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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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There is this kid at my school who annoys me and I can hardly focus on my work in the classes we have in common. I told the adults about the sitiuation and they said I had to deal with it.
Im usualy a calm person but sometimes I get pissed. Can any1 help? fives go out to the best answers.Oh, and by the way, he's still 12.

The best thing i would do is get a boyfriend and he will get all jealous and tell the guy that he cant talk you anymore. I suggest writing him a note and telling him you need some space. If you cant be comfortable in class then you should tell him. You could just tell him that you like being friends but he is just getting in the way of your concentration. Telling him you need space and that when your in class you want to focus on that and not other things. Or hook him up with someone and then he can annoy someone else. IF he has a g/f he will only be talking to for a little while.

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this site is annoying i try to get help with stuff and it keeps deleteing my question before people can answer it which is hella dumb becuase i thought this was a place i can get help with stuff on but i guess not...yea this probably get deleted to freakin mofos! Why is this is happening??Why isnt my question being answered?

Actually i can see this question lol. I think that it is not processing through your computer and if it isnt then we wont be able to see them. But to let you know i can see this.

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Again, this isn't exactly a massive problem, but if anyone has any ideas....
I had a big falling-out with my best friend this summer. She had been pissing me off for ages, by generally being a selfish, irritating ho (there are quite a few reasons, not important), so I just told her I didn't want to speak to her anymore. And now we are back at school and she has no idea I hate her. I'm still really angry at her, and she is just totally oblivious. I feel like I'd like some way to tell her how I feel or get revenge although I know it would be just to make myself feel better and make her feel bad.
Any ideas? And I'm this post makes me look like a bitter, avengeful bitch, don't bother leaving me notes telling me that, I'll report ya :)

The best thing is to do is to tell her that she made you angry. Some people when they make their friends angry instead of apoligizing they pretend like ntohing happened. I know about this my brother and my dad do the same thing. The best way to talk to her is to write her a note that says you dont aprreciate her not listening to you. If she was truly your friend she wouldnt make you mad or she would at least apologize if it was her fault. The fact is everyone makes mistakes everyones mistakes are sometimes different but you need to forgive her whether it is her fault or not. It will help you move on from this and will make you feel better.

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Alright, here's the deal. I need to shed off quite a few pounds, I have until the end of November to do it.

Now I know the best way to get rid of weight is to exercise. I work two jobs, I don't have the energy to really work out when I have to work and on if I do get a day off from one job or another I just want to relax. Occassionally I take a few walks or jogs around the block. It hasn't been often though lately.

As much as I'm on the go and doing something I have a very slow metabolism. It's hard to lose weight for me. Anyone know how to jumpstart it?

I am trying to watch what I eat as well. Are there any kinds of food that are great for burning off fat? Or any kind of liquids?

I know that diet pills are not healthy, but they seem to be 'quick' so if anyone has had an expierence with a diet pill that has worked please let me know.

So I need quick and easy diet tips for shedding the pounds. I will rate 5 for all answers.

The best liquid for losing weight is water. Water helps you lose all of your water weight that may be in your system. Also only eating three times a day with no snacks in between helps to. I have been doing this for a 2 weeks and i am already looking thinner just by drinking water and exercising more calories than eating them.

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there is this one girl at school who treats me better than others. Like i am extremely impared or something {well i do hang out with the impared people sometimes}. Is she in love with me? How can I tell if a girl likes me.

I dont really know if she is in love. The best thing is to do is write her a note or something. If she was in love with you she would flirt with you like talk you about thing going on in her life and asks you to hang out other than school. If a person treats you like you like everyone else then i think she likes her.

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Kissing is nice :-D, but honestly...what in everyones opinion is the definition of "making out". I know that frenching is...but other htan that? Please be as clean w/ this as possible! haha! thanks!

Making out is when you kiss none stop. If you just kiss once and then your on your way then thats just a kiss but if you sit there and suck face for like 10 minutes then thats making out.

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ok well i have this really hot niebor and we like to insult me like flirting. well one day i was on the porch at like 11 he just pulled up in his drive way.. he is 16.fence and he started to make these sex noises like he was fucking me .. but i just wanna no if that means he likes me

Yea it seems like he likes you so you should ask him to go somewhere like on a date. You guys could hang out. But if he is doing that then that definiately means he likes you.

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There's this boy that I've known ever since 5th grade (we are in 9th grade) we are very close besides the fact that I NEVER SPENT TIME WITH HIM BESIDES SCHOOL!!! Yea we would talk on the phone, text and stuff but, I would LOVE to go somewhere with him one day but there are 2 problems:

1.) I am afraid that if I am alone with him, he might put the moves on me and we might have sex! (Only a kiss will do)

2.) I am afraid that if I go to the movies with him or something, that he might try and play me by taking me somewhere far, leaving me alone or embarrassing me.

