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I've bben really depperessed!
my best friend died about 2 months ago on father's day so that had to be really hard for her dad but anyways we were best friends for almost 10 years and she was the only friend I had in the world so I feel like nobody loves me so i've already tried to commit suicide twice since her death. all I want is to be happy again is that to much to ask? How can I be happy again?
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I apoligize for the lose of your friend.
you tried to commit sucide twice and was not successful because your friend is looking over you and would like you to be happy.
you may seem to be betraying your friend when you go out there to look for another friend. it may be hard but just start talking to people. keep in contact with her family. as in check in on them once in a while to see how they are doing.
your family loves you and i am sure you have other friends just maybe not best friends.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
I’m sorry for your loss.
Suicide is not the answer to your problem(s). If you have not already done so I would like you to call the National Suicide hot line. There number is: 1-800-273-TALK (8255). They operate 24/7 and are totally free and confidential. They have a network of crisis center around the country they can refer you to for help, probably one right in your home town or close to you. The call takers are trained professionals who are volunteers and are there to help you; so please give them a call, they can and will help you through this.
As someone who has suffered with depression myself I know the pain it can cause. My depression was caused by an auto accident that has left me partially disabled. Pain causes depression and depression cause pain, so for me it is a vicious circle, as my disability is chronic pain caused by my injuries.
I believe the depression you are feeling is the root cause of your suicide attempts. After each of these attempts you should have been sent to a doctor for treatment which may have included medication and talk therapy. If you have stopped the medications or stopped the therapy sessions, or both, you need to see the doctor and get back on your medication and go back to your therapist.
Just one little aside here, sometimes a patient and a therapist do not always work well together; that happens. I went through three different therapists before I found one I was comfortable with. Even though I was not at fault in the accident I still had to deal with Workman’s Compensation, three different Insurance Companies, three different hearings, depositions, trial preparations and my lawyer. My therapist helped me from falling into the deep depression I was in when I first met her while going through all this. I also had to deal with several surgical procedures during this period. I do not think I could have gotten through any of this with either of the first two therapists I had. I have told you all of this because it is important that you are comfortable with your therapist. If you are not, find another therapist; interview them just as you would a future employee, which in essence they are.
Fell better soon, there is life after depression.
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happyness doesnt come just like that. you need to find happyness.before you find happyness you need to believe that you can be happy.you need to understand that life is happyness altogether. im soo sorry about your friend and im sure shes watching down on you.
you need to live life for your friend. you need to furfill her dreams and desires that she cant be there to do. live for her and make her proud. she wouldnt want to be all the way in heaven to see that your not smiling!it would kill her to know this and not be able to do anything about it...if your unhappy and crying over her she wont be able to rest in her grave (my mum always told me this because i also lost my sister)
scuicide isnt the way to deal with your sadness trust me. its just not worth it because you never know whats on the other side so what if you killed yourself and ended up in a worse position like hell which would be amillion times worse than being tormented on this world. its not worth it. this is just a bump that you need to get over. ofcourse its going to hurt to loose your bestfriend, shes your sister, your family.
do the things you love doing like listening to music, reading books.you know what helps me when im angry or sad is to write in a book about my feelings and whats going through my head because youll feel alot better and if you really wanna go all out you can burn the paper or rip it up or even burry it. seriously youll feel soo much better!!!
talk about your feelings go to a counsellor..or if you like im here for you to talk at any time..im a good listener this is my email sia.d.sus@hotmail.com
PS I LOVE YOU!
Siaxo
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