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Q: my best friend died about 2 months ago on father's day so that had to be really hard for her dad but anyways we were best friends for almost 10 years and she was the only friend I had in the world so I feel like nobody loves me so i've already tried to commit suicide twice since her death. all I want is to be happy again is that to much to ask? How can I be happy again?

I apoligize for the lose of your friend.

you tried to commit sucide twice and was not successful because your friend is looking over you and would like you to be happy.

you may seem to be betraying your friend when you go out there to look for another friend. it may be hard but just start talking to people. keep in contact with her family. as in check in on them once in a while to see how they are doing.

your family loves you and i am sure you have other friends just maybe not best friends.

Q: my mom is thinking about getting a divorce with my dad. but my dad doesn't want to and he is trying to make sure my mom won't. my mom has been crying and she can't eat or she might puke and she can't sleep. she jus read a book called the the divorce express . she won't even sleep in the same bed as him. she sleeps on the floor in the living room. they don't even talk to each other anymore. i dont know what to do cuz i really dont want them to separate.

My mom seperated then divorced my father when i was 15 and i was pregnant. lots of stress.
my mom did it for a stupid reason and it really took a toll on all her children hit us all really hard.

sit your parents down and the kitchen table together. tell them you understand you to are talking about seperating but before they make that choice ask them if they will do something for you. if they will talk to a marriage counsler and try and work out their differences. it may or may not help depending on the reason they want a divorce.
good luck.

Q: last night i gave my bf a bj and he said he liked it, but then he said he wanted to go farther and i said you will find out tomorrow....should i do it??? im 14 btw

okay saying you are way to young is just going to make you want to do it. trust me. i made that mistake after my mom told me i was to young to even think about it. i got pregnant. changed my whole life. i was 14 when i got pregnant.

sex is special i am sure you have been told that. now that i am married my husband and i always say to bad we couldnt have been each others firsts.

Q: 17/f, i feel like such a hypocrite. i always get mad when people judge people just by the way they look, act, dress, i'm very good at making friends & i am friends with every type of group in school.

however, in my english class, i sit in this corner, with these three girls who are very different (one girl pretends she is Australian, & pretends to have an Australian accent, and told everyone she has it just because she went there, over the summer..etc.) anyway, they all try to talk to me & they are nice & stuff, but i mean i don't have anything in common with them, & i just think every time i walk in there, oh great, those weird girls are going to bother me. & right after i think that, i feel so ashamed that i am judging people, i hardly know! & sometimes i just ignore them, & i feel so horrible after. how can i change my ways, with these people? i've never been like this before, i can't believe i act like this. :(

Well you don't have to be friends with them. Say hi to them if they talk to you during class or while you are trying to do your work. ask them polietly " i dont mean to sound rude but i am really trying to concentrate on my work maybe we can talk later."

you dont have to be friends with everyone, but being nice makes people feel good.

Q: My ex-boyfriend is convinced he has to kill himself because I broke up with him. He lives in an 18 story apartment building with EASY roof access. He wants to do it as soon as possible. I don't have either of his parent's numbers, but I sent his mom a message on facebook. I don't think she'll get it in time though. Help me, please. I have no clue what to do!!

This is more likely your ex boyfriend, trying to make you feel like crap. Since you broke up with him. Hun it is not your fault.
Contact the police tell them your situation and ask them to send someone to his house to talk with him and his parents..
my sons father told me he was going to shoot him self. i called the police and had them send someone out there, they took his fathers gun away from him. he was angry with me for calling said he was only saying that. but i had no idea. you know.. so call the police.

Q: hey i am smart but my grades arent that great.

i have a really low gpa its like a 2.8 and i have no idea what college i should go to.

i want to go to north eastern or bu but i know i cant get into that.

what college shoudl i look into?

have you taken your SAT?? ACT?? what where your scores on that.. take all your general studies at home at a community college, if you are like my brother he says i dont want to stay living at home.. trust me its cheaper to do it that way. also you can raise your gpa. take your time and really focus on your gpa.. also.. there are grants all sorts of stuff to help you with college.. search online or ask about them see if you qualify. good luck and dont ever say you could never do something.