What can I do to overcome my shyness and how do I explain to him that I am shy?

P.S. I gave him some excuses! I don't want to seem like a liar or that I don't want to be with him because I DO! it would be like a DATE or something.. My FIRST date!

If you are shy then you should go out with him in a crowd first that way you get used to him and see that he is not who you think he is. Maybe inviting your friends and other guys to come to the movies to. Then you guys would go to the movies especially if the car is crowded. If you want to be alone with him then have your mom drive you and drop you off and meet him in the movie place then you guys watch the movie and have your mom pick you up. I would go with the first idea it sounds much better. Or you could talk to him about it if you talk to him you would feel much safer.

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okay see im really mad @ someone and i want to block them will they be able to know if i block them on my buddie list??? thanks!!!

The thing with blocking is it makes the person seem your offline. They wont know you blocked them b/c it shows them that you are offline even though your not.

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Ok~~ im 13 years old and im a girl lol~~well anyways have a boyfriend~ we've been going out for almost a month now~~ but he's a year younger than me and next year ill be in high school and he will be in middle school still~~ and i dont know wut to do because now football is almost over and that is the only time i see him~~ plus i sorta like another guy~ but i still love him help me i dont know wut to do~ please-- Jada

I know that feeling. If you love this guy then you sould stay with him. I know there is a conflict because of you splitting up by you going to high school. During the school year ask him if he wants to go to the movies or something. Then you guys can still hang out on the weekends. You will only have to go through high school one year without him. Just call him everyday and go out everyweekend and you will be able to see him. I know you like this other guy but if you like your b/f more then you should stay with him. You shouldnt break up unless you absolutely have to.

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I need to save a one page essay to a floppy disk, and I'm at a loss on how to do it. I know my computer has a floppy drive, and I have an empty floppy right next to me. If I bring the essay up, what do I need to do to make it save to a floppy? Also, which, side goes into the drive? The one with the circle or the blank?


Your help is appreciated!

When you bring it up just keep it there. Put your floppy disk in. The way you put it in is the side with the blank color you put it in with that side showing. so the circle is on the bottom. Then in your progrma with your essay you go to the top and click file then save not save as just save. It should have a picture of a floppy beside or something. Then you see a screen and you will write what you wnat to title it so you can find it. To find it again when you get to school or something you go to file and open. You click the arrow down and look at the options. Click 3 and 1/2 floppy. Then you will see your titled file and then click it and press the open thing.

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If you don't look at somebody in the eyes...do they get upset or something or feel like they did something wrong? Im really bad at eye contact. It makes me feel weird knowing somebodys eyes are staring right at me..

Sometimes people get offended if you dont look at their eyes. It really depends on the person. If a person likes eye contact then they will get offended because they feel that if you are not looking at them while they are talking they think that you are not listening. Some people dont like eye contact because it makes them uncomfortable or weird. If a guy looks at you you must think your pretty or something. It really depends on the situation.

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Im not anti-christian, infact im christian myself but, why do christians think that witchcraft is wrong? Its another religion just like Buhdism and christianity itself.

Most religions believe that if you use witchcraft then that is a sign that you are worshiping the devil. If you use witchcraft the power is definiately not coming from God. They think that if you use witchcraft then the devil has consumed your body. It sounds strange i know. When i was catholic thas what they told me. Now i am mormon and they dont really talk about it.

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I am over weight and i have tryed exercise and diets and im only 13 so i cant do anything like pills. But i seriosly need help im like 5 2 and 150lbs please please help! What do you think i should do?

~overweight

Most people just have water weight so a way to get rid of that is to drink water. If you are addicted to pop then you should drink like 1 can per day or the best would be none. You lose alot of weight if you dont eat chocolate either. Exercising more than the amount of calories you gain will also help you lose wieght. You can tell if you are out of shape by exercising alot and breaking into a sweat.

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i am babysitting with a friend so we have to split the money and the town isnt very rich about how much should i charge 1 kid per hour 2 kids per hour 3 kids per hour and 3 kids per hour

i rate high

I usually charge about 3 dollars per hour when i babysit. And toronto is a really poor town. If there are 3 kids then about 5 dollars per hour. If two kids then somewhere in between.

