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My best friend N and me went out. we were mad about each other. we would chill all the time, and just talk about things. Well I loved him and he loved me but than i started hanging out with B my neighbor and I fell for him. than i didnt like him but me and n had broke up already. He doesnt want to date me cuz it will mess up our friendship were still super close. I want him back sooo bad. How should I go after him or should I give up on him?
Sorry this was long. Please answer seriously

I think you should leave the door open about it..i mean he might change his mind. At the same time, i dont think you should chase after him..he knows how you feel and if he feels the same way he will come foward about it. i think you should move on and welcome all the "other fish in the sea" ..at the saame time dont close the door forever because you never know..

im thinkin about buying a laptop..off ebay. i know its prolly not a good idea but does anyone have any experience with ebay? i dont have alot of money n i just need an extra one..any adivce?

i actually brought the laptop im on right now off of ebay. my advice to you is this : dont buy from a private seller..a lot of companies actually sell stuff on ebay..i got mine from a company called
"the laptop group " or something.. i forget

loook at the feedback rating..if the seller has aa rating of like 95% then your good to go..

also check if the seller is a power seller..dont buy from someone who is new at this.

is there anything wrong with being a guy and listing to britney spears.

i dont think so..

if a guy cant listen to brittany spears thats like saying a girl cant listen to papa roch or some band like that

so no. nothing wrong with it

ok well i am really bad at math. like pretty bad. and at school i always get a different test then everyone else bc the work they do is too hard (so the teacher thinks about me). it really bugs me and ll the kids are like " aww lucky!!" i do get ok grades for math about that but, it just bugs me. i have three tutors, and they kinda help. its like i have a mental block. but i was born that way and its not my fault. and when the teacher asks me a hard question that all the other kids know and i get it wrong they all look at me and its sooo embarrassing! idk what to do, i do my best at math and i try hard but, you know. most of the stuff in homeroom math i dont even know bc i dont go to that math class, i go to an "easier one" with my totur!! HELP
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will rate high

signed,
math wizz i wish

i seriously suck at math also. dont worry or be embarassedd because we all have our strengths and weaknesses..maybe one of your strengths is that you like to be around people and help people..
great job opportunities like public relations
CEO of a company
counselor

those are all excellent jobs if you enjoy working with and around people. so im sure you have your strengths..maybe you enjoy writing? or learning about history? maybe you can play a sport well or do voiice impersonations..there is something you are good at..at what your good at might be something one of these math wizzes are horrible at.

so keep doing your best in math and just understand everyone has weaknesses and strengths. everybody. :)

-melissa

I like a guy... but it's a total dead end. Things would never work out as far as dating, but we're really good friends. Me having a crush on him is tainting our friendship. (he doesn't know I like him, but I can't think about him without wanting him as a bf.) I do not want to want him but he's just so awesome. I really like him. Is there any way to STOP, though? I know my heart will just get broken, and I don't want to let my feelings get that far. Cursed emotions!

i know how your feeling..being apart would help..meeting new people and talking to other guys will help.
in my experience i have found that feelings are feelings and sometimes you have to let them run their coursee..they will eventually fade and not be so strong. until then, just be his friend and have fun hanging out..its so tough i know..i know trust me

This may be long, so brace yourself lol.
Ok, so I like my ex boyfriend and i have "I love you" in my profile.My other ex kept on wanting to know who it was and I didn't wanna tell him because he'd get extremely mad. So then after awhile he started calling me a bi*ch, as*hole, and prick n stuff.He said that I think I'm too good for everyone and that's why I won't tell him. He thinks it because I only told my cousin (my best friend) that I liked my ex so that made him think that I thought I was too good for everyone. He was a really good friend of mine, and since I won't tell him who I like because I wanna keep it to myself and my cousin,he doesn't want to be friends anymore. Was he being wrong or was I? please help! What should I say to him?

he was definately being wrong. i mean you didnt want to tell anyone else and thats perfectly fine. i have secrets that i keep to one or two people..and people have secrets and only tell me about it..that doesnt mean someone else should get all worked up over it
tell him exactly what your feeling..let him know you werent ready to tell anyone else and you have every right to only tell who you want. if hes not going to be your friend over something so dumb like this, dont worry because a reaaal friend wouldnt do that.

