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alright, i dunno why, but i cant keep a boyfriend for more then like a week..i had long relationships befor but now its like nothing there, and im going into the high school and im not scared or anything, but i would really want a bf to like be with in school, whats wrong with me?. why cant i keep a boyfriend anymore, i mean they dont break up with me i break up with them, and i really just wanna stop but everytime i have a bf i just feel weird or something

Its really nothing to worry about..your young and having multiple relationships is what we are supposed to be doing..just think about it, when you get married...no more relationships and stuff so enjoy it. Theres nothing wrong with you..if you arent feeling connected with a guy why should you keep going out with them? Maybe you will find a guy to settle down with a little more when you get into High School..and if you dont , no biggie! lots of people are in your same position and its not like they have a disorder or something. So for now live up the single life and when you meet a boy you would like to date, give it a try and if you feel weird about it, break it off..no reason to stay with someone if you feel weird.

-melisss-

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I dont know why but I have zits on my butt. What can I do to get rid of them.

keep the area clean..and i guess search for products to buy in your grocery store or drug store
your doctor might know more.
well good luck with that
-meliss

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Whenever I shave my legs, it leaves a bunch of red dots which looks really ugly. Do you know the best way to shave?

ok, im not an expert in this area, but being that you asked this question i did some research for you :)

i came up with these helpful website and i learned a thing or two myself. i hope they help you too!

here is something i got from a very helpful website:

1. Don't waste your money on shaving creams formulated especially for women. They are virtually the same as the creams sold for men. Now if you can just find a scent that you can live with.

2. It is really important for your legs to be wet for at least a couple of minutes before you start shaving. Less than that and you risk irritation.

3. You are going to have to experiment with razors until you find the perfect one for you. Ask your friends for recommendations. I recently started sampling a variety and was amazed how different each of them feel.


they have 10 tips sso to read mor go to this website:


http://beauty.about.com/cs/shaving/a/10_shaving_tips.htm

heres another

http://www.ivillage.co.uk/health/beauty/body/articles/0,12709,181480_185993,00.html

thanks for the question..ask again ;)
-melissa0-

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whats the difference between going out with someone and hooking up with someone?

when your going out with someone its a relationship..your sticking to that one person, and the two people like each other

when your hooking up..its like a little "session"..just kissing someone..sometimes the two people have no feelings for each others..sometimes one person has feelings and the other doesnt...hooking up is just doing stuff with a person for the fun of it. (it could be just kissing...it could go further than that) with hooking up, there is no commitment like there is in a relationship..so the two people hooking up could just hookup for one night and its over..they could continie to hookup while hooking up with more people on the side

i hope this clears stuff up

-melisss

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My ex boyfriend and I still have feelings for each other. The only reason we broke up was because of an Instant Messanger Misunderstanding since someone always goes on his screenname. Well, he has a girlfriend who he only likes as a friend (which I think he got to make me jealous.) He and I want to get together but I'm afraid I'm going to get hurt? So should we keep ourselves a secret, should we tell his girlfriend about us, or should I just tell him its not a good idea? We really like each other. So any advice would be great. I'll rate 5's for Helpful advice.

well, its simple as this:
first, you get him to break up with his girlfriend
next, you two start going out
and thats all there is to it. the only time you should be worrrying about getting into trouble is if your helping him cheat on his current gf. as long as they break up, its perfectly fine to go public about your relationship.

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i think i just made one of the biggest mistakes of my life. me and my best guy friend have always had a friends-with-benifits relationship. he was fingering me today and ended up sticking his penis in me. we were going for a little, but we had to stop because he had to leave. he didn't get to cum and we did full out have sex. but knowing that his penis was in me... is that enough to count for losing my virginity?

yes, this counts as losing your virginty because you were having sex..your cherry probably popped. it doesnt matter that he didnt cum. so i hope this cleared up any confusion?
-meliss

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does high school really suck? Should I be freaking out about it, or am I just overreacting?

high school can be awesome and sucky at the same time.
like, with school..things can get so stressful that you feel like just quitting and stuff (for me anyway) but then again..its so great because you really form relationships (friends, and bfs/gfs) you have all kinds of great times hangin out with friends..memories, meeting new people, getting into some innocent mischief :)

dont freak out..it can be filled with drama and stuff..but then again friends, meeting new people, having a good time makes it good

so you shouldnt totally freakd out about it..its not hoorrrible.

then again, high school works liek this: if you get a bad rep..like if your an outcast,smelly, do drugs, become a slut, etc..high school can reallyy suck for you ...

if your all popular and stuff..it could be so great.

i guess im in the middle..i have awesome friends..high school has been pretty good ssocially..but as far as schoolwork goes..it gets overwhelming and annoying at times.

well i hope this helped..dont stress over it.
-melissa-

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How do I go about giving my boyfriend a handjob? And then how do I do it? Is a condom required? thank you!!

no a condem is not requried for this.

ok to go about giving your guy a hanjob...while in private:
-start to make out with him..when you get into it, gently rub is inner thigh a little maybe..and start tto unzip his pants. stop kissing for a moment and maybe look him in the eye and giggle..get hhim in the mood ;)
-get his penis out and with your dominant hand,grip his penis..(make a "C' with your hand and cup it around his penis..and slide it up and down the penis..start off slow for a couple seconds, then gradually grip it a little more firmly and go a little faster.
- communication is important..it will allow you to please him the best you can, and you want that right? so ask him "do you like it like this? want me to grip tighter..go faster..? do you have any techniques you want to show me?
-he will tell you if he wants you to do something in particular..like maybe put the penis inbetween your middle and ring finger and give him a handjob that way for a little bit.