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I wrote before about how my mom was sick and that i wasnt sure what was wrong with my mom( http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=383493 ) Anyways, Now I do. I'm not realy in the mood to write this all out but here this will help alot. Today i decided to start up writing a journal again but this time on the computer since I can type realy fast just save it to a founder with that days date. Well anyways heres waht i wrote today (take in mind taht I started the journal thing today and the ---- means informatino i cant give out lol...


10-22-05- Saturday

Dear Journal,

I decided to start to write a journal. I used to when I was 9 or 10 or something like that but I never found it as a necessary as a teenager. Since I haven’t written in so long I guess I should start with the basics. I am 13 years old.I live at --------,Ohio. My home phone number is now ------. I’ve been living in -------- for about 10 years. I have a dog named Scotch and a Cat Named Magic. Ashley (my twin) is of course 13. Katie is 12 and Jenny is 23. Jenny is married to Brad and they have two Children; Alec who is 5 and Addison who is 3. I am in the 8th grade also and I go to East Palestine Middle School. My favorite color is pink. I am a East Palestine 8th grade Cheerleader. I was one last year too. I have a awesome boyfriend who I am sure that I am in love with. His name is Kevin Scott Ludwig. He’s 15 ½. He so handsome. He has blue eyes that I get lost in and has a laugh that can make anyone’s day. I have brown eyes and brown hair. My fears are really hard to explain so its easier to say that my fear that always haunts me has pretty much became reality.
My mom went to the doctors Last weekend for a yearly checkup, no big deal right? Well they drew blood work and such and she’s been waiting for results. Always, Thursday Addison and my mom went to school with me till after 4th period cause it was bring family to school day okay? Well when she got home she got a message from our doctor saying that they got the results from the blood work and to come in right away. So she called my dad and told him and he came home and them and Addison went to the doctors. Well, It turns out my mom has a disease. This is my worst fear / nightmare. Though I’m not really sure what the name of it is but its bad. Her bloods thick and it doesn’t have much oxygen and tons of carbon. She has to stop smoking. Also she is supposed to donate a quart (yes a whole quart) of blood every 4 months. She can have a heart attack and die any second. Its really scary and I cry if I think too much about it but the girls (my two sisters) are kind of acting like its nothing. Something tells me between the next couple months if it stays the same or gets worse my mom will go into a mild depression (that’s my opinion) just because she is already not doing well. She hasn’t been sleeping either. Like when my mom gets mad at my dad and goes to bed angry she will yell like once in her sleep at him ( its kind of funny). Anyways, she hasn’t been sleeping and when she is crying in her sleep and yelling and talking and a lot of other things. She is talking likes she going to die. She is scared for her life and she is terrified she is going to die. I don’t know what to do. I am lost confused and just out of it at some points.
Well I find myself that I cant write anymore.. I’m talking to my boyfriend and I really don’t want to cry right now and I feel the tears coming so I’ll leave it for today…


--Love--
Meg

Dear Journal,
Hey its me again! Well I wanted to fill you in on well more stuff. My dad was talking to my sisters and I about my mom. He was telling us some strange ways she’s been acting and how its extremely hard for her to give up smoking and she has to now because she will die if she doesn’t. Anyways, besides that miserable and unwanted news I found out some new stuff. Not only does my mom has a disease but something major is causing the disease . All the symptoms are saying it’s a brain aneurysm which as you know is not good at all. This is why my mom is scared for her life. She getting a appointment and will go to the hospital probably sometime next week to get a cat scan to see if that’s what it is. Wow you wouldn’t think this could get any worse huh? Between the disease and the brain aneurysm and the fact that my mom is just going wacky right now right? Well wrong. My dad last year went to the doctors and they said he might have a heart problem. So my dad was horrified and so was my mother. They had to take him to a heart specialist and the heart specialist said there was nothing wrong. Well wrong again! Due to what is going on with my mom and such my mom talked my dad into scheduling a appointment with the doctor to have a full physical. Well again they think something is wrong with his heart. He’s nervous but he’s not really one of those touchy feely guys . I’m not sure what to do. I cant control anything anymore I understand that I have to learn to treat both my mother and my father better because if something does happen .. I couldn’t survive knowing I treated them like crap. I don’t really know what to do right now. I really like the idea of writing in here though.. It helps me cop with what’s going on. Well I better go I have decided that I’m going to put today’s entry’s on this awesome website called advisonators.com so that I can have people help me out or help me cope with this really harsh situation.

-Sincerely-
Megan




Some basic Information-
My mom is 42 shes 110 pounds in great health and looks like shes atleast in her early 30's.
My dad is 41 hes not fat but not skinny. Hes all My dad is also in good health.

Just respond I'm not totaly sure what I'm asking for just give me words of encoaragement (sp?),knowledge, I dont care. Thanks you guys.