I'm 15/f if that's gonna help. Today i met this really nice gurl at my school. She's really sweet, pretty, and alot more to me. I think i'm starting to like her but i'm not sure because i've only known her for like a day!!! And i dont know if she's bi or w/e. I'd kinda like to know before i start seeing her as anything more than a friend. Are there any ways to notice if she's interested??? I dont want to exactly ask her because she's new and all. But i still want to know. Any tips other than just ask her??? I'd appreciate ANYTHING!!! I'll rate ya high!!!

hang out with her and get on the topic of guys ..
how? maybe say something like 'I think it would be awesome going shoppng with a gay man'
then you can mention..i was on advicenators and i saw this question about girls wanting to experimenting." see her reaction..she will probably tell you her opinion right there
"eeew" or "yeah i heard its normal" or somethin to that effect.
little things like..does she give you hugs, look at girls, make jokes like "your sexy i want you" type of thing. then if you have a bisexual friend or friend who wont tell..have all 3 of you play truth or dare and on her truth ask "would you ever experiment with a girl if you two were close"
if she pics dare..dare her to kiss you

i hope i helped!

Hey,

my grandma (I call her nina) is SO rude. I don't know what to tell her. She gets drunk and I have tried talking to her and she slapped me across the face. She GAVE me a cell phone before Christmas, then took it back! She makes me SO mad. I have NO ideas on what I can do to stop her. My WHOLE family hates her, even her own son (my dad) She's on my dad's side of the family and she is SO rude. She calls me a biotch, flips me off, and tells me I'm ugly. I can't stand her. What can I do? PLEASE HELP. I'm at her house right now and I am emailing from her computer. I have talked to my mom and dad and they said they understand but they don't SAY or DO anything!!! It makes me SO mad when she does these things and I wante her to be OUT OF MY LIFE!!! Either that, or I want to be able to talk to her without her hitting me or something. I'm sorry this is so long but I have to tell you guys EVERYTHING she's ever done. She even hits my pap, (her husband) and he's SO nice! I love my papa! She's not even my real grandma, she's my step-grandma. I couldn't say Nana when I was younger so I called her nina and it stuck. I can't stand this old woman! HELP!!!!
I'm 13/f and my sister feels the same way but unfortunately, she's only 10 and is not old enough to write questions or have an account on advicenators so I ask all her questions FOR her! She needs help too, we BOTH do!

No saracasm, please. You're not being helpful and I really need help. Me and my sister are DYING with her around.

do you live with her? if you dont just refuse to go over there to visit. if you have to go to visit..keep conversation very very limited. dont go near her dont talk to her..dont look at her. kind of go on strike. hang out with your grandpa.
this is one of those "adult things" your mom and dad have control over this more than you do..they have the power to make you go to your grandmas..or they can understand how your feeling and never make you go there again. if you HAVE to visit, at least you have the power of not talking to her at all. what a nasty old woman, im sorry you have to go through that crap!

i really really really wanna boyfriend. im 13, going into 8th grade and i really feel like no one likes me. its bringing down my self esteem because all my friends are hotties and guys try to pick them up every where they go. literally. i need a way to get noticed before school starts (sept. 7th). its not that i only think guys will like me if i look good i just want them to notice me that way, like 'omg that girl is hot, i wanna try to talk to her' then he'll get to know me. if that confuses you im sorry but i really need help with this. sorry for the lenght. i rate high!!!

first off there are many girls in your position..iincluding me! my friends get guys numbers handed to them without asking..they even get the workers at like KFC and Mcdonalds to give them free food! lots of guys like them and sure i get jealous but this is what you need to keep in mind:

you have to be yourself..you shouldnt try and look "hot" for a guy. just be you..i mean do you really want a guy talking to you just because you look good? i mean i think it would feel a lot better if you had someoeon interested in you because of YOU overall..not you from the outside point of view.

