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i'm being such a hypocrite.
17/f, i feel like such a hypocrite. i always get mad when people judge people just by the way they look, act, dress, i'm very good at making friends & i am friends with every type of group in school.
however, in my english class, i sit in this corner, with these three girls who are very different (one girl pretends she is Australian, & pretends to have an Australian accent, and told everyone she has it just because she went there, over the summer..etc.) anyway, they all try to talk to me & they are nice & stuff, but i mean i don't have anything in common with them, & i just think every time i walk in there, oh great, those weird girls are going to bother me. & right after i think that, i feel so ashamed that i am judging people, i hardly know! & sometimes i just ignore them, & i feel so horrible after. how can i change my ways, with these people? i've never been like this before, i can't believe i act like this. :(
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I'm not really sure that you're being hypocritical, I think it's just that, like you said, you don't have many things in common with them. Maybe too, the girl that is pretending to be someone she isn't is making you feel this way a little. It would me because I don't care to be around fake people. I wouldn't go on beating yourself up about this...just simply smile and say hello when you see them. Nothing says you have to become friends with everyone but being polite is always the best way to be.
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Well you don't have to be friends with them. Say hi to them if they talk to you during class or while you are trying to do your work. ask them polietly " i dont mean to sound rude but i am really trying to concentrate on my work maybe we can talk later."
you dont have to be friends with everyone, but being nice makes people feel good.
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I'm not sure you're being a true hypocrite. I think you're just being a regular person who is forced to socialize with people she really doesn't like. You don't have to be friends with everyone. That doesn't make you a bad people. However, its always best to treat everyone you meet with kindness. Since you have to sit by these girls, do your best to be kind and courteous. You don't have to socialize with them outside of class, but it never hurts to say hi when you see them in the hallway or at lunch. When I have to spend time with people I'm not really excited about I try to find at least one thing I like about the person, and work on ignoring the rest. That way, I feel more comfortable having a conversation with them. And who knows, you might even learn something from them too, even if they are kind of annoying. Don't be so hard on yourself. While you're with them do your best to be the upstanding young lady you sound like you are and outside of class, continue to be kind, but remember, you are not obligated to be best friends with everyone.
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