I cant say that i know what your going through but my mom does. My mothers mom had brain cancer. My mom had to go back and forth so she could take care of her. This was 2 years ago. We were going to originally move there so my mom could take care of her but it was hard for me to think about switching schools my senior year. My mom took care of her the best of her abilities and staying strong in front of her made her the happiest person. I think that writing ina journal is a great idea. It helps you get out nay pain that you need and takes a load off your chest.I encourage you spending as much time with you mother as much as possible. I can admit that i am the religionous person but if you pray and have faith that your mother is going to be ok then that will give yourself strength and your mother strength also. I am sorry that you have to go through this at such a young age. If you try praying it may help. I always prayed for my family. I prayed for my mother to have strength and strangely she had the strength to take care of my grandmother for 4 years. I think that if you dont think about it and just live your life the way it was meant to you will feel not as sad. Try doing someting to keep your mind off of it.

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ok well I am 14 and when I am around guys any guys i tend to go in look in the mirrior alot it is weird I don't have a boyfriend but I want one but know one I know is my type I like a few guys at school thats it
My question is why do I act so weird around the guys and why can't I get a boyfriend and I am not ugly but I guess I have a preppy personallitie]

well i hope i get helped

You act so weird around guys is because you are not comfortable around them. I guess you are classified as shy. Not shy around you friends but with guys. I suggest going to the movies. Invite your best friends and ask a couple of guys to go to. If learn to interact with guys with your friends then you will feel more comfortable around tem when you are alone. This helps you getting use to guys and you will feel comfortable flirting with them also. You should ask one of the guys that you like.

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oo wow this just happend this second . I have been home all day bored out of my mind. My bestfriend and I were planning on going to the movies. But I told her this guy I like is going she knows this guy and she doesnt like him. So now she is saying oo I dont want to go to the movies, so i told her wanna go bowling ice skatting skating etc and she said no she wants to go home and i go why and she goes cause if he is going to be there i dont want to be there. She is being very selfish what do i do? Do i let her go home invite another friend or do I talk to her about and if i do what do i tell her she is very snobby bratty and bitchy. so i have no idea what to tell.
Help Please.
xoxo - Adey

I think that you should go out with the guy if you like him. If she was truly your friend then she would have supported you and gone to the movies even if she didnt like him. A thought is to ask her why she doesnt like him. A solution would be to go to the movies with her and then go to the movies with him. She might feel like a tird wheel if it was just the three of you. Finding her a date would probably help that way she wouldnt feel like a third wheel on a date. Dont stop seeing this guy b/c your friend doesnt like him. You do what you want and dont do it b/c yu want to please someone else. I think that if you talk to her about it will make you feel much better and less miserable. If you dont talk to her then the problem wont be solved it will probably cause more or they just wont go away.

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i asked the question about being unhappy and everyone sucking. you said to find something that makes me happy. what if the one thing that makes me the happiest is completely out of reach? im sad when im not around it but happier than ever when i am.

Well if it is something that will help you then you should try to achieve it but if it is causing you pain then you shouldnt. If you are talking about a person then that something that will never be out of reach. If you are talking about drugs then that is not a solution just a another way of avoiding your problem. You need to be more specific b/c i dont know what makes you happy or what is out of reach.

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ok so theres this guy..his name is michael. he asked me out on a date, so i went. i had a great time and i like him alot. but after 3 days he sent me a text message saying that he didnt think it was going to work. but the next day he sent me a nother saying that he was sorry and he didnt mean it. so we're not going out anymroe but i have a huge crush on him. his best friend says that he likes me 2. then yesterday was a big football game but i couldn't go. but michael and his best friend did. they called me up and michael is like "I LOVE YOU!!!!!" and then i told his best friend to find out what the deal is with michael and to call me back. michael did call me back at 9 but i was asleep so i didnt get a chance to talk to him. then just a few minutes ago i was on aim and michael was on. so i IMed him and said hi. he said hi then signed off. im going crazy..does he like me or not?????!!!! also: i go to an all girls school but theres an all boys school right next to it, they are sepereated by a gate. every lunch michael and his best friend comes over to see me and my friend. im just really confused about if he likes me or not...thanks in advance!

It seems like that he likes you but he is confused about his own feelings. He is probably scared that if you guys hook up and then break up you wont be friends anymore. Maybe you should talk to him about and give him some time to sort out his priorities. He might be waiting for the right time to tell you. I think that you should write him a note and give it to him. Or call him back. If he likes you but his friends dont want him to date you then he will go with what his friends think. The best thing to do is tell him how you feel and you will feel much better. It gets a load off your chest to.

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