Q: hey :) so i have a little problem & please don't judge me! me and my best guy friend have a lot of chemistry. i'm not gonna lie, we both have always wanted to become sexual with each other. i've had trust problems and he is honestly the ONLY guy i ever can and will trust. the thing is, we really havent ever done anything, just hard core flirting and him pretty much feeling me up! i'd like to get more intimate with him. he's texted me before like asking if i wanna fuck hahaa and i'm always like yeah!;) but nothing ever has happened! i have a feeling it's going to have to be a planned thing. like i'm going to have to go to his house, or he's going to come to mine to do ANYTHING sexual. i'm on birth control also, have been for 3 years now. oh and i am a virgin. havent really done anything with ANY guy either. i'm very inexperienced but i want to share the experience with my best friend. i know things wouldnt be awkward when we got into things. i'm just worried about beforehand tho! i actually want something to happen, i'm just nervous. he wont make a move usually either! i dont want to like just go to his house and awkwardly stare at each other aha. any suggestions to make this a fun experience, with no awkward moments!

Make the first move.. When he starts flirting with you and touching a little bit just go for it put your hand on his cheek or the back of his neck and kiss him

Q: i'm 19 years old, female. my cousin is 17.

me and him are really close. we hang out all the time and just always have a good time together. the dumb thing is that people think that we are dating! uhm hellooo? he is my COUSIN. people keep telling me, "you need to stop hanging out with him, people are starting to think you two are dating" and tonight my uncle was like youre not dating him are you? and i started laughing because how rediculous is that? and he was like see you cant even look at me and say youre not! i was like honestly, do you think i would ever ever EVER do that? its not like we flirt with each other, thats disgusting. we're just always together. whats so wrong with that? apparently there is something....

Hun who cares what people think. My husband was very close with one of his female cousins they were always together. its good your close to your family.

Q: Hi,my name is jennifer and I am 23 years old. My husband n I just got temp custody of his neice which is a month old we have had her now for one week. His sister had dhs called on her so we took the baby. They have only been here one time to see her for like 20 or 30 min brought her some things. They are not showin any effort to get there child back. I dont want to take the baby from them for good but they are not compilyin with what the judge said to do. They are just takin there time. We have a three year old and a one year old of our own. We love the baby so much. they had her just so mest up like tryin to feed her chettos. They feed her so much rice that now she has a hernia in her belly button from tryin to go to the bath room and not being able to. What should I do try to contiue to help them or just stop tryin???? Any adive will be apperciated

I think you should continue helping them out by taking care of there baby. you have only had her a weer give them two more weeks. Talk to them tell them you love them and your niece but you dont want to see your niece grow up with out both of her parents in her life. Kind Jolt their brain you know. what this babies life would be like if they didnt straighten up.

I think you and your husband are doing an amazing thing.

Q: Id never heard of this happening, but I am Pretty positive I've torn all the muscels in my stomach from WAY over excersising.

I can't stand up straight because it hurts so bad, when i stand up its excruciating. I know it will take time to heal this but I was wondering if there was some things I could do in the meantime to expend my mobility..

Any stretches or anything really.

ILL RATE HIGH!

My husband gets torn muscles sometimes from playing baseball and basket ball. i upse that ben gay stuff. strech before and after. i would really take it easy at least for a week or 2

Q: I love him sooooooooooooo much! I dont want to! I want to forget he exists. I know if there was a way I could see him more we could be together because the times I spend with him are INCREDIBLE! The thing is I never get to see or talk to him barely ever! I love a guy I know I could never be with and it hurts not only mentally but physically! I sit at home and do nothing but sleep, eat, watch tv., and sit on the computer! I turn down all offers to hang out with anyone but him. I feel like if I cant have him I will eventually die. I used to dream about him now I have nightmares. I used to smile when I thought about him now I cry. Its so hard wanting something so bad when you know you will never have it. Is there anything I can do?