-dont just give him a handjob while not doing anything elsee at the same time..let him feel up your shirt (if yuour comfortable with that) and make out with him as well if you can. with your free hand maybe run the hand through his hair (the hair on his head, just to set things straight lol)

-you might feel some precum...a little wetness ...maybe run your thumb over the tip of the penis gently to use the precum as a lubricant..this will allow it to be easier to go faster and smoother

- if you really want to spice him up..lick the penis ..maybe if he cums, lick it up..maybe mix it up where halfway through the handjob, you give him head. (if your comfortable with that)

i hope i helped..if you would like more info inbox me or search "how to give a handjob" on ask.com

-melissa- :)

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Ok listen here ! lol anyways yea well i talked to my guy friend about his stupid girlfriend and today she called me a fat slut and i hate her even more..but anywas.. now me and him are fighting and i dont kno if i can take his shit any longer ..i told him today i hope he dies..even though tahts soo wreong and i kno it.. i mean i couldnt help it i mean this is wats happening how ,, with him and ehr they arent dating anymore right but they are together all the time hes taking her to other guys hosues kissing them in front of him and doing all sorts of stuff liek tath i mean its sick and then he goes and sticks up for her when she calls me that.., i need help im going nuts wat should i do! b.4 i kill her:)

hmm..if i were in your situation i wouldnt allow myself to be around her because i wouldnt want to do something stupid like punch her out or something. so for now, just make sure she wont be anywhere you will..and if she happens to be there..stay aawaaaay and just have fun with friends. she isnt worth the aggrivation and sometimes friends will side with the wrong person...you just have to ride it out..doont let it get to you..but most important just keep yourself away from her.
after awhile things will pass over
-melissa-

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hey well im really depressed all teh time. and i want to quit school. and im just so sick of everything! im just stressed. can somebdy give me advice on what to do?

i think what you should do is:

1) keep in mind everyone is feeling how you do sometimes..its all normal to be feeling overworked and aggrivated with school

2) keep in mind hard work ALWAYS pays off. in the end, your hard work will pay off. keep working hard so you get into a good college, therefore getting you a good job, which gets you a good financially secure life :)

3) im sure your friends feel that way..so maybe talk to them about it. maybe you guys can arrange a study grooup to make studying and homework less stressful and a pain. you and your friends can make it fun and help each other at the same time.

i hope this helped!
-melissa-

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well my ex boyfriends birthday is coming up and we decided we were gonna spend the day together after school or the following day together! weve been broken up for almost 7 months now! ya i know a really long time! but through it all weve been like best of friends and we talk all the time! and weve hung out twice this summer! well he does tell me he knows we both want to be together but it wont work right now because he is dating another girl but they arent going out cause she cant have a boyfriend! and even after being broke up hes like i love u and i always will! and just last night he said he missed us! and i still really care about him! but anyways for his bday i wanna do something really cute! i was already thinking about making him a cake and decorating it all cute and getting him a card! but i was trying to think of something else special i could do to show him how much i care! any ideas? thanks so much!

well im not sure of your budget because you didnt say, but thats ok...i will give you ideas in all budget ranges.


i thought this was really cool..you could buy someone a star..even name one. go to this website for more info

http://www.name-a-star-services.com/unique-gift-ideas.html


http://www.findgift.com/Holidays/Friendship-Day/
i was looking there and i saw some sweet things..like a friendship plaque kind of thing.


heres what you can do for free:


http://www.giftideasandtips.com/homemadegiftideas.html

this website talks about scrapbooks and baked goods..those are good choices for something sweet, easy , and free.

you can also make a video saying a message about how much of a great guy he is

you can have like a picnic in the park and talk about all your memories

i hope i helped..my head hurts from thinking so much lol


i like the card and cake idea by the way! :)
-melissa- :)


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i have a problem thats been getting to me for the past couple months. i cant be alone. like if im home by myself and not talking to any1, i have problems like i get worked up and upset and im not exactly sure what to do about it. i have asthma and do get panic attacks so thats basically why its a problem. my bf has been trying to help me, and when he talks to me i feel 1000x better, but he cant talk to me all the time and i totally understand that. any advice id greatly appreciate and i'll definately rate you.

thanks

i think its something you should mention to your parents and doctor when you go for your checkup..i also think this is something that can be worked out . if your parents understand your problem maybe they will let you have a friend or two over.
-have friend over
-call a friend or bf or relative
-have relative over
-go to a neighbors house
-go out somewhere with friends

if you do those activities while home alone, hopefully you will feel better and it will help

-melissa- :)

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Ok so when im going to have my period, im scared that people will know that im changing my pads.. is there anyway on how to silence things up? it gets really embarassing for me cause im a tomboy...

you can try this:
maybe have the pad out of the wrapper but still folded up..like carry your pads in your purse or whatever without the wrapper on. this way, nobody will hear you when your in the bathroom. you can flush the toilet and as its flushing, take off the strip where the sticky part of the pad is..this way nobody will hear that eitherr..and your good to go!
all girls go through the same thing!