it will all pay off in the end, your only 13...your love life will take off soon. just be yourself, meet new people, be friendly..it will all come together...dont change yourself so your some piece of 'eye candy.'

i bet sometimes your friends wish they had someoen whos into them ..not just for their looks.

well is it wrong to go out with your friends ex but what if you went out with him before she did
we weren't friends at the time when she went out with him but then we became friends but I've known my crush longer than her ,me and my crush are really really close not in the touchy feeling way.like I trust him an he trusts me

i dont agree 100% with vitachan..i think if your friend has leftover feelings for the guy..it would be weird to go out with him.i would talk it over with my friend first and if shes fine with it then i would go for it. if shes not..i would still flirt with him and hang out with him but i would wait until my friend was ok first before we went out..i mean shes a good pal and it would be wrong to go out with him if your friend isnt comfortable with the idea. just my thoughts.
-melissa-

hey,
today I got in a hung fight with my mom!! i'll spare you the deltails but i will tell you this, it envolved slamming plates, both of us yelling and crying and stuff...wow she told me that i was going to H*** (i am a goody-goody i've always made sure i was going to Heaven) and she sed to burn in H*** and i got so upset

what should i do? i;m just not getting along with her PLEASE HELP I RATE WELL!!!!

listen..its so0o normal for teens to fight with parents..sometimes things get out of control. what do you do?
-let her cool off. my last fight with my mom wasnt as bad as yours, but what i did was i made plans with friends so when she got off of work i was already out..and when i came home she was asleep. in other words..give each other space.

-after a day or so..i think you should make the first move in patching things up. shes your mom and she loves you..right now shes probably thinking about the fight and wanting to make up as well.

after you have given each other space..talk to her..apologize for what you did wrong (dont get angry iff she doesnt apologize about her share right away)
give her a hug.tell her you love her and you want to start fresh.

see how this works..inbox me if it doesnt work out
-melissa

okay my crush wants to talk on the phone..and i do too but i hate when there are awkward silences! like it kills me and i never have anything to say. what are some topics i could bring up? and like what things can i say to like lead him on and kinda make him realize i really wanna go out with him but not make myself sound
retarded and freaky! please help! FAST!

ok go online and find one of those surveys that are like 100 questions long (like fav color, etc etc) and when it gets boring ask a question from there
talk about crazy things you and friends have done
talk about something serious like relationships,family probs, etc

how to hint about wanting to be with him::
bring up movie topic and mention a movie you want to see and tell him "oh i really want to see that one..want to hang out saturday night and see it with me?"

flit,compliment him, etc and he will catch on

Ok I have this friend he is 18 and is really cool and hot.But he likes my BFFL only because her boobs are huge and she is a slut(weird BFFL huh?) Anyway I am like in love with him but he only thinks of me as a friend but I am beginnig to think he doesnt even like me as that.He told my friend that he wanted her to see his balls.I know thats preverted but he never says anything thing like that to me and that makes me feel unattractive.What can I do to make him notice me without acting like a slut.Ill rate high for any good answer!!

PS he said if I acted more like her he would like me

never change for anyone. what he wants his a big boobed bimbo to be his slut. this isnt you..dont act like her..stay yourself! if you pretended to be someone your not...he wouldnt like you for who you are...he would like who you are pretending to be. dont act fake just so you can get with some shallow pervert who only wants his penis sucked on by a slut..this isnt you sweetie..move on because there are so0o0o0o many guys out there

how often should you douche?

you actually should not douche. experts say douching gets rid of **helpful** bacteria in the vagina which may make you more vulnerable to infection and that sort of thing. read up on it more..search it on google if you like.

instead of douching keep the area clean by washing it and keeping it dry (its not good to sit in a wet bathing suit for long periods of time..etc)

Hey! I have this really close friend of mine but lately we have started to drift apart from each other. We were especially close--from calls every day to zero calls now. Um, this all started when our council had this summer camp thing at my school and it taught us a lot about ourselves and friendships and it like, totally opened my eyes. I now saw how much she took advantage of me, even when I was a completely loyal friend. Now, I feel because we're not talking to each other anymore, she is trying to make the rest of our council and the rest of my friends turn against me. What shall I do??

signed,
lost

ive had this happen in the past..people trying to turn others against me. i wouldnt worry because this does not work. yeah for a week they might be all mad..but eventually the people she turns on you will realize there isnt a reason to be angry with you. just tell these people your side of the story..and be strong through it..make new friends..because a loyal friend is a very valuable one. you will have no problems making new friends.

