cares?
If they start hurting you.. physically that's a problem.
And if you like girls in a romantic way, then you shouldn't be embarrassed or angry about it.

Just follow your heart. If you're interested in some girl, and she's interested in you.. I say go for it.
Don't label yourself anything. Just forget about "straight, bi, lesbian"

Everyone is curious and you start to realize what you are when you get older and ..in that situation.
So if you think you could try being with a girl, you can find out if it's what you want or what you thought you wanted.

Nothing's for sure.

And if the hugging, holding hands thing, etc isn't bothering you.. then don't let people make it like you are.
But if it is, then talk to your friend about it.

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i wear contacts right now just for my vision..what i'm wondering is if they have prescription ones that are colored? I have light brown hair and baby blue eyes what color should i get?

You should try getting a different shade of blue or go for the green. :]
It would be something different and it would look nice.

You can also try purple! One of my friends has it, it looks really good.

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how can you put up an image on myspace and make it your background? pls include code if nesesary.

you can put this in your LAYOUT CODE.


body{background-image:url("http://img.photobucket.com/BLAHBLAHBLAH.jpg"); background-position: center;
background-repeat: no-repeat;
background-attachment: fixed;
background-color: black; }

or

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so my boyfriend and i had sex earlier, were both 14. but anyways, he like got off of me and it felt pretty wet down there so i felt my..yeah..and there was blood. it bled for a couple minutes and it was sorrrrt of a lot. it wasnt like dripping out or whatever, it would come out if i wiped it with the towel i had, or if i stuck my fingers in and pulled them back out. why do you think i bled? im also having cramps right now from it, but i usually always have cramps after sex.

It could be your period.
Or
He's being too rough on the inside.
Or
He still is in the process of breaking the hymen
Or
he's going into deep

But yeah you aren't really supposed to have sex at that age. Your body is still growing/developing.

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I have really dark hair & brown eyes & somewhat tan what shades of eye shadow would I use?

Well you can try any color and see how it looks on you. Sometimes blue or pink may work.

Purple and green makes brown eyes stand out.

You can also go for shades of brown for a natural kind of look.

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Has anyone else besides me noticed that the age of kids starting to have sex is dropping more and more. I mean the other day my friend told me she knew an 11 year old that had sex. I was like whoah thats messed up i'm 15 and i'm still a virgin and proud of it.lol. I mean serisouly what kind of a message is this sending to other countries?

So two questions...

Do you think Americas youth is way too sex oriented? yes or no?

If so what do you think is the cause for this? ex.tv music etc....


Thamx in advance

Yes.

Everything around them caused it.
Older teens too. It looks cool when they do it, so it's like.. why not we do it too ? It's like drugs.
But I think sex is too much. It's spreading diseases.. and it's causing young girls to get hurt and having to deal with a child.. ruins their life.. or going through an abortion.

I also think some guys have some influence on it. Girls are getting into relationships at a younger age and they feel like they must keep their boyfriend .. and so giving them blowjobs, sex is what they think they have to do..

I also think it's with the stupid music.
You know?
The rap, gangster music. It implies so much to it.. like sex, giving blowjobs..

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How do I change my myspace URL. I know it says you can't do it, but it can be done. I know a girl who did it, but she won't tell anyone how. It sucks, and I really want to know.

WHAT IS HER MYSPACE?

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My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over a month now. She had been a very touchy feely person, not in any sort of sexual sense, but always holding or playing with hands, or hugging and such.

Up until this week. She has been in an absolutely horrible mood since Sunday, really hasn't talked to me or returned calls or anything, and hasn't been fond of any sort of physical or social contact from anyone. I would chalk it up to PMS (sorry about the stereotype, girls) but it's literally been all day all wee. I had asked her earlier in the week if she was okay, and she said yes, that she was just feeling weird and didn't want to be around people. Today at lunch it was awful. I asked her again, walking to class (just to note, the first time she didn't hold my hand walking to her class) and she said she didn't want to talk about it. She didn't say anything else, and I hugged her an kissed her goodbye, but still.

I've treated her very well, and I've been giving her space. I'm pretty sure it as absolutely nothing to do with me, but nonetheless, what am I supposed to do?

Just wait it out.

Nobody can tell you what's she's doing.

Sometimes people have those bad days or.. weeks, yeah know?

So maybe this was an off week for her. Just ask her if something she has been bothering her lately.


She could have some problems with friends/family, etc. Just try to talk to her and if she won't tell you, don't think of it as she's keeping secrets. She will talk to you when she's ready.

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what exactly is Photobucket?

Image/video uploading site.
You sign up, pick a username.
It can hold a lot of pages of pictures.
Then it gives you a few codes, so you can put it on your blog, journal, message boards, myspace, etc.

It has a lot of little features.

You can make a new folder and put pictures, etc in there. Easily move things into that folder by selecting 'move' then picking the folder it should go to. You could do more than one.. by selecting the box under the pictures and pressing one move.
Then all those photos go into the folder.

It's really good.

If you go to account options.
You can choose to keep it private or public.
You have the option to change the background, choose how many pictures you may see on one page.


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i got a layout from whateverlife.. its one of them small layouts [from the 'quote' page with like 43 layouts']. well i put it on there and i love it but it took off my top 8 and i want it back! i know a little about HTML so i looked at the code to see if there was a code on there that took it off but if there was i didnt recognize it. some of the layouts on that page had the top 8 and some didnt but i couldnt tell on mine because the preview picture didnt show that far down. how can i get it back without messin up the layout?

Can you give me the link to the layout?

I can point you out the code to take out.

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this guy basically asked me to have sex with him. he does that alot. we only talk, and i don't like him more than that. i dont know what to do. (i say no of course, but he always asks.)

You should tell him to stop asking you. It's rude.
Tell him you don't like him more than that.

And tell him, if he doesn't stop. You won't see or talk to him again.

Then start ignoring him.

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