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Hard situation.
Hello,Okay so I used to "talk" to this guy .
He kinda started talking to another girl and then told me he wanted to be friends.Now we are literally best friends.and He stopped talking to that girl and He is now talking to his ex girlfriend ,who he says he still really likes.
The other day,me and him were hanging out alone,we were on his bed and he made a move on me and we first started making out then it went a lot further.We didn't have sex because I said no ,but he was definetely about to make that move. We both recognized that it was unusual ,even though I still like him as more than a friend.The next day,me him and another friend of ours were hanging out.We were watching movies and he was flirting with her nonstop.Like holding her hand and rubbing her leg,etc.He didn't hookup with her or anything like he did with me but who know's what would have happend if I weren't there?She was sort of making the first moves on him though.Anyways,my point is that i still like him .He claims he likes his ex girlfriend,yet does all this stuff.He is also my best friend and it's never good to like your best friend.What should I do?
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he sounds like a horny teenage boy. your best bet is to stick together as friends tell him no kissing no touching like that nothing. tell him to not be flirting with a ton of girls around you when you hang out with him you want to hang out as friends. not the thrid wheel
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It's going to be hard to like a guy like this. He's probably a natural flirt, and though he can help it he doesn't want to. It's honestly best to stay friends with him,liking him will only make you disappointed. I know exactly how you feel, guys are confusing. If they like someone they have more of a tendency to show it than girls do. It's a good thing you are close to him,so you know he cares about you. Maybe you could ask him if he has any feelings for you, nonchalantly. Simply a "just wondering" question, and then disregard it if he says no-act like it never happened.If he says yes, ask him to get more specific or if he is willing for a relationship. But by the looks of it,it seems as though he just wants a hook up from any girl(most guys obviously don't mature as fast as us girls! :P) Anyways,he doesn't know what he wants right now which might work to your advantage. He might not realize he likes you yet-you know how that is. Don't do what all the other girls would do again(hook-up,makeout). Be there for him, tease him and flirt, joke with him,be confident-while still making it clear that you're only best friends (ex saying: "hah you looked cute today buddy ;)!") Make sure he notices you,and notices you're independent and not like the rest of the girls he thinks he can get!(That'll make him want you more) On the contrary most successful relationships first started on a best-friend basis. But you got to give it time to mature,for him to mature and let things happen,with in reason.You might just be the girl that breaks his player stage-make him fall for you :)! Bottom line:For now just be friends-if he was flirting with some girl right infrount of you, your right,what would he do if you weren't there?! No no no,stay best friends and see where things take you in time. No need to rush! I feel like I'm babbling,as usual :P if you have any more questions on this drop one in my inbox and I'll definitely help you out some more :)
Hope I helped, good luck!
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this guy sounds like a complete horndog to me. reminds me of one of my guys who would actually go and have sex with my best friends and me and those girls are no longer friends. First of I would let your girlfriend know how you feel so she quits that nonsense right away. And then you need to confront this guy don't straight out tell him you have feelings for him because then hes gonna think he can just get down your pants all the time. But tell him it really did make you feel uncomfortable that he was all up on you and then the next day your best friend right in front of you!! man that brings up memories and I am sorry girl that sucks and no one should have to go through that. Follow your heart and Im not gonna judge you if you want to continue to go for this guy because I know how you feel. But please don't sleep with him until you know he feels for you.. because no guy will ever respect you if you can't respect yourself and he will never give you a relationship if you are already giving him what he wants. be careful girl heartbreaks suck. goo luck!! keep me informed. tarebear_whinery17@hotmail.com
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