I really am stumped on this one: Around 4 months ago, I met a really nice girl, *Maria*, through an out of school extracurricular activity. Then I met this really nice boy, *Alex* who I liked but I didn't talk to him much. Maria and Alex started going out and I was kinda disappointed but I didn't let it show because no one knew I had liked Alex. I started to become better friends with Maria and I started to become better friends with Alex. Now, they are broken up because Maria dumped Alex and I am in the same high school as them right now. I am still friends with Maria, but I really want to be friends with Alex (not like BF/GF). But all of my friends kinda make fun of him and they always always have because his teeth are kinda like a beaver's. And I don't want to make Maria mad. AND there is another problem: I am really really good friends with Alex's cousin *sarah* and she knows Maria too and I don't want to make anybody mad, but I want to be happy and flourish in high school. I am really sorry about the length but anybody's input would be great. Thanks.

"but I want to be happy and flourish in high school. " i completely understand..everyone wants that. honestly...i dont see a proble,m . be both of their friend and if someone confronts you about it simply reply "even though they broke up, it doesnt mean me and alex cant be friends"

my sister wears really slulty outfits, and i dont like it. i find it emberrsing and dont want her wearing that stuff. and everytime i tell her, she gets upset. how do i tell my sister to cover herself with out her getting mad at me.

show her she can be pretty and attracive without dressing slutty. show her pictures of beautiful womoen who are properly clothed..tell her your thoughts and concerns..talk to your parents.. i hope i gave you some ideas and helped!

I'm 16/f and one of my best friends is 17/m. We're ridiculously close friends. He understands me so well, and he actually cares. He has been one of the nicest people to me in my entier life. He's always there, and he always listens. He's just the sweetest person in the world.
The only problem is, I like him. A lot. As in more than best friends. But my question is, do I just keep our friendship, so that nothing else can be ruined, or do I try and push for more?
I don't want things to be awkward between us, but I love him. He has been the sweetest person in the world.

I'm confused about what to do. I'm torn between getting closer or staying how we are. Help.

your going to have people say dont ruin friendship..and your gona have people tell you to go for it..i think you should go for it because feelings are feelings and if it were me i would go for it..because think about it:

if you dont go for it you will constantly be thinking "i wonder if he felt thee same way..i wonder how things would be if we were involved romanticly.." it would personally drive me nuts..those thoughts.

so i think you should go for it..and when the romance is over just make an effort to keep things friends

i recently meet this guy. hes great and i really like him but i cant stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend...i really wanna get back 2gether with him and at the same time i dont cuz he wuld always blow me off and never see me and the guy i met he likes me alot and i like him 2 and he wuld do anything for me.but everytime im with him i end upp think about muh ex...what should i doo?

its time for a new beginning.. a new adventure. go with the new guy because he likes you ..you like him..sure you might think about your ex..i still think about exes..its all normal and stuff but really think about it and you will see this new guy is better for you..your ex is your ex..romantic history..i think you should get to know the new guy and date him.

OK this is VERY graphic so im sorry :'(
ok today i gave my bf a handjob but it was on top of his pants. I did this 4 times. He told me he had blue balls. What went wrong and i didn't mean to do it. Did i overwork him? whats going on?it was four times! PLEASE DONT DELETE I REALLY NEED HELP!! :( I'll rate all answers 5s except for dumb ones..THANKS!

ok this is nothing you did wrong..he got blue balls because it was through the pants. a guy gets blue balls when like a girl is sitting in his lap for too long, if hes humping a girl with pants on, grinding too hard, that type of stuff. so blue balls doesnt mean you were bad..next time you give him a handjob, hold the actual penis and dont do it through pants. this will prevent blue balls and satisfy him much more :)

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