Well why can't you have him? Why can't you talk?

I think you should stop moping around and take up your friends offers to hang out.. take him off your mind listen to up beat music. at least you two are friends right? and trust me if god wanted you to be together he would make it possible. and im just just saying that. im not a whole church person its just what i believe.. i went through depression over a boy before its easier to just forget him and get out there with your friends.

Q: okay i want this tattoo but idk where it would look the best at. any suggestions ????

http://s340.photobucket.com/albums/o321/sulaysunshine/?action=view¤t=lovely.jpg&newest=1

very cute.. upper shoulder on your back? ankle?

Q: okay so my hair is long (its on my boobs) and i want a really cute hair cut that has lots of layers in it that like start almost at the top. i cant find a picture of someone.
help?!
(:

It is sort of punkish but i love it and trust me i am no were near punk.. im country lol

http://media.photobucket.com/image/lots%20of%20layers%20for%20long%20hair/wildthaaang621/hair/l_cee263f7834967a6e08ac2fd0dba2fb9.jpg

Q: Okay. So pretty much, here's the story... I'm fifteen and I'm a girl. So last year I fell hard for a boy (J) that I knew I would never be able to get close to... He moved away. So that kind of sucked for me. He was nice, and sweet, and he liked me too, but we had agreed to not go out because well... he was leaving. And he did, and I cried, but I got over it. Kind of. I was an idiot you know? I was upset about him leaving and threw my self and a complete jerk (M) and I don't even know why. Of course, at the time, he seemed so perfect. He was kind of the complete opposite of J. He snuck out, he did bad things, and always wanted to be making out. I regret ever getting involved with him, because honestly (and I hate admiting this) I liked him. M was so different, the perfect distraction, and he gave me so much attention (not always very positive attention) and I loved it. We weren't dating, but we definitely had a thing, and I thought I was happy. Until he asked me to have sex with him... I told him no (I'm fifteen!) and that I wasn't ready... then he just left. I called him, and he never called back, I texted him and he ignored me... He just didn't care. He only wanted sex, and when I told him no, he didn't care about me anymore. I couldn't give him what he wanted, so he just forgot about me. And it sucks. It hurts so bad. Because it makes you feel like shit. It makes you think "wow, I'm apparently not a cool enough person to even want to try and have a relationship with. The only thing I seem to be good for is sex, and I'm not even worth the time to try to get know me." It just makes you feel horrible about yourself, and girls who have gone through this you know what its like. You know that when you like someone, genuinely like them, and they only want to use you, it sucks. It took awhile for me to get over that. For about two months I just forgot about guys. Decided I didn't need them, and it was good. Annnnd then I met G. And I don't even know what to do now. I met G one day, and gave him my number (he goes to my school, a grade above) and I think I really like him. Ive heard rumors though. That hes a player, that he talks to a lot of girls at once (Ive been talking to him, but I don't know of any other girls that have) and that he's only interested in guess what, ha, sex. Just what I need. Of course, these are just rumors. I don't know. We've been talking for awhile, hanging out quite a bit, but we've done nothing physical, and he doesn't seem like the kind of guys the rumors say he is. Ive just kind of, gotten to know him. And I like what Ive seen. But I'm scared. I don't want to get hurt like that agian, and if these rumors are true, then thats whats going to happen. And I just don't know what to do. J still likes me (we still keep in touch, he's moving back next year... but I don't like him anymore) I totally want to forget about M, and I really like G... I'm so confused... Please someone, give me some help?

Okay lets start with J, if you don't like him like that anymore talk to him like a friend let him know that.