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my dad has never told me he's loved me until last week when we were on the phone. I said it first, but i am glad he said it back. it is awkward to say it again. My question is...is it normal for dads not to say he loves his daughtor and should i keep on saying i love him when i see him or talk to him on the phone?

Is it normal you ask? it seems normal ..i mean your question really got me thinking..i need to say it more to my parents. Say it more..and he will say it back. No doubt..the love is there between you and your dad..you just might not say it enough ...i know i dont. but im going to start.
just say it..when you go out give him a hug and say "i love you"
or if your on the phone say it also..you will find you and your dad saying i love you more
-melissa

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SO SORRY THIS IS LONG

Ok so i just turned 13 last month, im the youngest person in my whole grade ! and my friends are turin 14 soon .. and they are all have their periods and have regular size boobs .. but they got their in like 6th or 7th grade , and im going into 8th ! you know that checkup thing when your like 12 , well they said i wouldnt get my period till im about a freshmen .. like 2 years and this was about like going into 6th grade. I have pubic hair under my armpits and on my vagina .. and i sometimes ill have white stuff on my underwear and this has been like this for about 3 months .. and to let you know im really small and i have no boobs ATALL im flatchested.

hey your only 13..dont worry! i know a girl who is 15 going on 16 and she still doesnt have her period. we all get it at different times..i think if anything you should feel lucky you dont have your period yet because its not fun!
the white discharge is a sign that its coming..dont worry..your only 13! some girls get it at a crazy early age like 10 and 11..others dont get it until like 16..17

-meliss

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My boyfriend just broke up with me because he said' " i dont think it will work because, you know im going into to high school & your still in middle school" because im in 8th grade and hes in 9th. Plus insead of me being in his profile now its about another girl. and im really reallly sad because i think hes cheating on me. is there anything i can do to make me feel better :( thanks. xoxo

to make yourself feel better try and keep in mind that another great guy will walk into your life and there are many more relationships in your future.
friends always always make me feel better..so hang out with them or talk to them..go out and meet new people..stay busy..it will make you feel better. it sounds like its pretty much over with you and this guy ..officially end it because hes putting another girl in his info..hes moving on to another girl..so you should move on to another guy.
relationships come and go..i know its hard..but friends are forever

-melissa-

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My brother is away for the week and i'm normally allowed to stay up to 11 and my brother makes sure i go to bed. So i'm staying up later (a lot later) and i'm eating a lot at night. i'm afraid that i'm going to gain a lot of weight because i'm not going to be able to work it off. i don't want to throw it up because 1.that's just nasty 2.it's unhealthy 3.if i try it i might continue and become bulimic. could someone help me on what to do?

1. ok its not nasty if you eat like a healthy snack. try fruits, veggies, etc.

2. eating healthy shouldbt be bad for you..even if its later at night. yeah they say you shouldnt eat after 8 or some crap because your digestive system slows down but i dont think veggies and fruits will hurt.

3. a person who is mentally healthy and secure wont become bulimic. its not like your shoving cake down your mouth late at night.

relax, and enjoy your late night snacks.
-melissa-

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Will you rub my Pene'.....Plz put this in ur list of questions-lol.

sure ;)

lol

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15/f *Ohhkay, so i have this amazing guy..but we're just reallly good friends."with benifits" I love him and i know he loves me and we've been talking about "doing it" i know we are both ready, and we will def use protection. But my question is..do you think if we actaully do it..we wil end up going out? I mean,I would love to go out with him, and ive always wanted to.
So do you guys think if we do it that theres a possibility that he may like me more than a friend?!

Thanks so much guys/I'll rate HIGH!! ;)

-kristen

swweetie..no no no..please dont turn into a statistic..i just read in a magazine that a lot of girls have sex because they think having sex will make the guy like you..and want a relationship. this is not the case. dont get your heart broken! this guy wants to have sex for the thrill of sex..if he liked you, he would want to be more than just friends with benefits. please please dont think having sex will make him like you or want to be more than friends with benefits..and if this is the reason you want to have sex, dont do it sweetie.
i hope i helped..
-melissa-

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I can't find the perfect boyfriend. I tried sticking to one boy but something messes it up. I just hate walking down the halls in school and see couples around me. I never tried putting myself out there,lol. Is there something wrong with me? I sometimes think I'd be lonley forever. I daydream of me in a steady,smooth relationship. But, I can't find the perfect boyfriend to share my feeling and secrets.
I need someone to help me out on this one!
Thanks

nope there is absolutely nothing wrong..i mean we are still in school! my aunt is 40 and still not married..i hope thats not going to be me in 20 years, but my point is the "right one" will come along..most times if you have a highschool sweetheart..he wont be the same guy you mary. yes it works out that way..but its ok ..we are still young!
no worries :)

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