I can speak for a lot of girls out here that I am proud of you for stinking to it and not being pressured into having sex. Don't do it. and if you want to make sure are ready and you se protection. You sound like a good girl. Dont date G yet. tell him you have beem hurt a lot in the past and you would really like to get to know him before even dating him.. If he turns out to be the same. remember you are very young. one day all the heart breaks will be fixed by the man who sweeps you off your feet the man of your dreams.

Q: Hello,Okay so I used to "talk" to this guy .
He kinda started talking to another girl and then told me he wanted to be friends.Now we are literally best friends.and He stopped talking to that girl and He is now talking to his ex girlfriend ,who he says he still really likes.
The other day,me and him were hanging out alone,we were on his bed and he made a move on me and we first started making out then it went a lot further.We didn't have sex because I said no ,but he was definetely about to make that move. We both recognized that it was unusual ,even though I still like him as more than a friend.The next day,me him and another friend of ours were hanging out.We were watching movies and he was flirting with her nonstop.Like holding her hand and rubbing her leg,etc.He didn't hookup with her or anything like he did with me but who know's what would have happend if I weren't there?She was sort of making the first moves on him though.Anyways,my point is that i still like him .He claims he likes his ex girlfriend,yet does all this stuff.He is also my best friend and it's never good to like your best friend.What should I do?

he sounds like a horny teenage boy. your best bet is to stick together as friends tell him no kissing no touching like that nothing. tell him to not be flirting with a ton of girls around you when you hang out with him you want to hang out as friends. not the thrid wheel

Q: hi:) i've read your advice and i love it!

so i'm 19 years old, and i've never had a boyfriend and its for many reasons. it was either i didnt want one or i would get scared off when someone wanted to take me out! but anyways is it weird for me to want to play the field and just have fun?! i love talking to guys, but i'm not a slut by any means. i'm a huge flirt, i flirt and i dont even know it sometimes its just my personality. but the problem is guys think all girls just want relationships and pretty much won't do anything sexual with you because they think you're going to be attached then, and just want a relationship but thats not how i am at all! i just love to have fun, i'm crazy, outgoing and always having a good time. how can i show guys that i just want to have fun, with no strings attached so they dont get scared off!

No it is not werid for you to want to just play the field. Its probly better that way its minus the drama. But if i was you I would get put on birth control, the shot you only have to take it every 3 months, the pill you have to remember to take it every day and i dont know much about the other ones. also use protection you dont want to get stuck playing the field and being a mom. There are tons of guys out there that dont care about anything mostly in bars or clubs that will just do anything not worry about a relationship. just tell a guy what you are looking for no strings attach and a little fun.

Q: F/21

I'm straight, I mean I'm very much atrracted to men. But I can get off by watching another woman masturbate... Is that normal? I'm not at all atrracted to woman in real life. What could that mean? It's really bothering me.

Its normal and if its not i must not be normal either.

Q: my boyfriend and i were carless and got pregnant, we were planning on keeping it but due to complications with the baby its heart stopped and we had to have an abortion.

that was on june 11th ..
for the last four days i have been feeling like im pregnant, like mood swings, lower back pain, and when i take a bite of something it feels like i hate a whole pizza and then 20 minutes later it feels like i havent eaten in days.. that was my worst symptom when i was pregnant and it came back about 4 days ago, my boyfriend and i have been careful we use condoms everytime now except once.. we did the pull out method i have had my period since we did the pull out method.. i havent said anything to anyone because i dont think i could be pregnant again.. let alone its so soon? am i just being paranoid?

well anytime with sex you could get pregnant your chances are just slim.
You think you could be going through a depression of wanting to be a mother? Since you lost your first child and you were planning on keeping it. I would talk to your doctor see what he or she says.

Q: My father and my husband HATE EACH OTHER. They aren't nasty to one another, they just complain to me. It is a huge emotional burden to carry. Any advice for peace is appreciated.

my dad and husband were the same way. make them hang out or do a project together and talk.

Q: At what age should a girl be able to shave her legs?

i started shaving once i got my period that was 13

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.